This word has followed me around a lot in the last several months. And I’m coming to realize that honor is a great prize. Honor is also something I haven’t always done well. However after a recent dinner out with my husband I’ve come to realize the utter importance of honor. The honor I give to my husband and the honor I receive from him. Let me explain.
Several months back I was at dinner with my husband and another couple that we haven’t seen in a long, long time. It was an enjoyable enough evening. But something began to happen throughout our meal that really started to bug me.
It began with subtlety but became more and more abrupt and troubling.
The diners next to us were very close to us and I noticed a man was obviously whispering something to the man next to him and then snickering as he looked toward to bar of the restaurant. This behavior increased as the wine flowed until it beame so distracting that I couldn't help but notice that this man’s growing whispers about feminine body parts and learing looks were directed toward a certain woman at the bar.
I purposed to ignore this man’s interruptions and went on to talk with my friends at the table. Dinner ended and we went home. However, for the rest of the evening I grew increasingly embarrassed for the poor woman who was obviously the wife of this man. And in an instant it was as if the Holy Spirit hit me upside the head. This woman was greatly dishonored in public by her husband. I grieved for her.
And then immediately I realized that my husband has never dishonored me by ogling other women. As soon as the thought entered my head, I walked into the bedroom where my husband was dressing and I thanked him for honoring me in this way.
He has always honored me in public. And I’m just now understanding what a valuable gift he has given to me.
My friends, there are a lot of people who would say there’s nothing wrong with a little looking and admiring and it’s only normal for guys. And there are many women who like to complain to their girlfriends about every tiny thing their husband does or about the things he doesn't do. I know, because I used to be one of them.
But, we the children of God, are called to honor.
We are called as believing husbands and wives to honor our spouse, especially in public, and to love them as Christ loves the church.
So, for me this Father’s Day as we honor men, I think I’m seeing the man of my dreams emerge. He remains a pre-believer but God has given me a man of integrity and honor. He is an amazing father. So today, I honor you Mike Donovan. You are a man that rises far above the crowd. I’m blessed to be called by the name Mrs. Lynn Donovan.
And to every SUMite man who stops in here from time-to-time, we honor you this day, a day we celebrate men and fathers. You walk a very difficult path with even less resources and encouragement than women who are married to unbelievers. So today, we the SUMITE women pray for you.
Our Lord God, today we bring before you every man who is a reader here and is married to an unbelieving wife. Lord, pour upon him Your honor. Grant him Your unending love and lavish upon him great encouragement. Remind this man that You stand with him when he attends church alone. Remind him that every moment that he loves His children and shares truth with him that he is doing the right thing. Remind him that through Christ he can do all things. Hold this man up when he feels abandoned and lonely. Fill this man with a fresh anointing to keep on living in his mismatched marriage and to see that eternities are at stake. Bless this man with abundance in his job and among his coworkers, his bosses and clients. Bless him and affirm that his faith is always enough to carry him and his family through life. We the SUMites stand in the gap for him and his family this day and we love him. In the name of our King Jesus. Amen.
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Marching Around Jericho is a spiritual guide. As you read through the pages, powerful and transformative instruction and equipping takes place. We follow Jesus as he leads us around the walls, imparting kingdom truths with each passing, finally arriving at the gates of the walled-off city, our spouse’s unbelieving heart. After the circles in prayer are complete, we arrive fully prepared to command the walls to crumble and be removed, making a way for our spouse to step from the rubble of lies and captivity, into faith and freedom!