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The Movie: NOAH

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Well, I don’t know about you but this past few days I’ve been reading some reviews and reports about the movie, Noah, that opened on Friday. It’s fascinating to me how many differing views there are from the Christian population alone. Honestly, I’ve been disappointed to read some of them. I will state here I haven’t yet watched the film but I’m sharing only my thoughts and perspective regarding all the hoopla! 

First, let me acknowledge that there are many who bristle that the movie is not a perfect depiction of scripture. It’s not even close as I understand. But I wonder why that gets so many people turned inside out. Many of the Christian fictions books we read by the millions also are filled with a large amount of creative license. But, that’s not what I want to consider today. 

For all of us who are married to Pre-believers, this movie may be the one movie our spouses will attend with us. I see this as an enormous opportunity to open up discussion about the real story with our spouse. This may be a chance to have an honest conversation, without fighting, about our faith. 

So, while the Christian community debate one another on this subject (which adds fuel to the atheists perspectives on Christians and our spouses, I might add), I wonder if we might have been given a gift to use to draw our faith and our spouse closer together? 

On Saturday I asked my husband if he would attend the film with me. 

“Why would I want to see that?” Ahem, yep, he’s blunt. *grin* 

I pray that some of us will give grace to the creators of the film and perhaps one spouse in our House of SUM will experience a stirring in his/her heart.

Thoughts? 

Love and hugs, Lynn 

*Please share your thoughts, even if you disagree with me, with grace and love in the comments.

 

** Congrats to Anel R. You were the winner of the Audio Book drawing. I emailed you.

Watch for another drawing soon.

 

 

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Weekend Worship — A Year of Intimacy: Jesus in Us

And we all, who with unveiled faces contemplate the Lord’s glory, are being transformed into his image with ever- increasing glory, which comes from the Lord, who is the Spirit. — 2 Corinthians 3:18

Earlier in the year I shared that Abba has spoken to my heart that this would be a year of intimacy. I was excited and the prospect and expectantly prepared my pen to write down lots of warm fuzzies.

Well, there have been quite a few of those but there have been painful times too as Abba has revealed some lies still laying around and walked me through a deeper examination of my faith at times.

Abba doesn't do these things to punish us but to bring healing in places we've not dealt with and to grow us, transform us. And I know you've heard this before, like a rose bush, in order for it to grow fuller and bloom more, it must be pruned.

I know this. I'm thinking you know this, but Abba shed another light upon it for me. We don't hold the pruning sheers.

As much as I'd like to be in control of this time of pruning, that's not the way God designed it to be done. Let me quote from Chasing God by Angie Smith (page 88):

"And what gives me hope is the simple fact that eluded me for such a long time.

He isn't saying He will try to help.
He's promising He will transform us.

It is a process. We will have to give up our own agenda and trust His, over and over again. We can't see the end result, but He can, and He is everyday urging us one step closer to it."

This not only gave me a sense of release and hope for myself (oh yes, Abba still has much to transform in me), but helped me to see this is true of God's pursuit of my prebeliever and my daughters own faith journeys, that Abba in His great love for all of us promises to transform us.

It's not easy to let go, trust me, I know. I want to make a plan and make sense of it all. But in those moments of struggle I remember that verse that tells me to not lean on my own understanding (Prov. 3:5-6). I grow still, wait and listen, and then finally hear Abba's loving voice speak.

Trust Me.

I trust You, Oh Lord, because You are my God. You are our might Abba, Savior Jesus, and the Spirit that lives in us and transforms us. Help us to be still before You in the moments that tend to fill our minds and hearts with chaos so we can hear You say, trust Me. In Your Name, Jesus, amen.

Love and hugs to you, dear friends!
Dineen

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Audio Book Giveaway

Guess What??

Last week I received some extra copies of our newest audio book from Oasis Audio. So I thought I would share. 

Even if you have a copy, enter to win one and give it to a wife who needs a word of hope. Hugs, Lynn

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Don't Know What to Pray?

PrayerOver the years I've learned that our mismatched situations come in all shapes and sizes. When I'm asked what mismatched means I explain that it can be as clear as one spouse believes in God and the other doesn't, as gray as differing faiths or degrees of faith (i.e. a believer married to a Muslim or one spouse growing in faith but the other isn’t) or as painful as one spouse walking completely away from God. Even this description is a broad attempt to capture its meaning. But that’s not what I want to talk about today. Let’s leave that stuff to God and trust Him to make sense of it (Prov. 3:5).

Today I want to share from what I know to be true in my marriage. From my perspective, my hubby is like Fort Knox in letting anything about believing in God penetrate his fortress of atheism. I've been asked if something happened in the past to turn him away and many other questions that I can only shake my head to. I simply don't know what cranks my guy's head and heart in this direction.

But God does.

Yes, praying for him has been a challenge, because what do I pray against or for, besides the obvious, "Lord, show him You're real. Soften his heart. Don't let him miss seeing you today in his day."

Those are all great prayers (I don't think there's really a bad prayer when our heart is for our loved one to simply know Jesus, right?), but after a while, I kind felt like I wasn't having any impact at all. Now I know that just because I don't feel it or see it, that doesn’t mean nothing is happening.

But on this particular day I needed some new directions, you know? So I ask Abba, how do I pray for this guy? I'm baffled.

Guess what? God has some really cool ideas. Imagine that! As I prayed that morning, Abba inspired me to pray for divine connections. Not with people but in his work. You see, my guy is very techy—he's a computer programmer and analyst—and he's very creative. He wrangles various computer languages to do some pretty technical and amazing stuff, much like an artist manipulates paint to create the overall illusion of parts that create a bigger image.

An artist can look at creation, and in her attempt to paint its essence, can begin to see the smallest parts and how they perfectly connect to create the whole and how that whole points to God. In that same sense, I'm praying for my hubby to see how the code and technology he is using to create a full picture reflect the perfection and synchronicity of God in our lives. My husband is surrounded by technology every day—this is the world he moves and works in so I'm basically asking God to come in and be present in a way my guy can relate to.

Sometimes it can be really challenging to keep praying for our prebelievers and even for our children, especially the challenging ones. God created each of us uniquely so it just seems to make sense that our prayers can be similar yet unique to the person. And ultimately, Abba knows what we need and what our prebelievers need before we even ask, right? (Matt. 6:8)

We don't have to have the perfect words or method to pray for those we love, because really and truly, it’s all about love—God’s for us and our prebeliever, ours for God and our prebeliever and the mysterious way God’s love transforms ours into this beautiful thing we know we could have never done on our own. But when we can understand the direction Abba is moving in that person's life and join Him there with our prayers, then we can become a part of an amazing and beautiful journey as we watch the pieces fit together and create a brand new picture.

