Welcome to Weekend Devotions at Spiritually Unequal Marriage. Dineen and I pray the weekend devotional will enrich your marriage and your relationship with God. Be Blessed, Lynn
I reasoned since I have read the Good Book, surely “I” must have all the answers. Because my husband doesn’t believe it was obviously up to me to keep this family traveling in the right direction.
I thought because I knew God that I had to be control. After all, I know what’s best and I had better watch out for me, and the kids and clearly my husband. It was up to me to direct my man to safe people and safe places.
I tried all of the usual things. I would arrange a “casual” get together with a Christian couple. I would manipulate my husband to attend church. And yes (shudder) I would leave scripture verses on 3x5 cards conveniently placed around the house.
What I was really doing was mothering my mate. These silly and controlling actions only made my husband feel emasculated and resentful. Those feelings emerged in our daily life to tear at our relationship leaving me feeling anxious, frustrated, and fearful.
The truth is I surely do not have all of the answers. I had to learn to respect my husband’s need for freedom. He must choose for himself even if he chooses unwisely. In fact, my good intentions to guide my man away from certain ideas or activities may have interfered in the very circumstances that could have brought him to the cross.
I am far from perfect. I mess up on a daily basis yet slowly, surely the gospel is alive in my life as a witness for truth. I trust Jesus to do the rest of the work.
As spouses of nonbelievers we mean well, however, when we try to control our mate to the foot of the cross the result is disappointment. What we can do is to pray every day for our husband and show him respect. Then trust the Lord to do the rest.
Ephesians 5:33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.