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22 entries from November 2010

The Purpose of Trials

Recently I’ve been writing about the trials of life. Specifically those that don’t seem to end. I thought the subject closed but God has put upon my heart the need to share the next level or stage of trials in our lives. Namely, their purpose. To review, in “The Unending Trials” I shared the calling God puts in our lives in regard to these trials. He’s molding and sometimes rebuilding us through these challenges. In the post “Thankful for Trials?” I explored four key points to moving from a place of despair to thankfulness for our trials. These truths are so important and crucial to persevering through trials that don’t seem to end. Take another look at them below, and then we’re going to take a look at some key truths we need to trust God’s purpose in them. 1. God is good. First John 4 is all about God’s... Read more →

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Baptism is Happy and Sad

Yesterday as I sat during church, I watched as five individuals gave their testimony and were baptized. I’m nearly always moved to tears when I watch someone become baptized. I pray with diligence as they go under the water, asking the Lord to protect them from the enemy and to grow them up in the ways of the Lord. As they rise from the water, I clap and I whisper words of praise and join the angels who are celebrating one more broken and lost person finds their way home. At the same time, I find I’m can be overwhelmed with a deep sadness. It’s such a bizarre roller-coaster moment. I truly am happy for these who obey Christ in water baptism but I grieve because that still small part of my heart deeply longs to see my husband participate in the believer’s baptism. What I find difficult is that... Read more →

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Facebook Ruins Marriage

Facebook ruins marriage. I’m sure you saw in the news a few weeks ago a Pastor in New Jersey gained national attention when he told his staff to close their Facbook accounts. The gist of this requirement was his experience that in his marital counseling efforts, many marriages ended because of Facebook. A married spouse would find an old flame online, they began to chat and then ultimately began an affair. Well this incident with the pastor opened up some fascinating and interesting conversation around our house, with my teen-daughter, my husband and a few of my friends. So my question; Is Facebook a danger to marriages? Should we close down our account? Now don’t be shy, add your voice because I can tell you, this is a very real issue. We received many Google search hits on an article I wrote about this very issue a year ago. So,... Read more →

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How Do We Help our Unbelieving Spouse see Jesus this Christmas?

With Thanksgiving behind us, I find we are already in the rush toward Christmas. Before we know what happened, Christmas day will be upon us. So, let's think about what intentional efforts we can make to make our Christmas celebration a time of witness to our unbelieving family members. For me personally, this is an exceptional challenge. I'm so busy with preperations, buying gifts, wrapping, our church Christmas Dessert and all manner of stuff that I have little brain power left when my husband's family arrives and to be purposeful in our home for Jesus. I always feel like I could have done better. So let's share some ideas on how to bring Christ into focus this time of year in your spiritually mismatched home. Do we invite the family to church on Christmas Eve? Do you read the Christmas story? Do you display a manger? Looking forward to hearing... Read more →

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Holy-day?

I was in the grocery store today, picking up some last minute items for our Thanksgiving dinner and heard an announcement over the intercom. The woman speaking about an in-store promotion had an accent that made the word "holiday" sound like "holy day." This made me pause and think. What a precious thought to bring this Thanksgiving to God as a "holy day." To be thankful just for Him. I hope and pray your "holy day" is especially blessed. Praying and believing, Dineen Read more →

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Thanksgiving Week

Today I am on my way to Colorado to spend the week with my mom and sister's family. Look for my travel updates, the fun stories I uncover along the way and the grace of God I see in lives of others on Twitter and Facebook. And because Dineen's mother is visiting this week, we think we would like to shake things up a bit and depart from our regular posting schedule. We may post here three or four times a day about giving thanks or sharing thanks or perhaps, we will remain quiet. However we both agree that we truly have heart's and lives that are abundant and filled with the gifts of God. We are thankful and give the Lord, Almighty all honor and glory for the great things He has done and provided in the last 12 months. We also know that so many of you also... Read more →

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Weekend Devo — Thankful for YOU!

