Our series on His Needs, Her Needs is approaching the last three chapters. Today let’s take a look at a woman’s need for her husband to be a good father and committed to family.
Women are deeply connected to family, parents, aunts, uncles, etc. Women enjoy family events and spending time with her parents. I could write an entire post about this subject but have instead focused on child rearing.
Proverbs 22:6 (New International Version)
6 Train a child in the way he should go,
and when he is old he will not turn from it.
Women truly understand the wisdom of this passage. They also expect their husbands to be a partner in the raising of the children. So what does it mean when a woman says, “ I want my children to have a good father?”
Time…. It takes time.
Meals with the family. Bike rides, board games, sporting events, homework and family projects are a few suggestions. I would love to hear about some of the ways your husband is involved with the kids.
Fatherhood is a commitment and a charge from God. The involvement of a father in the lives of his girls and boys will leave a lasting and strong impression on a child. It is undeniable. It often takes training to become a great dad. Father’s must learn how to be consistent in parenting. Learn how to punish properly, reach agreement with your wife about discipline. Also, teach your children “why” they must follow the rules. (I never liked, because I said so, neither do my kids) Learn how to handle anger. (Men listen to this one.) Control your anger before you discipline. ---Dr. Willard Harley
One important fact I would like to highlight is the myth that child rearing is solely the responsibility of the mother. Many times, early in marriage, a wife will leave her job to raise the kids. Both husband and wife agree it will be a strain but it can work if the husband can focus on providing financially while the wife takes care of all the child raising needs. This rarely works. Even if Mom agreed in the beginning, she will be disillusioned later into the marriage. A woman needs her husband’s involvement, help and support with the children.
This is a great chapter. Read it. Also, Dr. Dobson has written several excellent books regarding parenting. I highly recommend them to all parents. Family.org
Have a blessed day! Thank you all Dad’s who willingly offer themselves first to God and then to your wife and children! Blessings, Lynn