Yesterday marked the one-year anniversary of my father’s death. I will admit I am affected by this more than I thought I would be. Sunday I was down right cranky (my daughter will confirm that) and yesterday I was sad.
I kept I reminding myself that death didn’t win. I know where Dad is and I know I will see him again one day. No way would I want him back here, suffering the ravages of cancer. He is exactly where he should be—with Jesus, whole and healed. But I do still miss him.
As believers in Christ, we have a hope that others don’t get to experience. They don’t have the reassurance of their loved ones’ eternity. They don’t have the promise of seeing the ones they loved again. They don’t have the comfort of knowing where their loved ones are.
I can’t imagine being in that place. I don’t want to experience that “not knowing.” I want that reassurance. When my mother was here in April, I even asked her to be sure. I knew she loved Jesus, but I had to ask her, “Mom, you’ve made that choice, right? Accepted Jesus as your Savior because I need to know where you’re going!”
She laughed and reassured her crazy daughter that she had. (Oh, thank you, Lord Jesus).
It’s so easy to lose sight in our day-to-day life that we serve a higher calling. Yes, the daily, weekly, and yearly stuff is important but without the reflection of eternity’s promise on all of it, we’re shortsighted.
As I tell my girls, this life is such a tiny blip on our eternal lifeline. We have work to do here, character qualities to build, and most importantly, people to serve! God has a purpose and calling for each of us right in our homes, in our work places, in school, on the playground, and any and every place we interact with others.
Our journey as a mismatched spouse is not an easy one. (Higher callings never are.) And we can easily lose our focus when faced with the inherent struggles these kinds of marriages pose. But don’t let your vision stop there. Keep in mind what’s at stake—the salvation of our unbelieving spouses. Let this be the motivation that keeps you walking the path God is calling you to.
Sometimes that means hanging in there through the roughest of times and learning to work together in unity. Sometimes it means seeking counseling and help to overcome deeper issues. Sometimes it may even mean a temporary separation until the two of you can come back together, committed to each other and the marriage.
Whatever God is asking you to do, move forward in the amazing reassurance and promise of His strength, mercy and love. You can trust Him completely with your future while you help those you love find their eternal destination too.
Praying and believing,