Dear Friends, Lynn and I are so blessed to be a part of your lives and Thanksgiving is a great time to tell you that. We are continually humbled that God uses us and you to create an amazing community to help a very specific need. We are honored that you invite us to share in your lives and so inspired and blessed by your comments. It is a privilege for us to be on this journey with you. So, let us take this opportunity to tell you thank you. Thank you for allowing us to be here serving you. Thank you for interacting with us and others. Thank you for sharing your own wisdom and journey with the S.U.M. community. We pray your Thanksgiving is blessed with the richness that comes from knowing we are part of a holy and heavenly family that will one day be united with... Read more →

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The Rock Shouts Out

I have often wondered about a simple sentence in Luke 19. Some of the Pharisees in the crowd said to Jesus, “Teacher, rebuke your disciples!” “I tell you,” he replied, “if they keep quiet, the stones will cry out.” I have always wondered how rocks could possibly shout praises to God. I thought about how strange it would be to see rocks speaking out as a witness for God. Well, I have now witnessed this in living color. Don't ever doubt God's Word because it is true. It is True. It is true. Read my account of this passage coming to life in 2010 at Laced With Grace: The Rock Shouts Out. Have a blessed day. I will see you over there. Lynn Read more →

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In November we are meeting up with Laurie of Women Taking A Stand and then over to Grace Alone in December and back here in January. It's Thankful Thursday and as Thanksgiving Day is one week away, I have many random thanks to credit to our Lord. Turkey and stuffing. Yum and eee. A trip to Colorado. I hope it snows. It was 80 degrees here in Southern California today. I miss the cold weather this time of year. I will be spoiled by my mother for an entire week. Sleeping in, eating out, going to the movies. Shopping. Going to the movies some more. I love the movies better than shopping. A 5K on Thanksgiving Day. So thankful that I am healthy and can run. Our book, Winning Him Without Words. This is our love offering to Jesus. The privilege to pray for all of you who need hope... Read more →

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Thankful for Trials?

I wrote a post over at Laced With Grace about thankfulness in our trials and share four key truths that are vital to having a thankful attitude. I hope and pray these truths will continue to encourage you as we approach Thanksgiving and Christmas. Praying and believing with you! Dineen Read more →

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The Unending Trials

One of the heaviest burdens we carry for ourselves and others are those that don’t seem to end. These days we all have some area that continues to challenge us. We pray for healing, release, whatever seems needed, in the hopes that God will rush in and save the day. Sometimes things get better, then something happens to plunge us to the depths again. You cry out to God to bring resolution, healing, whatever, yet nothing seems to change. We struggle with our faith, with our perception of God in our lives and his plan, we struggle, struggle, struggle... We even despair, wondering why God doesn’t seem to hear our prayers. These are the trials that take the most from us emotionally, spiritually, and even physically. Coming to a place of trust and acceptance is a great challenge, and I think we have to do it over and over again.... Read more →

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Romantic God

Today, I have a treat. Nicole Neri wrote a post on her blog that I believe will speak to many of us. I know it touched me. Nicole is sharing it with us here today. I am delighted to welcome one of our wonderful readers as a guest contributor. I pray you are moved by her words and you see God the way she discovered Him. Welcome Nicole. And Thank you! Romance I’ve always been a HUGE romance lover. I love cheesy chic movies, stories of romance, weddings, unending love… - I think I’ve watched the Notebook one too many times. And oh the dreams as a child I would have. As far as I can remember I dreamt of y wedding day, my prince and our fairy tale life together. My poor husband had no idea the unrealistic ideals I had placed on him. Our story too started off... Read more →

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A Tablecloth of Thanks

If you missed our broadcast and it's likely you did... technical difficulties. I recorded a shortened version. See it below. Leave me a comment and let me know if your family will start your own tablecloth. Read more →

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The Intentional Marriage - A Tablecloth of Thanks

Welcome to our Monthly Broadcast, The Intentional Marriage. Friday, November 12th 11:30 a.m. Eastern 10:30a.m. Central, 9:30 Mountain, and 8:30 Pacific. Please tune in and join me as I’m going to share one of my most precious holiday traditions. A Tablecloth of Thanks It’s never too late to start a new tradition in your home, especially one which brings honor to the Lord. I have a story to share and some photos. I also want to give you a chance to share some of your holiday traditions or giggles. Join our meme today and share a Thanksgiving holiday tradition from your home or share a funny holiday hiccup. I will share with you that like many newly married young women, I didn’t realize the turkey was stuffed with bagged giblets. Yep, I cook the turkey with the plastic bag and the giblets still inside. We ate it anyway. Also, three... Read more →

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Milk or Solid Food?

