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Thankful Thursday - Miscellaneous Various Assorted Mixed Diverse Sundry

It is a delight to host Thankful Thursday this month. I have been a participant in this particular blogging venue since I began writing more than three years ago.

I count it as a privilege to share praises together as we honor the Lord for the awesome blessings He pours into our lives.

Next month we will meet at Grace Alone. December we will return to Women Taking A Stand.

My heart is full. At every turn I can see the Lord working in and around my life. My husband has been unemployed since January but today, I have never felt richer. I praise you Jesus for:

  • The fall season ~ Cooler breezes, sweaters, the colors rust, gold, orange, brown
  • The Love Dare Bible study
  • Email from my bloggy sister Iris this morning at 6 am
  • The 30 days – Mind of Christ experiment*
  • Each and every reader who stops here
  • My husband
  • My son and daughter
  • My family in Christ

What are you thankful for? Be Blessed, Lynn

*It’s not too late to join the rest of us on this journey, The Mind of Christ. Expect it to change your life. Read about it here.

Praising the Lord today! Hugs

Theme Song!

We're just days away from the kick off of the Mind of Christ. I hope you've decided to join us for the month of October to refocus our lives on Christ and put him back on the throne of our lives. I will tell you, God is doing some amazing things—some a bit painful. Yesterday he showed me another place in my life that I was acting out of selfish motivations. It wasn't pretty, but it was so wonderful, all at once. I know that might not make sense, but God's discipline is healing and relieving.

I have another song for you. I declare it our theme song for the amazing journey we're about to embark upon. You may recognize "While I'm Waiting" (by John Waller) from the movie Fireproof. It's a beautiful song and depicts so well the struggle and necessary heart for so many of us. Waiting is a part of every person's life, and often the trial itself for those of us in a spiritually mismatched marriage. I pray this song will minister to your weary hearts and strengthen you to keep waiting and trusting God.

He's there. He's working. He hasn't forgotten you. Let's watch together as God does some amazing things in our heart and in our lives.

Love you all so dearly and praying earnestly,

Every Human Should Answer This Question

On Saturday I attended my annual writer’s conference for the San Diego Christian Writer’s Guild. Every year something profound comes from this conference and this year…… SO much more than I could dream or think.


Cec Murphy was our keynote speaker. Many of you know Cec as an author of something like a bazillion books as well as the bestselling author of 90 Minutes In Heaven. (I loved that book) I have been richly blessed to sit under his teaching a few times and Saturday was no exception.

Cec asked me a question on Saturday that sent my heart flying and ignighted a new fire in my being. I came home and called Dineen and asked her the same question. Now we are both filled with such amazing hope and determination. But, this question is not just for us. It is for you also. Are you ready?


What is your bliss? What dream resides in you that gives you bliss. Absolute happiness, absolute…… bliss?

I want you think about it right now. Do you know what is your bliss?

I knew the answer instant Cec spoke the question. I KNEW. Without a doubt and with a full conviction to keep on keepin’ on.

If you have lost your bliss, God is calling you now. If you don’t know what your bliss is, the Lord, Almighty, has spoken your name. God is the giver of bliss. He has instilled in you a God given dream so big and wild that it seems unattainable. But God gave you that dream and more than anything He is waiting for you to live knowing and doing what gives you bliss.

Travel with us in the next 30 days to discovery. Doesn’t it make sense that if we allow the Lord to transform our minds and our hearts we will KNOW the answer to this question? Indeed we will.

It’s not too late to sign up today. I will get your envelope in the mail by tomorrow morning. Please email me with your mailing address and commit to this life-changing journey.

What is your bliss?

Be blessed, Lynn

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Ephesians 3:20 Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us, to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, for ever and ever! Amen.

Weekend Devo — Time to Worship

My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness. — 2 Corinthians 12:9

Something's happening. Over a week's time, God showed me 2 Corinthians 12:9 at least five times, the last at a conference I was at last weekend, given in a moving devotional by a doctor who's a missionary in Africa.

