My apologies, this post is tardy. Life interrupted my blogging. Go figure!
It is another beautiful Sunday today and yes, I attended church this morning, alone. However, my eleven-year-old daughter joined me this morning. She volunteered, without my prompting, to work in the Kindergarten classroom while I attended church. I plan to write a series of articles next month on children, faith, and mismatched marriage. Our children are more of a concern than attending church alone. I would be grateful for your insights on this subject, please Email Me.
Going it Alone – It starts the night before.
Dineen Miller, who has been a guest writer for Spiritually Unequal Marriage, offered an excellent suggestion to prepare our hearts for Sunday mornings. Pray! Dineen is right on the mark! I know this is the typical suggestion for every Christian dilemma. However, it is what we pray for and how we pray that can change lives. Usually it is my life that is changed!!
I began to pray on Saturday morning, usually in my quiet time before the King. I would bring my desires for a Christian home before Him. I found if I humbly petition God for my spouse, my children and myself, my feelings of anger would melt away and were replaced with a genuine peace. A sincere, yet simple prayer might be something like this:
O Lord Jesus, Sunday mornings can tear my heart up. I ache, with a longing deep inside, for my spouse to know you. I ask, Lord, that you would soften his heart. Open his spiritual eyes to see there is an all-powerful God who loves people.
Later today, Lord, I will ask my spouse to go to church with me. Please prepare my heart for whatever his answer might be. Do not let my emotions overcome me. I know that your plan for my husband’s salvation is perfect. Let me rest in this knowledge. Let your love flow through me so powerfully that others see you. Let that love melt the hearts of my spouse and kids.
Tomorrow morning the enemy will throw many diversions into my path to keep me from your house. I bind the enemy by the power of the shed blood of Christ. I seek to worship you with a sincere heart. Wash me in the teaching from your word. Renew my soul for another week.
Mostly Lord I ask that you would change me. Change my selfish desires to desires that truly honor you. Let me live everyday as a follower of the Most High. I love you, Amen.
Let me make a bold promise right now……. God hears every prayer from a sincere and humble heart. Even this simple request whispered in earnest, is undeniable to our God. He will answer in ways we cannot fathom or expect. This is true of my life.
Another lesson learned was to stop dropping hints to my husband about going to church. I would wait anxiously on a Sunday morning to see if my husband would get out of bed to get ready for church. I would make an unusual amount of noise in the bathroom to insure I awakened him. What a lame idea! This game playing stressed me out and unwittingly set me up for a giant disappointment. Which, was subsequently followed by tears or anger or both. Then, inevitably, the slamming of the door as I headed off to church alone.
Then I began to ask my husband about church on Saturday night. “No pressure honey, but do you want to go to church tomorrow?” Asking early and with zero pressure gave my husband time to think it through and then freed him to attend on his terms.
This is spelled R-E-S-P-E-C-T!
WOW, what change occurred in both of us. I was no longer stressed on Sunday and amazingly, he attends more often now than when I threw a fit. Surprised? I also found I was not angry when he declined.
Okay, these are workable suggestions for the night before. But, Sunday arrives, off we go alone, we sit down behind the happy couple holding hands and we are overcome with regret and grief. What do we do with Sunday morning???
The next post…. Sunday morning alone and I am over it!
Be blessed this Lord’s Day, Lynn
Share your voice, heart and love in the comments.
Marching Around Jericho is a spiritual guide. As you read through the pages, powerful and transformative instruction and equipping takes place. We follow Jesus as he leads us around the walls, imparting kingdom truths with each passing, finally arriving at the gates of the walled-off city, our spouse’s unbelieving heart. After the circles in prayer are complete, we arrive fully prepared to command the walls to crumble and be removed, making a way for our spouse to step from the rubble of lies and captivity, into faith and freedom!