Does a woman marry for money? This may be an offensive question and most would flatly reply a resounding no. However, it is not as far fetched as we think. Women have a basic need to feel financially secure.
Women want to have a choice to work or stay home. If they choose a career, they want the income to be a supplement to the family budget not a necessity. Most women are grateful to stay home and nurture the children. This is the ideal situation but hardly the reality.
Many couple’s standard of living forces the wife into the work force to help make ends meet. This is where fighting erupts. The clear issue at hand is the couple’s willingness to redefine their standard of living and make adjustments.
Regrettably most individuals, even Christian’s, are caught up in “keeping up with the Joneses.” To find peace in this area a family must learn to live on what the husband earns.
Create a budget: Dr. Harley points out these guidelines:
• Housing, 20%
• Food, 20%
• Utilities, clothing, transportation, medical and personal care, 30%
• Remaining 25% for charity, entertainment, education and home improvement
Happy is the couple who tries to live on what they need, not what they want. His Need, Her Needs, Dr. Harley
Here is the challenge: Are you and your husband willing to make the changes necessary to live on a budget?
Finances are one of the most difficult areas in marriage. Out of control budgets and unfettered spending is a recipe for disaster in marriage as well in your financial life. As a former banker, I can tell you I have seen up close and personal what financial ruin can do. Take steps today to get on the path of financial security. Make an appointment with a financial counselor, read books written for Christians who want to budget. Check out Crown Financial Ministries. They have a multitude of information to get you started.
The key is prayerful willingness to live within your means. Easier said than done, perhaps but remember: Matthew 19:26 Jesus looked at them and said, "With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible."
If you need prayer in this area, I will pray for you. Please let me know how to pray. Be blessed, Lynn
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Marching Around Jericho is a spiritual guide. As you read through the pages, powerful and transformative instruction and equipping takes place. We follow Jesus as he leads us around the walls, imparting kingdom truths with each passing, finally arriving at the gates of the walled-off city, our spouse’s unbelieving heart. After the circles in prayer are complete, we arrive fully prepared to command the walls to crumble and be removed, making a way for our spouse to step from the rubble of lies and captivity, into faith and freedom!