One of the features of Kindle is it allows you to see what other people are highlighting in the same books you are reading. I hit upon this feature when I was preparing the speech for a MOPS group and was using our book to develop a speaking point.

In chapter 5 (Believe Your Marriage is Blessed) this is the line several have highlighted:

"The key is to stop seeing our mismatched marriage and our husband as problems to be solved and accept both as blessings to be enjoyed." (pg. 92, Winning Him Without Words)

How can we view this person who’s spiritually lost as a blessing in our life? Especially if we’re married to a difficult person… I don’t have all the answers to that one, but I do know that God’s Word holds more answers than we realize. And from this same chapter, my own words reminded me of this wonderful Scripture:

Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope. And hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit, who has been given to us. — Romans 5:3-5

There is so much truth in this tiny piece of the Bible. It gives me strength to keep going in tough times because it tells me there is a reason for it all (I talk about this in chapter 5 as well). God has a plan and a purpose for sufferings—an end goal that isn’t just about us.

It’s about our marriages too, and more importantly about bringing our unsaved spouse to Jesus. We can be that tool and a part of that plan, right in the middle of it all. I’m not saying it’s easy—it’s not. But our perspective plays a huge role in how well we make this journey. The secret is right in those verses I shared. It’s all about God’s love poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit.

That is our strength, our hope, and the necessary ingredient to seeing our marriages and husbands as blessings. We see the whole situation through the eyes and love of God.

Praying and believing,
Dineen