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22 entries from October 2007

Thankful Thursday

Thankful Thusday is an opportunity to give thanks to God for our spouses.

Today, I am praising the Lord for my husband’s commitment to this ministry. Although my husband is not a believer, he allows me, no encourages me, to write about our lives. He said to me, “If our lives can help others, go for it.” I am thankful for my husband and his willingness to share his life, our lives, to help others.

God Bless you! Praising the Lord today! Lynn

This week Crystal at God is in Control, is hosting Thankful Thursday! Thank you Crystal!

A Fine Linen Belt

16243_linenIn Jeremiah 13, God tells Jeremiah to purchase a linen belt and tie it around his waist. Jeremiah does as God instructs him. Then God speaks a second time, telling Jeremiah to bury the belt in a crevice. Many days later, Jeremiah unearths the belt at God’s direction and finds it ruined and completely useless. God uses this picture literally to show Jeremiah what Judah and Israel have become in their idolatry—“useless.”

As I read this chapter, I had to pause, and take note. (That’s usually the Holy Spirit saying, “Whoa, stop and pay attention!) Throughout the Bible, we usually see linen used in association with Christ and his priesthood, going all the way back to Exodus and Aaron. Revelations 19:8 says that “fine linen stands for the righteous acts of the saints.”

Isn’t it so like God to use a metaphor to reflect his meaning on so many levels? Judah and Israel had lost their righteousness because of their pride, wickedness, and stubbornness. They became as broken and tattered as that linen belt.

God further expounds upon the meaning of the belt in verse 11:

‘For as a belt is bound around a man’s waist, so I bound the whole house of Israel and the whole house of Judah to me,’ declares the Lord, ‘to be my people for my renown and praise and honor. But they have not listened.’

See how the past tense is used when God says He “bound” the whole house of Israel and the whole house of Judah? God already tied that belt, binding the two houses to him. Then at the end, He switches to present tense, “But they have not listened to me.” Judah and Israel’s unrighteousness had disintegrated the belt binding them to God.

I asked God to connect the dots further for me. How did this relate to being unequally yoked? He gave me a picture of how the believing spouse can be that linen belt, a representation of righteousness (God’s, not ours), binding the marriage to God. Yet if we hide our faith, the belt disintegrates and becomes useless.

Now I’m not saying we should beat our spouses over the head with Scripture or get preachy. Remember, the reference in Revelations referred to the “righteous acts.” I believe this described who they had become through the changing power of Christ. They simply lived as Christ called them to, letting their light shine before men.

If you’re like me, you’ve learned that pushing the gospel on someone unwilling to hear it is ineffective, but nothing stops us from being a living representation of Christ in our homes each and every day. That doesn’t mean perfection. It means authenticity. What greater witness is there than a life changed?

And how is that most effective? Not by words but by acts!

Dear ones, we are called to be that linen belt in our day-to-day lives, but burying it will only make us useless. We may not have the freedom of voice to speak in our homes, but we can live boldly as a saint through our actions, through the peace of knowing Christ suffers with us, and through the knowledge that God wants our loved one to know his Son even more than we do.

And we can be that fine linen belt, unbroken and unblemished, strengthened and purified by the very God we love. And by the great intercession of our Savior, Jesus.

Praying and believing,

It is well.....My Story at Christian Women Online

The photos in this post are various photos I received via email this week.

I wrote a post last Tuedsay, October 23, 2007, which tells my story of how God worked in my heart as one of the wildfires was threatening our town. I hope you have a minute to read it today at Christian Women Online. (Go Here for: It is well)

I again thank everyone who prayed for me and my neighbors here in Southern California. As I write this post today, Saturday, October 27, 2007, there is a light rain falling. Many of the fires are extingished and all are contained.

A miracle. Fire_fighters_2

The fire that was threatening our town on Tuesday turned back on Wednesday toward the wilderness. Thanks to the efforts of the fire fighters and the reverse in the wind direction. Praise God!

I am now praying for those who are left homeless in the wake of this fire storm. I am also praying the Santa Ana winds are finished blowing this season.

Lord, I thank you for sparing so many lives. I ask your hand of guidance and strength upon those who lost so much. Lord, I know You are often found in the wake of tragedy. I pray You will reveal Yourself to many in the weeks ahead. In Jesus name, Amen

Now I want to leave you with some incredible photos. Be blessed, Lynn

Sunday Smiles

At Spiritually Unequal Marriage we explore many difficult and serious topics. We can feel overwhelmed with the seriousness of life because our struggles are sometimes enormous. Because of this fact, I want to share the joy of the Lord with you as well.

