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Healing The Heart Of The Spiritually Mismatched

Over the past several weeks we have covered many topics about loneliness and suffering. We have looked at these through the lens of God’s Word and our unique marriage struggles. I feel as though it’s time to wrap up this series. So, how do we find healing? And how do we maintain our healing as our struggle continues in a marriage between a believer and unbeliever? Well, way back in December many of you shared exactly what has brought healing to your life. I want to share them here today. I also want you to add to this discussion in the comments. What brings healing to our hearts? Here are the thoughts SUMites left in the comments: Focus on the good and not what I don’t have. Look for ways to pour love into others. Set with other “married, singles – misfits. (Bible study, time at a coffee shop, on... Read more →

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GOING TO CHURCH ALONE

Today, I want to chat about another big issue that was mentioned back in December when we began this journey. GOING TO CHURCH ALONE. Gang, can I just say – Grrrrrrrrr This is so hard. I know that for me this was an area that was of intense and great struggle. Even today, I truly desire my husband to join me for church on Sunday. I’ve had to wrangle through all of the different aspects of church non-attendance with my husband. I’m certain many of you have as well. First, dealing with the whole couple thing. Grrrrrr, again! Our Western society is significantly “couple” focused. Learning to do anything alone takes a ton of courage and prayer. At least it did for me and I’m usually a courageous person. But after remaining a floundering believer at home, there comes a day when your need for community outweighs fear and you... Read more →

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Conference At Merriman in Garden City, MI

Perhaps for a moment in time, just perhaps, we stood upon holy ground. Matthew 16:19 I will give you the keys of the kingdom of heaven; whatever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth will be loosed in heaven.” I bet many of you know these ladies. They like to hang around SUM! Gillian, Teresa, Melissa, Heidi, Joanne Some of the Ohio SUMites: Left to right: Judy, Mindy, Laura, Dawn, Chris This is Beloved, Franie. This conference started in her heart last summer. The Holy Spirit moved. We laughed, cried and we were loved on by our Lord! The skit was hilarious. I was cackling. Well done Merriman! This is the amazing team of leadership that made this day possible. Thank you is inadequate but THANK YOU! More photos are posted on our SUM Facebook page, click here. The best part of... Read more →

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Christmas and the Spiritually Mismatched Conference

Hello SUMites: I’ve come to realize that I’m in a struggle to keep up with holiday demands, writing and serving this community. My heart is to really be available to all of you as we work through the series on loneliness. And December is proving to be impossible to do – well, everything. So Dineen and I talked and decided that we are going to delay the series until after our week of fasting which is January 4-8, 2016. I still want to reply to all of the comments and emails and will do my best to do so. Dineen is having surgery on her shoulder tomorrow so we have decided to take a writing break through Christmas, the end of next week. We will have a few random posts that may pop up but mostly we are going to spend some time in rest and quiet. Boy howdy, don’t... Read more →

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Hilarious - From The Archives!!!!!

Weekends we re-post from our archives, articles which remain relevant for the spiritually mismatched marriage. ***** Today, I'm going to share a quick, I mean really quick video. This is from our blooper reals. Yep, I can really be blonde. (Turn on your speakers or you'll miss it! :) Dineen and I love you SUMite Nation!! Thanks for being part of our family. Lynn and Dineen - The Blooper - Laugh with Us from Spiritually Unequal Marriage on Vimeo. Read more →

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Meet Lynn & Dineen In Person

Okay, our BIG announcement may not be a complete surprise but today we are making an official announcement and launch of a Spiritually Mismatched Conference. Wahoo!!! THRIVING In His Presence Conference Garden City (Detroit area), Michigan Saturday, January 23, 2016 from 8:30 AM to 3:00 PM (EST) Lynn & Dineen present: THRIVING in His Presence Conference *Revive your heart *Restore your marriage *Rejuvenate HOPE *Recognize your divine destiny and live it fully *Reach for the impossible *Risk for the Kingdom *Run in His Freedom Register through Eventbright Dineen and I are beyond psyched to be guests of the amazing team of Girlfriends of Grace Women's Ministry of Merriman Road Baptist Church. This is a group of women who are familiar with the unique and challenging circumstances of living with a pre-believer. They have a heart to bring hope to others and have organized a fantastic opportunity for us to meet... Read more →

