I'm sure you've had those moments (like me) where you've wished you could take back a word or action against your spouse. No one is perfect and we all make mistakes - here are some of the most common ones I've been responsible for over the years:
* speaking sarcastically
* rolling my eyes
* not helping him when I'm angry with him
* holding onto a grudge
* the silent treatment
* telling him to go wash his own clothes and make his own lunches etc
* with-holding intimacy
You know you've done wrong but the point is don't beat yourself up about it. Hindsight is a wonderful thing. Thankfully all is not lost.
1Peter3:1 says: "Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives".
Note: submission does not mean being a doormat - there are ways to be submissive with appropriate boundaries. To me, it also means sometimes putting aside our own feelings to positively be a help-meet to our husbands.
Psalm 18:30-32 says: "As for God, his way is perfect; the word of the LORD is flawless. He is a shield for all who take refuge in him. For who is God besides the LORD ? And who is the Rock except our God? It is God who arms me with strength and makes my way perfect."
Note: God is there for us to run to. When times are tough cling to the rock of God. He is our strength, our joy, our mighty counselor and our heavenly Father. If you need a hug or an uplift just ask Him. Talk with him like you would a friend.
He has showed you, O man, what is good. And what does the LORD require of you? To act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God.
Note: An apology goes a long way. You don't have to prove you're right all the time. If you're wrong and you know it, apologize to your spouse. That way they don't think you're high and mighty and self righteous.
My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.
This was a BIG one for me. God was constantly reminding me that my tongue was getting me into trouble more than it should be. Sometimes it's better to take a deep breath, count to ten and then respond instead of when we're deep in anger. By the way, never let the sun go down on your anger. A good night's sleep can change your outlook in the morning.
I hope these help you in your walk with God in your unequal marriage. It's also important for you to have regular time out by yourself with God so that he can craft you and rejuvenate you.
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Marching Around Jericho is a spiritual guide. As you read through the pages, powerful and transformative instruction and equipping takes place. We follow Jesus as he leads us around the walls, imparting kingdom truths with each passing, finally arriving at the gates of the walled-off city, our spouse’s unbelieving heart. After the circles in prayer are complete, we arrive fully prepared to command the walls to crumble and be removed, making a way for our spouse to step from the rubble of lies and captivity, into faith and freedom!