I received the following email this week and had to grin. Enjoy!

A Little Accident

To my darling husband,

Before you return from your business trip I just want to let
You know about the small accident I had with the pick up
Truck when I turned into the driveway. Fortunately not too
Bad and I really didn't get hurt, so please don't worry too
Much about me.

I was coming home from Wal-Mart, and when I turned into
The driveway I accidentally pushed down on the accelerator
Instead of the brake. The garage door is slightly bent but the
Pick up fortunately came to a halt when it bumped into your car.

I am really sorry, but I know with your kindhearted personality
You will forgive me. You know how much I love you and care
For you my sweetheart. I am enclosing a picture for you.

I cannot wait to hold you in my arms again. Your loving wife.

(photo below)


Have a fantastic Sunday and laugh heartily. This is the day that the Lord has made!

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Engaged to an unbeliever?

Over the past year I have spoken with women who are engaged or dating a man who is not a Christian. I want to leave these words for you today.

A woman’s heart should be so hidden in Christ that a man should have to seek Him first to find her.
God’s word has much to say about unequally yoked relationships. His word is not only applicable to marriage but also to business partnerships, associations, etc.

I pray today that your heart is hidden in Christ. Have a blessed day. Praising the Lord today. Lynn

Thankful Thursday

I cannot begin to tell you how thankful I am for the thousands of men and women who are working in Southern California. The firefighters and law enforcement officers are men and women of fortitude.

This is what it looked like today outside my home at 3:00p.m. We were uncertain if the fires would march upon us today. As of this evening, it appears the air assault on the flames has fought back the fire. For now we are safe and our town is spared from forced evacuations.

Today I am praying for every family who has suffered great loss and for the brave men and women who risk their lives to help others. Thank you, soldiers, fire fighters, law enforcement, volunteers, etc.

God Bless you! Praising the Lord today! Lynn

This week Crystal at God is in Control, is hosting Thankful Thursday! Thank you Crystal!


New_ark3Lord, prepare me
To be a sanctuary
Pure and holy
Tried and true
With thanksgiving
I’ll a be a living
For You.

The first time I ever went on a youth trip was as a youth counselor. I’m sure I learned more that year than the teens I worked with. (I was green beyond belief!) The lines above have stayed with me ever since that trip over ten years ago. Recently this song came to mind again in conjunction with a Bible study I’m doing about the Tabernacle.

God was very clear and specific with Moses in regards to how He wanted the Tabernacle made. Right down to the cubit. The altars of sacrifice and incense, the Holy Place, and the Most Holy Place, the priestly garments, the lampstand.

I love how the incense represents prayer. I love how the whole imagery here ultimately leads to Christ and his final sacrifice. I love how God weaves this tale in pages and pages of symbolism that will take us from this lifetime and into the next to understand it all. And maybe all of eternity to fully appreciate. I love this great big God who saw fit to give me a glimpse of what’s to come in regards to my precious husband.

You see, I’ve come to realize that what God shows me the first time is never the complete picture. Like a multifaceted diamond, his revelations capture the light of truth and reveal unlimited nuances. And so it’s happened again.

If you remember I wrote a post a few weeks back entitled “So Be It.” Three precious words that I knew set into motion the answer to a prayer spoken long ago. A prayer for my husband’s salvation. All along I’ve assumed God originally shared this prophecy with me so that it would be a testimony to others. That I still firmly believe. But last night during my Bible study meeting, God revealed another facet to this extraordinary gem.

God loved me that much that He wanted me to know. He wanted to do this for me. I can’t tell you how hard that was to accept at first. I mean, who am I to warrant such attention? Isn’t that just like most of us—to doubt that we could have any value or meaning to our Heavenly Father?

Yet last night He saw fit to remind me of this very thing—as an answer to another prayer spoken just moments before in response to our study.

“God, show me my worth to you.”

I sit at my desk writing this, near tears, because it’s only as I began to put words to page did I realize how intimately my God loves me. One prayer will have taken years to answer—and will be worth the wait (Just months away. Can you say “Praise God” with me?). Which led to another prayer answered in moments, and so interconnected with the first. Don’t you just love how God gets all the mileage He can out of everything He does?

