77 posts categorized "Praying God's Word"

Taking a Walk with Nehemiah, Part 2

IStock_000001537091XSmallOn Tuesday we started our journey with Nehemiah and his calling to rebuild the wall of Jerusalem. In the comments, Shelly pointed something amazing out in Nehemiah 2:

After this post I was intrigued to read Nehemiah myself with the perspective of marriage at hand. Only made it to chapter 2 but what stood out was 2:21... "The God of heaven will help us succeed. We, his servants, will start rebuilding this wall (marriage). But you (those who were against him, my interpretation...satan) But you have no share, legal right, or historic claim in Jerusalem (my home)." Satan has no share, legal right or historic claim to our marriages! A powerful statement to remember when the battlefield of the mind seems to be getting the best of you.

Is that not amazing? I love how Shelly took this piece of God's Word and brought out the truth we could apply to our marriages. Make a prayer out of this, my friends, and let's put the enemy of our marriages on the run!

Now onward...

I left you with some questions to consider about doubts. After the doubts, the voice of fear chimed in next. They were threatened with death. Do you find at times that you fear the "death" of your marriage? That the current situation or constant conflict will result in this kind of loss? I know I have at times.

In verse 14 Nehemiah says something we hear repeatedly (repeated even more than God's messages of love) thought the Bible.

Do not be afraid.

Nehemiah tells them not to be afraid and to fight for their families and houses. Do these men go to battle and fight the men opposing them? No, they stand their ground and continue in the calling God has place on their hearts. That same commitment and calling spoken of in verse six when they built the wall to half its height with all their hearts.

Nehemiah then divides the men into workers and defenders. The defenders are equipped with spears, shields, bows and armor. Even the workers held a weapon as they built. They didn't even take off their clothes to sleep or put down their weapons to get water. They continued to do what God asked and stood firm in the calling. Sound familiar? Isn't this the same "standing" spoken of in Ephesians 6:10?

Now think of those weapons as prayers. These men were constantly armed with weapons just as we are to be constantly armed with prayer and God's Word (there's our armor).

Now look at verse 20 where Nehemiah says, "Our God will fight for us." Who's that doing the fighting again?


God did the fighting. The men did the believing. They held onto the vision of rebuilding the wall of Jerusalem, of seeing their home repaired and made strong for God's glory.

We are being called to a similar place, my friends. God is calling us to stand firm for our marriages, to hold our prayers and God's Word firmly in hand and use them. As God fights for our unbelievers and our family, we are standing firm in our place to pray and believe in God's plan for our lives, our marriages and our children.

The wall of Jerusalem was completed. Can you imagine the cheers of these men when the past beam was put in place? They held fast to the vision of a completed wall and stayed faithful.

Catch the vision God has for your marriage. Ask Him to show you what needs rebuilding, repairing and reinforcement. I’m doing this myself right now. God has alerted me to places that are weak and could give the enemy entrance.

I'm standing my ground for my marriage, for my husband’s impending salvation, for the future of my family. I have my armor on and God’s Scripture in hand as I work, as I pray. The enemy tried to make me think I faced an impossible situation but God reminded me He is the one working and the very situation I feared is what He is using to bring His plan to completion. I will not be afraid.

How about you, my friend? Are you willing to stand for your marriage and let God fight for you? Let’s stand together. God is fighting for us!

Praying and believing,

Weekend Devo — Possible AND Impossible

859675_book___God’s been whispering a message to my heart this past week with every prayer request or comment I’ve read here and other places.

“All things are possible with Me. Nothing is impossible either.”

I so sense God wanting us to truly understand His heart for us. So, this led me to compile all the verses in the Bible that speak this truth. If you have some to add, leave them in the comments. I’ll even create a special download from them all if we wind up with a bunch!

Memorize them, use them to battle doubts. Speak them out loud to affirm your faith AND change your thinking. You will be astounded especially in that area at how God’s Word can change the way we think and relate to our situations.

Friends, dive into these promises and claim them as your own!

Praying and believing,

Jesus looked at them and said, “With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.” — Matthew 19:26

“‘If you can’?” said Jesus. “Everything is possible for him who believes.” — Mark 9:23

Jesus looked at them and said, “With man this is impossible, but not with God; all things are possible with God.” — Mark 10:27

“Abba, Father,” he said, “everything is possible for you. Take this cup from me. Yet not what I will, but what you will.” — Mark 14:36

Jesus replied, “What is impossible with men is possible with God.” — Luke 18:27

He replied, “Because you have so little faith. I tell you the truth, if you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say to this mountain, ‘Move from here to there’ and it will move. Nothing will be impossible for you.” — Matthew 17:20

Jesus looked at them and said, “With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.” — Matthew 19:26

Jesus looked at them and said, “With man this is impossible, but not with God; all things are possible with God.” — Mark 10:27

For nothing is impossible with God.” — Luke 1:37

Jesus replied, “What is impossible with men is possible with God.” — Luke 18:27

But God raised him from the dead, freeing him from the agony of death, because it was impossible for death to keep its hold on him. — Acts 2:24

That Old Familiar Ache

PrayerIt snuck up on me again, that old familiar ache. The one I used to walk around with constantly early on in my mismatched marriage. I thought I’d made peace with it, made the choice to trust God with my husband’s salvation and the future of our marriage. I’d learned to bring that ache, that longing to share my faith with my husband to God and leave it in His hands.

But there it was again just days before Good Friday.

Why now and why so suddenly? Had I stopped trusting God somehow? Had I taken it back from God? Or was God trying to show me or remind me of something?

I did a mental review of the last few weeks and nothing came to mind that might have shaken my foundation of trust in this area. If anything, my marriage and my relationship was better than ever.

And there it was. I’d hit this place of contentment with things as they were. Now there’s nothing wrong with being content in my marriage. Paul even speaks of how he learned to be content in every situation.

I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. — Philippians 4:11-12

Though Paul referenced his physical needs, his meaning is deeper when he speaks of “every situation.” He trusted God for everything. He was content.

But my contentment made me question whether I was simply at peace with God’s plan for my husband’s impending salvation (I believe, I believe!) or had I started to lose hope in the waiting? Had my prayers lagged and desire waned to keep praying?

Every once in a while I think it’s good to take an inventory of where we are at in our faith. Sometimes life has a way of becoming so busy with the doing and the routines that we “do” without thinking “why.”

That's what I had done recently in my marriage. I’d prayed and asked God to show me the difference. Had I truly given Him that ache in my heart in exchange for His reassurances that no matter what happens, I have Him and I am His? Or, had I become complacent, living for the now with my husband because he is a good and moral man by nature, which makes living in a mismatched marriage a little easier? Had I allowed complacency to make me forget what’s at stake in the end?

But godliness with contentment is great gain. For we brought nothing into the world, and we can take nothing out of it. — 1Timothy 6:6-7

I’m being honest and authentic here because you deserve it, my friends. Our battles don’t always lie in the obvious conflicts and issues we face being in a mismatched marriage. Sometimes the enemy works in the subtle areas we forget to take notice of. Complacency can be his tool as well.