And even in those times that we don’t know what to pray for, we never pray alone. (Romans 8:26) and “the Father who knows all hearts knows what the Spirit is saying, for the Spirit pleads for us believers in harmony with God’s own will.” (Romans 8:27)

Jesus is pleading for us, dear friends!
Love you dearly!
Dineen

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I Faced a Pack of Dogs and God Showed Up!

Our pursuit of God is the key to thriving in our marriage, our home, and in life. Join me today for a most unusual adventure and I pray the words ignite within you a fresh fire for more of God. 

3dogssittingThis is a crazy story.. I seem to have a lot of these lately and it occurs to me that at the core of the lessons is one word. Courage

I shared with you on Friday that I walk-n-pray every morning. I walk out in the wine country on a big loop that covers almost four miles. I pass by pastures, fields, ranch homes. I will stop to pet the horses, take photos of tiny delights God’s sends my way, receive mylar balloons that often are left by the Lord. (I have many mylar balloon encounters in the wilderness. But again, stories for another day.) 

But on Wednesday of this past week I was out on the road enjoying a brisk pace as I topped the big hill in the circle and started down the other side. And as I looked down the road I spied them….. 

Four dogs. Ugh! 

Now these particular dogs are not confined behind fences like all the other dogs in the area. Don’t ask me why, I don’t know the reason. On this morning the dogs are positioned on the road at the entrance to the long driveway to the house. Most of the time when I pass by, the dogs are nowhere to be seen. They are either up at the house or sleeping somewhere else but on occasion they contend for ownership of the road and are prepared to take on any passersby. 

Gulp… That would be me. 

I’ve walked by this motley pack before and have endured with a pounding heart of fear as they growled, barked, chased me and came way too close to nipping at my heels. But thankfully I’ve got my Moses Stick aka PVC pipe in hand giving me courage and I escape without incident with the exception of raised blood pressure and a thumping pulse. 

Well on Wednesday I stop dead in my tracks. I don’t want to turn back because the best part of the trail is ahead of me and I’m determined to finish my loop. So what is a girl of God to do? I pray. “Lord, I ask you to move these dogs of the road so I may pass. Father, please send angels to distract these dogs and have them return up the driveway to their home. Lord, I ask you to move these dogs from the road ahead that I may pass.” 

I literally stand frozen in place praying for 15 minutes like this. Now I’ve prayed like this before and low and behold, an owner at the house will make a noise or call the dogs and they take off. However, NOT TODAY. 

No. Today, not only do the dogs not leave, two of them lay down smack in the middle of the road as if to say, “We aren’t leaving!” I kid you not. For 15 minutes I’m having a stare down with these dogs as I pray. 

Now at this point in the story you may wonder why I didn’t just give up and turn around. Well I’m wondering the same thing but I’m compelled to move forward because the best part of the walk is FORWARD not back (so like our faith walk). So, I decide to take a step forward. And then another. And I begin to walk straight for the pack that is blocking the entire road. I’m fully expecting a barrage of barking and heart pounding and Moses stick waving to ensue with every step. 

I approach. 

They watch. 

I keep a close watch. 

They keep a close watch. 

We eye-ball each other as I’m almost upon them. And somewhere inside me I decide to talk to these mongrels, “Well, good morning. God bless you. Have a good morning. God bless you.” 

I walk right past the first dog, then the next and the next. 

Nothing. 

No barking, no growling, they didn’t even get up from the pavement as I passed them. 

They didn’t move and I walked by the entire bunch. I gained distance on down the road and it was then that the voice of God became impressed upon my mind. “Lynn, I AM always with you. I hear your prayers but I don’t always answer as you would want or as you are expecting. I want you to understand that there are times that you must take that first step of faith. The one tiny step of faith that activates your faith and releases my provision.” 

My friends, I can’t being to understand all the ways of God but this is Joshua Chapter 3 in a modern day setting. Remember with me, the Israelites encountered the power of God and His provision through the Exodus miracles, the parting of the Red Sea, Manna, and a multitude of other supernatural experiences while in the wilderness. But now it was time for the people to cross over into the Promised Land. And on this day in Joshua 3 the people must take a step of faith “before” the miracle. 

The Israelites packed up and left camp. The priests carrying the chest walked in front, 15 until they came to the Jordan River. The water in the river had risen over its banks, as it often does in springtime.But as soon as the feet of the priests touched the water, 16-17 the river stopped flowing, and the water started piling up at the town of Adam near Zarethan. No water flowed toward the Dead Sea, and the priests stood in the middle of the dry riverbed near Jericho while everyone else crossed over. 

Today I experienced that scary but astonishing moment when I watched God calm the beasts around me a make a safe passage for me when I took the first step.

Who knew? It’s wasn’t a river but a bunch of dogs. 

What are you praying for? Could God be waiting for you to take the first step of faith?

 

Have an amazing week and I hope all of you can get out for a walk this week – minus the pack of dogs. Love and hugs, Lynn

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Weekend Worship — Prisoners of Hope

831982_hopeHappy weekend, my friends! First, I want to thank you for your wonderful words of encouragement and prayer on my Wednesday post. I am so thankful for this community that supports and encourages each other. It all points to God and His amazing presence here. You give Him great glory.

I don’t want to make this post about my daughter’s situation but will just say that we know it’s supraventricular tachycardia (SVT) and is very treatable and not uncommon. If I may, I ask only for your prayers that she press into her faith in a deeper way and that she be delivered of all fear. As her mama, I want to see my girl walk into the fullness of the life Jesus has for her. I bet you can relate to that. If I can pray for in like manner for one of your kiddos, leave a comment. That would bless me to pray for you.

Yesterday I stumbled (i.e. God led and I followed and read) on a verse that just ministered to my heart right now in a big way.

Come back to the place of safety, all you prisoners who still have hope! I promise this very day that I will repay two blessings for each of your troubles. — Zechariah 9:12 (NLT)

The NIV refers to those Zechariah is speaking to as “prisoners of hope,” but I love the New Living translation of this verse because of the clarity it gives the repayment of our troubles. Zechariah is speaking to the Jews in Jerusalem who had returned from their captivity in Babylon.

What touched my heart about this?

  • God sees us in our trials and troubles
  • God offers us safety
  • God promises to restore what we’ve lost in double portion

Wow, now that’s the kind of hope that exceeds anything the world can offer us. And I’m standing on this promise. I’ve prayed it over myself and my family, and I am praying it for our SUM community too. I believe Abba not only will but wants to do this for us. That is His great big Daddy-heart for every one of us.

My friend, if you’re struggling to believe this, that’s okay. I do at times as well. God doesn’t expect us to believe perfectly. He wants us to believe He is perfect and can do all things. He is our greatest promise and hope.

Lord, forgive our unbelief and help us believe You and Your promises. Let our lives bring You great glory. In Jesus’ Holy Name, amen.

Have an amazing weekend full of God’s rest and love.
Love you dearly,
Dineen

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Weekend Worship — Prisoners of Hope

831982_hopeHappy weekend, my friends! First, I want to thank you for your wonderful words of encouragement and prayer on my Wednesday post. I am so thankful for this community that supports and encourages each other. It all points to God and His amazing presence here. You give Him great glory.

I don’t want to make this post about my daughter’s situation but will just say that we know it’s supraventricular tachycardia (SVT) and is very treatable and not uncommon. If I may, I ask only for your prayers that she press into her faith in a deeper way and that she be delivered of all fear. As her mama, I want to see my girl walk into the fullness of the life Jesus has for her. I bet you can relate to that. If I can pray for in like manner for one of your kiddos, leave a comment. That would bless me to pray for you.

Yesterday I stumbled (i.e. God led and I followed and read) on a verse that just ministered to my heart right now in a big way.

Come back to the place of safety, all you prisoners who still have hope! I promise this very day that I will repay two blessings for each of your troubles. — Zechariah 9:12 (NLT)

The NIV refers to those Zechariah is speaking to as “prisoners of hope,” but I love the New Living translation of this verse because of the clarity it gives the repayment of our troubles. Zechariah is speaking to the Jews in Jerusalem who had returned from their captivity in Babylon.

What touched my heart about this?

  • God sees us in our trials and troubles
  • God offers us safety
  • God promises to restore what we’ve lost in double portion

Wow, now that’s the kind of hope that exceeds anything the world can offer us. And I’m standing on this promise. I’ve prayed it over myself and my family, and I am praying it for our SUM community too. I believe Abba not only will but wants to do this for us. That is His great big Daddy-heart for every one of us.

My friend, if you’re struggling to believe this, that’s okay. I do at times as well. God doesn’t expect us to believe perfectly. He wants us to believe He is perfect and can do all things. He is our greatest promise and hope.

Lord, forgive our unbelief and help us believe You and Your promises. Let our lives bring You great glory. In Jesus’ Holy Name, amen.

Have an amazing weekend full of God’s rest and love.
Love you dearly,
Dineen

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Chronicles of the Donovan Clan

Stacked RocksThe Chronicles of the Donovan Clan began as a continuing story line of my husband’s faith journey as well as my children. As I think back upon some of the outrageous events God has orchestrated in my pre-believer’s life, I giggle and I ponder them in my heart as Mary pondered thoughts of Jesus in her heart. 

It’s been a while since I gave an update but something curious happened yesterday that I believe is a worthy story that will encourage you as you wait for your unsaved family to find faith. 

For those of you who are new to our community, let me bring you quickly up to speed. My son, daughter-in-law and one-year-old granddaughter recently moved in with us. They are relocating to California from another state. So our house has been crazed with one year old antics, crowded living and the stresses of two married couples trying to figure out boundaries. Actually I think the transition has gone way better than expected. And this little girl… Oh my heavens, she is hilarious and a blast. But atlas those are stories for another day. 

So with this in mind, let me set the stage. Many of you know that I go on a walk-n-pray every morning for about an hour. I walk in the wine country among vineyards and open spaces, by homes and pastures. It’s divine and I meet my Papa out there and we chat, I worship, I talk with Him and He with me. It’s the best part of my life. 

Also to set the stage my husband received a new work assignment that begins Monday. He will be traveling every week until the end of the year. Out on a Monday, home on Friday. This assignment has been described to my husband as very difficult, the work environment is hostile, and the project is off course. Oh yea! (sarcasm intentional) So of course, I have been praying for my husband and this new assignment. And as I was praying yesterday I clearly heard the Spirit impress on my mind this thought. Yes, this assignment will be difficult, especially in the beginning, but your husband will make friends there and it will work out. 

Wow! 

Later that morning I found myself sitting at the kitchen table with my husband and my daughter-in-law. The chit-chat was casual as we sipped coffee. But all of a sudden the Holy Spirit reminded me about my husband’s work assignment. 

I gathered myself and I said this, “Mike, I wanted to tell you that God said to me this morning that Yes, this assignment will be difficult, especially in the beginning, but your will make friends there and it will work out.” 

NOW… This may not be a big deal to some of you. But for many who are married to unbeliever’s even mentioning God can open a door to conflict. But in our house this kind of conversation has now become common place. 

I often share with my husband what God speaks to me. Or share what happens when I go to pray at the healing rooms. I also turn on worship music in the kitchen and it plays all day while I’m in my home office and he’s in his. 

Say what??? 

I mean even ten years ago I would never do this. I was afraid of the fights. Afraid of the conflict over our music choices. Fearful and weary of battling for my faith. I wonder if any of you can relate? 

Part of my fear and hesitancy to stand in my faith at home stemmed from my own doubts. I wasn’t certain about a lot of things. And it is likely that if we are honest, many of us live in this place right now. And that’s okay. Faith is a journey. But there are two central questions of faith that when you settle them firmly in your mind and heart your mismatched journey will begin to change. 

Do you believe who God says He is?
Do you believe who God says you are? 

After may years I feel confident that I’m firmly rooted in the truth of the Word of God and I know that I know what it says about God and about me. When I settled this matter in my soul, my fear of condemnation by my spouse, by anyone fled. I’m not worried about an eye-roll from my spouse or a cruel word he might speak when I mention my faith. 

I’m sharing this change in the Donovan Clan house because if God brings about a softening in my husband’s heart, He can and will do it in your home. This process is long and patience and prayer is your ally. But I promise you that when you are consistent and filled with the love and power of the Holy Spirit, you too will sit at your kitchen table one day and share the miraculous with your spouse. 

So, you might ask how do I settle these two questions in my heart? It’s relationship. Spend time with God. Come to Him like a child and chat with Him. Carve out time and read His Word. Allow the Word to challenge your doubts and silence the voice of the enemy. Replace those old doubts with God’s love and truths. Pray and ask God to settle these questions in your soul. 

Our struggle is Identity. And today our Lord God says, “I want you to believe who I say your that you are.” 

