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21 entries from January 2012

Our Place of Influence: Where do we choose to stand?

When I try to explain to someone the role of influence we hold in our husband’s lives, it’s almost too difficult to put into words what I sense so deeply in my heart. I will say it is something I feel very passionate about. As women, we hold a very important place in the lives of our family. In many ways, as wives and mothers, we are the heart of our family. We influence the mood, the routines and the relationships of everyone in our home. We have a wonderful biblical example in the story of Esther. Did you know she was unequally yoked? She was a Jewess married to a Persian King—a pagan. Talk about finding yourself in a mismatched marriage and a unique situation, right? Yet if you follow the story, Esther finds herself suddenly in a position to influence her husband for the sake of her people.... Read more →

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COURAGE

It was a week ago Saturday night. Dineen and I sat in our jammies on the family room couch after our morning together at Sandals Church. We avoided the greasy popcorn and pulled the box of Kleenex close then hit the play button on the remote. COURAGEOUS The movie rolled for the next two hours. We wept. And at the same time we were filled with hope. I don't know about you but watching this movie and the movie Fireproof which was also produced by the same people, is difficult and I think especially so for all of us who are spiritually mismatched. Watching Fireproof reduced me to a puddle of blubbers and that doesn't happen too often to this gal. That yearning for our unbelieving spouse to one day know Jesus and to stand up and lead our home is always hidden right under the surface. I shut off... Read more →

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Weekend Devo — The Gift of God’s Word

“When he takes the throne of his kingdom, he is to write for himself on a scroll a copy of this law, taken from that of the priests, who are Levites. It is to be with him, and he is to read it all the days of his life so that he may learn to revere the LORD his God and follow carefully all the words of this law and these decrees...” — Deuteronomy 17:18-19 NIV Starting in the Old Testament, God set a pattern of instruction and expectation for His people to read His Words on a daily basis. It wasn’t about rituals or fulfilling duties. It was about learning who God is and respecting Him. It was about a king learning from his true King how to be a leader to the people of Israel. God carried that message into the New Testament. Paul explains to Timothy in... Read more →

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What Do You Say to the Kids and more....

Today we are answering your questions that were posted the week of January 18, 2012. What do you tell the kids when they ask, "Why doesn't Dad go to church." Why isn't there marriage in heaven? How do you parent your kids when you and your husband see parenting so different. The boundary between submitting and serving vs. enabling. How do I keep hope alive when I my husband never responds. Listen in. Then join the conversation in the comments. Read more →

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The Bigger Picture

One of the greatest challenge is a spiritually mismatched marriage is seeing hope when we see none. I think this is true of any difficult and ongoing situation for us as believers AND as human beings. How do we keep going when everything within us says walking away would be the easier choice? Truth is, it may be the easier choice, but is it the right one? Probably not. Those trials and challenges in our life are there for a reason. God has a plan for all of it—for us and everyone involved. And I’ve never known God to be interested in the easy solution. On the contrary, He’s more interested in helping us become more like Christ and building our character than making our lives easy. And marriage is one of those training grounds. It’s not about us. It’s not even completely about our spouse. This is about eternity—ours,... Read more →

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Grace CaféMarriage Divorce and Remarriage 01/23 by CWA Radio | Blog Talk Radio

Join me today as we take a sensitive look at divorce and remarriage. Hugs, Lynn Grace CaféMarriage Divorce and Remarriage 01/23 by CWA Radio | Blog Talk Radio. Join Marsha Harwood & Julie Hunsucker at Grace Café ~ Sharing Life, Hope and a Cup of Coffee; a place for women to grow in grace together, every Monday @ 11:00 Eastern Time 8:00 am Pacific on CWA Radio. Marsha and Julie are joined by Lynn Donovan for a frank discussion about marriage, divorce and remarriage. Isn't marriage supposed to make us happy? Is divorce the only option? Struggling with feelings of guilt and shame? Whether you are happy or unhappy in your marriage, divorced or considering divorce, this program is for you. Maybe you know someone who is going through a divorce or is divorced. Marsha, Julie and Lynn want to help you help your friend with compassionate and biblical ways... Read more →