Do I have an answer to my question? No, actually I don’t. I don’t know why the ache returned. I’m begining to think there’s more than one answer to this question because God is never found in just one place or one level. Even the Scriptures are full of many layers and meanings.

Perhaps complacency is one factor. I do believe I have trusted God for my huband’s future and I do believe one day he will come to know Jesus because God gave me this reassurance many years ago. Maybe God allowed me to feel that ache again so that in this gift of reassurance, I didn’t become lazy or forgetful.

I also believe God gives us things like this so that we don’t lose compassion and understanding for others walking difficult paths. So I believe that is part of the ache I felt even more keenly as I sat in church Friday evening.

Because as I sat there, yearning for my sweet guy to know Jesus, not just for me, but to know this amazing and wonderful God who was willing to become man as well God and suffer a most horrible death for my husband, I prayed for him to understand that kind of love.

And I thought of all of you. How we walk this path on a daily basis, some days good, some days bad, but we walk it together as sisters and brothers in Christ.

I left the church that night with a prayer to leave that ache at the cross. I can think of no better place for it. God met my needs in many ways that evening. He met me in my heart, He met me in the nudge He gave to a sweet friend at church to invite me to sit with her instead of alone, and I know He is meeting my pleas and prayers for my husband—my need for this man I love so dearly to know the One who loves him even more.

I know this because God’s Word says so:

And my God will meet all your needs according to his glorious riches in Christ Jesus. — Phil 4:19

My dear friends, may God meet ALL your needs according to his glorious riches in Christ Jesus. He is faithful and He is good and you can be sure He will do this for you. Leave that ache at the cross and watch how our Great Lord and Savior redeems it.

Praying and believing,

Messy and Broken Could Be The Best Place To Be

image from www.spirituallyunequalmarriage.comIt’s Sunday afternoon as I write this post, I know I should be asking you to listen to Dineen and me on the radio today. But, right now I just can’t. My heart is heavy.  

In a rare moment, this morning at church at the request of our Pastor, I went to the front of the church to be available to pray with anyone who needs prayer. I’ve never done this before and wouldn’t you just know God KNEW there was one woman, a wife, who needed me, whom I could so relate. As I looking into her face, I could see a not-so-distant reflection of me only a few years ago. 

She was struggling in her marriage. 

My heart is broken for her. 

My heart is truly broken for all of our messy marriages. 

I am broken for those of us who are married and yet lonely, who are sad, angry, disappointed. My heart breaks for us who are isolated even at church because we don’t fit the typical church family shape. My heart hurts for those of us who are desperate to share intimacy with our spouse and to know a marriage where Christ is the center and not ridiculed by the very person who was supposed to be our soul mate. 

My heart is broken. But….. (With God there is always a but.) 

My sweet friends it’s when we are broken that God can do His best work. It’s when we have finally reached a place that we just can’t do “it” anymore. That is when we finally surrender our pain, our expectations, our marriage, and our spouse’s salvation to an all-powerful and good God. 

I am an ordinary woman. A 5’4” blonde who doesn’t have this walk with God all figured out. I don’t have all the answers but I have one thing and it’s all I need. 

I have Jesus. 

I love Jesus with every part of me. And Jesus loves me. And that is the simple key to living in peace and to loving my nonbeliever. The transforming love of Christ and His Word has changed everything. 

My friends, you CAN do this messy marriage thing. You can thrive in your spiritual mismatch. You can raise Godly kids in the midst of different world views. You can laugh, OUT LOUD with praises on your lips. You can experience peace that surpasses all understanding. You can love profoundly and with passion. 

Dineen and I are ordinary wives but we serve the Extraordinary God of the Universe and His son, Jesus. And our marriages have been redeemed, our kids are safe in our Savior’s hands and we are on the most amazing journey any believer could hope to travel. 

Oh please, travel this crazy, mixed up road with us. Learn to hear the Father’s voice. Watch as He astonished you with unexpected and fantastic answers to prayer. Let Him comfort you and teach you new ways to live. 

Walk with us and behold…… His desires for your life will be the greatest thing you will ever experience. 

Psalms 37:4 Delight yourself in the Lord 
and He will give you the desires of your heart. 

I bear witness to the truth of God’s Word. 

Today, if you are brokenhearted, leave your prayer request in the comments. We will pray for each of them. We have a prayer team that will pray for you by name. Take a step forward in your walk toward heaven and watch all that our Great God will do in you, around you and allow him to amaze you this very week. 

FocuslogoBe blessed my friends, Lynn 

To listen to our Focus on the Family interview, click here. We pray that every word reflects Jesus. To God be all honor and glory. 

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Weekend Devo — THE Dress

For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. — Jeremiah 29:11

When I prayed for my oldest daughter during our SUM fast the first week of January, God gave me this above verse for my oldest daughter. I wrote it on an index card and gave it to her. And I've been praying it over her ever since.

I shared last Thanksgiving that my daughter was officially engaged to the wonderful young and godly young man she'd been dating for four years. Yesterday marked another special moment in my her future.

We found the wedding dress. Yep, THE dress.

I can remember clearly the day I got my wedding dress. I remember how I felt. Now I understand how my mother felt. Seeing my little girl try on these beautiful gowns—so glad I brought tissues.

Last week I confessed how afraid I was to get married. Now I see the joy and excitement brimming in my daughter's face as she takes these steps to marry the man she loves. I am so thankful to God for helping me overcome my fears. This has enabled me to share wonderful stories with my daughter, laugh over funny tales about her dad and me, and realize that God has worked all this to not only deliver me from my fears (Psalm 34:4) but to show my daughter a future of hope and love.

And faith.

Often times we have to wait a long time to see the fruits of our labor and faithfulness. This was truly worth the wait.

Praing and believing,

*I took this picture of my two girls as we looked at dresses. What a day!

Weekend Devo — Power of Prayer


Another angel, who had a golden censer, came and stood at the altar. He was given much incense to offer, with the prayers of all the saints, on the golden altar before the throne. The smoke of the incense, together with the prayers of the saints, went up before God from the angel’s hand. Then the angel took the censer, filled it with fire from the altar, and hurled it on the earth; and there came peals of thunder, rumblings, flashes of lightning and an earthquake. —Revelatins 8: 3-5


Ready for a confession? Lately, I've felt like my prayers weren't making a difference. I didn't like that feeling because it started to affect my prayer life. I started to doubt and wonder if I should even pray at times.

See how the enemy loves to move in and make us doubt?

So I started praying, asking God to help me pray more effectively. I wanted to be a pray warrior! But I sure needed help to do that.

You know what God sent me? One of you. Lori sent me an email with the Scripture above, painting a mental picture of our prayers mixing with incense to be presented before God.

One, remember that the incense in the Old Testament that the priests of Levi were to use was very specific. They couldn't just use whatever they wanted. 

Two, I love the aftermath of this verse, that the incense combined with our prayers are hurtled back to the earth and cause the earth to shake and lightning to boom!

Now when I pray, I think of Lori's email (thank you, Lori!) and imagine my prayers in those censors before God, mixng with the prayers of so many other believers and shaking the world! Makes me also think of that verse that says when we speak God's Word to Him, it doesn't return void (Isa. 55:11).