So, now you’re sitting there, hopefully following my meandering train of thought, and perhaps wondering what that song has to do with what I’m saying.

As I studied the making and parameters of the Tabernacle, God brought this song to mind. And in a brief glimpse showed me the meaning. The moment Christ died, we became his Tabernacle, his Sanctuary. And He resides in us the moment we say yes and invite him into the place He wants to make his home, his Most Holy Place.

And now I want to sing this song a new way. I hope you’ll sing with me.

Lord, prepare him
(Or her—put your loved one’s face in your heart and mind or even use his or her name.)
To be a sanctuary
Pure and holy
Tried and true
With thanksgiving
He’ll be a living
For You.

Praying and believing,

Sunday Smiles

At Spiritually Unequal Marriage we explore many difficult and serious topics. We can feel overwhelmed with the seriousness of life because our struggles are sometimes enormous. Because of this fact, I want to share the joy of the Lord with you as well.

Psalm 118:24 This is the day the LORD has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it.

A man: God, how much is a million dollars to you?
God: It is but a penny.
A man: God, how long is a million years to you?
God: It is but a second.
A man: God, could you please give me a penny?
God: Sure, just a second.

Join in the fun today. Place a fun post on your site and link up so we can all laugh together.

Have a wonderful Lord’s Day and a blessed week. Lynn

Submission to Your Husband is a Beautiful Thing

The following article was originally published at 1Peter3Living on October 1, 2007 by Heather Young:Heather_2

My husband and I have taken up swing dancing. I am finding his interest in learning very exciting because I have a background in dance. I studied dance all through school and learned various kinds from my mom as well as dance lessons. In other words I have a lot of background in dance and thought I knew what I was doing.

The revelation came the other day when we were watching a Youtube Howto video about the basic steps. You see I have a lot of "know how" but I was never taught how to follow the leader. In any type of ballroom dancing (including swing) one partner has to lead and the other follows or else you end up with chaos and very poor dancing. My dad never danced so my mom taught me the basics because she loved to dance. She had never learned about having a leader, either in dance or in marriage so she never taught me.

In swing dancing the male and female parts are completely opposite. The leader gently makes small moves to let the female know what the next step is. There are no exaggerated moves, no shoving in one direction or another, everything is small and hidden so that it seems like each knows exactly what comes next--even when new partners are dancing together. In general, females tend to know more about how the actual dance works (as is the case with my husband and I)--it is part of our nature to study these things which is good because it lets us better read our partners signals.

The point is that, no matter how much knowledge the female has, she has to follow the male's lead or they are going to be going in completely wrong directions and in the end not be dancing together at all. (It is very easy to "lose ones partner" while swing dancing since you often let go of hands). However, if she follows his lead, regardless of how "off" it is they will look like they are together and the dance will be much better than if she had tried to lead in the direction she wanted to go.

This was quite the revelation to me. I knew the military version of a leader and how that applied to marriage but the dance version makes more sense to me. The cool thing is that a male, by nature, will try to do his best and is very competitive with other males about doing his best, and if he is in the leader part he will try to learn it the best he can, especially if he KNOWS his partner is relying on him to make good moves.

You are probably wondering what the question is.

Biblically speaking we in marriage are called to take up our roles so that our households will be peaceful. The male role is that of leader--regardless of his preparation or his spiritual state he is to be leader of the household so that there is order. God has placed that on his head and he will be held accountable for it. The female part is to be his second in command or in dance terms, his partner. He is to lead and she is to follow his lead as closely as she can.

In what ways have you taken up the wrong role?

If you are female, have you taken up the leader part? Look for those subtle moves in the direction he wants to go--if you look you will see them and recognize them. What change can you make RIGHT NOW to start
things going in the right direction again?

If male, have you backed up and let your wife lead? Also, have your moves been overpowering or too harsh? How can you subtlety help her see the direction you want to go?

And regardless of gender--have you discussed with your marriage partner to find out what your goals are? If I am waltzing and my husband is swing dancing then we are never going to get it straight.

Ephesians 5:22-32 22Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.

25Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26to make her holy, cleansing[b] her by the washing with water through the word, 27and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church— 30for we are members of his body.

31"For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh."[c] 32This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

Thank you Heather. You always encourage me. Lynn

Also, Have any of you been to a DOOT Party? It is funny. Pop over to Laced With Grace and find out about this silliness.

