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21 entries from October 2010

What do we do with Halloween?

What do we do with Halloween? Each year when October 31st rolls around I find it fascinating how many of us in the Christian community struggle to know what to do with this day. Is it a holiday? Should we celebrate it? Do we allow our kids to participate in Trick-or-Treat? Is it a sin if they do? I’m not going to jump into the debate over the real reason for Halloween. And I’m not ignorant of the fact that there are some very evil practices of the occult centered around this night. However, I think I want to share some perspective. We as unequally yoked Christian parents are burdened with guilt. Churches tend to point us to their carnival night as the only right thing. Some believers are adamant that any participation at all is a slight to God. At some point, we as parents can worry that our... Read more →

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Thankful Thursday

This month, October, we will meet here at Spiritually Unequal Marriage. In November we will all meet up with Laurie of Women Taking A Stand and return to Grace Alone in December. Can you believe my month as Hostess for Thankful Thursday draws to a close with this post? How quickly our time together passes. My friends, I have enjoyed visiting your homes this past few weeks and sharing Freedom In Christ week, our joy in Christ: The Pumpkin butt story and the 10 Thing You Didn't Know About Me. When we take time to give God thanks, we bring Him great honor and glory. Isn't that what living for Jesus is all about? So, as I wave good-bye as hostess I will ask you to share with me a scripture verse that God is using in your life to craft your character or one that has exposed a lie,... Read more →

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When God’s Not There

I read an interesting devotional yesterday that talked about 2 Chronicles 32:31: "God withdrew from Hezekiah in order to test him and to see what was really in his heart." (NLT) I remember one time God did this with me. I’d recommitted my life to Christ a couple years earlier and suddenly one day my quiet time became “dry.” And I do mean parched. I recall crying out to God day after day, asking where He was. Slowly the understanding came that God had purposely withdrawn His presence to test me. Now this wasn’t something I’d learned about in church. In fact, when I expressed my spiritual state to my pastor and that I felt God was purposely showing me something by doing it, he seemed rather baffled. (Later he brought up the subject and shared he had a better understanding of why God does this.) This was definitely a... Read more →

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Marijuana in Church

This is a very personal Devotion. It will challenge you and I pray, leave your heart changed. Join me at Laced With Grace for Marijuana in Church. Read more →

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Weekend Devo — Simple Truths

This is good, and pleases God our Savior, who wants all men to be saved and to come to a knowledge of the truth. — 1 Timothy 2:3-4 I love this verse because it shows our Father’s heart. This is what He wants for all of us. We can take comfort in this promise, knowing that God desires the salvation of our unsaved spouses as much and more than we do. Every once in a while I write something down and am awestruck by its simple truth. I know that’s not me. That’s the Holy Spirit. I wrote this down during my Bible study session last week: Our moments of frustration are more about God’s grand plan and our inability to comprehend it. So simple. So true. Our view of God’s plan is so limited. We can’t even begin to comprehend the big picture. And we’re all a part of... Read more →

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What if I HAD to Choose?

Excerpt from Winning Him Without Words, Regal Publishers: The true strength of our faith lies in God, not our circumstances. So let’s consider a difficult question: Can we love our spouse without any guarantee that he will come to know Christ? If this question raises despair, then we’ve most likely placed our faith in our spouse’s conversion and not in God. This is a key element to thriving in our mismatched marriage. Realigning our faith to reside completely in God can be difficult, but it is absolutely necessary to finding peace and to loving our spouse unconditionally. Leave the saving to Jesus. You do the loving! (Dineen Miller) Today I sat in my office reading the manuscript of our book. The paragraph above was written by Dineen way back in March. I know I read it back then but today when I re-read this portion, the truth of her words... Read more →

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Thankful Thursday - 10 Things you don't know about me

This month, October, we will meet here at Spiritually Unequal Marriage. In November we will all meet up with Laurie of Women Taking A Stand and return to Grace Alone in December. It's Thankful Thursday. Earlier today I was reading a post by my friend, Lori at Lori's Reflections. She posted a list of things I didn't know about her. It was delightful. Today, I think we should all post our own list. So here are ten things you don't know about me. 1. I LOVE to trout fish. I even bait the hook and clean the fish, then fry 'em up, yum and eee. 2. You will never, ever, learn my middle name - classified. *grin* (Don't try to find out either.) 3. I broke both my arms in seventh grade.... at the same time. 4. I'm not ticklish. At all. Weird, I know. 5. I love big hooped... Read more →