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Unequally Yoked and the Atheist Blogs

Weekends we re-post from our archives, articles which remain relevant for the spiritually mismatched marriage. This post is part III in this series. Click on Part I and Part II to read the precursors to this article. This was originally posted on April 20, 2012. ***** Unequally Yoked and the Atheist Blogs Part III A few months ago I was emailing back and forth to a friend of mine whose husband is a reader of atheist blogs. She was in such pain and in a quandary as to how to cope. Now I don’t pretend to have all the answers for each individual situation. I can only share what has worked in my life and marriage. Let me say that I love this young mom and wife. She is in the midst of fiery battles daily and is yet living for Jesus under tremendous persecution from her own spouse. And... Read more →

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Winning Him Audio Book On Sale

SUMITE Nation, Winning Him Without Words, the audio version is on sale this month through Christian Audio. If you commute to work or want to listen to our book while on the treadmill or just at night before bed, this is your day. You can click on the link below and download the Audiobook for $5.98. Related articles How To Be The MOST Powerful Voice In Your Kid's Lives Chapter One: Extraordinary Kids (part one) Read more →

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Unequally Yoked and the Atheist Blogs

Weekends we re-post from our archives, articles which remain relevant for the spiritually mismatched marriage. I'm posting today (Saturday) as I'm out of town attending the Open Heavens Conference. I hope to share some amazing stories from the week on Monday and then we will pick up our Spiritual Warfare series after that. This particular article had reaching and great impact. This was originally posted on April 16, 2012. I just realized there is a part III and it will be posted in two weeks. It's the best post of all. Stay tuned. ***** Unequally Yoked and the Atheist Blogs Part II As I ease into the second part of this series, I feel a compulsion to say something: To every unbeliever, including my spouse, I hold respect and empathy and love in my heart for you. I have been writing here at Spiritually Unequal Marriage for almost six years.... Read more →

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Unequally Yoked and the Atheist Blogs

Weekends we re-post from our archives, articles which remain relevant for the spiritually mismatched marriage. I'm posting today (Friday) and the follow up post, tomorrow (Saturday) as I'm out of town attending the Open Heavens Conference. I hope to share some amazing stories from the week on Monday and then we will pick up our Spiritual Warfare series after that. This particular article had reaching and great impact. I even heard from a few atheists (hilarious). Anyhoo, I pray you are encouraged today. This was originally posted on April 13, 2012. I will post the follow up to this post tomorrow. It's good! ***** Unequally Yoked and the Atheist Blogs Okay, Yep. I’m bugged. Warning: This is a very blunt post. Proceed with caution and forgiveness if some of my annoyance seeps out. A few weeks ago I Googled a common term used in Christianity. The results came back and... Read more →

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Back To School - Conclusion

Mom & Dad: I hope you found the Back To School series helpful and encouraging. Please know that Dineen and I are standing with you in faith for the salvation of your entire family. I would like to thank my writing partner, Dineen, as this was her fantastic idea. Thanks girl! You know I love you. Now as for next month. My friends, I'm so excited. September holds some pretty BIG stuff for us. Rosh Hashanah is only a few weeks away. I have so much to share with you! Get ready because I'm convinced that we are living on planet earth at one of the most important and astonishing times in history! Ever! Wanna hear more? Stay tuned! Hugs, Lynn ----- One more thing. Winning Him Without Words and Not Alone will only be on sale for a few more days. If you know someone who would be encouraged... Read more →

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Not Alone - The BEST Parenting un-Advice

SUMites, have you ever wondered why I am in ministry? I'm convinced if I'd been stronger in my faith-walk as a young person, I wouldn't have slipped down the slimy slope into my prodigal years. When I finally emerged from those dark years, by the Sovereign hand of God, I became dedicated to a singular passion. Equip the Saints! I'm driven to help people to NOT live in, or as long, in satan's camp as I did. This passion and God's purposes have come alive in many aspects of my faith throughout the years. I served for years in a local church Bible study. The SUM ministry was born out of my heart to equip believers who are married to unbelieving spouses. The books on marriage and parenting were birthed because of the Lord's grace and the heart He placed into me to equip His people to not just survive... Read more →