Thankful Thursday

Hebrews 4:12 For the word of God is living and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart.

God’s word can heal:

• a wound
• a heart
• a soul
• a nation
• a world

It can conquer our cravings, addictions, insecurities, failures, guilt and pride.

God’s word directs, shapes, sharpens, smoothes and renews.

It will overcome yesterday, today and tomorrow. It is more powerful than any army, government, or principality.

It is eternal.

I praise the Lord for His Living Word.

Praising the Lord today! Lynn

For more Thankful Thursdays, visit Iris at Sting My Heart. Thank you Iris for this wonderful ministry of thanks.

How Did We Get Here?

833297_you_shall_love_the_lord_yourIt’s the question we all dance around. The one we sometimes want to ask but don’t. The one we dread being asked. The one we know the person’s dying to ask us when we tell them why our spouse doesn’t share our faith.

“Did you know he wasn’t a Christian when you married him?” (I can hear the universal cringe.)

Believe me, I know. Been there, done it a hundred times at least. I don’t mind the question when it comes out of genuine searching—someone in need of understanding for his or her own situation or a friend or loves one’s. (We call that ministry.) It’s the judgment playing peek-a-boo as a question that takes me right back to the guilt.

Ah, she finally gets the point. Yes, yes, here I am. Guilt queen of the Western Hemisphere. For years I had good answers for that question. All kinds of ways to say, “I have no idea what he was” without making myself look bad.

But does it really matter?

God tells us in Matthew 6 not to worry about tomorrow. He’s got our future covered if we just trust in him. Now why would this great big God of grace want us to dwell on the past when he sent his Son to take care of it?

Let me tell you something, ladies and gents. Do not let the enemy weigh you down with guilt over a decision OF THE PAST to marry your unbelieving spouse. Confession frees the spirit, literally. Confess your err (even if you didn’t realize it at the time), accept God’s forgiveness, and move on. God will bless your marriage still (see THIS ARTICLE). My marriage is a walking, talking testimony to that.

We don’t have to live in the shadows, lurking behind our shields of shame. This is not what God has called us to do. He’s calling us, no matter how we got there, to be the presence of Christ in our spouses’ lives. And I don’t mean browbeating our loved one with the Bible or with our “Chistianese.” It means living our lives in obedience to Christ. Obeying his call to act or not act. To speak or not to speak. Sometimes Jesus spoke the loudest through the words he didn’t speak or even in his silence.

Shame and guilt are tools the enemy will use to great advantage to diminish or even prevent our witness. And that shield of shame can’t exist while we are sporting our shields of faith (part of that armor of God, remember?)

I’m ready to relinquish my title as the Queen of Guilt. Anybody with me?

Praying and believing,

Expecting or Accepting?

We have lived under the same roof for twenty-one years. We have feared together and cheered together. We have shared heartbreak and sorrow, joy and exhilaration. We have laughed and cried and talked and dreamed and opened ourselves wide to one another. We've even survived parenting four children (at least so far), yet there are times I look across the room at my husband and wonder who he is. Oh, don't get me wrong, I love him, very much. He is God's greatest miracle and richest blessing to me. He is a good guy, smart and funny, loving and thoughtful, amazingly talented and devoted to God, but. . .well. . .

. . .sometimes I just don't get him.

Does he really not think about things I think about? Is it possible he honestly doesn't notice stuff? He can really tune things completely out like that? Really?! How can that be? How can we be so compatible, yet so different? Shouldn't I be getting this marriage thing down by now?

I think the problem is that I EXPECT instead of ACCEPT. I expect him to notice things instead of accepting he may not. I expect to be the object of his complete adoration (I'm supposed to be his queen, right?), instead of accepting I can't be, only God should be. When I am bothered by some issue in our marriage, I expect him to change instead of accepting who he is. I cannot expect and accept at the same time, can I? I have to ask myself, which is more loving?

May the God who gives endurance and encouragement give you a spirit of unity among yourselves as you follow Christ Jesus, so that with one heart and mouth you may glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ. Accept one another, then, just as Christ accepted you, in order to bring praise to God.
Romans 15:5-7

If I want a strong union, I've got to follow God's principles. I've got to quit expecting and start accepting. It's the only way for our marriage to bring glory to God. Now I get that in my head, but practically. . .well, that's going to take a little practice. I can take heart, though, that if God ordains it, He will provide the training. Hmmm. . .doesn't sound so fun, huh?

