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17 entries from September 2011

"Out-Love" Your Spouse/ Husband

My Friends, As I write this today (Thursday), it's actually Rosh Hashanah, the marking of the first day of the New Year on the Jewish Calender. It strikes me as it's interesting that we are embarking on a potentially life-changing journey today. It's been a long time since we have worked through a series and also a challenge here at Spiritually Unequal Marriage. This October, could be the beginning of a profound and deepening relationship with our Jesus and also, do I dare say, a paradigm shift in our marriage. It's timing as it relates to God's marking of time, a new year, is perfect. So, what is this adventure you ask? It's the revealing of a new look on love. A way to view married love from the eyes of the eternal. And yet to bring it to life in our everyday living here on earth. It's about change.... Read more →

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The Proposal

Last week I attended a writer’s conference in St. Louis. On one of the evenings a bunch of us went on a cruise down the Mississippi. We had a spectacular view of the skyline and Arch as dusk fell. And an even more spectacular view as we returned to our hotel. We trekked up the stairs and approached the Arch. I walked with a friend, chatting about our evening. One simple glance toward the arch caught my complete attention. At first I thought it was just a girl standing there with her boyfriend, who was sitting on a bench. Then I did a double take. No, he wasn’t sitting on the bench. He was on one knee in front of her, holding up his hands. It was all I could do not to squeal and ruin their moment! I’m sure this soon-to-be-wed couple (yes, she accepted) haven’t a clue how... Read more →

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Kids in the Mix - Marriage Monday

It’s Marriage Monday and I am able to hop in and share this week. As most of us “Add Kids to the Mix,” Marriage Monday is expanding to cover the topic, Kids. I recently finished writing a talk for MOPS, about raising kids: Raising Kid’s to Integrity and Faith. It was a wonderful process to work through and today I want to share one of the” tines of a fork” (I use a fork as an exemplar) which I share in that talk. I believe that as parents if we are intentional about five different areas, we can raise our kids with enormous success in a challenging world to live in integrity and faith. So let’s get started. This is one of my favorites: Last weekend was Home Coming. The Home Coming Dance was Saturday night and all of my daughter’s friends, were going. My daughter, a Junior, was not.... Read more →

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Weekend Devo— A Facebook Seduction

We've talked here before about extramarital affairs starting on Facebook. One of our readers, John Padilla, ran into such a person try to initiate a relationship with him despite his status as married. John has so graciously agreed to share how he handled this experience and protected his marriage. Here's his account of what happened and what he did about it: Recently, I received message via Facebook from a female claiming to be a God fearing woman. She then went on to attempt to seduce me into meeting with her to see if we had anything in common. Earlier in the email she stated that she had read my Facebook profile. I felt that certainly had she done so, she would have noted that I am a married man. I decided that I would respond to this individual and did so while copying, not only my wife, but a handful... Read more →

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Parent's Do You Help or Hinder Your Kids?

Some of you know that my 16-year-old daughter became a licensed driver in June. In California, the teen driver’s license is a provisional license. There are several conditions a driver must meet to drive legally. One provision particularly is creating some challenges in the Donovan home. But it also developing a young woman of character. It is also bringing into sharp focus my willingness to step up to be a parent of exception. Stick with me because by the end of this article it is my hope you will see parenting in a new light. Provision: For the first 12 months of driving, a minor may not transport passengers who are under 20 years of age. If cited for this infraction, you lose your driving privileges until age 18. My daughter has had her license now for only three months and she’s been pressured by her friends at school to... Read more →

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The Sanctified Unbeliever

For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy. — 1Corinthians 7:14 This Scripture came up in my Bible study this week. A dear friend at my table said something about it that sparked my investigation mode. There’s a precious meaning to this verse that holds such encouragement for us regarding our unbelieving spouses. Hang in there with me, I think you’ll really like this. My exploration of this verse first took me to find out what exactly “sanctified” meant in each use in this verse. The Greek word used in both places is hagiazo, which means to make holy, consecrate. Next, I went to my Bible commentary and found this wonderful explanation of what sanctified means in this context: “The word 'sanctified' does not... Read more →

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One Hour - Forty Five Minutes

I want to thank all of you for your words of encouragement, words of wisdom, the great advice and mostly the love you shared with me on Friday. I'm overwhelmed by the comments and comforted to know I live and love among a community of believers who are living in the power and love of Christ. If you read that story, I want to encourage you to scroll down and read some of the comments and be encouraged to face those unexpected moments that arise as we walk the path of the "uniquely yoked." BUT, today I have a question. What can you do in one hour and forty five minutes? Can you sit down and watch a movie. Get to the grocery store, fill a basket, arrive home and unload. Can you change a life? After last Friday, God has gently reminded me that "life" is NOT about me.... Read more →

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Weekend Devo — Going to Bed Angry?

