Hey Sum Family, Tiffany here!
Each passing day brings news of another thing in the Carter Crew's daily lives that is affected by COVID-19. Though we are currently on spring break, the Elementary School is going to e-learning for the following two weeks. The zoo is closed along with movie theaters, public libraries, hair salons, family entertainment establishments, restaurants etc. As the days progress, I find the anxiety level of my husband is slowly rising.
Obviously the Coronavirus is nothing to take lightly. We should all take precautions to help prevent the spread and keep ourselves safe and healthy. I take no issue with doing my part in an earthly sense. However, I know the power and authority of the blood of Jesus. I know that when I plead and apply His blood that I am protected and safe. I am healed and whole. I am redeemed and restored. Because of the blood of Jesus, I have peace in my heart and mind. I am confident in knowing that everything is going to be alright. My Daddy has got this! In many ways, I "forget" there is a pandemic on our hands.
That being said, I was heartbroken when my husband told me to call my grandmother and tell her that she is not allowed to come and visit this week. Our two perspectives collided. I scrambled in my head, "Lord, what do I do? I am right about this. You are protecting us. We are all covered by the blood of Jesus!"
My grandmother is a mighty woman of God. She knows the power of the blood of Jesus. She is healthy and she is a fierce prayer warrior. She and I both agreed that she would be fine in coming. It was as though I had those cartoon characters on my shoulders. You know the ones - a red devil with horns, tail, pitchfork and an angel with a white robe and glowing halo.
At first I protested. I tried convincing him that we would be fine. I prayed for a change of his heart. I asked God to intervene.
I called my grandma and explained Jason's concerns. I sat there crying as I told her how much I was looking forward to her coming. I told her not to cancel just yet. I would talk to him one more time.
Jason wouldn't budge. I texted my grandmother later and told her the news and said, "I feel it's best to honor him at this time. I'm heartbroken but looking for the days ahead. Seeing you soon."
I understand my husband's concern. I am grateful that he loves my grandma and wants to keep her around for a while. The hardest part in all of this is not that she won't be here for the kids' spring break; but, the ugliness in my heart that rose up against my husband. When times get hard and we don't agree, isn't it so easy to say, "If only my spouse was a believer..." or "If only my spouse would agree with the truth of God's word..."
For a few brief moments, I had made my husband out to be the enemy. It is his fault that she can't come. I am angry at his decision and I am angry at him. I could feel the bitterness rising. I praise Jesus that He stopped me in my tracks. I had to repent. I had to forgive.
Colossians 3:13-14 — "Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity."
John 17:23 — "I in them and you in me — so that they may be brought to complete unity. Then the world will know that you sent me and have loved them even as you have loved me."
Mark 3:25 — "If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand."
Friends, this is exactly what the devil wants. He comes to steal, kill, and destroy. This time is crucial as we actively march around Jericho. We are
understanding our authority. We are breaking ground and taking back what is rightfully ours. We are standing in the gap and interceding. Mountains are moving. Hearts are changing. Miracles are happening.
Let us fix our eyes on the prize. Don't allow the enemy to distract you. Keep focused and remember we do not fight against flesh and blood. In times such as these, it is important to give our spouses grace and mercy.
I know I am not alone in this. What are some hurdles that you have had to jump over in your marriage? What wisdom has God shown you in how to settle disagreements in your home? What scripture or prayers have helped you to overcome?
Most importantly, how do you encourage your spouse in times of anxiety or fear? This is something that I personally could use some advice on!
See you in the comments. Blessings!