I shared recently that I was praying Psalm 34:4 for myself: "I sought the Lord and He heard me and delivered me from all my fears."

I have prayed and spoken it aloud as prayer and praise. Guess what? That fear I was battling is gone. My prayers (and those of many others) came back to me in a powerful way and rocked my world!

Maybe I'll be a prayer warrior yet. ;-)

Praying and believing again,

False Security

On February 12th, something happened that seriously rocked my world. I’m not an overly brave person, I confess, but I stepped out of my comfort zone (way out) and agreed to drive cross-country from Florida to California because my daughter wanted to come back home.

It’s a trip we’ve done many times, but always with my husband. He’s a great driver, loves road trips and has always done the bulk of the driving. So, on a clear and sunny Friday, my daughter and I headed out with the intent to make our country trip in five days—a trip my husband and I have normally done in four days. I wanted to be safe and reasonable.

I wanted to be brave for my daughter and husband and do this thing. I wanted to prove to myself too that I could handle such a trip without the comfort and security of my husband.

We were doing fine for the most part, my daughter and I, swapping turns driving. Day one brought us out of Florida to Alabama without incident except for an engine light. Okay, not part of the plan but we could handle it. We lost a couple hours the next day but left the service garage with the security of knowing all was well with the engine.

Security. I like security. I like knowing what’s ahead of me, what to expect, how to prepare and be ready.

But what happened on our third day wasn’t expected. Wasn’t at all something I could have prepared for. Inclement weather we thought would clear up left a patch of ice on an overpass and in a matter of seconds, the most terrifying thing I could imagine happened.

Why? I’d prayed, asked God for protection, to bring us home safely. But it still happened. The car that had so faithfully brought us halfway across the country now sat in a center median, mangled and in despair of ever cruising a road again.

Thankfully (and praise God) my daughter and I were okay. But for this person who’d done her best to brave a new adventure, my deepest fear had materilized. We were banged up, had no car, and were out in the middle of nowhere in Texas, far from the comfort of home. Details had to be dealt with and worked out when all I really wanted to do was curl up in a ball and hide.

Where was God? I needed help. I could accept that He had a plan in all this, but I needed tangible evidence He was there helping me deal with the situation. I muddled through, we worked out arrangements, then my husband decided to come get us. I was relieved...so relieved. I didn’t have the strength to be brave anymore.

God helped me face a truth: I have a fearful spirit.

God has shown me this in the days since our accident. I’d built my security in my world based upon controllable circumstances. The minute those circumstances changed and moved completely (and I mean totally and completely) out of my control, my false security crumbled. I couldn’t do anything but look to God and wait for Him to show me the way out of this mess of mangled emotions and broken perceptions.

The more I cried out, the more I realized I was now on another journey. One that meant rebuilding and repairing certain areas of my faith. I’m on that journey now, still waiting for God to reveal more of what this is all about. What more does He want me to allow the tow truck to haul away and allow Him access to replace and rebuild?

I only know I don’t want to live in this place of fear, nor does God. It’s not going to be a pleasant process to let go of my false securities. Sometimes the thing we fear most is the very thing we need most. Doesn’t make sense but I’m starting to understand its truth.

The best cure for a fearful spirit is trusting God. That is true security because it requires relinquishing our expectations, weaknesses and fears into God’s control. Completely.

For now I’m clinging to Psalm 34:4:

I sought the Lord, and He heard me, and delivered me from all my fears.

God brought me to this verse and it’s my prayer and comfort right now. I’m learning that even in the worst-case scenarios—the ones we never expected and wonder how we’ll walk out of with any semblance of wholeness and strength—God is really there. We may not feel like He is at times, but we can KNOW and BELIEVE it.

Lord, we seek you with our fearful spirits, ready to trust You in new ways. Hear us and deliver us from all our fears. Though the future looks so insecure at times, dry our tears with the comfort and security of your constant presence and that You are in complete and total control, working for our good—always. We cling to your Son who is our hope and proof of these truths—and our greatest security of all. Amen.

Praying and believing,

Who You are in Christ


Lynn and I hope you've enjoyed this week's Twitter stream of praises and truths. The above is a compilation of all of them. Just click and download it. It's our gift to you! Keep it on your computer, print it out and hang it up somewhere, or even insert copies in your Christmas cards this year as a gift to those you send it to. 

Christ came and died to give us these truths, to remember that through His birth and death, we are adopted, accepted, blessed, chosen, forgiven and redeemed (Ephesians 1). Let's ponder these wonderful truths right into Christmas and continue to give thanks to our Savior for giving us the greatest gift of all.


Praying and believing, 

Answered Prayers Can Be Painful

698517_dancing I’m grieving. But in a good way. I know that sounds a bit crazy so I’ll explain. Two prayers that I’ve been praying for my family seem to be coming to fruition, but it’s not at all what I was expecting.

I will share with you the one about my daughter because so many of you wonderful prayer warriors out there have prayed for her since her cancer diagnosis in 2008, through her surgeries, radiation treatments and recovery. It’s been a bumpy road emotionally too.

In January God gave me Malachi 4:2 for her and I have been praying this Scripture for her ever since.

But for you who revere my name, the sun of righteousness will rise with healing in its wings. And you will go out and leap like calves released from the stall.

Things in my daughter’s life haven’t unfolded the way I expected, but God is showing me that now is the time for her to be like that calf. She’ll soon be moving to Florida to live with my mother so she can find a job and start beauty school.

She still has to conquer driving and getting her GED in October, but this is the path God has set before her. She knows it’s right for her and I see that it is too.

But it’s painful. I didn’t expect to have to let go of my youngest (17) so soon. I’d expected that this time of transition into healing and joy would happen while she was here with us in California. I didn’t expect this to happen now and in another state.

So I’m grieving the loss of my little girl—the girl who was forced to grow up so very fast three years ago and is now reaching for the independence that comes with this maturity.

Yet in many ways she has so much still to learn. I’m comforted by the fact that she’ll be with my mother (who is an amazing mom!) and I hear God’s call to trust Him with my baby. She really is His after all, right?

So my heart aches with this transition but rejoices that my daughter is stepping into her future, something I prayed for so desperately some days that it bought me to tears and to my knees.

Tears of worry to tears of joy. My heart is breaking and rejoicing all at once.

Here is a piece of Scripture that God used to direct and comfort this mother’s aching heart:

Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight. —Prov. 3:5-6

In reading a devotional and listening to a sermon (both on the same day but from different sources), God helped me see that I’d “leaned” on my own understanding. His plan is the best way, I know that. But now I have totally let go and trust Him despite the unexpected circumstances.

This is the “trust him with all my heart and lean not on my own understanding” part. It’s risky and scary but if we know God is faithful, we can trust Him for the right outcome, whether it’s for ourselves or for a loved one.

That last part of this Scripture is the promise of God’s faithfulness. I know we’ve talked about that a lot here but He shows this to us over and over again. In His Word and in our lives if we really pay attention. It’s not his choice, it’s his character. Who He is. Wrap your brain around that one. I’m still floored by it on a regular basis.