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Part 4: The End of the Story

Gillian Russell - The Conclusion God had now reassured me of His faithfulness in this journey, but it was already midsummer and still no baby. The due date I had been given was August 28th, so I had expected baby several months earlier, such that it would be clear to everyone by the baby's size that it truly was that same child. Now, with everything He had led me through I still expected baby to come early. I was still sure God would do things how I expected all along-that was what He had asked me to believe and I could see the possibility for so much good this way! And honestly, I just couldn't imagine waiting five more weeks and I felt I shouldn't 'have to after everything. I fought that due date for months but now with a little over a month to go I realized that by... Read more →

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Part 3: He is Faithful!

Gillian Russell - Part III God had asked me, in the depth of my soul, to trust Him to bring my unborn baby back to life. And although everyone else said this had to be a new baby, I trusted God that it wasn't, and now that I was most definitely pregnant again, I waited for God's miracle to become visible to the world. The official due date I was eventually given was 2-3 weeks earlier than what it should have been, given the blood test I took at the clinic that came back 100% negative. But most of all, God never once told me otherwise (directly with words to my heart or without words in that deep secret place in my soul). Indeed, it would have been much easier if He had. Continuing to hold onto this baby in my heart was the hardest thing I've ever had to... Read more →

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Part 2: Trusting God for the Impossible

Gillian Russell - Part II Later that summer I discovered I was pregnant again. To be honest, I had not been so excited about a baby since my first child, who we had lost to miscarriage. After confession one evening I was praying in thanksgiving for my faith and my family, and absolutely thinking about this new little one that would join our family, when I heard in my heart, 'This is our miracle.' In my soul I understood that this child would be the thing that would begin to change my husband's heart, that God would use this child to bring about my husband's conversion! And hope just blossomed wild! In my heart I just KNEW this baby was a girl, because a girl can soften a man's heart in a way that boys just can't. And God knew I had been patiently waiting for a little girl of... Read more →

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Part 1: The Journey to Complete Abandonment

SUMites, Lynn here. I will be traveling this week. While I'm away, one of our long-time readers and Sister, SUMite Gillian Russell will be sharing a portion of her story. You may remember her and her astonishing story of traveling to meet me and Dineen in Texas. You can find her story about that adventure, here. Thank you Gill for taking time to share your faith with us. Hugs, Lynn Although I came to my faith for the first time as a twenty year old, somehow God grabbed hold of me very early on in my journey: within a month I was completely sold out on God and I never looked back. While I struggle with many things, trusting God has rarely been an issue for me. (By this I mean for big stuff, trusting God in the little interruptions and frustrations in my day is a completely different story).... Read more →

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FREE RESOURCE

SUMite Leaders: All of us are leaders by the way. But for all of you who the Holy Spirit has been nagging to start a small group in your area, this is for you. Fall is around the corner and churches are starting to put their fall Bible studies and small groups together. Perhaps you are to step out a lead one. Leading a small group in this area that you know well, is one of the most rewarding experiences in your faith walk. So pray about starting a small group. Read the booklet in the sidebar. Pray... Pray again. Recruit a friend to lead with you. And use the many resources that are here to help. Study Winning Him Without Words for marriages and follow that up with Not Alone, a parenting book that will truly help your children find Jesus even in a Spiritually Mismatched home. Here is... Read more →

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Submission - The Books of Peter

Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives. 3 Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to adorn themselves. They submitted themselves to their own husbands, like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her lord. You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear. —1 Peter... Read more →

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A Testimony by SUMite Holly Boone

Dear friends, Holly Boone (a different Holly from the one I shared about in my last post) shared this with me in an email and I asked if I could share it with our community. I pray it blesses you as it did me. I remember being in a similar place in my marriage years ago and knew that if I didn't begin trusting God to change me, my marriage would not survive. And He did, so lovingly and with great beauty as Holly shares with us here. God is so good. Our hope and future rest in Him! Thank you, Holly, for sharing your heart with us. We love you! —Dineen Confession I decided to try a worksheet about sin I’d received from a faith based conference. I wasn’t sure what sin I was going to write down until I sat down and prayed about it. God began to... Read more →

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Testimony Time by Noely Watt

