Dr. Harley introduces in his book, His Needs, Her Needs, the needs of men and women. They are similar needs but their priorities are vastly different between the sexes. Dr. Harley stresses that the needs he covers in his book apply to most couples but are not exactly the same for each person. Additionally, the needs above are not listed in a particular order. What needs are most important to you? Do you know what is important to your spouse? More interesting is the why our needs are important.
Women Need: Affection, Conversation, Honesty and openness, Financial support, Family commitment.
Men Need: Sexual fulfillment, Recreational companionship, An attractive spouse, Domestic support, Admiration.
To discover what is truly important to you and your spouse, please login in to the Emotional Needs Questionnaire at Marriage Builders. Print out two. Pray, pray, pray before you suggest to your spouse he or she take the survey along with you. If they are agreeable, praise God! If not, please don’t pressure them. Let it go. You take the survey. Fill out what you think is important to your spouse. We can refer to our answers as we discover more in future posts.
Lord, I ask your hand upon us as we dive into an area that could prove to be painful. Especially Lord if our basic needs are not met currently through our spouse. Lord, I ask that you would be our groom and meet our every need. In Jesus name, Amen