Now these verses have shown up repeatedly in multiple places, and not just for me. Several people have been led to at least one of these verses. Lynn used Isaiah 43:19 in Monday's post introducing The Mind of Christ journey, and let me tell you, she and I hadn't even talked specifically yet. I was floored to see this verse  yet again.

For I am about to do something new. See, I have already begun! Do you not see it? — Isaiah 43:19 (NLT)

For I am doing something in your own day, something you wouldn't believe even if someone told you about it. — Habakkuk 1:5 (NLT)

So humble yourselves under the mighty power of God, and at the right time he will lift you up in honor. — 1 Peter 5:6 (NLT)

These Scriptures have meant so much to me personally this last week. Yet I believe this goes beyond one person's interpretation. God seems to be moving in a mighty way, on the verge of revealing something very real and personal to each of us.

Below is a video of the Revelation Song sung by Kari Jobe of Gateway Worship. This is one of the songs we worshiped to at that conference the final day. During it, I heard God say, "Watch what I do" repeatedly.

I hope you'll play it with the intention of soaking in our wonderful Savior Jesus and his amazing holiness. Let's prepare our hearts for this thirty day journey to put Christ on the throne of our lives and to truly have the mind of Christ.

I don't want to miss what God's about to do. I hope you don't either.

Praying and believing,

You're Outahere!

I have a question for you.

Do you ever just get tired of being sick n’ tired?

I’m sitting at my desk thinking back upon this crazy journey, my unequally yoked marriage. As I mentally walk through the months and years of my past, I am remembering how I at times would cling to my disappointment, my anger and the unfairness of it all. My unfulfilled expectations would rise, front and center in my mind and that is when it would happen.

Enter stage right: Satan and his minions arrive to perpetuate my thoughts of discontent. Heaven forbid that I would be cleaning house that day because those negative thoughts would course through my brain over and over as I moved from room to room flipping the dusting rag around followed by frenzied vacuuming.

I would get worked into a ridiculous mess.

What a waste of time.

Well I am sick n’ tired of being sick n’ tired.

I am sick of my selfishness. Sick of thinking about the “what ifs” and I am ready to live differently. I want to live in the presence of Jesus where my selfishness fades away in the absolute brilliance of something far more profound.

Are you tired of being sick and tired? Did you say, "yes?" Then you just said yes to God.

So please walk a new path with me, Dineen and Angela. We are about to discover what it really means to have our minds and our hearts transformed into Christlikenes.

The beginning of this journey is Friday, October 2, 2009: 30 Days ~ The Mind of Christ.

To begin your journey, I have something I must send you. I will mail you an envelope. So, please email me now and commit to 30 days in October to discover what this scripture really means.

Romans 12:2 Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.


So many of you have registered already. What a blast and what amazing fulfillment await us as we travel these 30 days together. I can’t wait.

One more thing. Say goodbye to Sick n’ tired because he’s outahere!

Be blessed, Lynn D

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30 Days - The Mind of Christ

Over two months ago the Lord woke me up in the middle of the night. He gave me another idea to share with you. If you have been reading here at Spiritually Unequal Marriage for a while, you might remember the Kingdom Assignment. It was an amazing experiment in which many of us participated in last November. What a humbling and triumphant experience it was. God has the best ideas! (to read some of the posts, click on the Kingdom Assignment in the sidebar.)

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This new idea that God gave me is similar except this time, the Lord wants to do something for you.

Today we are going to prepare and step out into another experiment. The Lord said it is a perfect time to prepare us for a major shift in our soul and lead us into the most amazing season of our lives.

Just like last year, I want to mail you something important to start our 30 days together. We will walk a new path together each day in October. Beginning Thursday October, 1, 2009 every post here at Spiritually Unequal Marriage will be centered on this specific journey.

So, today, pray and ask the Lord if you are in… It won’t take a ton of time. But, it will change you. It will transform your mind to be more Christ like and will change your heart into the likeness of God. If you want to be part of this challenge, Please email me privately your mailing address. I won’t share it with anyone. I only plan to mail you a single envelope just like last year.