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Not Disappointed

Then you will know that I am the LORD; those who hope in me will not be disappointed. — Isaiah 49:23 (NIV) I came across this verse over the weekend and found myself unable to leave it. God's own words tell us right there that those who hope in Him won't be disappointed. That's some powerful stuff. That's our God. I know we've talked here at S.U.M. before about who and what we place our hope in, but I think it's a subject we need to revisit frequently. I know I do. Even right now a situation is making it difficult to keep my eyes turned upward. Yet I know this is crucial to persevering at the moment. The trials of life are a reality, but we can choose where we keep our eyes. If we focus on the issue, the trial, the challenge, not only do we put ourselves... Read more →

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In-Laws and Prayers

It’s a busy season around the Donovan house so I’m a bit behind in posting this morning. This past weekend I went to visit my son who lives in Las Vegas. On Saturday night, I met my son’s girlfriend’s parents. They are very nice people and I adore his girlfriend. They have been dating for five years. So, I suspect this girl may be the one. But what really was cool for me was this. I have been praying about and for these people who I finally met on Saturday for years. I have asked God to give my son a wife who is someone he would love and cherish but also someone I would love to have as a daughter. On top of that, I have been praying for my son’s future in-laws. So, it was cool to finally meet these people. Years ago as I prayed for these... Read more →

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Weekend Devo — We Rocked the House

Thursday night I had the pleasure of attending the Make a Difference concert in San Jose, CA. I've looked forward to this concert for weeks and got to go with two of my best friends from church. (Waving at you, Trish and Deb!) What a night! Standing there and watching Toby Mac, Third Day and Michael W. Smith rock the house was amazing. Then getting to listen to Max Lucado share a message of hope and "out living your life." (His new book title is "Out Live Your Life"). It was an amazing night to hear these talented people AND to worship with thousands of other people. A taste of heaven... By the way, I'm a HUGE Third Day fan. This group's music and talent never cease to amaze me. I love singing and worshiping to their tunes and style. I will say at one point during the evening, my... Read more →

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Chronicles of the Donovan Clan - Sickening Sweet - Yuck!

I think it's time for a little Chronicles. Because I write about marriage, I read A LOT about marriage. I subscribe to marriage blogs, read marriage books, etc. I have to tell you sometimes reading other's advice, well, it's just too sickening sweet. I ran across a blog post recently that just made my eyes roll. (I promise the post wasn't written by anyone I know or that you know) But, I just wonder if sometimes you stop in here and Dineen and I appear to have everything put together and we are all enthusiastic and ..... thus sickening sweet? Well, I can assure you we DON'T, have it all together that is. Ahem, well at least I don't. Yesterday my husband returned home from work. At 8:30 p.m. This is his normal time. He is nearing the end of his project and it's crunch time. He logs sixteen hour... Read more →

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Thankful Thursday - Freedom in Christ!

This month, October, we will meet here at Spiritually Unequal Marriage. In November we will all meet up with Laurie of Women Taking A Stand and return to Grace Alone in December. Hello My Friends, it’s Thankful Thursday, already, again. I heart this day. I love to visit your place. For me, it’s like dropping in on an old and close friend to catch up on your life. What a blessing to see you working in your kitchen, your kids and their antics, your husband who works hard, and your heart for Jesus. It’s a treasured gift to me. So glad to welcome you back to my home today. I have to tell you I was tickle by all your comments last week about the pumpkin butt. Laughing Lady said this: Please tell me you don't have it "mooning" passers-by! I’m still cackling over this thought. However, I assure you... Read more →

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Rebuilding a Spouse

Over the last couple of months we’ve embarked upon the realm of desperately needed home repairs. The interesting thing about this process is one project seems to lead to another. We get one damaged part fixed and restored, which then exposes the not so great part sitting next to it. I’m sure any of you who have dealt with this can relate. Ka-ching, ka-ching… A new porch roof to replace the leaky one. A new fence that will actually keep our dog in and not fall over. Pieces of house trim that have been pulled up have revealed more rot than expected. At this point, my living room now looks like a demolition zone. The old and stained cheap carpeting is gone and the promise of a wood floor awaits. We’ve waited a few years to get these things done, and our excitement eclipses the inconvenience. As I’ve watched this... Read more →

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What Do You Think?

"Bitterness is the poison you drink while waiting for someone else to die." What happened in you when you when you read this quote? I wonder if you heard a still small voice of the Savior and what did you hear? Have you experienced the truth of this quote and what did God do in you? