Why do men find recreational compatibility enormously important?
Among the five basic male needs, spending recreational time with his wife is second only to sex for the typical husband. ---Dr. Willard Harley, His Needs, Her Needs
This interest is difficult to navigate. Before marriage, both partners show interest and participation in the recreation choices of the other. After marriage, it is critical to find common spheres of interest. Dr. Harley discusses how easily someone can engage in recreational activities with someone other than their spouse and love bank deposits are made in that person’s bank.
Having fun and playing with your spouse is crucial. Common interests also build on the communication needs in marriage.
Dr. Harley’s fourth law of Marriage: The couple that plays together stays together.
A mature agreement by both partners to meet each other’s needs is always the best solution. So talk to your spouse. What fun things can you do together?
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