My friends, your identity is key to thriving in your mismatched marriage. And God’s Word is full of confirmations of who you are in Christ. Visit our Resource page on Mismatched and Thriving (click here). Print this out and when you feel weak in faith, or facing conflict with your spouse, when you have doubts, or just need to feel the love of our Father wash over you, go into your room, shut the door, and read this card out loud. I’m betting you will feel a change in the atmosphere. 


As I conclude this Chronicles update, I will tell you that I don’t know what my husband does with all of the things I share with him. Does he believe I’m wacked? Does he file the miracles I share with him away in a mental file to deal with them later? Does he listen but not hear? I’m not really sure. God doesn’t allow me to see into his faith journey. But for me……. 

If I don’t share the astonishing God encounters I have with my best friend on earth, the very rocks would cry out!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 

"I tell you," he (Jesus) replied, "if they keep quiet, the stones will cry out." ~Luke 19:40 

And I believe that as I grow in my confidence to share my faith, God is moving in my pre-believers life. 

CONVERSATION:           

Can you share with me a time you gathered your courage and shared your faith with your pre-believer? What happened. See you in the comments. 

I love you my friends. Have an amazing week in His Presence. Hugs, Lynn

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Standing on God’s Promises

STA_0993My friends as I sit here and write this post, my family and I are facing some pretty tall mountains. If you read the blog Saturday, you know I wound up in the ER Friday morning due to a bad reaction to a medication (thank you so much for your prayers and encouragement!). I’m grateful to be okay, but still face this challenge to find what my body needs to get back in balance.

And what I haven’t shared as of yet is that Tuesday afternoon we will see a cardiologist to get a better picture of what is going on with my youngest daughter’s heart. I share this because so many of you prayed for us when Leslie was diagnosed with a cancer in 2008. As of last month she has been cancer free for five years, praise God! So now I’m trusting Abba again with this new challenge in her health.

Sometimes the mountains in front of us can seem so large, insurmountable and impossible to climb over. Our challenges in our mismatched marriage may seem impossible to overcome (or even endless), especially when we’ve been praying and waiting for God’s promises to come for a long time. Or we fret and worry about raising our children to know Jesus in our mismatch along with a world that seems to come against us at every angle.

The thing about mountains is we see only the uphill climb we face, but we know there is another side that will take us back down to safety, normal, or whatever we are praying and hoping for. Yet God sees the whole thing. He knows the best route for us to overcome (as we are designed to be overcomers!) and He is constantly by our side to lead the way. And His promises are like that mountain. We may not see them yet. but they’re there. We can walk in that truth and believe itI know that may be hard at times to believe, because we get caught up in whether or not we feel it. But I’m learning that it’s not about whether we feel it, but whether we believe God. Two things Jesus says so often are “I tell you the truth” and “believe.”

It’s about trusting Jesus and believing His promises even when we can’t make sense of it all. In fact, the Word even tells us not to lean on our own understanding but to trust God instead. And it’s okay to have doubts. It’s what we do with them that matters. When we bring them to Jesus He is quick to respond in whatever way we need. I will share an example of how this happened a couple weeks ago.

I was walking my dog and praying to Abba about all the challenges that seem to have cropped up all at once and crying out to Him to help me understand. My nature is to analyze—even to over analyze—to find the reason and then identify a solution. There must be a solution somewhere, right? An action to take and fix it?

So far my answers had come in a simple, “Trust Me.” But I was desperate for more this particular day. I continued down a sidewalk I’d walked on hundreds of times and no longer noticed the nuances and words left in the cement from years past.

As I walked and cried out to Jesus for answers and reassurances, I heard Him again but a little more this time.

“This will end soon. I promise.”


And as I heard His those last two words, I looked down where I stood and in the cement were the words, “I promise.” (I took this picture of it and taped a copy of it in my journal.)

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Even when we don’t have all the answers, when we don’t understand the whys, when we can’t see the solutions, God’s promises stand stronger and taller than those mountains we face. And I’m learning what we feel (doubt, discouragement, etc.) does not diminish His promises either. Or His love and favor for us. They stand no matter what because that is who our God is.

So when you are struggling to find answers, ask Abba for His promises instead. Reach for your Bible and ask the Holy Spirit to show them to you. There are so many about His love for us, His heart for us, His care for us. I’ve been filling the pages of my journal with the ones that speak to me each day and to go back and read them reaffirms each truth and plants them deep in my spirit.

Mountains come and go, but God promises stand forever.

Love you dearly, my friends!
Dineen

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Two Powerful and Practical Words To Thrive In A Spiritual Mismatch

Good Monday Morning. We have some new friends joining us this week. Welcome to our family everyone who found us through the FamilyLife Broadcasts last week. AND... 

Welcome to the friends from the House of Women Living Well www.womenlivingwell.com

You have found a humble and hopeful home here in our little spot on the web. There are many of us who make up this amazing family and we have two things to tell you. You are safe here. You are family here.

So join us today and find a home where we ordinary wives and mothers, far from perfect, often goofy, filled with the love of Jesus and in relentless pursuit of the Presence of God.

I thought it would be really great if we could share two things that we have discovered in our faith walk that has impacted our spiritually mismatched marriages and brought about positive change and hope. So in the comments, SUMites and visitors, tell me what God has shown you that makes walking this kind of faith journey a little bit easier and joyful.

I have two thoughts I want to share.

One) Don't save your husband. Save yourself.

Say What??? 

I spent way too many years thinking that it was my personal mission to save my husband. I thought it was completely up to me to see that my man found Jesus. Sheesh! What an idiot. I don't need to save my husband. Jesus is completely capable of reaching my man at any time in any way. I need only to trust in heaven's timing and to love him as Christ loves him.

Ahem!... What a bunch of wasted time and effort in my early years of marriage..... *grin*

Two) Love God...

Yep, it's that simple. When you love God with all of your heart, mind, soul and strength, loving others becomes, oh so much easier. Forgiveness comes easier. Laughter, joy and adventure follow closely behind. (Spend time with His Son and the Spirit. read His Word and talk to Him all day long.)

I started this lil' ole' blog eight years ago hoping and praying that others will find healing for their unequally yoked marriage years before I did. I don't want one person to waste as much time and frustrated effort as I did. 

Believe the truth of God's Word. Ephesians 2:6-7 God raised us up with Christ and seated us with him in the heavenly realms in Christ Jesus,7 in order that in the coming ages he might show the incomparable riches of his grace, expressed in his kindness to us in Christ Jesus.

It's all in the viewpoint. And my friends, I'm seated with Christ. I have a bird's eye perspective on my life and marriage. Changes everything.

Conversation: Share two things that your faith has brought to your marriage.

