If you want to change your marriage, you must move from apathy to commitment. Begin by practicing thankfulness. Make a list of your blessings. Specifically thank God for your spouse and the specific things you appreciate about him or her.
Thanksgiving breaks down entitlement attitudes that breed discontentment. Self-talk such as I deserve a better marriage than this. Or, I deserve someone who can meet my needs, will never bring you to healing.
What we deserve is death and God owes us nothing. Through His grace and love, however, we have everything. We have His power to turn around our destructive self-talk.
Two suggestions to begin these changes:
First: Read the Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. This book can help you to love your spouse in the language which will create the best response for your efforts.
Second: Help others. Giving to others in service can change the heart of anyone. Volunteer now. Don’t wait until you have more time or money. Start now. Ask at church where you can serve. Helping others who are struggling with greater difficulty than your own will quickly bring about a heart change. I PROMISE!
If you are seeking real changes in your marriage today, take out that prayer journal. Ask God to show you real thankfulness. Ask God to bring you to where you can serve. Ask God to be your everything, to fulfill your hearts desires. He is desperately waiting for you to speak those words and mean them.
Have a blessed and beautiful day. Lynn
God began doing a good work in you, and I am sure He will continue it until it is finished when Jesus Christ comes again. Philippians 1:6 (NCV)