The Demonic and Secrets

SUMites, Today I feel the Lord is leading me to write about Secrets. Yes, secrecy is something so many of us tangle with in our lives. But the longer I live, the more I've come to realize that secrets are actually weapons of the devil. Let me share something that occurred in our family a few years ago. In 2008 my husband was told by his boss that he would be let go in January of 2009. Like millions of Americans we became unemployed in that horrific economic downturn. My husband, at the time in the late months of 2008, was convinced he would find work quickly and thus he asked me to keep our financial situation from our daughter, Caitie. I agreed to his request because it was his life, his employment situation and Mike didn’t want our daughter to worry unnecessarily. Keeping a secret, or let’s be real... Read more →

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#fingerprintrevelations

Hey SUMnation! Tiffany here. Some of you have heard me talk about this unique journey that the Lord has me on right now with my job. I shared this on the SUM sisters in Christ group on Facebook but wanted to reach out and share here as some of you (especially the men) may have questions about what I do as a job and how God is gifting me for ministry. I wanted to give you a quick snap shot into where I spend 40 hours a week and when my heart is prepped right and my mind focusing on the Lord I am given insight that can only come from the Holy Spirit. Welcome to my fingerprinting station (picture left). There are two other girls that I work with in my office and we each have our own computer/desk and our own fingerprint station. For the most part my... Read more →

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Memorial Day

Today in the US we are commemorating the brave men and women who serve in our American Armed Forces. Mike and I are close friends with a General of the US Airforce Reserves and his wife. I remember a few years ago that Mike and I, along with his family and his mom, sat in the kitchen of his home as he arrived home after a tour over seas. He stepped into the door, still wearing his fatigues, and after traveling a brutal 22 hours to get home, with a smile beaming across his face. He was exhausted but filled with such joy to finally be home with his family. The stories he began to share with us were accounts of lives and situations I can not fully comprehend. Children who begged for a cookie on the roadside and when given one, acted as though it was a gift of... Read more →

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SUMites Summit on the Summit by Libby

When I was paying for the SUM community, Holy Spirit started downloading words and pictures into my soul for us! So, in prayer, I grabbed my pen and sketch pad and let Holy Spirit flow through me. This is the first time I have ever done this, and let me tell you, it was awesome and I want more!!! I really hope that the photo at the end of this post expresses it properly (best viewed on laptop/pc). I pray that God will bless you through it and reveal to you in your heart what He wants you to know :) I believe He is calling together an army from across the nations to join forces together against evil. In the spiritual realm we are together and we are kicking up noise! An uproar against satan and his wicked plans. The angels can hear us and they rejoice! The demons... Read more →

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Just How Far Reaching Is Scripture?

SUMites, On Friday I visited a small group of SUMites in Orange, Texas through Facebook Live. Martha Bush invited me to share with the ladies who meet there to encourage one another. Because I'm in this learning season about the depths of scripture, I shared my thoughts on two powerful scriptures that have great impact in our lives. 1 Corinthians 7:14 & John 20:23. Take a listen and then ponder with the Lord the depth of meaning and possibility this could have upon your life. Let me know your thoughts in the comments. And ladies in Orange, thank you for allowing me to share!! I love all of you so much. Hugs, Lynn Read more →

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Privacy Policy

Hello Friends of this Ministry. You may be aware that compliance with the new General Data Protection Regulation (GDPR), our ministry, Three Keys Ministries et al. is required to provide our Privacy Policy. You can view this policy at any time on any of our websites. Thank you so much for being a part of what Jesus is doing in the world and on the World Wide Web. Lynn Donovan Privacy Policy May 15, 2018 Three Keys Ministries Privacy Policy Information We Collect and Receive Three Keys Ministries, collects and retains information about you and your device when you visit or give us information through our various ministries: Three Keys Ministries (threekeysministries.org), Spiritually Unequal Marriage (spirituallyunequalmarriage.com), Mismatched & Thriving (mismatchedandthriving.com), Winning Him Without Words (winninghimwithoutword.com) and Lynn Donovan (lynndonovan.org) websites. Donor Privacy Policy Three Keys Ministries et al. uses your information to understand your needs and interests and provide you... Read more →

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Wisdom, Wonder, A Few Balloons, and Mustangs