So how will accepting change my day to day actions? Instead of wondering why he didn't notice, I'll accept he didn't and communicate better. Instead of expecting him to sense my mood, I'll accept he may not and move on, focusing on the truth that it was nothing personal. Instead of expecting his assistance, I'll accept he's had a long day too and humbly ask for help. Before I give too much more of myself away, I'll quit here. You get the picture.

Will you join me? Will you accept instead of expect?

On the journey with you, waiting for God's next step,

Sunday Smiles- The Headlines

At Spiritually Unequal Marriage we explore many difficult and serious topics. We can feel overwhelmed with the seriousness of life because our struggles are sometimes enormous. Because of this fact, I want to share the joy of the Lord with you as well.

Psalm 118:24 This is the day the LORD has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it.

Odd Newspaper Headlines From Around the World:

Include your children when baking cookies

Something went wrong in jet crash

Experts says police begin campaign to run down jaywalkers

Safety experts say that school bus passengers should be belted

Drunk gets nine months in violin case

Survivor of Siamese twins joins parents

Miners refuse to work after death

Juvenile Court to try shooting defendant

Two Soviet ships collide, one dies

Red tape holds up new bridge

Astronaut takes blame for gas in spacecraft

Kids make nutritious snacks

Man minus ear waives hearing

This hilarity, complements of the Jesus Site. Join in the fun today. Place a fun post on your site and link up so we can all laugh together.

Be Blessed, Lynn

Join Guest Writer, Tami Boesiger, here Monday. Tami shares her thoughts; ....."sometimes I just don't get him." It's a great article, filled with encouragement.

Spiritual Warfare- The LIVING Word.

Ephesians 6:17 Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God.
As I prepare for many of the posts I write here a Spiritually Unequal Marriage, God frequently brings before me REAL and actual teaching moments. He cares so much for our welfare and spiritual growth that He orchestrates events in our lives to instruct us. The last few weeks have been fascinating.

In the last two weeks several believers have shared their personal story of their encounter with evil, a demon. I will tell you that these stories are not often shared with other believers because they sound almost crazy. I assure you, they are not crazy. These accounts are where the physical world and the spiritual world collide.

Perhaps this unmentionable side of the spiritual realm is prevalent because of the time of year, All Hallow’s Eve. Perhaps it is because we are at the end of our series. What I do know is this; believers have the power to restrain absolute evil. We have the ability to fight the enemy because of our Savior, Jesus Christ.

Following today’s final segment on Ephesians 6, Spiritual Warfare, I have provided several scriptures to write down. I will explain more below.


Today let’s look at the helmet and the sword. The Helmet is actually an interesting piece of equipment. Its sole purpose is protection. Once placed on the soldiers head the helmet is not touched again. In addition to protecting the brain, the Helmet is also an identifier. A Roman’s soldier’s helmet was distinctive. Fellow soldiers knew their brothers in battle because of the identifying helmet.

Our spiritual helmet is our identity. It is our salvation in Christ. Isaiah 59:17a…. 17 He put on righteousness as his breastplate, and the helmet of salvation on his head;

I could write volumes on identity. I think I see men struggle in this area more so than women do especially when they loose their job. Their value as a person is wrapped up in their job title. When that title is forcibly taken away they are devastated.

A man or woman who truly lives and identifies him or herself as a child of God will not be shaken to the core when circumstances of life change. I know there is so much more to this brief statement. I hope to write more on our identity in Christ in future posts. Keep these thoughts and we will venture here soon.


The Sword. The Living Word.

Hebrews 4:12 For the word of God is living and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart.

This is not a metaphor. The word of God has power over the spiritual realm. It is our most effective weapon in warfare when coupled with prayer. More interesting still, it is a weapon of peace and a message of love.

Effective use of this weapon is reading the Word. Let it penetrate our minds, renew our hearts, and heal our brokenness. Then memorize it and have is fresh upon our tongue when the day of the battle arrives. I can’t over emphasize this statement. Spiritual battle occur at the most unexpected times. To be victorious, the Word of God must already be in our hearts and minds.

We must read it ourselves and not leave it to our preachers. Daily reading is when and how we learn to swing our sword to win the war.