I love you my friends. I really love you, Lynn

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Weekend Worship

Hey Gang,

So our Dineen had a reaction yesterday to some medication and ended up in the ER. She is fine now. Just really, really tired. So, I'm filling in the gap today.

I want to share a really quick story with you. My daughter, Caitie, who is attending BIOLA University, a Christian college in LA, is this week at the university they are having Missionary Week. The students hear from many different missions and missionaries.

One speaker in particular stood out to my daughter. Not because of her mission but because of a single sentence. 

"Mom, she said that comparison steals our joy."

"Caitie, that is absolutely right. Comparison, competition and condemnation.They are the deadly. Three- C's in women's lives."

So True! 

Have an amazing weekend my friends. This weekend the Donovan Clan is celebrating our 22 year wedding anniversary and our little Elise-e-bears first birthday. Woo. Hoo.

Love you my friends. Spend time in worship and don't let the devil steal your joy today. Hugs, Lynn

 

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It's About A Wedding. It's About Covenant

image from www.spirituallyunequalmarriage.comMy friends, today I want to finish my story that began a few weeks ago. Here are the links to the previous posts:

 It's All About A Wedding

 What Is Covenant? And I Propose???

If you remember I shared with you how Dineen and I met, the journey of our friendship and our ministry beginnings. Let me pick up now where I left off. In January Dineen and I attended a conference together and it was on the last night of the conference, I heard God speak to me heart, “Lynn, you need to wash Dineen’s feet.” I will remind you that for a month God focused my heart and study on learning about covenant. Finally, this was the night God called me to put my faith into action. 

So as we arrived back at our hotel at 11:00 p.m., I said to Dineen, “I just heard God tell me to wash your feet.” She looked at me. 

“But, I know we are both too tired right now to do that. Let’s get some sleep,” I said. 

The next morning, however, in the shower, I clearly hear the Lord speak again, “Wash her feet.” 

“Okay, Lord, I will wash her feet.” 

I finished getting ready and packed my suitcase to leave. I say to Dineen, “God told me again this morning, to wash your feet. Since you have just had a shower, I’m going to remove your shoes and rub lotion on your feet.” 

She sat down. I removed her shoes. I kneeled before her and I spoke looking up into her eyes and I made a covenant before God to always love Dineen and to protect our friendship. She got teary. I got teary. We then wiped our eyes and giggled. 

Then it was off to the airport. 

My friends, within days the entire army of hell was deployed to destroy us. So much came at us and our friendship that I could have never anticipated. But we have persevered. Why, because I have sworn an oath before God that I would always love Dineen. 

Satan HATES covenant. He hates it because God’s relationships are covenant, blood-bought, eternal relationships. That’s why our adversary deploys relentless pressure, temptation, confusion, and evil into our world to destroy marriage and family. It’s marriage and family that model God’s Kingdom family. Do you see this? 

The minute I spoke into the realms that I was entering into a covenant relationship, WHAM! Targeted and arsenals delivered….  Selah! 

It’s covenant that scares the devil. Because God is Covenant. 

God will never leave us nor forsake us. And He wants the same for our relationships with one another on earth. Because it’s covenant-commitments that UNIFY the Bride, defeat the enemy and change the world. 

I’m reminded of Kris Vallatton’s words from the conference:

*So many people are looking for their destiny when they should be looking for their people (family).
*What began as an accident needs to be now done on purpose.
*Cohabitating: You are in it for what you get.
*Covenant: You are in it for what you give.
*Find your family. 

Covenant relationship is not for the faint of heart. You can’t withstand the devil’s assaults if you aren’t equipped with the love of God first. Covenant relationship with God empowers you to enter into covenant with people. And I’m convinced that when we stick in there with a difficult marriage, or any covenant relationship, you will reap the blessings that come from triumph. Covenant relationship flies in the face of everything our culture preaches. Our throw away, I’m done with you, society cannot understand this kind of love and commitment. But God is looking to His people to model a love that doesn’t make since. A love that is patient, and a love that is kind. A love that does not envy, that does not boast, and is not proud.  It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. A love that does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. A Love that always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. (1 Corinthians 13) 

Today, it’s imperative that you pray, right here and now for your covenant relationships. Please pray in the comments and I will contend with you for your relationships, your marriage and family. 

I love you my SUMite family. I truly love you, Lynn

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Never Alone

IStock_000018235413XSmallI remember a day years ago, sitting in a restaurant with our church youth group. I watched and smiled as they talked and joked around. And as I sat there in the midst of this group, I felt totally alone.

I’d recently jumped in to church with gusto but my husband hadn’t. He’d decided to go quite the opposite direction—atheism.

So there I sat in a room full of people who knew me, yet I felt this loneliness, a longing to be known and understood. And a longing to share my growing faith with my husband.

Times of loneliness seem to enter our lives at times for various reasons, but in a spiritual mismatch it can be even more challenging as we wait for God to work in our marriage and on our pre-believer’s heart.

Something I found so comforting in years past is that this longing to be known is part of our faith DNA.

He has made everything beautiful in its time. He has also set eternity in the human heart; yet no one can fathom what God has done from beginning to end. — Ecclesiastes 3:11

God has a longing to be known. And just as we want to be known, He wants us to know Him. Thus our need to be known mirrors the Creators very heart for His children—us.

For now we see in a mirror dimly, but then face to face; now I know in part, but then I will know fully just as I also have been fully known. But now faith, hope, love, abide these three; but the greatest of these is love. — 1 Corinthians 13:12-13

Over the years that loneliness has diminished more and more in the light of Abba’s great love. He’s shown me that often times the thing I long for most is Him, to know Jesus as my best friend and to have that intimacy. I think my greatest challenge as been to truly believe Abba loves me that much AND to truly believe that NOTHING can separate me from His love (Romans 8:38-39), not even my mismatched marriage or my doubts.

God loves all His children vastly, deeply and completely no matter what kind of marriage or place we are in. And His heart is to know us because He longs for us to know Him.

Now no matter where I sit I know I’m not alone. We never stand (or sit) alone. Jesus is always there!

If you haven’t had a chance to listen to our broadcasts this week on FamilyLife Today, hop over and be encouraged! Our hearts and prayers are always for you, my friends.

And if you want a little chuckle, check out my post "The Spiritual Disconnect" on our MismatchedandThriving.com site. It’s a hilarious story of how I watched an episode of Big Bang Theory with my husband one evening and the discovery made that evening.

Love and hugs to you!