Hello SUMite Nation! Me and Caitie, Corn Lake, May 14, 2018 Colorado was awesome. I cherished the time with my mom and daughter on Mother’s Day and my birthday. Below are a few photos. I also want to share a beautiful word that came from my daughter while we sat on the lake edge with fishing polls in hand. Because God is so good, I would love Him and serve Him even if I didn’t receive anything in return. —Caitie Donovan SUMites, have hope for your children! Everything you do to pour faith and Jesus into their lives may come up before you while you sit on a lake shore and a child your bore shares from her heart and faith, something profound and moving. I nearly wept when Caitie said this because I haven’t entertained a posture such as this prior to now. ***** Also, I want to say... Read more →

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Asking for an Egg

Hi everyone, Ann here Recently, Lynn shared a wonderful video about how she asked God for an egg and literally got an egg! This story made me smile broadly. After all, if we ask for an egg God does not give us a scorpion (Luke 11:12). But it got me wondering what it means, exactly, to ‘ask for an egg’? An egg holds life, a scorpion brings death, and if we ask for life we do not get death. That is a profound truth, but what about the times God seems silent? As I pondered this, some aspects of my past came back to me, times when an ‘egg’ was asked for. They showed me God was there all along. To begin with, there was my mum, who prayed for me throughout my childhood. Every morning, I would rise to see her on her knees in the living room, wrapped... Read more →

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Devotion: by Lori Lyn Skipper

Ladies, our husbands need encouragement. I was having a conversation with my best friend recently about our spouses. We both had questions and concerns. So, we did the best thing we could do, we prayed. As we were praying, I began to thank God for creating men and women differently. I thanked Him for making men physically stronger than women, for making men the head of the households, the protectors, the providers, and the disciplinarian. Then I began to thank Him for creating women to be submissive to their husbands, for making us weaker physically, and for making us stronger in other areas than men are. If our husbands are making decisions that we are not in agreement with, we need to be praying for them, not nagging them. We need to encourage them and let them know how much we appreciate all that they do for our marriage and... Read more →

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Spiritual Leadership For The Unequally Yoked

Leadership of the family is absolutely challenging when married to an unbeliever. Years ago, my husband was far away from God. It was obvious that he would not be leading our family in daily devotions nor praying with us. My reality at the time was on the receiving end of his hostility toward all things of faith. He was adamant that he wouldn’t attend church. I think in that season every emotion on the spectrum would bombard my thoughts. Taking them captive to Christ saved me from unending confusion and fear. In the early years of marriage, as a young wife, I Christian leader on the radio say: If your husband has abdicated or refused to step into the role as the spiritual leader of your home then God expects, you, as the wife to take that place in the family. FREEDOM!!! I was freed to become the leader for... Read more →

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Inside God's Cedar Chest

By Martha Bush It was 4:30 A.M., April 22, 2017. My mother’s nurse tapped me on my leg while I was grabbing a short nap on the sofa down the hall from my mother’s room where she lay at the point of death. I sat up quickly at the feel of the nurse’s soft gentle touch and immediately said, “She is gone, isn’t she?” “Yes,” the nurse nodded. As the dawn of day lurched forward with a beautiful array of sunshine despite death all around me, funeral arrangements had to be made and relatives and friends had to be called. A few days after the funeral, we left Georgia headed back to our home in Texas to clear my mind before I took on the task of returning to Georgia in a month to empty out my mother’s home, so I could sell it. However, two weeks later, we received... Read more →

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Are You Ready To Be Arrested Because You Pray?

Hello SUMites, I’m going to interrupt my posts on Leadership because I can no longer remain silent. I must bring to light before our community what is occurring right now in the California State Legislature. Currently there is a bill that has passed the California State Assembly, AB2943 and is headed for the Senate. Legal analysists are calling the Bill an effort to limit free speech and the free exercise of religion. It’s the most blatant chilling of free speech in America in my lifetime and is very likely to passed by the veto-proof majority and signed into law by Gov. Jerry Brown. Regardless of where you fall in your beliefs about homosexuality and gender identity, this bill, if passed will make it illegal for me to council or pray with a woman who is struggling with her sexual identity. In addition, it would become illegal for me to recommend... Read more →

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Spiritual Leadership When Unequally Yoked       

