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16 entries from January 2016

Am I The Spiritual Leader

In 2012 I wrote a post for the Internet Café. It remains still today one of the most visited posts on their site. I can’t write it better today. It remains truth and remains powerful. So in response to our confusion and the issues we face about spiritual leadership in our home, I share the post again today. May 2012 My Husband is not the Spiritual Leader of Our Home When I’m speaking or interviewed for radio, spiritual leadership of our home, often comes up as a topic for conversation. It’s really interesting to me that this question comes to me from other believing men (radio interviews) as well as women who are living unequally yoked. My friends, we the spiritually mismatched, certainly live in the “in-between.” And spiritual leadership/direction is of monumental importance to us and we wrestle with how to do this well. I struggled for years in... Read more →

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GOING TO CHURCH ALONE

Today, I want to chat about another big issue that was mentioned back in December when we began this journey. GOING TO CHURCH ALONE. Gang, can I just say – Grrrrrrrrr This is so hard. I know that for me this was an area that was of intense and great struggle. Even today, I truly desire my husband to join me for church on Sunday. I’ve had to wrangle through all of the different aspects of church non-attendance with my husband. I’m certain many of you have as well. First, dealing with the whole couple thing. Grrrrrr, again! Our Western society is significantly “couple” focused. Learning to do anything alone takes a ton of courage and prayer. At least it did for me and I’m usually a courageous person. But after remaining a floundering believer at home, there comes a day when your need for community outweighs fear and you... Read more →

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Conference At Merriman in Garden City, MI

Perhaps for a moment in time, just perhaps, we stood upon holy ground. Matthew 16:19 I will give you the keys of the kingdom of heaven; whatever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth will be loosed in heaven.” I bet many of you know these ladies. They like to hang around SUM! Gillian, Teresa, Melissa, Heidi, Joanne Some of the Ohio SUMites: Left to right: Judy, Mindy, Laura, Dawn, Chris This is Beloved, Franie. This conference started in her heart last summer. The Holy Spirit moved. We laughed, cried and we were loved on by our Lord! The skit was hilarious. I was cackling. Well done Merriman! This is the amazing team of leadership that made this day possible. Thank you is inadequate but THANK YOU! More photos are posted on our SUM Facebook page, click here. The best part of... Read more →

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Specifics of the Spiritually Mismatched

Well I realize that that past few posts have challenged us as we consider suffering. We also looked at what Jesus clearly told us. Jesus said: “Do not suppose that I have come to bring peace to the earth. I did not come to bring peace, but a sword. For I have come to turn “‘a man against his father, a daughter against her mother, a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law— a man’s enemies will be the members of his own household.’—Matthew 10:34-35 Sometimes I find that Christians only want to read the passages that affirm. But becoming a mature believer, means that we must wrangle with these difficult and challenging passages. When I read this scripture, it offered me two things. One, I realize my life with an unbeliever is actually not surprising to God. And two, it relieves me of guilt or condemnation that somehow I’ve failed because my... Read more →

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First LOVE

We have been chatting about suffering. It can truly blow up your mind to consider the reasons of God for suffering. Not too long ago the Lord spoke to me about my unequally yoked marriage. It was likely in a challenging season when I was complaining to God about His delay in saving my pre-believer. (To even write that causes me a degree of shame. Sheesh.) This was the Lord’s unexpected but powerful reply. Hosea 2:14 But then I will win her back once again. I will lead her into the desert and speak tenderly to her there. 15 I will return her vineyards to her and transform the Valley of Trouble into a gateway of hope. She will give herself to me there, as she did long ago when she was young, when I freed her from her captivity in Egypt. —NLT The Lord then spoke to me, Lynn,... Read more →

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Want Some Gold?

We have been contemplating loneliness and marriage. And wow, some great comments following the last post. Go read them!!!! I’m in a place of contemplating – Suffering. Gulp! I think I struggle to even speak this word aloud. I wrangle with the implications and shrink back. I consider the life of a Christian in the Western world as compared to a believer who lives where Isis roams the land and kills even children who profess Christ. Do we truly suffer in the Western World for our faith? Do we suffer in our marriages to unbelievers? Geeze, these thoughts mess with your head. The answer? Yes and no. It’s never an easy answer, is it? Yes, we suffer for our faith. No, we don’t suffer the threat of death for our faith today. But tomorrow, who knows? Yet the anguish in our lives and marriages over our faith in Jesus is... Read more →

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Loneliness and What Jesus Says

Can I just say: Amazing! Our annual fast never fails to disappoint. So many great testimonies were shared of how the Lord moved in our lives. Many of you received a “word” for their year and I know many of us were loved on by our Lord through this community experience. I’m convinced our fast is powerful and one day as we are in heaven, we will fully comprehend the impact our prayers and fasting had upon people and this earth. Neat!!! (Thank you Rosheeda Lee for starting this annual tradition.) In the next several weeks I want to turn our focus to loneliness in marriage. And you know, as I contemplated this issue, a bunch of different emotions rolled over me. Also, the Holy Spirit sprang up with some perspective that I want to share that I believe is truth for all of us. I will tell you that... Read more →

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From My Heart to Yours

Hello SUM family. I'm still in recovery mode for my shoulder and have met another challenge in this process. It seems my body is working against me and has formed scar tissue in my shoulder, which is hindering the rehabilitation process and making it more painful. I confess I was very discouraged to hear this from my doctor today. I will need to step up my therapy and exercises. So I want to let you know I won't be writing consistently over the next few weeks. That doesn't mean I won't be reading or around. I will be reading posts and your comments as I lay on the table at physical therapy with ice on my shoulder after my torture—I mean therapy sessions (hee hee). And as I do my exercises through out the day I will be praying for you too. SUMites, I want you to know that every... Read more →

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Recovering the WOW!

