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A Visual Prayer Experience!

Greetings My Friends:

This past weekend I attended a women’s retreat where I was filled up with the Holy Spirit. Getting time away from the normal day-to-day to be with God and other believers is something I hope all of you have a chance to do this year.

At our retreat I facilitated a workshop on prayer. In this workshop I shared a visual about the throne room of God. I am a visual learner. What I want to share with you now, profoundly impacted my prayer life and how I approach the throne.

I hope you can see what I see. I pray it will forever change your life of prayer: Be blessed, Lynn

Imagine Jesus taking you by the hand. Gently he leads you forward to a door. He opens the door. You peek around Him and realize it is a side entrance at the very foot of the throne. The throne is massive, white marble. Twelve marble steps form a half circle around the base.

Jesus gently leads you to the base of the steps. As you approach the Father’s throne, Jesus is there with you saying something like this: “Father, Lynn is here to speak with You. She isn’t coming on her own merits or righteousness; she is here based on Mine. She is here in my name. I’m sure You remember that I’ve gone between You and Lynn and provided her with access to You. She has a few things to ask you.”

Can’t you just hear the Father say in response, “Of course, I remember her, Son. You’ve made her one of Ours. Because she came through You, Lynn is always welcome here.” He then looks at me and says, “Come boldly to My throne of grace, daughter, and make your requests known.”

Adapted from Getting In God’s Face by Dutch Sheets

Oh, let Jesus bring you boldly before the throne of God. Let God hear your requests. Pray with all of your heart. Our God hears. Our God loves. Our God moves in mighty ways!

Stay tuned for our upcoming series: I am married so why do I feel so alone?

How Do I Cope With the Loneliness?

Next up at Spiritually Unequal Marriage: After some email conversations with a few of you, I feel compelled to run a series of articles about loneliness.

It is hard to believe but unequally yoked spouses feel terribly lonely. I know many of you know of exactly what I speak. I am preparing a series to focus on loneliness issue in marriage and how our Lord will meet us in our loneliness and be our company, our companion, our friend, and our confidant.

I will be attending a retreat this weekend. I hope to start early next week with my resources and prayers at hand to venture down the “lonely road.” It is my genuine and fervent prayer that at the end our journey, you will find you are not alone. You will never feel alone again and you will be empowered to help others on the road behind you.

Be blessed my friends. This week would you pray for this series? Ask God to bless our efforts and our words. Ask the King to bring forth His wisdom and His words of comfort. If you have any suggestions, needs or questions about this subject, please email me. Thank you, Lynn

Thankful Thursday

When our heart is broken. When our spouse does not share your faith. When our world seems locked in endless conflict, can we be thankful? We can, by God's supernatural power, we can!

Lord in spite of my struggles in my mismatched marriage, I can be thankful. You have given me a husband who is a good father, who loves me, who is trying to do the right thing. Thank you Lord, Thank you.

Psalm 118:29
Give thanks to the LORD, for he is good; his love endures forever.

Be blessed, Lynn


I am over at Christian Women Online today. I hope please join me for: Don't Go To Jupiter Without Me!...........“Mom!” my eleven-year-old, daughter drew out the word with heavy pronunciation. It sounded more like Maw-u-m. I looked up at her. She was standing in the kitchen a few feet away, staring straight at me, arms akimbo. “Don’t go to Jupiter without me,” she stated with annoyance in her voice.
Tune in to see what I have to say.......

Be blessed, Lynn

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Colossians 3:12 Therefore, as God's chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.

Can you think of a time when you were delighted or surprised by another person’s unusual kindness (someone other than your spouse). What did that person do that made the kindness so unusual?

Father, Help me be unusually kind to everyone I see today. Then tomorrow, help be unusually kind, and the day after too. Help me to put on kindness so that it becomes a part of my nature. In Jesus name, Amen

What Happened to Sunday? The Kids Want to Know.

As a follow up to my last post….

What priorities are your children picking up from the way you are spending your Sundays? Do sports seem more important than relationship? Does the yard appear to be more worthy of attention than they are? Is the day filled with chores? Arguing? All fun and no worship? More is caught than taught – what are your kids catching as the priority on the Sabbath?..... --- Men Are Like Waffles Women Are Like Spaghetti

This is extremely challenging when living in a spiritually mismatched home. I can tell you I spent many a Sunday mornings in tears because of the stress of church. To attend or not to attend? Secretly hoping my husband would join me then crushed when the slug stayed in bed.

