I want to share an interesting conversation I had with the Psychologist who works with me here at Spiritually Unequal Marriage. We were talking about how women can spice up their husband's sex life in marriage.
Sexual relationships can become shipwrecked in many ways. Today I want to point out a common problem. Women, we have forgotten how to be feminine. Yes, our guys really do like feminine women.
How can we attain physical intimacy? TAKE BACK YOUR POWER OF FEMININITY!
1. Be the woman that your husband would want to make love to. Ephesians 4:29 (New International Version)
Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.
Men feel torn down by their own wives. Constant nagging, complaining, haranguing over and over wears down a man’s spirit. Yes, this detracts from the desire he feels in the bedroom.
He desires to be admired, respected and loved for who he is, especially by his soul-mate!!! Do we really get this? Memorize this verse in Ephesians make it your life goal. You hold all the power given to you by God to seduce your man and it starts by your words.
Here are what I call “Where the rubber meets the road” suggestions:
Decrease criticism – Increase praise
Say I love you often. Your spouse is not a mind reader.
Spend time together alone without the kids.
Verbally admire your spouses’ positive traits.
R-E-S-P-E-C-T. I cannot over emphasize how important respect is to a man.
Listen (really hear him) and understand his perspective. This will develop closeness
2. Look Feminine: Sexy jeans, a skirt, lip-gloss before he arrives home. Perfume to cover the throw-up smell, just kidding. Change the shirt. A little perfume always is feminine. If we look frumpy don’t expect your husband to be attracted.
Naked is always a good attraction. However, more important: Enthusiasm. Enthusiasm paired with your not so-perfect body trumps a slim airbrushed two-dimensional body any day. He will notice.
Add a new look or outfit you have not worn in a while
Trench coat or fur coat (nothing under)
Experiment with Saran Wrap.
Add a new Place. Creates adventure
Add a new position. Creates more adventure
Thank you, Rebecca for your insight and suggestions. The readers here and their spouses are truly grateful!
Be blessed, Lynn
Share your voice, heart and love in the comments.
Lynn has wonderfully mapped out the steps we all need to walk through to develop and grow this vital relationship with Him. This was the Lord’s intent for her transformation journey all along, and His intent for you too. Here she has spelled out the spiritual truths behind the principles and talked us through how she applied them. These truths are universally applicable to us all, though as the details of our lives, situations and hearts will be different, we will apply them differently. - Reader Review from Barnes & Noble.