What's Your Biggest Question for Jesus About Your Marriage?
October 01, 2020
Recently, I popped a question onto our Facebook page, asking ‘What’s your biggest question for Jesus right now concerning your spiritual mismatch?’
Many of you will have seen that post, but some won’t. I found the responses so helpful in relation to my own path, that I thought you might too. I guess I realized I have asked God every single one of those questions. And when we see others face the exact same things, we remember we are not alone.
So, here goes. From our beautiful community, here are the biggest questions we SUMites wrestle with:
How long, Lord? How much longer? When? When, Lord? I’m waiting!
Why doesn’t my spouse come back to you? What is standing in the way?
Why me?
Will my spouse ever choose you? Or, am I always to be in an unequally yoked marriage?
Show me please, what I need to do? Do I need to do anything different?
How do I know when to submit and when to stand my ground on gray areas?
How do I disciple my children in this situation?
We’re so different, how can this work?
What can I do better to sow good seed into my spouse’s life? How do I witness? How can I speak to their heart about you, Lord?
How do I wait well?
How do I love my spouse unconditionally?
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This is just a condensed version of those questions. They represent an awful lot of 'stuff', and we can all nod our heads at the many, many topic areas that a SUM raises. I imagine any Christian who is not in our shoes would be surprised how much there is to this situation. It touches almost every area of our life.
As for questions, I believe God loves them because that's where we begin to try to hear his voice. Like a questioning child, I do go there with the Lord. In fact, it's a daily thing here: Question question question question.
In fact, I’ve even got a ‘question diary’. Having been given a lovely hardback diary for Christmas a couple of years ago, I thought I would use it to jot some key questions for the Lord as a record of my relationship with him. It sits on my shelf and sometimes I scribble a question in there and pop it straight back. Other times I pick it off my shelf and flick through. It’s amazing how many answers I’ve received to the quirkiest questions!
However, God sometimes leaves a question unanswered. There are some pieces of information that are just not in our best interests to know. We understand only in part. Sometimes, perhaps the Lord wants us to pursue the answer and grow wisdom rather than receiving a thunderclap response from him. He knows what is best for our souls.
My friends, it’s these questions that lead us to pursue Him. And though the above cries for answers are birthed out of our serious wilderness season, they propel us into greater wisdom.
On Monday I want to share one way that God answers questions that is specific to us as a community. I’ll be back then to chat about that - I'm looking forward to it.
In the meantime, which question is your biggest one right now?