Dineen

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An Unlikely Family Shows Up At The Movies

Hello SUMite Family: 

SonofGodIt’s a sunny Sunday afternoon here at the Donovan Clan House as I write this post. I’ve just returned home from the movie theater where I watched the movie, Son of God

I’m in my office alone right now, a rare accomplishment these days as my son, daughter-in-law and granddaughter who is almost a year old, moved in recently. It’s quiet at this moment and I’m able to hear the voice of the Lord as He is speaking so much to me. 

He’s pointing out that He just answered some long spoken prayers of my heart. Some of these deep longings I have prayed over for as long as I’ve been married. And as I sit here and consider what happened today I’m moved to tears again. Let me explain. 

Since my marriage to my “pre-believer” husband 22 years ago this Friday, I have so desperately wanted him to be part of my faith life. I’ve wanted so much to sit together in church. To discuss the Bible and learn about Jesus together. I’ve wanted to look like all the other families at church. I wanted to fit in. But for 22 years I have often felt like the odd ball, the third wheel, and like I will never rest comfortably in the family of God. 

But today….. Oh TODAY….. What God can do with an ordinary day. You see, I attended the movie, Son of God, with “my family.” A real family that loves me and who also loves Jesus. It wasn’t my husband but God sent me a family anyway. There were five of us who walked into the theater together. An eclectic group of family members who all wanted to go to the movie with me. ….. with me….. Can you believe it? 

Two of the women were 25 years old. Who knew young women wanted to hang out with a grandma. There were two women that were in their 30’s and then me… Ahem. I’m a bit older. But I am overwhelmed that God has put a family around me that wants to share my faith. Who wants to go to see a movie about Jesus. Who loves Jesus and loves me, who loves one another. God whispers to me, “Lynn, I know you have surrendered many of your hopes and wishes but I have given them all back to you and more.” 

Gulp…. And Wow.. 

And how I know they are truly my family members is because we were supposed to attend the movie last weekend but I ended up taking my daughter to urgent care last Sunday instead. 

They waited….. 

They waited for me. They waited for a woman who is twice their age. A woman who is ordinary. A woman who wants to love Jesus and love people. 

I’m undone by the love of God. I’m undone by the love of this unlikely family God has given me. I’m undone by my family here in the House of SUM. 

My friends, as I sit at my computer contemplating it all, I hear the voice of God speaking to you, “My daughter, my son, you have also surrendered many of your dreams. Your hopes have been crushed and you perceive no way out of the pit you are in. I see the sacrifices, the pain you have endured and the lost and broken family that you crave. But, I promise you that your prayers are urgent in my ears. My Son paid the price for your redemption and the redemption of your family. And I declare that by His suffering, your redemption is full. All that you have surrendered, all that has been taken from you by the enemy….. WILL BE RESTORED.” 

My friends, today is living proof that God restores. I have a family who shares my faith! 

And as I write to you now I feel as though God has opened the heavens and shouts:

For the joy set before him he endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God. (Hebrews 12:2) 

I watched the movie earlier today and nearly cried through most of it. I cried because to me, it’s not a story. It’s not just a movie. It’s real…. Jesus IS the Son of God. He is real. He lived. He was tortured, crucified, died and rose for ME… It was for the joy set before Him that He went to the cross to give us a family. A family that will be ours forever. It was for the joy set before Him that we are healed of our loneliness, our diseases, our bitterness, our broken hearts. It was for the joy set before him that he died for us and for our unsaved spouses. 

Oh Glory….. Let’s fall more in love with our Jesus. He LIVES! He is our restorer. He will pursue our unsaved family members relentlessly and He gives us a family, even an unlikely one. 

The blessings and answers to prayer often arrive in an unlikely and unexpected manner. Look around you. What is He doing in your life today? The Son of God has changed everything in my life. He is the Word. The Alpha and Omega. The Beginning and the End. He is my family and my redemption. 

He is my hope. 

He is love. 

I adore you my family of SUMites. I care for you. I love you. And if I knew I could save just one person from the fires of hell, I too, would go to the cross. May you today be anointed with an overflowing love and power of the Holy Spirit this very hour. Love, your unlikely family member, Lynn

 

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Weekend Worship — The Throne of Grace

Therefore, since we have a great high priest who has ascended into heaven, Jesus the Son of God, let us hold firmly to the faith we profess. For we do not have a high priest who is unable to empathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are —yet he did not sin. Let us then approach God’s throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need. — Hebrews 4:14-16

On morning as I woke up, I heard Jesus say to my heart, “Come learn about My grace.”

I’d been reading in Hebrews and the verse above had caught my attention, namely the confidence part, not a place I’ve excelled in. LOL!

As I sat with Abba that morning and sought His heart, I believe He wanted me to understand that approaching the throne of grace was about belief—believing that I have this “right” as a co-heir in Christ and that Abba sincerely wants me to because He loves me.

Abba wants us to know and believe that His “door is always open,” because His love for us is unchanging and unending, no matter what’s going on in our lives.

For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord. — Rom 8:38-39

Amazingly, and so very much God, Abba led me to verse after verse that week that spoke more about the confidence He wants us to have to approach Him for whatever we need.

In him and through faith in him we may approach God with freedom and confidence. — Ephesians 3:12

Because of his grace he declared us righteous and gave us confidence that we will inherit eternal life. — Titus 3:7 NLT

And my God will supply all your needs according to His riches in glory in Christ Jesus. — Philippians 4:19

This is the confidence we have in approaching God: that if we ask anything according to his will, he hears us. And if we know that he hears us—whatever we ask—we know that we have what we asked of him. — 1 John 5:14-15

I’m still grasping what all this means, my friends. Yesterday as I prayed and asked Abby for more understanding, He told me, “My grace and love are inseparable.”

Wow, what confidence we can have in that! Amen?

Have any thoughts to share on what the throne of grace means to you? Please share in the comments! I can’t wait to hear your thoughts.

Have an amazing weekend drenched in Abba’s supernatural abundant grace and love!
Dineen

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The Most Unusual Interview

Good Friday Morning my friends, 

I want to tell you what happened when I asked Dineen to marry me. *grin*. I didn’t really ask her to marry me but I did do something extraordinary. But I must move the end of that story to next Friday. 

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Today I want to give you a heads up. Dineen and I flew to Arkansas in January. We were privileged to be guests again on FamilyLife Radio with Dennis Rainey and Bob Lepine. These interviews were unlike all of our others. 

Now It’s hard for me to remember all the topics we discussed but I know we tackled pornography and marriage. The difficulty and hope for raising kids. I know I had a very unexpected response to this question: What would you say to an unbelieving spouse who is listening to this broadcast right now. 

Dineen and I have very different answers but when you put them together they were a perfect reply to this question. 

