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Weekend Devo — Discouraged?

Creating a Crisis- With a WARNING

When we began this series regarding conflict I set out some of the guidelines and the premise by which we intend to explore the specific issues. If you have not read that post, please read it now (go here, then come right back).

Several weeks ago we were discussing a difficult topic, conflict in marriage, specifically alcohol and marriage. I left that post with the following questions:

When does conflict cross a boundary line? And, the follow up question: Is it right to create a “crisis” in your marriage to resolve such conflict? Ahhhhh, great questions. I have been dying to talk about these.

So let’s answer this question today.

Q: Is it right to create a crisis in marriage to resolve conflict?

A: yes and no.

I know, I know, it’s never an easy answer is it?

Let me state now that initiating a crisis (conflict) in marriage is appropriate in certain situations. For example, e-Mom left a wise comment following our last discussion about alcohol. CRISIS

e-Mom: You ask some great questions Lynn... I don't think I would create a crisis in order to resolve an conflict. A classic "intervention" seems to be more effective instead. Maybe you could explain what that is to your readers. :~D

In fact, e-Mom, you are spot on as usual. If you have arrived in a place where alcohol has affected your life and the lives of your loved ones in a way you can’t endure any longer, then an intervention is absolutely what you need. An intervention, is creating a crisis in a marriage relationship. It is taking a step out of the old way of living and deciding you won’t return. An alcoholic often will not admit he/she needs help. A family intervention will force the issue to the front and center where it will be dealt with in one way or another. You can learn about interventions at AA and Al-Anon meetings.

WARNING: Prior to considering creating a crisis in marriage, always, always, seek out a counselor. Go to your pastor, the church counselor, someone with training and knowledge about how to navigate your problem.

Creating a crisis always has ramifications. You must be aware and ready to handle what will be brought out through your actions.

So why am I bringing the subject up in the first place? Because there are men and women who are living in a place that is not healthy, safe, or Godly in anyway. They are often afraid and suffering from such low self-esteem they don’t have any hope or direction to save them and their children. Sometimes their only contact to the outside world is through the internet. They are often unaware that it is Godly and right to intervene in their marriage, which is on a destructive path, in order to save it.

If you are struggling in this area, email me. I have some resources for you. God has heard your cry for help.

Okay, I am not certain when I will post again about our next conflict issue, infidelity. But, I will and it will be when the Lord places it heavy on my heart.

Have a great weekend. Be Blessed, Lynn

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