Hello Lynn, Last night I had the privilege to share my testimony in front of a group of about 23-25 ladies in my neighborhood. I then shared an update on what God is doing in our family, especially how He has blessed us even though my husband and I are in a spiritually mismatched marriage. One of those ladies sent me your website, I am thankful. My story is very similar to yours and I find myself so thankful to God for how He has taken care of us and others in our situation in filling the gaps. I too made all of the typical mistakes and grew very unhappy at the fact that my husband wouldn't do what I wanted him to do, most importantly, he wasn't letting me save him, yes, I thought this way. My husband too, grew hostile of my faith and about the "new man"... Read more →

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Pray With Power

I believe. I’ve decided that I believe the Bible. I believe the sun and moon stood still and there has never been a day like that before or since then. But I believe that if God tells me to command the sun, He will surely do it. And He will send the hailstones as well if that will serve His purposes. What is mind-blowing about all this revelation in the past week about locks, lockers, keys and such is the GIANT breakthroughs in my life that came with it. Personal breakthroughs such as losing weight, a long area of defeat for me. Breakthrough in writing and other areas. I finally found a new church for which I had been praying for months. My husband attended church. I’ve prayed over him, literally saying, “I blast you with the Holy Spirit.” And this past week, in church, he raised his hand toward... Read more →

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Keys To The Kingdom - Part I

SUMites: I have a thing about keys. Last week I believe the Lord poured out revelation upon me regarding keys and their significance in the Kingdom. I also believe that the revelation was not only specific to myself but also to others. Way back in 2009 I penciled together an idea for a book. That book was centered on 10 keys. Winning Him Without Words, was the result and the keys became profound in my life and by default, in a lot of other lives who have read the book and will read the book. Then last year I had a dream. I rarely remember my dreams but on this particular night I dreamt that Jesus handed me three keys. I could clearly see bronze skeleton keys. It was obvious to me they were tarnished and ancient. I knew somehow they were large and weighty. That’s all I remember about... Read more →

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Easter and our Faithful God

Oh He is faithful. If you’ll spare me some time, please let me share some of my story with you all. I pray God will use it to speak life into just one of your dear hearts. I have a confession. I had a problem, a big problem. This problem was masqueraded by me being responsible and wise. I didn’t trust God. I trusted myself, my ability to budget and plan. I trusted in financial security. I trusted in money. I was blinded by this truth through college and through the first nine years of my marriage. But God awakened me. God has greatly used this journey of being unequally yoked to teach me how to trust and believe HIM. HIM alone. This story is unique to me. But maybe there’s a parallel to you. God allowed whatever it took to show me HIS faithfulness. My husband and I went... Read more →

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The Power We Have To Sanctify Our Spouse

SUMites. In the last week, through scripture, other books I’m reading, and email, I’ve been continually drawn to OUR power passage. 1 Corinthians 7:12-14. (See it below.) I am coming into new revelation that this passage is even more powerful than we think. When combined with the passage from Matthew 18:19, which is also being hammered home in me, I’m in a place of powerful belief and prayer. So, I think I want to revisit this passage and re-inspire you with what the Lord tells us when we are in a mixed – mixed up *grin*- marriage. I know that we have a ton of new readers who perhaps haven’t found our writings on this passage. So while I’m busy working away on my next book, please let me share again from Winning Him Without Words: I’ve lived many seasons unequally yoked and only now am I reaping the rewards... Read more →

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This Time, I Prayed Differently For My Husband -Chronicles Of The Donovan Clan

I started to pray differently. My friends, in the past two weeks I’ve experienced a shaking. A shaking in my prayer life, my husband has been shaken, our marriage too. God is shaking things that have been entwined in our marriage for nearly two decades. Two weeks ago I prayed for my husband and since then things have been different. I want to tell you about what happened but I want to first say, thank you for praying for me. Prayer matters. Prayer is powerful. Prayer connects us to the heart of the Father. Prayer activates the angelic. Prayer defeats the demonic. Prayer changes circumstances that were unchangeable. Prayer is our weaponry in battles big and small. Prayer is our worship in thanksgiving. Prayer is….. our lifeline of hope, blessing, deliverance, healing and victorious living. Okay, is that enough reasons to sit down in the morning with our Father, Jesus... Read more →

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