In the previous post we looked at the Love Bank. The author goes on to say…Now that I have sketched out my Love Bank concept, you may be thinking it sounds arbitrary and artificial. Obviously, the Love Bank is not intended to be a mathematically accurate concept. It simply describes the complexity of human relationship and how a marriage can go sour. As committed as many people are to marriage and staying together until “death do us part,” the commitment itself does not guarantee happiness. We all have basic marital needs that our partner meets or fails to meet.—Willard F. Harley, His Needs, Her Needs
Mr. Harley goes on to explain when needs are not met the love bank is depleted, and suffering from a serious deficit. The unmet needs of the individual can lead to vulnerability or worse infidelity. With this said, (I abbreviated an entire chapter into one paragraph) we can ask ourselves, What Ever Happened to Commitment?
Maybe you’re asking yourself, Should I be concerned about my spouse having an affair if I don’t meet his/her needs? Should my spouse fear that I might have an affair if my needs are not being met? In reference to the needs described in the book, the answer is yes. —Willard F. Harley, His Needs, Her Needs
If any of a spouse’s five basic needs goes unmet, that spouse becomes vulnerable to temptation of an affair. We are going to look at each of the ten basic needs to gain an understanding of the needs of men and women. It is the lack of understanding that causes a marriage to slip down the slippery slope.
Next Up: The first thing she cannot do without—Affection.
Be blessed, Lynn
Also, get ready for a Love Bank Quiz in an upcoming post. I am praying for wisdom. I would like to ask our spouses to take the quiz along with us. I am praying upon this.
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Lynn has wonderfully mapped out the steps we all need to walk through to develop and grow this vital relationship with Him. This was the Lord’s intent for her transformation journey all along, and His intent for you too. Here she has spelled out the spiritual truths behind the principles and talked us through how she applied them. These truths are universally applicable to us all, though as the details of our lives, situations and hearts will be different, we will apply them differently. - Reader Review from Barnes & Noble.