As for that second prayer…I’ll keep you posted. It’s the most dangerous prayer we can pray for our unsaved spouses. (Chapter 10 in our book). I don’t know how far the ramifications are going to reach, but I can tell this transition with my daughter is may just be a warm up for what’s to come.

Praying and believing,

Weekend Devo — Praying Scripture

IStock_000001262149XSmall For God is working in you, giving you the desire and the power to do what pleases him. ~ Philippians 2:13, NLT

Sometimes God calls upon us to do some pretty difficult stuff, especially in our mismatched marriages. More importantly, we face a daily battle within ourselves to do what pleases God and what pleases ourselves. I don’t know about you, but sometimes I have a hard time distinguishing between the two.

That could be a good thing if my desires and God’s are closely aligned, but I’m human and that is not always the case.

So this is the Scripture I’ve been praying for myself this past week and will continue to do so. There are lots of new challenges ahead and I need fortification and reassurance. I love having Scriptures I can specifically pray to meet each new challenge.

Lord, I’m so grateful that You are working in me and giving me the desire and the power to do what please You!

Are you praying a specific Scripture right now? Do share!

Praying and believing,

A Community

The following was posted by my good friend, Dee, on our 1 Peter 3 Living group. I was moved by her invitation and want to extend it to all of you in this amazing community of believers who are waiting for the salvation of our spouse. 

John-3-16 So here is Dee:

John 3:16 is the most well known verse in the Word of God. It is the classic statement of God's salvation through Jesus Christ. This verse describes God's plan of salvation in simple but powerful words. This verse of Scripture also provides you with a prayer model to use in praying for the lost. It offers you vital truths that you can use to plead with God for the lost.

With the above in mind and considering the Easter season that we're in, I thought that John 3:16 would be an excellent verse for us to use to plead/pray/fast for the our spouses on the remaining Tuesdays of this month. (We fast and pray every Tuesday at 1P3)

This is a special time of the year - Jesus died for my husband - He died for your husband.  My husband doesn't believe this and I want that to change - the sooner the better!

So, would you consider making this your prayer and fasting focus on Tuesday for your spouses and the others in our group?

Who's in? 

Thank You Jesus - for what You did for all of us on that cross!  I pray that our men/women would not perish for not believing this powerful truth.  Lord, I cannot  even stand the thought of that -  No Lord, have mercy, show them the way, the truth and the life!

"For God so loved the world, that he gave his  only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life."  John 3:16

I love our community of believers who are living to love Jesus and loving their spouse. I especially love all of you who are loving in extraordinarily trying marriages. If you are seeking a change in your life, join us for prayer and fasting this Tuesday. Start with a day -time fast. 

God honors a humble heart and LOVES to answer prayers for salvation. I will be also praying Romans 10:10 for my husband. What will you be praying. Have a great week. Hugs, Lynn

Revealing the Lie

IStock_000009930085XSmall One of the things we talk about in our book is walking out of the guilt and shame of our pasts. Whether you knowingly married an unbeliever or came to faith after you married, God has a plan for your marriage.

But if you’re still carrying around guilt over how you wound up in your marriage even though you’ve already confessed and sought forgiveness from God, you can’t walk into that plan.


Well, here’s the thing about condemnation. It paralyzes you. It blinds you. And it keeps you ineffective in the lives of those around you. That’s why the Bible warns us about the enemy condemning us—this is one of his most effective tools to negate your influence in your mismatched marriage.

One of our most well known, if not THE most known, pieces of Scripture is John 3:16, but have you ever really looked at verse 17?

“For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him.”

So here’s the truth to dispel the lie. If Christ didn’t come to condemn you and make you feel shame even after you have confessed your sin, then that feeling of shame isn’t from God. It’s actually quite the opposite of His truth in Psalm 103:12 that tells us He’s removed our sin from us as far as the East is from the West. And how about Galatians 5:1 that tells us that Christ came to set us free?

If you’re still doubting, take the Scriptures and insert your name into them.

“For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn me, (name), but to save me through him.”

“As far as the east is from the west, so far has he removed my (name) transgressions from me.”

“It is for freedom that Christ has set me (name) free.”

Don’t let this lie that the enemy has inserted so stealthily and cleverly into your life keep you from stepping into the plan God has for you and your marriage. We hold a very special place in our marriages. We are on the front lines and part of God’s team to battle for our unbelieving spouse’s salvation. And for the salvation of our children. The enemy would like nothing better than to make you think you aren’t up to the task.

The beauty of it is, we don’t have to be. God has that all taken care of. All we have to do is say yes to His plan. He is our strength. He is our redeemer. He is our FORGIVER!

Every day is a new opportunity to walk in forgiveness and serve our King. Don’t miss out on a single moment!

Praying and believing,

The Intentional Marriage - Stand Up or Shut Up???

Welcome to our video broadcast of The Intentional Marriage. We are looking at how to sift our marriage conflicts, failures and questions through a small but powerful passage in the Bible.

18 minutes of power. Take a listen. Lynn



The Intentional Marriage Show March 2011 from Lynn Donovan on Vimeo.

Also, find Dineen today over at Laced With Grace where she shares: Parenting Struggling Teens.

Our Greatest Weapon—Prayer

IStock_000001262149XSmall At church Sunday, a friend of mine stood up with her husband and shared their testimony of how God saved their marriage ten years ago. I’ve only been at this church for about nine years so I had no idea this was the case. This couple has been an inspiration to me, especially my friend. She is an amazing woman of God and a true prayer warrior.

To hear them share spoke such joy to my heart. They shared how they were at the point of filing divorce papers. He wanted out, she didn’t. What did my friend do? She fell to her knees in prayer, prayed constantly. What struck me most though was WHAT she prayed.

She prayed that God would do whatever He needed to prepare and equip her for what lay ahead. Whether that meant her marriage would be healed or not. She gave it all to Jesus and wow, did Jesus give it all back to her. And more. They now counsel young couples and lead many of our Bible studies that deal with marriage.

I would have never known had they not shared. From the outside they seem as if they’ve always been a strong, Christian couple. Things are not always as they seem.

Sadly, all marriages are under attack today, whether believing, unbelieving, or mismatched. The enemy has found a niche that he can use to steer us away from God. We have to stay alert and fight for not only our own marriages but for those around us too.

Along those lines I want to share an example. Almost two years ago, God put it upon my heart to pray for a married couple in our church. I didn’t know why but I faithfully followed his leading. I found out shortly after that this marriage was in dire shape and the family was falling apart.

I continued to pray for the next year, then wondered if I should continue. I gently checked with the dear woman I’d been praying for who shared that things were not good. I continued to pray.

As I sat in church this past Sunday, I looked over and saw them both there, sitting together—something I had not seen in a while. And it was as if God spoke to my heart and said He’d heard every prayer. Not just mine but many others as well.

They’d made a turn in the marriage just barely a month ago. I am so glad I didn’t give up praying. Now I get to celebrate and KEEP PRAYING for their marriage to grown stronger, and for protection for this relationship.

Marriage is sacred. Period. God designed it to be a reflection of His relationship with us and with the church. When we view it this way, amazing things happen. Our perspective changes, and we understand better the depth of the commitment God is asking from us, as well as gaining a glimmer of the depth of His commitment to us.