Romans 12:2 Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.

 Find out what this verse really means. By the end of next month you will gain new perspective.

Do you need a miracle:

  • in your marriage
  • with your teenager
  • your boss
  • in the overwhelming schedule you keep
  • with the pain of a lost relationship
  • bearing the hurt of betrayal
  • because you have lost a loved one

All of these things will fall into proper perspective and their proper place. You will see the Lord first then the struggle.... well it will just.....( tune in and find out) 

Isaiah 43:19a

For I am about to do something new.

See, I have already begun! Do you not see it?


I can’t wait.

Say YES to Jesus and then watch as Christ does something new before your very eyes.

Be blessed, Lynn

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Weekend Devo — Grace

966855_sacred_page_3 "My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness." — 2Corinthians 12:9

God has brought me to this verse four times in one week. Each time I’ve prayed over a specific ongoing issue, he’s bought me back to or reminded me of this verse.

Years ago I remember asking someone at church what exactly grace was. He said, “It’s God’s unmerited favor.” It’s unearned. Christianity is the only faith that doesn’t require us to earn our way into heaven, because of God’s grace. And his mercy.

My prayer now is that God would help me fully understand what his grace means in my life. For a perfectionist and overachiever like myself, this a difficult journey, to let go of my attempts to earn God’s favor and understand that I’m already acceptable in his eyes. In fact, there’s nothing I can do to make myself more acceptable.

Jesus already took care of that.

Praying and believing,

The Prizes of Victory

661158_cursi_words “I’ve prayed, but nothing’s happening.”

I felt my daughter’s pain. Not just over the health issue she was struggling with but also her confusion that God hadn’t taken the condition away.

How often had I prayed over several issues in my own life—some for years—to see nothing change? Through those years I’d come to learn about God’s faithfulness and his desire for me to learn from trials, not just get through them. I’d come to trust him and his plan, and to realize that though circumstances may appear nothing’s happening, something definitely is. Yet to encapsulate years of learning about God and my growing faith to a handful of words is a tall challenge. Plus, I still shared her frustration at times.

I recently read a devotional in Streams in the Desert, which spoke of this perseverance in the face of trials. The author made a connection to Romans 8:37, “No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us,” stating that in walking through the trial and seeing adversity as tools of learning, we become more than conquerors.

Here in lies the victory, that we see the things working against us as key elements to further our journey and growth. I read this verse many a time and had even asked God to make me “more than a conqueror.” But it wasn’t until reading this devotional that I realized God was already answering my prayer in these difficult times. I was learning to lean on God and depend upon him, despite the situation and in spite of the ongoing issues. In the midst of difficulty, I was already victorious.

Again, I was amazed at the synchronicity between everything in our lives and God’s plan. And here’s the final piece to this puzzle—one that blew me away. When we obtain this is attitude of seeing trial as important to becoming the people God created us to be, we’re not only conquerors, we discover the prizes of our victory.

The peace that surpasses understanding (Phil. 4:7) and the joy in the midst of trial (James 1:2-3).

Praying and believing,

The Enemy Never Gives Up But Neither Does our Great God

This month we meet at Women Taking A Stand and I will see you here again for the month of October and November at Grace Alone.

I find it fascinating and somewhat interesting that a great number of my Christian friends have experienced sever and heavy spiritual battles over the past five days.

Dineen, has a faced raging battle this week and right before she is heading out of town to her annual writers conference. Exactly like last year. Almost an identical repeat.. So strange.

Many of you over at 1Peter3Living experienced extreme conflict. You faced issues dealing with health, marriages, spouses, finances, a multitude of setbacks and defeats.

A ton of you who I know through blogging have been deeply affected by evil. I know a couple of you who live in Florida were smacked in the teeth with unexpected ferocity. In Kenya, the woman with the cow and her entire family faced an immediate crisis. They were desperate for food and water.

Not to be spared, women in my church here in town, my BFF Pam was hit severely hard yesterday morning and the day before that, it was me.

What is going on?