“In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold. — Ephesians 4:26-27 A friend told me about this particular verse being the topic of discussion on a Christian radio station. It peaked my interest for sure, because this is something my husband and I have been very intentional about throughout our 24 years of marriage. We don't go to bed angry. This works for the most part, but occasionally there will be an issue that can't be solved in one discussion. Those are the times we agree to return to the subject when we have a better solution, but even then, the anger is disappated and we are back to that "we" mentality. Sometimes that's not easy, but I do believe this has helped our marriage immenseley. Anger has a nasty way of... Read more →

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A Married Single. Help a Girl Out

I'm part of a small group. It's composed of mostly couples and last night was our first meeting since the summer break. As this was our first meeting, the gathering was large. Several new people joined this fall. As the group kicked off, the introductions began. "This is my wife... This is my husband."... “We’ve been married ….. Have two kids….. etc. etc.” I watched as the introductions went around the room knowing that it would be my turn. I was second to the last and as the introductions moved from couple to couple, slowly approaching me, I grew increasingly uncomfortable. I sat there alone. A married single. I almost started to panic a little because I was searching for the appropriate introduction. No one was going to look at me and say, “This is my lovely wife.” In fact, I was going to have to explain, again, my marital... Read more →

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Conversation and the Words We Speak

Tomorrow morning my small group of gals from church will meet up with me as we begin the fall session of Women's Bibles study. The study we will work through is Conversation Peace. Take a look at this photo. To read more visit me at Laced With Grace. Have a blessed day, Lynn Read more →

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Reaction Mode

Are you in reaction mode in your marriage? Reaction mode is this highly destructive and very draining place where you and your spouse are walking in your marriage more like adversaries than partners. Every comment is scrutinized under suspicion and communication has completely broken down. Years ago I was in this place in my marriage and I will tell you that I was the heart of the problem because my heart wasn’t in a good place. Years of resentment toward my husband and unmet expectations had created this barrier between us. Though not always true, I find this often starts with women. We stop communicating out of unforgiveness and resentment. Or, like me, we never learned to communicate in a healthy manner. The saddest part of reaction mode is that it leads to contempt toward your husband. And where there is contempt, respect no longer exists. The two cannot coexist.... Read more →

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Alcohol, Pornography, Rage

The big three. Alcohol addiction, pornography addiction, and rage. These three are the destructive sins in marriage that I see women deal with the most. I share some experience and some insights. I pray this article will encourage one woman out there who is dealing with one or more of the "Big Three." Lynn Read more →

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Weekend Devo — Stepping Out in Faith

This last week has been "interesting." I can't think of any other way to describe it. I've grappled with a my daughter's messy yet vacant room, my emotions over letting her go, and the unknown of what life will be like as empty nesters. God is calling me to step out in faith in new ways and to trust Him even more. It's kinda scary, but I know Him well enough to know it will work out exactly the way He wants it. And that, my friends, is always the best possible outcome—His way. So I leave you with this song. It has gone through my head all day, no doubt a reminder from the Holy Spirit that though things are in transition, His love for me is ever present and unchanged. Oh, how He loves us. Oh, how He loves YOU! Praying and believing, Dineen Read more →

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When Should I Speak Out About My Faith?

Ahem, well, some of you know that through a series of circumstances, distraction and stupid moves, *blush,* I blew away all the files on my laptop hard drive two weeks ago. Grrrrrr. The video file of the September broadcast of The Intentional Marriage, with both Dineen and me, was a casualty. Double grrrrrrr. With that said, I still think the question we addressed is a common issue in an unequally yoked marriage. Today I’m going to share with you my thoughts. Here is the question from Sue Tipler. She posted this question on August 2nd on our Facebook Page. If you aren’t part of this fantastic support community, you are missing out. The conversation is more casual and personal. Post a question, add content you think would encourage others and become friends with others on this path of the “uniquely yoked" marriage. Join us at Spiritually Unequal Marriage –Facebook. Sue... Read more →

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Bittersweet Blessings and Letting Go of Idols

Yesterday I said goodbye to my husband and daughter. They are at this very moment driving cross-country to reach my baby girl's new home. It's the start of a new chapter in her life. This is the bittersweet part—letting her go. But in that mix of sadness and missing her is this amazing joy. God has been so faithful. He's brought her from a cancerous brain tumor to complete health. As she says, her life can now start. I am so excited for and proud of this blossoming young woman. What God has also shown me in letting go of my precious girl is that I made an idol of her in my life. You're probably thinking that's understandable, considering all we've gone through together. Mere moments became precious. Even though my love and care for my daughter is a good thing, there were times that I put her above... Read more →

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What Study Groups Are Saying

It's my great honor to introduce you to one of my newest BFF. This is Liz and she along with 20 women recently worked through our book, Winning Him Without Words. Liz shares from her heart about a specific chapter that held meaning and change for her. Take a listen. 5 minutes Winning Him Without Words, what study groups are saying. Chapter Seven, Pick and Choose Your Battles. I adore Liz and all the women who call themselves, Warrior Wives, in Riverside, CA. If you are starting a study group, Dineen and I would love to support you with resources and our prayers. Please email me and we will send you a study group package. Have a wonderful Labor Day weekend and do something intentional to love on your spouse. Lynn Read more →

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Thankful Thursday - Eerie Beauty

Thankful Thursday is hosted this September with Iris. Yesterday I stepped outside for my morning walk; the fog had rolled in overnight. As I was walking I watch the grace sky melt away and the brilliant blue appear overhead. As the sun spayed its light around me it illuminated the many spider webs that are present this time of year. The webs were sparkling with tiny drops of crystal dew. Spectacular in their eerie beauty. The webs appeared to be everywhere and would normally go unnoticed if it weren’t for the fog that brought them to light. I walked. I worshiped. I’m thankful for the unexpected beauty found in an ordinary garden spider web. What are you thankful for? Join us over at Iris’ place and let’s praise the Lord. Have a great day, Be blessed, Lynn Read more →

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