Hey SUM family, Tiffany here!
It has been quite the busy time around here for the Carter Crew! We are officially closed on our old house and have made selections for our new house. I have to say that it has been so fun to pick out what we want for countertops, cabinets, flooring, paint colors. I have included a picture of our family. One last photo before we pulled away from our first home for the last time.
Our new home is not set to be completed until the end of 2021, beginning of 2022. In the meantime we are staying with Jason's parents. Two families in one household. It is an adjustment to say the least. We have done everything we can physically do to prepare for this new season. Now we wait.
Merriam-Webster defines transition as passage from one state, stage, subject or place to another: change; a movement, development or evolution from one form, stage or style to another.
In a Spiritually Unequal Marriage we are very familiar with transition. We pray, intercede, bless, nudge, hint, coerce (gulp, I am guilty with that one) our spouses. Will today be the day? Will they come into the fullness of Christ? Will they surrender? Will their hearts soften? Will they repent? Will they.....?
I have learned to see things more simply. Most of our stuff is locked away in storage units. We have chosen some things that we felt we absolutely needed to have and have put the rest "on the back burner." I have learned to be grateful and appreciate what I truly have. There is a new perspective on my life. It's like a fresh pair of eyes. The Lord has opened my eyes in context of my SUM.
I've spoken before about praying and interceding for Jason in a new way. I have a couple of instances where I saw his faith in the spiritual. I have observed my husband and seen how simple the faith life really should be. I tend to think, over think, worry and compare. Jason throws it up (in my mind's eye to heaven), does what he can physically do, and then moves on.
I want to propose some questions to stew on -
What if our spouses are closer than we realize?
If it doesn't appear so, how can we partner with our spouse's act of faith and intercede in heaven on their behalf?
How do expectations of our spouse's faith blind us from seeing their faith in the spiritual?
Is there anything that can be put on the "back burner" to get back to simple faith?
What would our SUM look like if we drop the expectations and give our spouses more grace?
The Lord isn't really being slow about his promise, as some people think. No, he is being patient for your sake. He does not want anyone to be destroyed, but wants everyone to repent. - 2 Peter 3:9
Let's talk in the comments. I would love to hear your thoughts on these questions. I am certainly chewing on these lately!