I can’t explain why we were all hit at once. I don’t know why it was so severe and painful. I have asked the Father about it but I am not certain the why of it all nor the simultaneous timing and the sheer number of believers affected this week.

What I can explain is this. Each and every one of us will rise again. We will stand once more following our blows and be stronger the next time. We will rise to our full stature propelled by our mighty and powerful God. We will not back down, we will not surrender, we will not give in nor allow the enemy even an inch into our lives and the lives of our family.

One day in the future perhaps we will see the whole picture as to what is going on in the spiritual realm….. And you know what we will see?

Our prayers.

For one another, for protection, healing, fortification, calmness, steadiness, forgiveness and, and, and.

Just this week alone I have been an active participant in a fantastic experiment. God never does anything simple in me.


I can’t wait to share it with you. I think I am still numb from how God placed everything to come together in this strange week. Watch for this story over at Laced With Grace on October 9th.

Stay strong. If you need prayers of protection, just let me know. I am a warrior chick. I will stand in the gap for you. Hugs, Lynn

Free To Be Me Scholarship

From my friend, Joanne at One So Blessed:
The Free to Be Me Conference is right around the corner. Are you praying for the blessed opportunity to attend? Have you always wanted to meet your blog-friends in person? Would you LOVE to go, but have been asking God for a financial miracle?
How does a scholarship for this amazing two-day conference sound? Did I mention you'll be leaving the kids and dirty dishes behind?
Girls, get lucky gal is going to receive a $100 scholarship! Which means admission to the Free To Be Me conference will be... FREE!
Here's all you have to do: Hop over to One So Blessed and leave a comment. The winner will be picked on Sunday, September 20th. Which means I'll be seeing one of YOU in Florida.
It's as easy as that.

Chronicles of the Donovan Clan - Wordless

It’s scary being a parent.

I’m probably not alone in that I fret about how my kids will turn out. I think it is often doubly scary to be a parent in an unequally yoked home.

There is more compromise in a divided home when parents have differing worldviews. My husband and I have disagreed compromised over many things. Major things like education. I wanted private Christian school, he – public. My daughter attends public school. We have not always agreed on video games, game ratings, or age appropriateness on said games. Don’t even get me started about television programming. Thankfully my daughter’s preferences on TV are amazingly similar to mine.

On the flip side, my husband respected surrendered to my desires such as prayer before dinner, my daughter’s youth group attendance, church. My husband is a moral man and we have more in common than not, with regard to parenting but on certain key issues, we remain worlds apart.

I know many of you reading this right now can relate.

It is scary. I think my ultimate fear is summed up with this question; Will my child’s eternity be at risk because her father doesn’t believe?

So today I have a story. It is a story, 14 years in the making and a triumph for every unequally yoked parent.

Saturday night my teen daughter attended a youth church get-together. This might not sound like a big deal but up until this fall, my daughter refused to join ANY kind of youth church event. The best I could hope for is her attendance on Sunday morning. When you are unequally yoked it becomes extremely difficult to force your teen kid into these kinds of things without Dad’s full support of the suggestion. Frustrating but true. However, this fall I offered my daughter an incentive to start attending on Wednesday nights. (I love incentives and rewards. They work.) This is week four. She has attended every weeknight AND every Sunday morning youth service. A miracle in itself.

Further, my daughter’s best friend decided to tag along. She, too, has attended every weeknight.

C28 Okay, with that history in mind, the Youth group held a Glam-N-Jam on Saturday night. My daughter not only attended but also was a model for the Christian clothing retailer, C28.

The owner and founder of the chain of stores, Aurelio Barreto, spoke. His riveting and powerful testimony of a millionaire who was on the verge of suicide and then finds Jesus had me transfixed for an hour. A fantastic story for another day. (see video below)

But this story is about my daughter and her friend.

They both sat and listened as Aurelio spoke. He shared the gospel message and he shared Jesus. He prayed and asked the kids in the room to raise their hands if they accepted Christ.


God has honored my prayers over this child from her infancy. I have asked the Lord to hold her heart and protect her daily for years. His faithfulness became evident on Saturday night.