Pressuring my daughter to attend or coaxing her or demanding her attendance also accompanied the morning. I would arrive home after a wonderful worship experience and be as mean as a bear.

How do you navigate Sunday? Share your ideas. Be blessed, Lynn

What Happened to Sunday?

Sunday’s sure have changed over the years. What was a complete day of rest for a family is no longer the case. It used to be businesses closed on Sundays. It was a day for family gatherings, big after-church meals, and naps. What traditions did our family have for Sundays when you were growing up? What traditions of activities, or non-activities would you like to incorporate into your Sunday? How would it effect your marriage and your kids?

Lord, help us look at the Sabbath from your point of view, not ours. How do you want us to spend our Sundays? Our desire is to honor you. Amen.

A lesson from the Potter and an email

Yesterday I told you we will spend some time talking about our successes and failures. Today I have a story to tell you. You see, although I have arrived at a wonderful place in my mismatched marriage, I don’t always get it right. I make mistakes. Even mistakes I have written about.

Specifically, I want to share a recent story with you. I am currently the facilitator at 1Peter3Living. This Yahoo group is reading the book Men are Like Waffles and Women are Like Spaghetti. On Wednesday, April 4th I send out this message to our group. Many of you will remember this as follows:

I finished the first chapter of Waffles and Spaghetti and about wet my
pants laughing as I read the questions at the end.

Example: #23 The phrase most often heard when the two of you are alone
in a quiet setting is:
a. "I love you."
b. "I need you."
C. zzzzzzzzzzz


This one is the best!

#22 TURE OR FALSE: The husband often lets his wife answer the
telephone because its usually for her anyway. FALSE: The husband often
lets his wife answer the telephone because, if he doesn't, he may end
up talking to her mother. (I cracked up at this one)

Okay but then I went on to read the first part of chapter two and was
hit smack in the head with a bad habit I didn't know I had. Chapter
two is all about communicating and how we do it all wrong sometimes,
how we must take turns and become (husband and wife) focused listeners.

Page 36: Your husband may say, "I'm intimidated by my boss." Try not
to respond with, "There's no reason for you to be intimidated. You are
bright, intelligent, and talented. Your boss is just threatened by how
good you are. Be brave, honey. It will be all right!" In doing so you
shut him down. Your husband is probably trying to get a conversation
started with you that is bigger than work. It probably has to do with
his lack of confidence or lack of understanding of how competition
works in an adult world. Or he may be contemplating a job change and
is checking to see how accepting you may be of having that
conversation. Or he may be intimidated by you and he is trying to lead
into the conversation by blaming his boss first! Whatever the case may
be, you will never know if you attempt to fix him rather than let him
work the process with your listening help.

Okay, am I alone here? I feel like a complete idiot. I am sure I have
cut my husband off on almost exactly this same conversation. Yikes. I
think I will send him this email and let him know I am sorry and will
not jump in to "save" him from his boss again.

Your thoughts?

Okay, with this message in mind, you should know I emailed this to my husband. I said in my email I am an idiot and interfere with his business decisional all the time and I don’t listen. Sharing and confessing this truth with my husband won me a lot of love points. *smile*

Yesterday, however, my husband began to explain a hiccup in his current assignment. Here is where I jumped in with both feet, mouth flapping and I DID IT AGAIN.

My husband stopped me and said. “I am going to print out that email and waive it in your face.”

I looked at him and started laughing. I felt like an idiot. I said to him, “Man, I even write about this stuff. I know I shouldn’t jump in all over you. I know you can handle every single one of your work problems, but I still can’t stop myself. I will work on it. Keep reminding me. Print that email out to wave it in my face the next time.”

We both laughed. I ran into his arms and we hugged. The story behind this is I learned from reading this book and we both grew from it. Share with your spouse gently and in small doses. Don’t push but share when opportunity is presented. It is amazing how it will change your navigation through marriage difficulties.

I also admit. I am certainly far from perfect. Just clay in the Potters hand. Amen!

Stories of God in our Midst!