I know being mismatched isn’t easy, especially since we as the believing spouse HAVE this perspective—God’s perspective—of what marriage is and what it means. The key is to remember that even as we are fighting for our marriages, God is too!

Let me say that simply: God is fighting for your marriage too!

Don’t ever forget that. He’s there. You’re not alone. So don’t give up. Do whatever God is asking you to do. Stand firm in that position and LET GOD FIGHT FOR YOU! He will do this, I promise you. That’s what Ephesians 6 and the armor of God is all about. He gives us the equipment we need for battle then tells us to stand firm in Him. He is our champion.

And prayer is our greatest weapon. So wield it with devotion!

Praying and believing,

Weekend Devo — Pray with Devotion!

Prayer Devote yourselves to prayer, being watchful and thankful. And pray for us, too, that God may open a door for our message, so that we may proclaim the mystery of Christ, for which I am in chains. Pray that I may proclaim it clearly, as I should. Be wise in the way you act toward outsiders; make the most of every opportunity. Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone. — Colossians 4:2-6

This piece of Scripture has been speaking a lot to me this last week. A wonderful pastor (Tim Wood) here in San Jose is a great job pointing out the jewels in it recently. Five to be specific—to pray for open doors, to pray for a clear message, to pray to walk in wisdome, to pray to make the most of every opportunity, and to pray to say the right things.

I've found myself studying the words and even making it into a prayer, and I want to share that with you. We can pray this for ourselves to so that we can "always be full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you know how to answer everyone." That includes our unbelieving spouses.

I hope you'll pray with me...

Lord, show us how to devote ourselves to prayer, to be watchful and thankful. Provide others to pray for us too, so that You may open a door for the message of Christ to be heard in the hearts of our unbelieving spouses, family members and friends as we proclaim the mystery of your Son, Jesus, whom we desire to serve with all our hearts and lives. Help us to speak when needed to share in clarity the truth of Jesus and His salvation. Help us be wise, Lord, in how we act toward those who don't know You and help us make the most of every opportunity to share YOU! Let our words and our ACTIONS always be full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that we know how to answer everyone who asks about You. Give us the words, Lord!

Father, we are so thankful for what You are doing in our lives, in the lives of our unbelieving loved ones, and for allowing us to join Your plan. Lord, we give you all the glory. May our lives honor YOU!

In Jesus's Holy and Powerful Name, amen!

Praying and believing,

Blinded by Darkness

IStock_000011544315XSmall We’ve covered some ground in the last few weeks about spiritual warfare in our marriages. Sadly, it’s a topic treated as taboo at times right within the church, but our enemy has been effective there as well.

Too effective.

If he can convince us he’s not a real threat or even better, that he doesn’t even exist, he’s accomplished more than just a foot in the door. We're blinded.

If this concept is foreign to you, let me tell you that for a long time I was deceived myself. I can even remember telling someone years ago that though I did believe in God, I wasn’t convinced satan existed.

God’s Word tells us clearly otherwise and much more. Things like:

For God did not give us a spirit of timidity, but a spirit of power, of love and of self-discipline (sound mind). — 1 Timothy 2:7

As evident in the Bible, this stuff is real and pretending it doesn’t or avoiding it only sets us up for failure. We don’t have to be fanatical about spiritual warfare, but we do need to be aware. I know you’ve heard Lynn and I say this before, but knowing the Bible is your best defense. You can’t fight with a weapon you don’t know how to use. Same goes with the Bible. To know it is to live and use its truth effectively.

And if the whole idea of spiritual warfare scares you more than you fear God, take a look at this one:

You, dear children, are from God and have overcome them, because the one who is in you is greater than the one who is in the world. — 1John 4:4

These two verses are so interconnected. First John 4:4 is our reassurance that we can overcome evil and 1 Timothy 2:7 is the proof of it.

Plant these truths firmly in your heart and mind. We need them so that we can stand strong for our unbelieving spouses. Second Corinthians 4:4 is a vital truth to understanding our unbelieving spouse and realizing they are truly handicapped as if they were physically blind.

The god of this age has blinded the minds of unbelievers, so that they cannot see the light of the gospel of the glory of Christ, who is the image of God. — 2Corinthians 4:4

But we can pray against this and stand in that gap between them and God. Just like it says in this verse:

For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy. — 1 Corinthians 7:14

Just living our faith and rejoicing in our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ makes us the best conduit for His light to shine into that blinding darkness. And we can pray:

“And Elisha prayed, ‘O LORD, open his eyes so he may see.’” — 2Kings 6:17

In this truth we can praise God for what He’s doing and celebrate!

Praying and believing,

Spiritual Warfare and My Unbelieving Husband

I have one last story to share with you. 

This trilogy of articles on spiritual warfare has a price. I have asked the Lord to protect my family and me. So today, I ask you to pray over my writing and speaking to result in two things; that the Lord, Jesus, is honored and that His Saints are empowered to fight the forces of evil. 

Also, I acknowledge that sharing these accounts of the spiritual realm may be troublesome to those who have never encountered what I describe. However, I began this blog over four years ago with a single purpose: To help others who are married to unbelievers. That is why I am compelled to share this story.

It took me years to learn how to fight for my unsaved husband. After too many years and too many tears, I finally found peace with my faith and my spouse through the power of Jesus Christ alive in my heart. I don’t want one other person to live in wasted years of unhappiness and frustration when I can share the truth I know from sitting at the feet of Jesus. 

It was Christ, Himself who brought healing to my heart and marriage. I want to share what Jesus has taught me so that you can also thrive in your marriage. 

In addition, I know there are many of you who are married to a spouse who dwells smack in the middle of the enemy camp and the spiritual warfare I describe is very real in your life (I have read your comments from last week).

Oh, how I wish I had known what I know now back in the early years. No one was teaching me. No one talked about these battles with the enemy and in fact, most Christians shy away from talking about doing battle with the enemy because it’s so controversial. But, I answer to Jesus and after serious prayer and four years of writing, He told me to share so that I can help someone else fight for their spouse. 

Thank you for praying for me. Now let’s get started. 


When I speak at conferences, the audience is always interested in how my husband feels about my ministry efforts. I think that’s a great question and I always tell them this: 

Today I’m going to share with you some stories from my marriage, some struggles, triumphs and the fantastic journey in which God has set in motion. I want you to know that my husband enthusiastically supports my writing and speaking. He has given me his full permission to share our lives. 

In fact, on the day I was preparing to start my blog, I went to my husband and explained what I was doing. I told him that I planned to write about our married life but wouldn’t do it if he objected. I also promised him that if I wrote something I thought might bother him. I would bring it to him to read first so he would be okay with my posting it. (Every time I have, he has always approved- I love that man) 

After my explanation and seeking his approval, he looked at me and said this, “Honey, if you can help one other couple to NOT go through what we have been through. 

Then GO FOR IT.” 


I still giggle as I remember this. I giggle and delight at how in spite of my husband’s lack of acknowledging God, God uses my husband to do His work on earth. It’s a blast to watch it all unfold. 

With that said, I want to share my account of a time when I was praying for my husband. 