On the drive home, the carload of kids in the back seat were all talking excitedly about the evening. They talked about how they knew the Holy Spirit was in the meeting and that Jesus was the only way to real and lasting happiness and joy. I knew their faith was alive.

I saw my daughter with new eyes. She really believes in the Lord Jesus Christ. Her faith is becoming her own and is no longer just her mother’s faith.

More remarkable, as we drove away after dropping the last kid home, my daughter’s best friend, my daughter said, “Mom, tonight Dani raised her hand during the prayer. I have been hoping for that for a long time. She has been searching and that is why she comes with me to youth group.”

“Oh honey, do you know what a big deal this is? You may have been the one person who helped to set the stage to her eternity.”

Then my daughter said something I will never forget. “Mom, do you think it would be okay if I invite Cheyenne to come to youth group next week?”

She gets it. She has the heart of Christ, a heart of compassion for her friends who are hurting. She gets it that Jesus is the way and the truth and the life - for her and her friends.

What more could a mother want?

God doesn't require us to be super parents but only to live out our faith authentically before our children's ever watching eyes.

My daughter knows I am not perfect. She knows this oh so well. But, she cannot deny my belief in the living God of my life. My faithfulness to spend time early in the morning with Him, reading His word and praying has been one of the most influential things I have ever done. A wordless witness.

I am compelled by love to tell her how Jesus is active in the details of my life. My love for Jesus is evident in my actions and speech. It is undeniable every – single - day. A wordless witness.

You, too, have a wordless witness no matter what your spouse believes. No matter how hostile he might be to God today. You have a wordless witness regardless what the world preaches. You have a wordless witness with more power than any evil of this world.

You serve the Lord God Almighty. Live your life that way. It is irresistible to your children, your spouse, and a world of cynics. Have a blessed and triumphant week. Be blessed, Lynn

Weekend Devo — Discouraged?

Another great article from Rick Warren about patience and perseverance. We can easily become discouraged in a S.U.M. I hope this devotional encourages you to keep going, to keep praying, and above all, keep believing. Blessings! —Dineen


Having Patience in the Midst of Discouragement
by Rick Warren

“You need to persevere so that when you have done the will of God, you will receive what he has promised. For in just a very little while, ‘He who is coming will come and will not delay’” (Hebrews 10:36–37 NIV).

If you’re discouraged because of God’s delay in answering your prayers, understand the delay is not a denial. Just because the answer or the miracle hasn’t come—yet—that doesn’t mean God isn’t going to answer, or that he’s forgotten you, or that he doesn’t care about you. It simply means “not yet!”

Spiritual maturity is knowing the difference between “No” and “Not yet,” between a denial and a delay. The Bible tells us, “He who is coming will come and will not delay” (Hebrews 10:37 NIV).

The delay may be a test of your patience. Anybody can be patient once. And, anybody can be patient twice. And, just about anybody can be patient three times. So God tests you patience over and over and over.

Why? To see how patient you are?

No, he does it to show you how patient you are. So you’ll know what’s inside of you, and you’ll be able to know your level of commitment. God tests you so that you can know he is faithful, even if the answers you seek are delayed.

If you’re discouraged, turn it around by remembering God teaches you patience during delay. Ask him to transform your discouragement into patience.

You may be going through difficult times right now and feel like dropping off the planet. You’re discouraged because the situation you face seems unmanageable, unreasonable, or unfair.

It may seem unbearable and inside you’re basically saying, “God, I can’t take it anymore. I just can’t take it anymore!”

But you can.

You can stay with it longer because God is with you. He’ll enable you to press on. Remember, you are never a failure until you quit.

Don’t quit. Resist discouragement and finish the race God has set before you.

Creating a Crisis- With a WARNING

When we began this series regarding conflict I set out some of the guidelines and the premise by which we intend to explore the specific issues. If you have not read that post, please read it now (go here, then come right back).