Photo courtesy of Chaiwat/FreeDigitalPhotos.net As December progressed I began to meditate upon a word for 2016. Last year, my word was ADORATION. I’ve loved taking a few moments at the beginning of a day reflecting on a characteristic of God.1 Over the past couple of years I’ve felt the Lord calling me to want more of Him. So much of my life had become ‘me-focused’; even my devotional time would be spent on building me up. Fears and anxiety had dominated too much of my thinking in recent years: fears of illness, unemployability and so on have filled many a session with my counselor plus anxiety over a bevy of stuff. This was what my wife and sons were seeing: the fearful and anxious husband and father. How was I demonstrating the love and power of having Jesus as my Lord? As my pastor said only yesterday in his message:... Read more →

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Proverbs 3 & Spiritually Mismatched Conference

SUMites. In less than two weeks Dineen and I along with a number of you from our community will be meeting in Detroit, Michigan for a Spiritually Mismatched Conference. It’s not too late to decide to join us. Start your new year off with a full day focused on living victoriously in a spiritually mismatched marriage. How often is there a conference specific to our unique faith lives? The day is designed to release victory into our lives and strengthen our faith through a beautiful freedom process. The whole day builds until we reach the most beautiful encounter. The ending of the event is absolutely powerful and is anointed with the healing Presence of Jesus. Hope fulfilled! It’s not about me or Dineen. It’s all about our kind Father, Jesus our Savior and the Holy Spirit! If you are able to get there, get there!…. Please make your travel arrangements... Read more →

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The Promise of His Covenant

SUMites, I pray this week of fasting has brought you encouragement and strength this week. I wish I could have fasted more, but my pain medication only allowed me to fast a couple mornings. I am encouraged however that even in the midst of this recovery, which has made focusing on God very challenging, I was still able to hear His heart for our community. That right there knocked another lie out of my spiritual life. For that I am grateful. He has shown me that even in such places of challenge when I don't feel close to Him, He is still speaking and He will make sure I hear Him. Our own Cindy C. shared this profound truth perfectly: "Trust God's hold on you MORE than your hold on God." (Thank you, Cindy!) Now, the rest of Abba's message for us is in Jeremiah 33, where I started on... Read more →

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God Shows Up

­­­­­ It’s the final day of our community fast. SUM family, what an experience. For me personally, at the beginning of the week, I was feeling far away from God. I had lost my will to pray and even reading His Word felt as a chore. I was stinging from family pain over the holidays and because of that, holding some unforgiveness in my heart. Yikes! I knew I needed surrender and renewal. The Holy Spirit did not disappoint. Yesterday was my breakthrough. Yesterday Southern California, where I live, received a much needed dousing of rain. Rain has fallen steady for over 24 hours. Thank you Jesus for answered prayer. On Thursday morning, I rose before dawn, as usual. However, pain in my knee caused me to turn around and head back to bed. When I woke a few hours later, pain-free- the sun was brilliant in the sky and... Read more →

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Praying for Peace and Prosperity

My friends, as I shared on Tuesday, I have an amazing story to tell you today. I just want to say personally how grateful I am for those moments that reveal His presence at work in our lives. I am renewed and strengthened every time by those moments. My faith grows and hope is restored. How about you? This was one of those moments. During the week, Holy Spirit had revealed more of Abba's heart for us through Scriptures in Jeremiah. More specific than I anticipated so I asked Him to please confirm that I was hearing Him correctly. Sunday morning I went to church and the pastor of my church was speaking on the EXACT same Scriptures and message that Holy Spirit had shown me for our community. My friends, I can only imagine what I looked like as I sat there with my eyes bugging out and my... Read more →

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Praying Matthew 18:18 Day Three Community Fast

Welcome to Day Three of our Community Fast. I also want to welcome any listeners from the Bob Dutko Show (1:00 ET) who are joining us today. Your prayers have been heard by God. You have found an amazing home one the web. Take a minute to read about Our Community and plan to join us in the fantastic life of living for Jesus. SUMites, I have been fascinated by keys. Specifically the keys that are mentioned in the Bible. And I believe God is revealing and giving keys to His people. Do a word study on Keys… I’m blown away by the Key of David. I could chat with you for hours about the significance and the passages about keys. But for today, I want to share with you a glimpse of the classroom the Lord has me in. Binding and loosing from Mathew 18:18. On Monday I spoke... Read more →

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Praying for Figs

My friends, I’ve been praying for our community and seeking God’s heart for us these last two weeks. Reading your comments and hearing your heart has so encouraged me. I love seeing God work in your lives! SUM family, I believe God has given me a powerful word for our community. When I first heard Holy Spirit speak this to me, I was quite stunned and then realized this was not only a word for me but a corporate word as well for our SUM community. I've been praying into this for understanding and leading for us. That word is SALVATION. As I prayed for understanding and wisdom as to what this word means for us, Holy Spirit kept taking me to Jeremiah, a very challenging book to read in the Bible. But thankfully His intentions became clear as I came to chapter 24: After Nebuchadnezzar king of Babylon had... Read more →

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A Personal Blessing For You

I was deeply moved by the Holy Spirit to actually speak to you as we begin our fast. I have a blessing and a scripture for you this year. There is great power in our words and I know the words the Lord placed upon my heart bear great significance when you receive them with your ears. As the leader of our SUM community I have a blessing to impart to you for your heart, your home, and your family. I also have a powerful scripture verse that I want to speak into your life. Take a few minutes and listen as I speak with love to you. Receive these words and let them fill you with joy today. After listening, I pray you are filled with a greater measure of the Holy Spirit and that you experience the power of blessing starting today. Now, for a few reminders as... Read more →

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