Several, several years ago, I began to pray differently for my husband’s salvation. I was doing some study about breaking spiritual bondage. I was learning that the devil’s lies hold so many people hostage, unable to “hear” to real truth of the gift of salvation. I wanted to pray and fight the bondage that was holding my husband captive to the lie that God did not exist. 

I would lay awake at night and place my hand on my husband’s back as he slept. I would pray for him. Something similar to this: 

Lord, right now I ask that you would break the bondage of lies my husband has around him. In the name of Jesus, I bind the enemy that speaks lies to my husband and that is fighting to keep him away from You. Lord, I ask that you would protect my husband from evil that is fighting to retain its claim over him. Lord, dispatch angels to walk with my man wherever he is goes to protect him. Free his mind and heart. Open his spiritual eyes that he can know the truth and let the truth set him free. In the powerful, life-changing name of Jesus our Redeemer, Amen. 

My prayer was drawn from a couple different passages, which I was studying. Such as John 8:32 32Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free." 

I think I prayed like this for many, many months, perhaps even a few years. I can’t really recall. I just know I would pray every night with my hand lightly resting upon him as he slept. 

Well several years ago, I recall it was during the summer months because we have a door in our bedroom where you can step out onto the back patio. I remember that on this particular night we left the door open to allow the cool evening breezes to come in. We kept the screen door shut to keep the bugs out but the air could still flow. 

It was in the middle of the night and pitch dark. I don't know the time of night but I came immediately awake. I sat up in bed. I couldn’t see anything but I felt something had just come through the screen door into our bedroom. I felt alarmed in my spirit.  

I couldn't see anything but I sensed it and……It was seething. 

I could feel its hatred and anger. In a split second, I understood that I was facing an evil spirit who had a claim on my husband. It was seething mad that I was praying it’s claim away. I don’t know how to explain this but to say I just knew….. I knew this thing had “owned” my husband for a very long time. 

What I mean by this is, I think it was assigned to my husband to keep him from finding the truth. And for years had been successful. However, my prayers were making a difference and it arrived to have it out with me. 

Oh my gosh, I started praying like crazy. Out loud and with fervor, I prayed, binding it by the power and blood of Jesus Christ. I spoke and said it no longer had a hold over my husband that Jesus was the truth. I prayed scriptures but I can’t remember today which ones. I also don’t know for how long I prayed like this. It could have been only a minute or many minutes. 

All during this pivotal battle, my husband never woke. Don’t ask me why. I don’t know how loud I was speaking; I was just doing what I knew to do. Pray with the authority of my Lord, Jesus. 

Then suddenly I sensed “felt” it turn and with what I would describe as a great rush like wind, it fled in a hurry back through the screen door. 

It has never been back. 


This encounter happened years ago, before I began writing, but now as I have had time to pray and consider it all, I didn’t realize at the time how important that night was. 

Since that time, my husband has changed. I didn’t notice at first but now I can clearly see that my husband’s hostility toward matters of faith is mostly gone. He doesn’t bristle when I talk about God. In fact, he has moved significantly toward the cross ever since. Although he has yet to cross the line and make Jesus Lord of his life, our marriage now thrives in peace. 

I’m convinced, as a woman, married to a man who doesn’t believe, our prayers for our unsaved spouse are of eternal and monumental importance. 

We are on the front lines. 

At the end of this life nothing, NOTHING, else matters but the salvation of people and a life lived to glorify the Son. 

Period. The end. 

Don’t grow weary. When you are weak, write me. I will pray beside you. I know how utterly important our battle prayers are for the cause of Christ. 

Be blessed, Lynn

Lysa TerKeurst and a Portion

Was I excited or what?

Lysa TerKeurst visited my home town over the weekend. She was the speaker at the Crossline Community Church women’s retreat here in our valley. The retreat was fantastic and the gals from Crossline welcomed me into their sisterhood with open arms. 

Most of you know I adore Lysa. She is a powerful speaker and writer. I have read just about all of her books and I am super excited for her next one to be released late this year. I also read her blog every day. It’s that good. 

Over breakfast on Saturday, I chatted with Lysa and Holly Good, her traveling buddy, also an amazing woman who servers our Jesus. Lysa is as generous and kind in person, one-on-one, as she appears on stage, at her blog, and throughout her books. 

Here is a photo of us at breakfast. 

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 (don't know what was going on with the strange crook in my neck. *sheesh*)

This is Lysa and Holly. 

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It was a great privilege to spend time with her and I am deeply thankful she made time to meet with me. We chatted about ministry, books, blogs, her traveling schedule (grueling, I might add) and a bazillion other things. Lisa loves Jesus and her words to me personally and to the women attending the conference were powerful, life-changing and filled with the truth of God’s love. 

All of the ladies but especially me, were inspired. Several women crossed the line and accepted Jesus into their heart on Saturday. The Lambs book of life shines brighter today. Praise the Lord. 

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Psalm 73:26 My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever.

Lysa asked, “I wonder if we started to pray and ask God for Him to be our portion, how different our lives would be.” 

I sat in my seat and her words hit me with the full force of the Holy Spirit. What if I asked Jesus to be my portion in my marriage? What if I asked Jesus to be my portion when I want to turn to junk food? What if I asked Jesus to be my portion……. ? 

So, today, along with Lysa, I ask you to begin praying this simple prayer: 

Jesus, be my portion of (insert your struggle here) for today. 

Lysa shared, “Even when Jesus taught us to pray, He asked for His portion. Matthew 6:11 Give us today our daily bread. If Jesus asked for His portion, we should too.” 

Jesus is our portion. Jesus is our groom. Jesus is our healer. Jesus IS. 

Have an amazing week. Fill it up with Jesus and watch as the cares of this earth become strangely dim. Be blessed, Lynn

Check out more portion prayers posted on Lysa's blog here: Portion Prayers

Also, I want to give a shout out to e-Mom and all my friends over at Chrysalis. Can't wait to read all about the Honeymoons. I hope to join in again next month. 

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What's Your Favorite Scripture?

1122915_pray Dear friends, Lynn and I need your help! We want to put a chapter in this book that has all these wonderful Scriptures that we can pray for our unbelieving spouses, like a heavenly resource. Can you help us?

Would you tell us what Scripture you pray for your spouse? Do you put their name in as you pray? Here's an example of one I use frequently, and not just for my hubby:

For this reason I kneel before the Father, from whom his whole family in heaven and on earth derives its name. I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you, NAME, with power through his Spirit in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. And I pray that you, NAME, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the saints, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you, NAME, may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God.— Ephesians 3:14-19

I love praying this verse out loud and speaking my loved one's name right into it. Is there a verse or a piece of Scripture you pray for your lost loved ones? What does it meant to you personally to do this?

We'd love to have these contributions from our readers to encourage those who read it. Your heart speaking to theirs! Now that's 2 Corinthians 1:3-7 in its purist form, don't you think?

Thank you so much for your help. We couldn't do it without you! :-)

Praying and believing,

Unanswered Prayers...Seeking God

ColorfulEye Here we are, our last week of January (can you believe it?) and the end of our unanswered prayer series. My deepest prayer is that Lynn and I have been able to encourage you. Without our hope in Christ, well, it’s pretty hard to keep going. We run out of juice. Thank goodness Jesus doesn’t!