Nation of SUM Warriors, To follow up on my post from Monday, there some discussion about the perspective I shared. It’s interesting to me that a few readers were uncomfortable with my perspective on the old English, King James Version of 1 Peter 3. I get it! Of course, I’m not a theologian. I’m only an ordinary wife and believer who is on this faith journey along with the rest of you. And I only pointed out my perspective because sometimes the Lord is the one who is longing to bring greater understanding to scripture. I will add one more comment about the King James rendering. For centuries the church in general accepted this particular rendering which included the word conversation. It wasn’t until the 1970’s that new translations came into the public readership and were widely received, that the rendering of conversation changed to behavior. King James was written... Read more →

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The Father's Heart

Photo courtesy of Fairfax County website Ian here. As I walked one of our dogs this morning I asked the Lord what was on His heart for this community. He responded almost immediately with: “My heart.” I enquired further and He wanted us to know how much He loves us and how much His heart is for us. My sense is that there are some of us (perhaps only one) who is struggling a little at the moment to know, not just in their head, but in their heart, how much our Father loves them. False Narratives I’ve shared a number of times how for much of the early years of my marriage I believed that it wouldn’t be blessed nor could I have a ministry because I was unequally yoked. In meeting Dineen in 2012 I came to realize this to be a false narrative. For much of my... Read more →

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Leadership In An Unequally Yoked Marriage

Hello Sumite Nation: As I was on my walk-n-pray this morning, the Lord began to speak to me about a topic that Dineen and I have covered throughout the years, here at SUM. Leadership of the Family. Writing about this topic is at the core of our ministry as our first book is titled, Winning Him Without Words. The title is based upon the 1 Peter 3 principal. I have always read this passage from the NIV translation. However, today I looked at it through lenses of a woman with 26 years living in an unequally yoked marriage, the lenses of the King James version and the lenses of the reality of God’s history and the Word as a whole. Let’s take a look together. Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won... Read more →

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I Can't Believe That JUST Happened!

Hey SUM Family, Tiffany here! I have a confession. These last couple months have been really hard! I have struggled with things that I haven't for a while – at least a year. Things I thought were long gone have resurfaced. Things that I just gained victory from – snatching up my money, time, effort, thoughts. I have to admit that it is mainly my fault. I let my guard down. I got prideful...remember what it says about this in 1 Corinthians 10:12, “If you think you are standing firm, be careful that you don't fall!” This is what happens when we take our eyes off of Jesus. Just like Peter stepping out onto the water and looking at the waves crashing around him – I was sinking. I lost my first love. Funny how things can develop so quickly! Just last August I began my journey on the fast... Read more →

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He Can Handle Your Dissapointment

SUMites, each of us have walked the lonely road of disappointment. It is a commonality when you are unequally yoked. Our dreams about a family, a spouse who attends church together and leads the family devotions are only but shadows of a hope lost in reality. What do we do with disappointment? How do we work through disappointment with the Lord? I know that I’ve wrangled through disappointment with my spouse. Many a time. Many times, I take my man to the Throne of Grace and receive mercy and grace in my moment of surrender of expectation. In the divine and holy moment of speaking forgiveness over a man who has no idea the strength it takes to place a piece of my heart on the throne of love and surrender. I give him grace that I didn’t receive. And the only way that I can move through this process... Read more →

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Your Yes, A Powerful Tool In The Kingdom

So SUM Nation, What do you think about developing quiet trust in God. Do you perceive how it’s an ongoing, interactive, and beautiful process of surrender and belief? I believe God. God believes me. I wonder if there are some of us who struggle with fully trusting God. I wonder if we might think that trust is a mechanical and unquestioning stance. I wonder if we think that we can’t ask God about our life circumstances. I ponder to realize that many believers think they must bear down, endure and pound out their faith with little response from the Lord? My friends, today, let me speak freedom into your heart. It’s okay to ask the Lord about your life. It’s a beautiful thing to bring your confusion and your pain before the Throne of Grace and receive mercy in your time of need. God does not require perfection. He requires... Read more →

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I See Two of You

Ann here! Last month I wrote about how God had been having some fun with me using figs. If you missed that post you can read it here. Well, today I wanted to share part two of that story. It includes a further promise for us SUMites. I hope you enjoy it: One day last year it occurred to me to ask God a curious question: “Lord, what do you see when you look at my situation?” I'm sure God prompts such questions and, sure enough, the answer came the next morning: I see two of you. I'd been expecting an answer that would refer to me, but two of us? That gave me something to ponder. A month later, on the topic of ‘two of you’, an unusual picture landed in my head. The picture was of me and my husband as babies strapped in a baby-carrier, one in... Read more →

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Confession: Do you Honestly Trust God?