The following scriptures are especially helpful to memorize when dealing with fears and insecurities. Speaking these scriptures out loud is a powerful weapon in the heat of the battle. I will pray repeating scripture to the Lord while asking for His protection and wisdom.

Psalm 91:5 You will not fear the terror of night, nor the arrow that flies by day,
Isaiah 41:10 So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.
2 Timothy 1:7 For God did not give us a spirit of timidity, but a spirit of power, of love and of self-discipline.

God’s word is ACTIVE. I have used these very scriptures to defeat real evil. If you are struggling in the area of spiritual warfare, I would feel so humbled to share with you other scripture verses you can use to fight the enemy. Please email me and tell me your struggle. God’s word will not fail to support you, protect you, grow you, and lead you to the Father and His amazing love.

Be Blessed and let’s ROCK the Spiritual Ream as warriors fully armed and ready to fight for our King! Lynn

Thankful Thursday: 1Peter3Living

This day I am humbled and deeply thankful for the men and women at 1Peter3Living. This online group of believers stirs my soul with new love and a new hope each and every day.

These believers are earnestly seeking to follow God's will in some of the most challenging and difficult circumstances.

Freely they spend time giving of themselves and supporting one another. Every member brings their uniqueness and love for Christ to our community. I see hearts for God strengthened. I see marriages supported. Lives are changed! I believe many husbands will be saved because of our prayers.

I praise the Lord for every person at 1Peter3Living.

I praise our God for every one of you who takes time to thank the Lord every Thursday.

1 Peter 3:1-2 Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives.

Be Blessed, Lynn

For more Thankful Thursdays, visit Iris at Sting My Heart. Thank you Iris for this wonderful ministry of thanks.

The Devil and the Angel

787368_statueI screwed up again. And amazingly, I felt entitled to. (Insert yucky “ew” sound here, please.)

So here’s how it played out. Months ago I agreed to let go of our cleaning service, because we had to cut costs. Now if you’re a busy mom (If? Yeah, I heard that snicker.), sometimes that can be the difference between sanity and chaos. In other words, I was loath to give it up, but I did when my husband said that everyone would chip in and help.

I had one condition. Just one little condition. My only request was that I didn’t have to beg to get the cleaning done. Yes, spoken as a mom who KNOWS how things tend to work out.

Which inevitably happened. And has kept happening. So, I think I finally blew a gasket. I can remember the moment now so clearly. (Thanks to God who very vividly pointed it out to me.) I stood in front of my favorite wall hanging quilt, fussing with some cinnamon pinecones. Hubby and I were “discussing” how this arrangement wasn’t working. I pointed it out again. My brain kicked in and said, “You should stop now.”

But guess what? Another little voice quipped in and said, “Just say it. You’ve suffered enough. You’re entitled to say it.”

And I did. I nagged harder and brought home my point in a neat little dig. “I told you…” You can fill in the rest.

Yes, I’ve gone to my husband and told him I’m sorry. He hears those words a lot lately. I can only imagine what he’s thinking. And sweetheart that he is, he always says, “It’s okay. I’m fine.”

He’s fine? Interesting word choice, but I’m glad. And I’m glad this happened.

Why? Because I believe at that moment, I forgot to fight. I didn’t pick up my sword and beat the enemy’s influence off. Can’t you just see the angel on one shoulder and the devil on the other? Let me tell you, that’s exactly what it felt like. I’ve never experienced anything quite like that, and believe me, I won’t forget it.

Time to get those index cards out and start memorizing some verses. Next time I’ll make sure my sword is within easy reach.

Praying and believing,

Sunday Smiles - What She Really Means

At Spiritually Unequal Marriage we explore many difficult and serious topics. We can feel overwhelmed with the seriousness of life because our struggles are sometimes enormous. Because of this fact, I want to share the joy of the Lord with you as well.

Psalm 118:24 This is the day the LORD has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it.
What She Really Means
At long last... The Men's Guide to what a woman really means when she says something. Pay close attention (there might be a quiz later).

You want = You want

We need = I want

It's your decision = The correct decision should be obvious by now.

Do what you want = You'll pay for this later.

We need to talk = I need to complain

Sure... go ahead = I don't want you to.

I'm not upset = Of course I'm upset, you moron!

You're so manly = You need a shave and you sweat a lot.

You're certainly attentive tonight. = Is sex all you ever think about?