So, let’s talk some more about those unanswered prayers. In Part One, we talked about believing and trusting that God hears our prayers and considered what other reasons there may be for our answers to be delayed or different than what we expected.

Lynn wrote an awesome post about Dreaming Big with God, how sometimes God has something bigger in mind than what we're praying for.

Last week, we changed the label of unanswered prayers to Prayers in Waiting, another step in pushing our faith beyond ourselves and trusting God more. And Lynn shared how It's NOT about us.

Are you ready for more? I hope you said yes.

One of the questions left on the Facebook site was about praying effectively. That’s a great question. But first I want to ask you, what does that mean to you? What tells or shows us we’re praying effectively?

Visible results?

Our prayers quickly answered?

Which then leads me to ask, can we pray ineffectively?

If we go back to Hebrew 11:1, we’re told faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see. This all has to do with our faith in God, his Son Jesus, and his Holy Spirit. We believe God exists, we believe his Son Jesus died for our sins and was resurrected, and we believe that upon accepting Christ and his resurrection, the Holy Spirit takes residence in us. We are sealed, belonging to God and co-heirs with Christ (Romans 8:17).

This is the beginning of faith, the core of who we are as Christians. From here we learn to understand the daily pursuit of God and learning his will for our lives. And we do that by spending time with God, learning his ways and how we can join him in what he’s doing around us, in our own lives and the lives of those we love. We are all so interconnected that to not do this means we can wind up praying outside of God’s will. Then, yes, we wind up praying ineffectively.

I can only go back to what my family and I have experienced the last several months and hope I don’t sound like a broken record.

A year after my daughter’s brain surgery, I expected to be rejoicing on that one year mark when the MRI came back yet again clear. No sign of the tumor returning and everything looked pretty much normal. Yet her condition was worse than ever with bad headaches and missing so much school we wondered if she’d make it to the next grade. I prayed constantly for God to heal her, to take the headaches away, to make her want to go to school every day.

Basically, I was praying for God to fix it. But like Lynn so aptly said in her post, it’s not about us. It wasn’t about me. It was about my daughter’s journey and what God is trying to teach her.

I’ll be honest, my heart railed against this, to see my daughter still struggling so much, and nothing seemed to change. Why didn’t God hear my prayers?

The thing is, he did. And I know his heart ached as much as mine. That he matched me tear for tear. But he KNEW what my daughter needed more than a simple fix-it solution. He wasn’t just interested in her immediate comfort. He’s also interested in her future, one he designed specifically for her. One he’s building her character and equipping her for.

And I’m on the sidelines watching. You know that place. It’s a difficult one to be in. But necessary. God showed me (slowly because I’m a stubborn mama sometimes) that my prayers needed to change. That I needed to let go of what I wanted for my daughter, let go of my will, and consider the bigger picture. I was praying for what would make our lives easier. Hers. Mine.

My prayers began to change from fixing to equipping. To praying for guidance on how to best help my daughter learn what God was trying to teach her (Lord, equip me…). To prayers for her to make good choices. To praying Scriptures God lead me to pray for her.

This wasn’t an easy road...isn’t an easy road. It means doing the hard stuff and sacrificing what I want to achieve a greater goal. One that I catch a glimpse of and know in my gut what it all potentially could mean to my daughter…and to my unbelieving hubby. And I’m sure I won’t fully understand it all until I’m with Jesus and can ask him to show me what I didn’t see.

I can’t tell you a method or pattern for praying effectively. I can only tell you that when we pray in God’s will, when we can go before God and release what we want and desire only what God wants—desire only Him—that’s when things happen. And so often, we have to reach the end of ourselves to get there. And trust God with the outcome. Mix this with praying his Word out loud and worship, big things will change in YOU.

Our week of fasting and praying was one of the most difficult things I’ve done. I had to let go of everything I’d held onto. Actually, I had nothing left to hold on to at that point. I’d tried everything and nothing had worked. I released myself and my daughter to God completely, ready to do whatever God said had to be done.

I won’t go into all the details, but some pretty big stuff happened. Tears return even as I write this and remember what God has done. I did what God asked. Even when I wanted to doubt, I still proclaimed the truth. He didn’t expect perfection from me, just the first steps. He helped me take the rest with the gift of proof. My daughter is healed. I could write a book on how these events played out, how the MRI even amazed her doctors. It’s all there. Or should I say, not there. The biggest proof though is in how she’s changed—a change that came after she made the decision to seek God herself.

Sometimes I think praying effectively has more to do with what we don’t do, and more to do with how we trust God. Or choose to trust him. When your prayers seem unanswered, it’s time to step back and take another look. Maybe even ask some hard questions like, am I praying this more for my own selfish needs (like I was with my daughter because I wanted my life to be easier) than for the other person? What does God really want in this situation?

Do I want what I’m praying for (even if it’s your spouse’s salvation) more than I want God?

When we earnestly seek God, he says that’s when we’ll find him (Deut. 4:29, Matt. 6:33, Heb. 11:6). That I can tell you is the gospel truth.

Praying and believing,

(Go to BibleGateway.com and read 119 Scripture references to the word “seek.”)

Weekend Devo — God's Word Speaks

Bible Yesterday morning, my devotional had me in Lamentations. The words spoke so deeply to my heart and became a prayer that I'd like to share with you. :-)

Lamentations 3:22-26

Because of the LORD's great love we are not consumed, for his compassions never fail. They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness.

Lord, we love, love, LOVE that each day is a new chance to love You more and better. That with each new day we get to do things a little better than the day before. And whether we succeed or not, you still love us and have compassion for us. CompassionS! You are the rock of our lives. The foundation of our hearts. You bless us with your presence and give us such comfort and peace. We love you, Lord!

I say to myself, "The LORD is my portion; therefore I will hope in him."

Oh, Lord, thank you! Thank you for being all we need. The one thing that truly satisfies the deep need in our souls. We hope in you, Lord, and we know you will never let us down.

It is good that one should hope and wait quietly for the salvation of the Lord.

Lord, we wait quietly and hope in You for our spouses' salvation. We know this is what You desire. Your compassion never ends! We proclaim your salvation for our unbelieving loved ones. In Jesus' Name, amen!

Praying and believing,

(On a side note, please consider Lamentations 3:33 in your prayers for the people of Haiti.)

All You Need To Do Is Ask

We have not because we ask not. 

How many times have we needed God but have been too stubborn to open our mouths and just say so? How many crazy situations have we found ourselves in, only to discover that if we had just spoken up and been honest about our need of help or support or comfort or whatever-it-is-you-needed-at-the-time, we wouldn't have been left to muddle our way through it? 

I know. Too many times to count, right? 

My man... He is so amazing. But his pride. Man. His pride stands in the way of so many things. The most intimate needs of his heart - the ones I know he wants me to meet - I can't meet them yet. Because he hasn't invited me to... 

As I sat and prayed over him and us this morning, I found myself saying, "Lord, there is so much more of me I want to give to him, so much more I want him to experience with me, but I can't give it to him until he desires it. I can't give it until he WANTS it. If he would just let me in, he'd find so much more than just what he assumes it to be... He has not because he asks not." 