TRUST Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight. —Proverbs 3:5-6 Trust is at the core of our relationship with God. And from my years of perspective, it is a long journey to fully trust in God. Today, I want to talk about trust because so many of us in the SUM Nation are at the end of our rope and we want to trust but we aren’t fully convinced that God will catch us in this disaster that we face. Brick: I think that building trust with God is part of our process. It’s a moment by moment, brick by brick, building of an entwined love. I choose to believe God at His Word and place my husband’s salvation in His hands. Brick: God chooses to reveal to... Read more →

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We Rob Ourselves By The End Game

Confessions of a Believer. The Process SUM Nation, I have a confession. I hate social media. I have another confession. I love social media. There are great things about our connections online and some things that aren’t so great. Every day I find myself involved with several platforms of social media. Facebook, Twitter and recently I began to post on Instagram, as if I don’t already have a ton of stuff to do already, share, like and see. Good grief. As people we are more connected than ever and yet, I am of the belief that we “feel” more disconnected than ever. How about you? And the speed of our lives often feels like a carnival performer with 10 plates all spinning on tall sticks and frantically working to keep them aloft. The tension of it all creates anxiety within merely by thinking about it. I just wonder. Why? Why... Read more →

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Is God Good?

On Friday I will be continuing our series and will tackle faith areas such as our faith process, trust, disappointment, intimacy and more. However, many of these topics are challenging and especially so if you struggle with believing that God is always good. How can you trust God fully? Is God good? These are questions I would like to address today on Let's Talk Live. If you have doubts and want some practical teaching on God's goodness, plan to join the conversation. 1 pm Pacific. SUM Facebook Page. O give thanks to the LORD, for He is good; For His lovingkindness is everlasting. 1 Chronicles 16:34 Read more →

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Springtime With My Lord

By Martha Bush For a peek into one of the most, shall we say, romantic books of the Bible, follow along with me today to Song of Solomon, and let’s go on a love adventure with our Lord. I particularly like Chapter 2 because it resonated with me during a particular time in my life when I was ready for a new season to begin. In the first few verses of Chapter 2, Christ is pictured coming to His bride to spend some time with her. The way in which He is approaching her clearly shows that He is full of joy and excitement as He looks forward to spending some intimate time with His bride. He comes leaping over the mountains and bounding upon the hills. He comes swiftly like a young deer (vs. 8-9) When Christ arrives, he looks into the window of His bride’s heart, and says:... Read more →

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Confessions Of A Wife

Gang, I was considering starting into a Bible study at this time but I think I want to save that study for our annual Summer Bible Study. Today, and perhaps for the next few weeks, I’m feeling led to walk through some confession. Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective. —James 5:16 I quote this verse often. In fact, I sign my prayer book with this inscription. I refer to the last half of this verse because I absolutely, wholly, believe it is truth. However, I want to reveal something that most of us miss. It’s in the confession to one another that we find healing. Ugh! We don’t want to confess. This world shouts that we are weak and stupid to admit our shortcomings, failings and outright sins.... Read more →

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Men Stuff ... Part 2

mage courtesy of David Castillo Dominici at FreeDigitalPhotos.net Ian here again. Firstly, thank you for your engagement in the first of this occasional series of posts. I loved seeing the discussion and responding to the comments that were made. I hadn’t planned on writing another such post so soon but the universe conspired (ie the power of 3 made me sit up and take notice) to bring some thoughts to bear that I thought might serve as a useful discussion. Firstly, I was chatting with a couple of wise men last week and we were particularly discussing how men communicate. Secondly, we’re all aware of the #metoo dialogue that has had significant airplay over the past few months. I recently read a fascinating article written by a bloke who explored how this predatory side of men had evolved and finally, one of my favourite authors, Tim Winton (an Aussie National... Read more →

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