I'm not emotional! And I'm not overreacting! = I'm on my period.

Be romantic, turn out the lights. = I have flabby thighs.

This kitchen is so inconvenient = I want a new house.

I want new curtains = and carpeting, and furniture, and wallpaper.....

I need wedding shoes = the other 40 pairs are the wrong shade of white.

Hang the picture there = NO, I mean hang it there!

I heard a noise = I noticed you were almost asleep.

Do you love me? = I'm going to ask for something expensive.

How much do you love me? = I did something today you're really not going to like.

I'll be ready in a minute. = Kick off your shoes and find a good game on T.V.

Is my butt fat? = Tell me I'm beautiful.

You have to learn to communicate. = Just agree with me.

Are you listening to me!? = [Too late, you're dead.]

Yes = No

No = No

Maybe = No

I'm sorry. = You'll be sorry.

Do you like this recipe? = It's easy to fix, so you'd better get used to it.

Was that the baby? = Why don't you get out of bed and walk him until he goes to sleep.

I'm not yelling! = Yes I am yelling because I think this is important.

This hilarity, complements of the Jesus Site. Join in the fun today. Place a fun post on your site and link up so we can all laugh together.

Have a blessed Sunday and laugh out loud. Lynn

Also, my daughter (I helped some) wrote an acrostic poem about Sunday. I love her heart. Pop over to Laced With Grace for a one minute poem appropriately named, Sunday.

Spiritual Warfare- The Real Face of the Enemy

Sword_2Okay I am trying to work through this series on Spiritual Warfare. Forgive me for my sporadic posting. Hang in there.

It has been a fascinating week. I have addressed spiritual warfare and our preparedness with several groups of believers. My Thursday morning Bible study group discussed Ephesians, Six. We addressed actual encounters where spiritual armor such as prayer and Bible verses were used to win the battle.

Also this week our group 1Peter3Living talked about being prepared while we live and believe in our marriages. Today, I want to share an actual account with you written by Amy Forbes.

Amy Forbes knows what the real face of evil looks like. As a former practicing Wicca (Witch), now saved by Jesus, she can attest to the evil spells and practices of the enemy.

She is a strong believer in the power of our Spiritual Armor from Ephesians 6. The following is a true account of a very scary experience. Be Blessed, Lynn


It was the summer of 1985. I was 14 years old and we had traveled up north for a family holiday to go camping at some freshwater lakes with friends.

One particular hot day we walked around the bay to the lake next to ours. The walk took us about 25 minutes and was very tiring. On the way my sister suddenly spotted a small opening in the cliff beside us so we scrambled to see what was inside. Thinking it was just a curve in the rock face we weren’t very hesitant until looking in further when we were surprised to see a cave lined with human skulls.

Knowing that much of the area around Northland was once inhabited by many Maori tribal populations we deduced that the cave was probably tapu (forbidden, restricted, sacred) and quickly left. When we reached our destination a strange thing happened. There was a jetty on the edge of the water that we all had fun jumping off but when I had my turn I felt myself being pulled deeper and deeper into the water but managed to get to the surface before I ran out of breath. I was terrified as I realized how close I had come to nearly drowning. That night once we were back at our campsite my younger brother had the worst asthma attack he’d ever had and my sister became dreadfully ill. The next day we came to the conclusion that because we had entered the cave a maori curse probably came upon us and the accidents we’d had were the result of it. Now looking back on it I can see two issues:
• back then we weren’t Christians, we weren’t spiritually right with God and we weren’t protected
* I wouldn’t have done it in the first place if I had known the dangers of it because I would have been testing God.

After reading my story is there anything in your life similar to this that’s happened to you?


You can visit Amy at her personal blog, Knight's Acre.

Thankful Thursday

This morning I just can't help but praise our Lord for the changing of the seasons. I love the fall! It is a time where I watch our Lord wave his paint brush across the trees. The colors are spectacular. We serve a mighty and awesome God.

Isaiah: 66:1This is what the LORD says: "Heaven is my throne, and the earth is my footstool.

Thought for the Day:
Don’t tell God how big your problem is.
Tell your problem how BIG your God is!

Praising our Lord today! Lynn

For more Thankful Thursdays, visit Iris at Sting My Heart. Thank you Iris for this wonderful ministry of thanks.

Where's the Asprin?