Several weeks ago we were discussing a difficult topic, conflict in marriage, specifically alcohol and marriage. I left that post with the following questions:

When does conflict cross a boundary line? And, the follow up question: Is it right to create a “crisis” in your marriage to resolve such conflict? Ahhhhh, great questions. I have been dying to talk about these.

So let’s answer this question today.

Q: Is it right to create a crisis in marriage to resolve conflict?

A: yes and no.

I know, I know, it’s never an easy answer is it?

Let me state now that initiating a crisis (conflict) in marriage is appropriate in certain situations. For example, e-Mom left a wise comment following our last discussion about alcohol. CRISIS

e-Mom: You ask some great questions Lynn... I don't think I would create a crisis in order to resolve an conflict. A classic "intervention" seems to be more effective instead. Maybe you could explain what that is to your readers. :~D

In fact, e-Mom, you are spot on as usual. If you have arrived in a place where alcohol has affected your life and the lives of your loved ones in a way you can’t endure any longer, then an intervention is absolutely what you need. An intervention, is creating a crisis in a marriage relationship. It is taking a step out of the old way of living and deciding you won’t return. An alcoholic often will not admit he/she needs help. A family intervention will force the issue to the front and center where it will be dealt with in one way or another. You can learn about interventions at AA and Al-Anon meetings.

WARNING: Prior to considering creating a crisis in marriage, always, always, seek out a counselor. Go to your pastor, the church counselor, someone with training and knowledge about how to navigate your problem.

Creating a crisis always has ramifications. You must be aware and ready to handle what will be brought out through your actions.

So why am I bringing the subject up in the first place? Because there are men and women who are living in a place that is not healthy, safe, or Godly in anyway. They are often afraid and suffering from such low self-esteem they don’t have any hope or direction to save them and their children. Sometimes their only contact to the outside world is through the internet. They are often unaware that it is Godly and right to intervene in their marriage, which is on a destructive path, in order to save it.

If you are struggling in this area, email me. I have some resources for you. God has heard your cry for help.

Okay, I am not certain when I will post again about our next conflict issue, infidelity. But, I will and it will be when the Lord places it heavy on my heart.

Have a great weekend. Be Blessed, Lynn

Thankful Thursday - Collective Prayer Warriors

This month we meet at Women Taking A Stand and I will see you here again for the month of October and November at Grace Alone.

I woke up Monday morning and still was not feeling well. This was day seven. In fact, as I stepped out of the shower my condition instantly worsened.

Standing in my bathroom, realization hit me. This is serious.

I started shaking. I was scared.

Frightened, I telephone my mother. She is always a rational voice. I have been known to overreact about health issues. She soothed my fears but also cautioned me a visit to the emergency room might be necessary. I prayed again, I had been praying purposely now for over 24 hours.

I tried my doctor, couldn’t reach him. I called the ER to find out about admitting procedures. I telephoned my nurse friend, Katie. She also soothed my fears but said if I didn’t feel better soon that she would recommend a hospital.

Oh, help!

Biblehands I hung up the phone and did what I should have done yesterday. I emailed a few of you in our on-line community.

I wrote: Hi My Friends, I have an immediate prayer request. Please, when you receive this could you just pause a second and pray….. I quickly shared my need and asked for prayer.

Within minutes emails began to pop up on my computer. Prayers, words of encouragement, promises to pray, and confirmations of words spoken to the Father for lil’ ol’ me.

I laid down on the couch (with my hankie, Angie) and that very hour my condition improved.


I don’t quite understand why in certain circumstances my praying alone isn't enough for some matters. Sometimes the spiritual realm just needs more warriors speaking words of powerful prayers.

The ER visit was averted and I saw the Doctor on Tuesday who fixed me right up.

I am utterly thankful that I am able and safe to call upon all of you to pray for me. I experienced firsthand the effectiveness and power of collective prayer.

I make this promise to you, if you need prayer; you need only to drop me an email. I will read it and pray immediately. I may be unable to answer your email right away, but I PROMISE, I will speak words in your behalf before the throne. I always have.