And then it hit me like a ton of bricks. We don't have more from God in the way of intimate relationship because we don't invite Him into our lives in that way. We don't experience Him as fully as we can, just because we won't be humble enough to ask... And as I sat and thought about that revelation, the Holy Spirit spoke this clearly to my heart: “Learn to be honest about your need of Me. Do not allow pride to reign and keep you from true intimacy with Me." 

Start this day by admitting your need to intimately know God. Just ask. 

Now, on to the daily focus. First pray over the men in your life; husbands, sons, fathers, brothers, co-workers, whoever. If they are male and they are part of your life, pray over them. Allow the Holy Spirit to fill you with the right words and simply call them by name and however He leads. 

The second is this: Remember that verse you asked God for yesterday for your spouse? Ask Him for another one and do the same thing. Make it a prayer. And then pray both verses over them. Also, as you pray over your spouse, ask God to give you a word for THEM for the year. Write it down and allow the Father to speak to your heart what the word means in His eyes for your spouse; then take some time to pray over them based on that word. Ask for supernatural insight regarding your spouse. Ask Him to show you how to intercede for them today. 

Lord we need You. We come before you right now asking You to speak to us. Share Your secrets. We are hungry to know You better. Clear all the outside noise Father so that we might enter into the holy of holies. We want to honor You. Not our wills, but Your will. Not our words, but Your word. Not our thoughts, but Your thoughts. And not our ways, but Your ways. We trust You and we love You. In Jesus' life-changing name. Amen. 

I'll be back! 


Anchored ~ What a Visual!

Why do we need the Word of God buried deep in our memory and in our heart?

37190X: The Final Quest

The Final Quest
By Rick Joyner

I just started reading The Final Quest by Rick Joyner. I actually read it once a couple years ago but it is one of those books you just find yourself picking up every couple years.

The book is a vision that Rick was given and in the beginning he is describing two armies that he is seeing that are about to begin battle. One is the army of the Accuser of the Brethren. The other is the army of the Lord. As he is describing these armies the battle begins and a messenger tells the army of the Lord to fight from a mountain that is behind them. This mountain has many ledges that the Christians can stand on while fighting the enemy. Each ledge represented a biblical truth.

He also describes the armor of the army of the Lord (based on Ephesians 6:10-18), specifically the shields (faith) and the size of these for various warriors as well as the Swords which are the Word of God.

One thing struck me was as he began talking about advancing to different ledges on the mountain. I know the sword is the Word of God and we are to use it to fight the enemy and his attacks. But as he came to higher ledges on the mountain, they became narrower and more slippery. Also, the enemy was down below him quite a ways and they were fighting by shooting arrows of Truth into the enemy. He says many around him began to set aside their swords (which were growing larger with each ledge) thinking there was no use for them.

Here is a quote: "Our swords grew after we reached each level, but I almost left mine behind because I did not seem to need it at the higher levels. I almost casually decided to keep it, thinking that it must have been given to me for a reason. Then, because the ledge I was standing on was so narrow, and becoming so slippery, I drove the sword into the ground and tied myself to it while I shot at the enemy. The voice of the Lord then came to me, saying: "You have used the wisdom that will enable you to keep climbing. Many have fallen because they did not use their sword properly to anchor themselves."

As I read this it struck me - not only is the Word of God a weapon to be used to fight the lies and deceit of the enemy, it is also our anchor which keeps ups from becoming full of pride and self-righteousness which will lead to our falling from whatever "ledge" we have obtained.

I really believe God is preparing us mightily and this is just one more step in his plan. He is grounding us each in His Word so that we may be humble and used by Him.  

Angela Smith

We Sabotage Our Prayers

We sabotage our own prayers!

This is a strong statement but I am convinced we inhibit God’s work in our lives because of our own ignorance or idiocy.


I am so glad you asked.

Let’s think about words. The spoken word. Words we say in idle conversation or even mumbling to ourselves.

We will often pray, “O Lord, please heal me. Help me to feel better today…..” There are millions of prayers such as this. But what happens after we pray? We walk away and start mumbling to ourselves, “I just feel terrible today. I am never going to feel better. I just want to go back to bed.” We even mumble this minutes after we just asked the Lord to heal us.

Why do the words we speak matter so much? Let’s take a look at how important the spoken word is to God.

Matthew 12:36 (NIV) But I tell you that men will have to give account on the day of judgment for every careless word they have spoken.

Did you know this passage was in the New Testament? We will be held accountable for every word we utter. Quite humbling.

John 1:1 In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. 

In the beginning was the WORD. Word, not matter, not people…. In the beginning was the WORD.

Genesis 1:1 In the beginning God created the heavens and the earth.

Did you know that in each consecutive paragraph of Genesis, chapter one begins with: And God said.

And God said, "Let there be light,"

And God said, "Let there be an expanse between the waters to separate water from water."

And God said, "Let the water under the sky be gathered to one place, and let dry ground appear."

God speaks....Things happen.

Our spoken words also have power. What we say into the spiritual realm is vastly important because God commands His angels concerning us.

Do you remember our friend Connie Haile? (click here to listen to her video post) She and I were discussing the teaching of last week on the passage, Psalm 91. Connie sent me an email regarding the importance of our words. I want to share with you her thoughts:

How exciting....nothing more powerful than praying the word of God. He said that His word would not return void. His word is mightier than a two edged sword. He said that He would hasten to perform his word on your behalf. His word is yes and amen. Then he says my people perish for their lack of knowledge.

It always makes my heart sad when I hear people talk and they say such stupid things and then blame God because they prayed but nothing happened. It is because they plucked up what they prayed by the words of their mouth.

Life and death are in the power of the tongue!

To see things change we must keep God's word working in our lives by speaking it out so the devil can hear it. He hates it when we speak the Word with confidence knowing that it is going accomplish what He has sent his word out to do.

I am sure you have read Psalm 119 but read it again and again. It just talks over and over about the power of God's word. (Click here for Psalm 119)

You are such a blessing. Have a wonderful week. God's word is working mightily for you!!! Love you, Connie

If you mine for the nuggets in this email, you will discover it is rich with words from scripture. Do you remember that Connie is healed and whole from terminal cancer because she believes in the Word of God, she speaks the Word of God constantly and with confidence and she will not enable the enemy to sabotage her prayer life.

Take this post in. Wrestle with it. Ask God about the truth of it. Discover just how much God has to say about our spoken words. Then share with me what He is confirming in you. I can’t wait to read your comments and words. I plan to sit at my computer in the hours ahead and read your comments out loud. So leave a prayer, leave your thoughts and let’s take God at His Word and watch as we overcome our struggles.

This next week get out a new 3x5 card and write verses 4-6 from Psalm 91. Commit this portion to memory. Also one of the gals from our 1Peter3Living Group found this awesome online memory verse site which helps you to memorize verses. Memverse.com. Thanks Tina! This may be an effective tool for you.

God's Word is our anchor in this crazy world. Bury it deeply in your heart so it is there when you need it.

Be Blessed, Lynn