Hi my friends. It is so amazing to me God continually supplies me with so many stories to write about. (I must need a lot of work under the Potter's hand.) Just this week two crazy and I mean whacky things happened. The stories are about real people and how God moves in the midst of our lives for His glory! Amen!

Please join me at Christian Women Online for Shake, Shake, Shake. You will not believe this one but it absolutely happened.

Please pop over to Laced With Grace. This story is about a whacky yellow sponge and a mean mom (that’s me).

Blessings my friends. Next up at Spiritually Unequal Marriage I want to talk about what we do right in our unequal marriages and the flip side, it’s okay when we fail. We are human after all. Stay tuned. Lynn

Thankful Thursday

Thankful Thursday at Spiritually Unequal Marriage is an opportunity to give thanks to the King for our spouses.

Today I want to thank my husband for his love for his parents. Although his mom and dad live nine hours away, he makes an effort to call his parents regularly. He is a wonderful example to our kids!

An Affair and Incompatibility

We have reached the end of our study of His Needs, Her Needs. The final two chapters are How to Survive An Affair and From Incompatible to Irresistible.

How to Survive An Affair:
Step One: Ask yourself if you truly want to survive.
Step Two: Don’t Put up With It
Step Three: Get a Good Marriage Counselor
Step Four: Start Meeting Each Other’s Needs
Step Five: Realize It Won’t Be Easy

Dr. Harley offers great advice in this chapter. He explains the power of an affair. He also states marriage can survive an affair and marriage can become stronger.

The other wise piece of advice Dr. Harley provides: The Cure for Incompatibility: Getting down to the full-time business of meeting each other’s marital needs.

Easily said…. It is not easily done. It is a day-by-day, minute-by-minute effort from the husband and the wife. Don’t wait for your spouse to be the first to begin to meet needs. You take the initiative. The changes in you will bring about changes in your spouse.

Thank you for hanging in there with this long series. I am interested in what you would like to take on next. Conflict? Prayer? Counseling? Children? Send me your suggestions.

I am holding you in prayer.

Lord God, I approach your throne today with Jesus, my intercessor at my side. Lord, I ask your hand upon each person who stumbles across this prayer today. Father I ask out of your great love for me and for them to move mightily in the midst of their marriage. Bring peace, a smile, a hug, a kiss, a thank you, an “I’m proud of you,” into their life. Let your presence be so obvious they can do nothing but fall to the floor with praises.

Lord, let us honor You with our lives and our marriage. Hold us when it is difficult, when we hurt or are confused.

Father, I bind the enemy who is relentlessly trying to rip marriages apart. I bind the enemy from these homes by the power and blood of Jesus Christ. It is His name by which I bring these requests. Amen


Jesus, this single solitary life changed the course of history and the eternity of many. For over 2,000 years mankind has been influenced by this one man, yet Savior. Wars have waged over this name, lives sacrificed for this name. Men have cursed Him and others praised Him.

He is the First and Last, the Beginning and the End. He is the keeper of Creation and the Creator of all He keeps. The Architect of the universe and the Manager of all times.

He always was, He always is, and He always will be. Unmoved, Unchanged, Undefeated, and never Undone. He was bruised and bought healing. He was pierced and eased pain. He was persecuted and bought freedom. He was dead and bought life. He is risen and brings power. He reigns and brings Peace.

The world can't understand him, the armies can't defeat Him, the schools can't explain Him, and the leaders can't ignore Him. Herod couldn't kill Him, the Pharisees couldn't confuse Him, the people couldn't hold Him! Nero couldn't crush Him, Hitler couldn't silence Him, the New Age can't replace Him, and Donahue can't explain Him away!

He is light, love, longevity, and Lord. He is goodness, Kindness, Gentleness, and God. He is Holy, Righteous, mighty, powerful, and pure. His ways are right, His word is eternal, His will is unchanging, and His mind is on me! His is my redeemer, He is my savior, He is my guide, He is my peace. He is my Joy, He is my comfort, He is my Lord and He rules my life.

I serve Him because His bond is love, He burden is light, and His goal for me is abundant life. I follow Him because He is the wisdom of the wise, the power of the powerful, the ancient of days, the ruler of rulers, the leader of leaders, the overseer of the overcomers, and the sovereign Lord of all that was and is and is to come. And if that seems impressive to you, try this for size. His goal is a relationship with ME! He will never leave me, never forsake me, never mislead me, never forget me, never overlook me, and never cancel my appointment in His appointment book!