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.....Now let me remind you I was with my daughter, my twelve-year-old daughter. Do you think she wanted to ride the Teacups or leisurely sail through, It’s a Small World? Oh no, it was a fast-paced, head-jerking, bouncing, weaving, convulsing, scream your head off, dawn-to-dusk, thrill-ride, marathon.

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Be blessed, Lynn

The Marks of Marriage

WeddingringssmallTime again, I run across some interesting patterns in marriage. Just recently I spoke to a woman whose marriage suddenly ended after 14 years to her surprise. My heart broke for her and my alert bells went off as I found another piece to the pattern. I’m not an expert, but I put my observations out for your consideration:

The Three-to-Four-Year Mark
This is the point marriages seem to hit the end of the “honeymoon” stage. One or both partners have become aware of all the things that annoy each other and are disillusioned. What they thought their marriage would be and what it is are vastly different. At this point the couple will either make adjustments, or leave the relationship without even trying to resolve the discord. Unfortunately, until they learn a more realistic picture of marriage, it’s a pattern they will repeat over and over again.

The Seven-Year Itch

It’s called that for a reason, and it’s frequently true. So often at this point, the married couple has fallen into a pattern, most likely due to the added stresses of finances, children, and not enough time together. They’ve let everything but each other take first billing in their lives. Unfortunately, adultery can enter the picture very easily at this stage.

The Ten-Year Mark
This mark is more vague, but I have noticed this seems to be the point where couples question what they “feel” for each other. They don’t necessarily feel the passion they once did for one another and mistake inertia for “falling out of love” with their spouse. Yet patterns have been set and most likely, children are involved, so they stay put without even realizing that love is a decision. They either go on as roommates or find a way to reconnect and rekindle their floundering relationship.

The Fourteen-Year Mark
I believe this hurdle becomes more about the individual than the marriage itself. One partner seems to hit something like a mid-life crisis or an identity crises, as I like to call it. There blooms this sudden need for redefinition or affirmation of their self-worth, and can wind up leading down a path of no return. Sometimes this individual’s attempts to change are rejected by an unwilling spouse, or they completely broadside their partner, who thought everything was just fine.

Marriage is an everyday, intentional commitment. Even more than that, it’s a covenant God takes very seriously. The key is to be aware of the “health” of your marriage. Intentionally spend time together, seek common interests and hobbies (especially critical to an unequally yoked marriage), plan dates and even love-making, if necessary. A walk around the block can give a couple time to reconnect after a long day of separation. Making time with your partner a priority will go a long way to keeping your marriage jumping those hurdles more smoothly.

Like I said, I’m not an expert, but the most valuable lesson I’ve learned thus far is that love is a daily decision. And I believe God has made me aware of these “marks” for a reason, to equip me and to make me aware of how easy it is to forget my decision to love and take my husband for granted. How like God to use our life lessons to point to him. Long ago He chose to love us and every page of the Bible is a reminder of his decision to love us.

Now that’s a mark I truly want to bear witness to.

Praying and believing,

Marriage Monday - What Does Your T-Shirt Say?

1st Monday Every Month at Chrysalis
I am sad that one of my very good friends, Christine at Fruit In Season, is retiring her blog for an extended period of time. I will miss her wisdom, encouragement, and example very much.

e-Mom of Chrysalis has adopted Marriage Monday from Christine. She says: Marriage Monday will be meeting here the first Monday of every month, for starters. Our topic is wide open today, and I'd love to hear your marriage wisdom. Please feel free to come back any time this week to link up. If you've never participated in Marriage Monday before, here's your chance to think outside the blog and jump in!

I have loved Marriage Monday and enjoyed being a participant. For the first week at Chrysalis there is not a specific topic. Today I want to give you something to ponder.

What do you see in the picture that follows?Lovehate

This T-shirt and the implications behind it fascinate me. I stopped to consider how close love and hate could dwell in my heart. It also made me think about what my husband sees.

We who live day-in and day-out in an unequally yoked marriage struggle with the heart. We love our spouse and we love our God. At times they are diametrically opposed. Our heart clashes over loyalties and decisions. We fret over our children and their eternity. Decisions about money and entertainment can be enormously frustrating.

However, in spite of living in a spiritually mismatched marriage I am able to wear the banner of love. The T-shirt they see is love.

Psalm 51:10 Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me.

This is my prayer.

Have a blessed and awesome Monday. Lynn