Today, I am a humble and thankful woman! Be Blessed, Lynn

Laced With Grace Fall Giveaway

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Material from Kitty Designs' kit "Dream of a Blue Sky"
And he said to them, “Why are you afraid, O you of little faith?” Then he rose and rebuked the winds and the sea, and there was a great calm. ~ Matthew 8:26

They're talking layoffs at work, slowdowns in the economy, flare-ups in the Middle East, turnovers at headquarters, downturns in the housing market, upswings in global warming...Imagine your life, wholly untouched by angst. What if faith, not fear, was your default reaction to threats? (text taken from Max Lucado's website)

To find out more about the book itself, please visit our very own Lori from Lori's Reflection. She read the book so she can share her thoughts with us: Fearless by Max Lucado.

Now to the niddy-griddy part of the giveaway. The package includes: Fearless - Hard Cover, Fearless - DVD Study, and the Fear Not Promise Book. You have four chances to enter your name into the drawing. Wondering how to get your name four times into the drawing -- pretty simple...

Please leave a comment on the giveaway post over at Laced With Grace. The giveaway will end next Tuesday, September 15th (midnight - EST) with the winner to be announced on Saturday, September 19th.

Remember, for God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control. 2 Timothy 1:7

Read Dineen's latest post: The Attitudes of Waiting, Part I

Read Lynn's latest post: A Most Amazing Car Ride

Problem With Comments

UPDATE: Comments should now appear however, I had to turn on authentication. SO SORRY but I was getting slammed by the foulest spam you ever did see. Hope to remove authentication soon but I will have to wait and see. First time in three years I had to turn authenticate on... Bummer.

But, thank you so much for understanding. Hugs, Lynn and Dineen

Weekend Devo — We Are Known

933344_i_love_you Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known. — 1Cor. 13:12

1 Corinthians 13 is known as the love chapter. Yet at the end of this wonderful chapter is an amazing piece of truth that gives us the reassurance we are truly known by the One who loves us with unsurpassed passion.

One of the most difficult parts of a spiritual mismatch is feeling like our spouse doesn't understand who we are in Christ. But our precious Lord knows us completely and even went to the trouble to include this tidbit in a chapter all about love.

So when we face those lonely times, we have this Scriptural reminder that we are known to the depths of our spirit. And there's no better remedy for loneliness than that.

Praying and believing,

Inciting Incidents

_225_350_Book.64.cover  In writing, we use a phrase called "inciting incidents." This describes an event that causes the hero or heroine to change direction. In What's He Really Thinking? by Paula Rinehart (Thomas Nelson 2009), the author speaks of the same thing, but in the nonfiction world of our real lives.

She gives an example of a couple who hasn't gone on a family vacation in years. Every year the wife asks if they can make plans, and each time her husband says they need to think about their future and retirement. Now the backstory of this is that the husband's reasoning is based in fear, and he will stay in that place until forced to change direction.

That finally happens when the wife says to his latest answer, calmly and with respect, "That won't work for me." She's clearly stated that she can no longer accept his position and is asking for a compromise or change. The result? Her husband can't remain in his fear-based position any longer, which is a good thing. He has to find an alternative.

The author also clarifies that this is not a tool to use randomly. The point is to recognize the detrimental place our husband is staying in and help him to grow and move out of it.

To change. Not an easy thing for a man.

Here are some pointers from the book of when to use your "no-words:"

1. When you believe that the relationship itself will suffer because you are putting up with something that's harmful to you both.

2. When you sense that your "no" could open a door in this man's growth that probably won't open if you just continue to go along.

The author stresses how important it is to let go of your anger before you use your no-words. The point is to give him something to "wrestle with that could, eventually, bring some deep changes in his life." (Pages 69-71 of What's He Really Thinking? by Paula Rinehart)

As with anything, we must first prayerfully consider and prepare ourselves for such situations. We need to make sure we know whether we as wives are blocking a potential place of growth for our husbands and can help them move out of this place, or are we only concerned with our own needs.

What an awesome thought and challenge to think that through God's guidance and help, we can be such a positive influence on our husbands and help them grow.

Praying and believing,