On Friday, Lynn will host the next edition of The Intentional Marriage over at CWATV.com. (I hope you’ll tune in and participate in the meme.) As you know by the title of our program, we talk a lot about being intentional in our marriages. And last week, I wrote about thinking of our marriages as training for deeper intimacy with God. The idea behind an “intentional marriage” is to be an active participant, not passive—being intentional about spending time together, doing things together, and praying for your spouse regularly. It’s about putting your marriage in the forefront of your thoughts and life, not in the background as an afterthought. I hope that makes sense. This past weekend I made another connection along those lines that I want to share with you. My women’s ministry group at church is just finishing the DeeperStill Bible study Faithful, Abundant, True by Kay Author,... Read more →

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Thanksgiving... and Spiritually Mismatched

Thanksgiving is fast approaching in America. I love the holidays and Thanksgiving dinner is a family tradition that brings me great joy. I will tell you that in the early years of our marriage, I would set myself up for such high expectations that my husband would assume the spiritual leadership of our home and over our table and offer grace before we ate. He never did. I remember I would find myself feeling a little depressed at the end of day. I bet some of you have also been in this place. What can we do now to be better prepared for Thanksgiving this month. I am sharing a story over at the Internet Cafe today that might bring you hope. Join me there today for Spiritually Mismatched at Thanksgiving. ***THIS FRIDAY**** Join me for our online TV show, The Intentional Marriage. I will share with you one of... Read more →

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Prayer in an Unequally Yoked Home

With Thanksgiving in mind, let's talk about giving thanks at the dinner table. John 6:11 Then Jesus took the loaves, gave thanks to God, and passed them out to the people. Afterward he did the same with the fish. And they all ate until they were full. Christ models praying before a meal in this passage of scripture He is offering thanks to God. Prayer at the dinner table in the home of a spiritually mismatched couple can be complex. Prayer before dinner can create a tangible tension or even a flash point for an argument. So how can a believer follow the example of Christ without launching WWIII in the home? Prayer at the Dinner table – What do we do? I have found that humility is the best way to approach prayer. Without humility, prayer can become a battlefield in the home of a mismatched marriage. A battlefield... Read more →

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Politics is the New Bullying

Politics is the new Bullying Last week our country suffered under full assault from the mudslinging, contentious and outright mean barrage of campaign commercials. As I watched with repulse on one specific evening I felt a smack in the face with a blaringly obvious irony. Let me explain. A week, prior to the election, I planted myself on the couch to watch a national news broadcast. At the top of the broadcast, the main stories were ticked off as a teaser. On this particular evening, the first story slated intended to detail the nastiness of the political campaigns and the commercials that stream, non-stop, during the two weeks leading to the election. A few other stories were touted and then the end of the broadcast would be specifically dedicated to the story of our nation’s growing problem of bullying in our public schools. I watched the broadcast unfold and could... Read more →

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Thankful Thursday

November are meeting up with Laurie of Women Taking A Stand and then over to Grace Alone in December and back here in January. I'm so thankful for the opportunity to be a mom. This past week my daughter debut in the lead female role in her High School play. She performs three more time with Saturday night as the closing. My husband's family will be here to watch. I am thankful to have a daughter who loves Jesus. I'm thankful she is a young woman with her own passions and is discovering her talents and abilities. So, let me put Hollywood on notice. There is one young woman who can act and be a Christian at the same time. So look out! *grin* Well done kiddo! You amaze me. Hugs, Mom Read more →

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Marriage for Training?

I read an excellent post by Kevin Adams over at Wake Up My Faith, entitled “Marriage—God’s Seat of the Pants Training Ground.” If you have some time, read his post. It’s a little long but worth the read. I love how God spoke to Kevin and flat out said marriage was preparation for intimacy with Him. What would happen if we looked at our spiritually mismatched marriages in light of that truth? We’ve spent a lot of time here talking about what’s at stake for our unbelieving spouses, right? How we are the first and foremost representation of Christ in their lives, for the most part. And I’ve used the story of Esther as an amazing representation of how we are put in place specifically to accomplish a great purpose. “For such a time as this…” But what about that preparation part for deeper intimacy with God? It made me... Read more →

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It’s Marriage Monday: Financial Contentment in Marriage

With the recession still affecting so many among us, and the expenses of the holidays just ahead, let's take a few minutes to encourage one another on Monday Nov. 1 2010. This month our general group topic is, “Financial Contentment in Marriage.” We all know that the topic of money can be a negatively charged issue between married couples. The following four title options give you the opportunity to view your finances in a positive light. Choose one title, and let the Spirit lead you where He wants you to go. 1. Our Holiday Spending Plan 2. Why the Recession has Strengthened our Marriage 3. Money Management Tips from the Bible 4. How We Recovered from a Big $$$ Mistake I've selected #2: Why the Recession has Strengthened our Marriage If you have been a reader here at Spiritually Unequal Marriage for some time, you likely remember that in January... Read more →

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