Please find a station near you and listen in beginning Monday, March 10. Then again on Tuesday and our final interview is on Wednesday. 

Here is a link to the FamilyLife site

Here is a link to LAST YEAR’S interviews (click here)

And more than anything, please pray for those who are feeling alone in their mismatched marriage. There have been so many private emails this week that have torn my heart. There are so many who need a fresh word of hope from our Great King. And pray for all the newbies who will find this amazing family on the web next week. 

I love you my friends. Have an amazing week in His Presence. Hugs, Lynn

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God Used $20 To Build My Faith

IStock_000000221558SmallHappy Wednesday, SUMites! It's so good to be back! Special thanks again to Teresa T. for her amazing posts and all she shared with us.

I have a story for you today, one that happened while Lynn and I were at the prophetic conference the end of January. I've been looking forward to telling you about this one, because it was a huge moment in my faith journey.

It was Friday evening and the last speaker was Chuck Pierce. This was the first time I'd heard the man I'd heard much about speak and I was not disappointed. He spoke with great authority and power, using Scripture constantly. But what stood (and still stands out) was the call for an offering at the end of this speech. I can't even remember what the cause was, but I know it was something I wanted to help with and had something to do with children.

I pulled out my wallet and bit my lip. I had brought enough cash for food for the week and had come with the understanding that I could buy any books. Not an easy feat! I estimated quickly what I would need for the last couple days of my trip and pulled out the three one dollar bills. I would do what I could...

But as I listened to Chuck Pierce speak about trusting God and that this was what he believed to be a pivotal time to walk in that trust, I thought about the dollar bills clutched in my hand. We'd heard stories all week about how God had not only provided but even exceeded expectation. Kris Vallotton shared one story of how he gave the last $200 he had to feed his family that week to a couple who needed rent money. Later that day a man walked in his office and put $200 on his desk and explained that God told him to bring it to Kris. Wow!

I knew in my heart, I wanted to experience that kind of faith, but more importantly, I didn't want to look back at this moment and wonder if I had trusted God or myself. I didn't want any regrets. I snatched my wallet back out and exchanged the ones for a twenty, reasoning I could do without a meal or just make do with a snack. Not a problem. I would trust God. When the bucket came around, I dropped that twenty in and enjoyed a sense of peace and confidence that I'd stepped out in faith and Abba would take care of the rest.

The next morning we listened to Che Ahn. He shared amazing stories of how God provided for him, his family and the beginnings of this powerhouse of a church (HRock). He shared one of the books he wrote about breaking the spirit of poverty off of your family and I so wanted to know more. This man even generously offered it as a gift we couldn't afford to buy it.

When we came back from our lunch break I heard that Che Ahn had put many books out as gifts for attendees. I rushed over but the book I wanted wasn't there. A woman at the table said they still had it in audio book on the other table. I told her I couldn't spend the money right now and had only what I needed for meals.

I walked back toward the sanctuary. Before I got inside I felt a hand on my arm. I turned around. The woman I just spoken to smiled at me and pressed money into my hand. She said she felt she was supposed to bless me with this. I looked down and it was a twenty dollar bill!

I burst into tears. Here I held proof of God's provision. But it spoke even louder to my hungry heart of Abba's great love for me. And later that day, I this verse was specifically spoken over and to me:

And my God will supply all your needs according to His riches in glory in Christ Jesus. — Philippians 4:19

My friends, you know what's so amazing in addition to these amazing ways God wants to work in our lives? The meaning behind His Holy Word. Just a week ago I was studying the names of Jesus and started with "Almighty, with a reference to a Scripture in Revelations.

“I am the Alpha and the Omega,” says the Lord God, “ who is and who was and who is to come, the Almighty.” — Revelation 1:8

The word "Almighty" comes from two Greek words. The first part (Al-) is "pas" and is the same exact word used in Phil 4:19 for "all."

In other words, all means ALL in the Bible (the list of definitions alone is extensive and all encompassing) and connects to our Almighty, Jesus. That's huge!

So today, my friends, I want you to think about what ALL means for you. Speak to your Abba about your needs and ask Him to help you trust Him at a new level for whatever that need may be—financially, like mine was, or anything else that is burdening you.

As you pray, consider writing it down in a journal and dating it, and write down whatever you feel Abba impresses upon you. He keeps His word and His Word says He will supply ALL our needs according to His riches (love for us), not our limited expectations or humanly defined supply of possibilities.

That is Good News indeed! Love you dearly, my friends!
Dineen

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What Is Covenant? and.. I Propose!

image from www.spirituallyunequalmarriage.comI’m picking up from last Monday… It’s all about a wedding. 

My friends, our relationships are about covenant. It’s about having a family. Covenant relationship - is our unity. Jesus desires the unity of believers. 

John 17: Jesus Prays for All Believers 

20 “My prayer is not for them alone. I pray also for those who will believe in me through their message, 21 that all of them may be one, Father, just as you are in me and I am in you. May they also be in us so that the world may believe that you have sent me. 22 I have given them the glory that you gave me, that they may be one as we are one— 23 I in them and you in me—so that they may be brought to complete unity. Then the world will know that you sent me and have loved them even as you have loved me. 

The unity of the Body is the death blow to the enemy. That is why the devil works so hard to destroy family, marriages, and relationships with in His Church (The Bride). 

So how do we live in covenant? What is covenant? With whom do we make covenant? 

I have been on a discovery journey seeking answers to these questions. And just as I’m asking God about covenant and I’m thinking of only my covenant with Him and the covenant of marriage, I heard God clearly say to me, “You need to be in covenant with Dineen.” 

Say What? Marry Dineen Miller???? 

Ahem. 

Weird!! 

I started to ponder these words that God gave me. And I absolutely believe that God spoke this word to me as He knew the devil would try to come between the two of us and destroy our relationship. And I have a lot to tell you because the devil did exactly that. But before we get to that saga, I want to bring you into an amazing love story that some of you have probably heard before and I’m thinking many of you haven’t. 

Now please don’t think this is a weird story but it’s truly a joining of two lives through the love and wisdom of our Great God. Here is our beginning history for those of you who don’t know it. 

Lynn & Dineen. 

In May, 2006 I was just in the discovery stage of this “writing thing.” For some bazaar reason God placed a curiosity in my head about sharing my story of overcoming the many challenges of living in a marriage with a pre-believer. I wanted to help those on the journey behind me. 