When I fall, He lifts me up.
When I fail, He forgives.
When I am weak, He is strong.
When I am lost, He is the way.
When I am afraid, He is my courage.
When I stumble, He steadies me.
When I am hurt, He heals me.
When I am broken, He mends me.
When I am blind, He leads me.
When I am hungry, He feeds me.
When I face trails, He is with me.
When I face persecution, He steels me.
When I face problems, He comforts me.
When I face loss, He provides for me.
When I face Death, He carries me Home!

He is everything for everybody, everywhere, every time, and every way. He is God, He is faithful, I am His, and He is mine. My Father in heaven can whip the father of this world, and so, if you're wondering why I feel so secure, Understand this : He said it, I believe it, and that settles it. God is in control, I am on His side, and that means all is well with my soul.

By - Mike Hilson for Vista Magazine

Good Friday

When I was in my early twenties I remember the pastor’s wife telling me about an interesting observation she made. She observed every year on Good Friday around noon to three in the afternoon, no matter where she lived, the skies cloud over and shadow the sun. I have never forgotten this and it seems to be a phenomenon which I also experience. Now I know there cannot be clouds all over the earth on Good Friday every single year however, it is interesting to watch high thin clouds fill the sky nonetheless. I feel like the earth itself is reliving the sadness, mourning and death this day signifies.

Today if you feel like you are living in your own Black Friday, I want to ask you to join me at Laced With Grace. You will survive Black Friday. Your deliverance is at hand. Join me for It's Friday but Sunday's a-comin'!

Thankful Thursday: The Bride Groom

Thankful Thursday at Spiritually Unequal Marriage is an opportunity to give thanks to the King for our spouses.

Here at Spiritual Unequal Marriage I post on Thankful Thursday about my earthly spouse, my husband, and the things I am thankful for. But today, on the eve of Good Friday, I want to thank the true Bride Groom, Jesus, the Messiah. His sacrifice and eternal love have changed my life so drastically I can scarcely believe it. Jesus has redeemed every part of my life, my marriage, my children, my past, my pride, selfishness.....

Thankful does not even begin to cover it! Jesus, you are my everything. The very reason I breathe. Everything I am or do or say or write is because you saw me and said, “I love this girl and I choose to redeem her.” Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.

What has the Groom redeemed for you? Be blessed, Lynn

Be sure to visit Iris at Sting My Heart for more Thankful Thursday participants!

Tomorrow, Good Friday, I am posting at Laced With Grace a story of my redeemed marriage on Black Friday. I pray if you are discouraged in any area of your life, you will stop in and be encouraged. Be blessed, Lynn


A husband needs his wife to appreciate him for what his already is, not for what he could become if he lived up to her standards. Admiration motivates a man to achieve more. He sees himself able to take on more responsibility for his family.

Behind every man should be an admiring wife.

This is a difficult thing especially when women feel that her needs are not currently being met. Dr. Harley suggests that both, husband and wife prepare a list that identifies characteristics that build or destroy admiration.

For example a wife may list a characteristic that destroys her admiration such as. I feel angry when my husband goes into his “cave” and wont talk to me. The husband can recognize this and make a pointed effort to spend time talking with his wife about his day.

This list is an excellent tool to overcome impasses in your marriage. Dr. Harley suggests couples use it to trade some of their needs, like the suggestion above. The husband spends time in conversation, love deposits are made. The wife admires him when she feels loved, love deposits are given.

Dr. Harley also suggests that if you spouse is unwilling to work to make these trades or has nothing to trade back, profession help might be needed to get him started.

A woman truly wants to admire her husband as her hero. Working on this list strategy will be a win-win for both.

This is a fantastic chapter with details on how to approach this list and trade concept. Read it!

Be blessed, Lynn

Marriage Monday

I am behind schedule today. I love Christine's post over at Fruit In Season. She takes a look at Marriage in the early years and what we, as brides, learn through the years in our marriage journey. I have shared my story of growth in my own marriage by the power and love of Jesus Christ. My marriage is a testimony to a loving God far more powerful than I can begin to imagine.

Be back tomorrow with His Need Admiration.

Be blessed, Lynn