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Weekend Devo — The Promise

“Therefore let all Israel be assured of this: God has made this Jesus, whom you crucified, both Lord and Christ.” When the people heard this, they were cut to the heart and said to Peter and the other apostles, “Brothers, what shall we do?” Peter replied, “Repent and be baptized, every one of you, in the name of Jesus Christ for the forgiveness of your sins. And you will receive the gift of the Holy Spirit. The promise is for you and your children and for all who are far off—for all whom the Lord our God will call.” —Acts 2:36-39 I emphasized that last line because of the truth it holds. The Truth. It holds the promise of Jesus Christ. And right here, Peter tells us that this promise is for us and our spouses and our children and grandchildren and so on. All who are far off... Amazing!... Read more →

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Your Kid's Faith - From the Chronicles of the Donovan Clan

It was the best of times…… It was the worst of times….. Last Saturday evening I sat in front of the television and watched the painful demise of my beloved Broncos as they were pounded by the Patriots in what can only be described as a massacre. It was sad. I sat around the family room with several of my friends and several of my daughter’s teenaged friends who showed up wearing Patriots Jerseys and waving blue and red Pat’s flags. Sheesh. No respect around here. *grin.* In spite of my dashed hopes for a Superbowl birth, something fantastic was taking place that no one else knew about but me, my 16 year old daughter and God. A decision point occurred. Earlier that day, most of my daughter’s friends made plans to leave our house at half time. They were meeting up with other friends at a local theater to... Read more →

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Ask Us A Question

Hi Everyone: Dineen will be flying in to Temecula tomorrow. We will be visiting Sandals Church on Saturday to join the Warrior Wives as they kickoff their new Spiritually Mismatched group. We are so excited to be included. However on Friday, Dineen and I will be recording a video and we want to answer some of your questions. Are you dealing with an issue in your marriage and are unsure what to do? Are you struggling in your spiritual life, marriage relationship, with the kids. We have walked through so much of all of these. So, ask away. We are a safe place to ask ANY question and we will treat your question with prayer, asking for God's Holy Spirit to speak over the answer. So ask away. Leave a question in the comments. Or join us on Facebook. Hugs, Lynn Read more →

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More Than Able

Each year in January, the Internet is glutted with articles and posts about resolutions and goals. I find it humorous that this year I’ve seen more about why resolutions don’t work and end in failure for most people. I gave up on resolutions a long time ago. I know my limitations and I also know that I can’t change on my own. There is this little human being inside of me that just insists on being in control and doing it all on her own. We seem to be our own worst enemy at times, don’t we? Thankfully, God is slowly turning her around—me around to understand that I can’t do anything on my own but can do everything through Him. Now that truth can rattle around in our brains a lot. We can even say Philippians 4:13 from memory. But speaking from experience, understanding how to live on a... Read more →

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A Letter from One Unequally Yoked to Another

I want to welcome Adriana today. She recently shared a powerful letter on our 1Peter3Living loop. I hope you are inspired and encouraged as I was ~Lynn ----- As we step closer to God, the spiritual battle steps up too because the enemy absolutely hates to see us mature as Christians. When you feel deflated and that God is not listening, that's just junk from the enemy. God is listening and welcoming you closer. Rejoice that your moving closer to God has the enemy bothered! I've been in my spiritually unequally yoked marriage for 22 years and at times my husband was very difficult and I had close friends asking why I was sticking with it (even got this from his own family members). But I knew that the Lord was doing a work in me and through me was doing a work in my husband as well. I love... Read more →

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Weekend Devo — The Marriage Puzzle

We walk into our marriages as two young people enamored with love and barely comfortable with who we are as individuals. We are called not to walk as two but as one. Like two random pieces of a puzzle we try to fit together, turning different edges to one another trying to find or make a fit. Sometimes we manage to find a partial fit that seems to work for a while. Then the table shakes or the mysterious hands of chaos rip the pieces apart. The one has become two again and time is either their friend or enemy. The two pieces try again, though perhaps one is more determined than the other. Again the dance to find a fit becomes either the struggle of egos or the adventure of discovery. Days grow into months, which grow into years. The two pieces find that as they become more yielding... Read more →

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No More Marriage?