I didn’t ever consider myself a “true” writer but I LOVE stories. I love to hear stories. I love to tell stories. It’s no wonder I love the Bible. It’s filled with the best stories. So, with great fear and trembling I found myself at a Writer’s Conference trying to figure out this whole writing thing. It was at that conference that I sat at a table with a group of ladies and they were discussing blogging. Say what? What is blogging? Well as I sat there at the table it’s one of the first times I heard with absolute clarity the voice of God. He said, “You are going to do this. You are going to do this.” I whispered to myself, “I’m going to do this.” I went home. And in minutes the blog…… Spiritually Unequal Marriage was born. 

Ta Da! 

Dineen was one of my first readers thanks to Camy Tang who was one of the women at the table encouraging me to become a blogger. She connected us. Dineen’s heart was stirred at the same time to write about living unequally yoked. She offered to help me blog. I said, “I need help. Come on aboard.” 

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Dineen and I (Lynn) our first meeting.

We wrote for the next four years together. We had never met face-to-face. Only once at a conference in her city where I met her for less than two minutes. Time to hug her neck and snap a photo. 

We were born to be together and I know many of you have heard me declare that Dineen is my Jerry McGuire. She completes me. She is the voice of “slow down” when I want to rush. She is thorough when I’m “Big Picture.” She is calm. I’m crazed. She is tall. I’m short. Brunette, I’m blonde. She has a good memory. Me not so much. 

And I complete her. I’m fearless, she is shy. I’m will get us into crazy adventures. She’s always willing to follow. I will pray down heaven. She ushers love and compassion to people. We make such a unique team that I get all teary with eternal thankfulness for our partnership. 

We worked with love in our hearts for all of you, for our God and for each other in the early years of our ministry. And you know what? We still do. That is the absolute priority and joy for us. You, God and each other. 

We completed our first manuscript, Winning Him Without Words, in 2010. And it was August of that year that Dineen and I would, for the first time, spend a few days together as we needed to meet with our publisher prior to printing. So, four years into our amazing friendship, we met. I picked her up from the airport. It could have been weird. Awkward. But no. Gang, we just picked right up where we left of in our phone conversations and it’s been an amazing friendship. A friendship with a woman I never knew I was capable of experiencing, or giving or receiving. Wow! Our God is like that. He shows me so many things I didn’t think were possible. 

Okay, I have so much more to tell you about this but this post is already almost a 1,000 words long. Sheesh! So up next….. 

I propose to Dineen Miller….. (good grief. I can’t even believe I just typed that *grin*) 

Sheesh! This story is getting weirder by the minute. But I promise you will want to hear how this plays out. 

For today, my friends, I know that we spend a lot of time in this House discussion our marriage relationships. And we should as they are critical and oh, so very important. But I also think we need to consider the friendship God has given us. I know my friendships with other Godly women were vital in the early years of my marriage. I needed friends to fill in the loneliness. I needed friends to help me learn about Jesus. I needed significant friendships to share my struggles and hopes. 

So today, I ask you to consider a few significant friendships God has placed in your life at key periods of time and especially today. Who are they? Why are they in your life? Do you see God in this relationship? Is it a relationship that is eternal? Is it covenant worthy? Give thanks today for those who are covenant worthy. Call them and thank them. Send them a card in the “real” mail. Let them know how they were used by God to help you when you needed it most. 

Please hear me now. I truly, with every fiber of my being, love you my SUMites. Many have come and gone through this house over the years and I have loved each of you. I have carried your burdens, your tears, your hope and your triumphs in my heart with love and trembling. I have prayed with power and love for you. I enter into a love relationship with you and I long for the day we meet…… face-to-face. I long for the thousands of years we will stand next to one another in worship before the throne. 

Have an amazing week, your covenant sister in Christ. Lynn 

In the comments, please tell me about one person in your life you feel has shared covenant love with you. See you in the comments. I will be praying with you today too.

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Weekend Worship — We are Surrounded!

SunbowwithPlaneHello my beautiful friends! I'm so glad I'll be back full swing next week. I've missed you all so much.

I've dipped into the comments frequently just to keep connected to you all and discovered many of us have been hit with more spiritual warfare these last few weeks. This has pushed me to dig deeper into God's Word, and I’ve filled my journal with pages and pages of these truths and promises. and I believe this kind of increase in warfare is indicative to a coming breakthrough, so don't be discouraged! A holy expectation fuels my prayers, and I pray that for you too.

But I want to share something Abba showed me last week. I was on my prayer walk with my wacky dog River, and talking to Abba about all that was on my heart. I was a bit weary that day, to be honest. I've never had to war and pray in the spiritual realm to this degree, my friends.

As I walk I love to look up in the sky and as I did this, I noticed another sunbow! A sunbow is like a rainbow but it completely circles the sun like a bright ring. Sometimes you'll see colors too. Abba seems to love to send me sunbows, so I received it with a smile and affirmation that He was hearing me.

But He didn't stop there. As I looked up, I noticed an airplane, small and black flying toward the sunbow (I created this picture to show you what I saw). As I watched Abba spoke to my heart that the bright sun in the middle is Him and I'm there with Him, and the ring of light is Him surrounding me. We shine brightly together.

See that little black speck to the right of the sun? That’s an airplane, in case you can’t tell. LOL! Now this airplane looks big and daunting on its own, but so tiny next to this bright ball of light. Really, itty bitty. From my perspective I watched the plane fly by the sun, not too close either. Abba told me that was the enemy, so small and insignificant in comparison to Him and I together. In fact, the enemy can't even get close or he'll burn up.

My friends, this so comforted my heart and spoke to my soul. When I've hit just a hint of discouragement since that day, I hear Abba say, "Remember the plane."

I do and I am restrengthened. It's a beautiful picture and one I want to share with you. Our powerful Daddy is with us wherever we are and surrounding us, always. The enemy will try to appear much larger and threatening, but remember the plane. Compared to Abba, he's tiny and insignificant.

Here are some of the Scriptures that hold even more meaning for me in light of this beautiful picture. I speak them out loud and pray them back to Abba. I pray they strengthen and encourage you too!

I love you, my SUM family. So very much. See you next week!
Dineen

You, dear children, are from God and have overcome them, because the one who is in you is greater than the one who is in the world. — 1 John 4:4
I have given you authority to trample on snakes and scorpions and to overcome all the power of the enemy; nothing will harm you. — Luke 10:19
I know the Lord is always with me. I will not be shaken, for he is right beside me. — Psalms 16:8

(I searched this song on YouTube and found this one full of Scriptures with the song. The mind blow was seeing many of the same Scriptures I have been writing in my journal! Plus new ones to write down too. Oh, my dear friends, God is so GOOOOOD! Hop over to YouTube and watch it there if it won't let you here. Hugs!)

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