Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God. For just as the sufferings of Christ flow over into our lives, so also through Christ our comfort overflows. If we are distressed, it is for your comfort and salvation; if we are comforted, it is for your comfort, which produces in you patient endurance of the same sufferings we suffer. And our hope for you is firm, because we know that just as you share in our sufferings, so also you share in our comfort. — 2Corinthians 1:3-7
In the past, Lynn and I have talked about how we are not alone in our unequally yoked situations. God is with us through every moment, challenge, and shed tear. But I also believe he is calling us to not be alone in our situations either. Thanks to the world of computers, we have a wealth of knowledge and support available at our fingertips. Using wisdom of course.
But these are avenues that we can connect with others, especially if we can't find that kind of support within our own church. And not all of us have the freedom or ease to go to church, so that can make it even more difficult.
Along with what Lynn wrote about yesterday in making our spiritually unequal marriages an idol, isolationism is one aspect to be wary of. We can easily use our situation as a reason to stay away from church, use it as a shield to not get involved, and make it the very definition of our faith.
That's not what God intends. Yes, we are in a unique situation that most of our Christian couple friends may not understand, but sharing our journey with them can actually be a blessing to both parties.
I have one dear friend who told me she liked reading my posts here at SUM because it gave her more insight into what I struggled through and with. That blessed me beyond words, that she cared enough to want to understand. And others I have shared this journey with have expressed how it inspired them in their own marriages.
We need not hide and be ashamed. And we have to realize it's not all about us. We never know how God will use our life and marriage lessons to help others. He did not call us to remain silent. On the contrary, he tells us to share what we have learned, what comfort we have received so that other may benefit too.
In a recent devotional, Rick Warren talked about sharing our life message. He made a list of questions to think about to determine what our life message might be:
- What has God taught me from failure?
- What has God taught me from a lack of money?
- What has God taught me from pain or sorrow or depression?
- What has God taught me through waiting?
- What has God taught me through illness?
- What has God taught me from disappointment?
- What have I learned from my family, my church, my relationships, my small group, and my critics?
We can examine these within ourselves and even ask them of our friends and spiritual mentors, thus another chance to learn. And as an unequally yoked spouse, I can pose another question to add to this list.
- What has God taught me about loving unconditionally?
God doesn't call us to be separate. He wants us to interact and get involved in each others lives. Then we become the body of Christ, sharing what we have learned and gaining wisdom from others. And in our connections we find comfort and understanding.
What's your life message?
Praying and believing,