Jesus replied, “You are in error because you do not know the Scriptures or the power of God. At the resurrection people will neither marry nor be given in marriage; they will be like the angels in heaven. — Matthew 22: 29-30 I don’t know about you but this verse has always made me stop and wonder. What does it mean? Why will marriage cease to exist? Bear with me here, because I had a sudden light bulb moment recently. I won’t claim it to be biblical or swear it came from God, but to me, it makes sense. Marriage is probably the closest representation we have here as to our relationship with God. It’s a covenant He created and provides a safe “place” for us to connect with another person in intimacy—physically for reproduction and to know each other, mentally to fulfill certain emotional needs and to create unity,... Read more →

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Winning Him Without Words

When I was a young married woman I was desperate to find others who could help me navigate this crazy, often lonely, mixed up journey of the unequally yoked. In those early years the resources were limited to a couple of books and not much more. It was during that time I hesitantly joined a small group. A women's Bible study. That group changed my life. I found friends, hope and help. I found Jesus with Skin On. In our book we discuss what Jesus looks like with "skin on." He looks a lot like you and me. We are His hands, his feet, his voice to others who are searching for hope. And others are often speaking to us through God's spirit. How amazing is that? In Chapter Two of the book I emphasize how important it was for my journey to healing and thriving in my marriage, to... Read more →

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Will Power - Unequally Yoked and A New Year

Will Power. Do you have it? Why we, the unequally yoked, need this old, old story as we begin a new year. Visit the Cafe. Have a blessed week, Lynn Read more →

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Weekend Devo — Praising & Thanking

‎In conclusion to our week of: "Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us, to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, for ever and ever! Amen." — Ephesians 3:20-21 What an amazing week! I will share with you that my week of fasting and praying played out differently than I thought it would. I leave this week with a great sense of peace, which just blows me away since God told me my word for this year is PEACE! This is a new experience for me. I hope and pray that God has met you in some amazing ways during your time seeking Him. The smallest of moments often turn out the be the most impactful. Special thanks and gratitude to Rosheeda for giving us... Read more →

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A Strong Finish

Song of Solomon 7:11 Come, my beloved, let us go to the countryside, let us spend the night in the villages. Lord I praise You today. Sit with me as my Beloved. Feed me. Feast with me. May we bask today in the beauty of relationship. Thank you for Your love, Your grace, Your mercy. Have Your way today and prepare me for what lies ahead beyond this time with You. In Jesus' Name. Amen. ----- How may Dineen, Ro and I (Lynn) pray specifically for you today. Write in the comments a request for your spiritual life. I have been reading all the prayer requests and praying for each of you. I plan to print them all out and pray through them during the entire month of January. We count it a privilege to have walked this week with you, to pray, to fast, to seek God's will for... Read more →

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Thursday - Prayer and Fasting

Psalm 119:25 I am laid low in the dust;preserve my life according to your word. Lord, I am humble before You. Broken. Hungry. Thirsty. Meet me here right now today. Give me life beyond my flesh. Be my food. Be my water. Be my source. Lord, I pray that I would faint not, but that You would help me endure to the end. In Jesus' Name. Amen. ----- We are now reaching into the long stretch. Strongholds are being broken, plans are set in motion in the heavens for the salvation of many, the redemption of marriages, the return of the prodigals, the proclamation of joy in our homes. All because we prayed. Today, let us know how we can pray along side of you. Whom are you praying today? Praying and believing, Lynn Read more →

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Day Three Looking for the Miraculous

1 John 5:5-8 Who is it that overcomes the world? Only the one who believes that Jesus is the Son of God. 6 This is the one who came by water and blood—Jesus Christ. He did not come by water only, but by water and blood. And it is the Spirit who testifies, because the Spirit is the truth. 7 For there are three that testify: 8 the Spirit, the water and the blood; and the three are in agreement. Good morning Lord. I come to You asking that You would live for me. Reveal Yourself to me today. Give me more of You. Allow my heart to believe and my eyes to see. Even as my flesh wages war against Your spirit at work in me, I beg You to prevail. Show me that You are greater than the depths of my humanity. Help me to focus on You... Read more →

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Fasting Day Two

Deuteronomy 6:5 Love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. Lord, teach me to love You. Fill me today with Your truth. Give me the grace to give You my all. Make me strong. In Jesus' Name. Amen ----- Who will you be praying for today. Leave their first name in the comments and we will pray along side you. Also, if you want us to pray specifically, please let us know how to pray for those you name. Praying and believing, Lynn, Dineen and Ro. Read more →

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The Journey Begins

Proverbs 3:5-6 (5)Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight. Father, there is something so special about being able to trust You. As I begin my time of fasting and seeking, I ask Lord that you would purify me; forgive me for my sins and failures and give me the grace to move into this week with the right heart and right spirit. Teach me this week what it is to submit to You, to follow You. As You lay prayers and praises on my tongue, make my spirit sensitive to your leadership and willing to yield to Your direction no matter the costs. Lord, I pray that I would trust You with all my heart and that I would lean not to my own understanding, but that in... Read more →

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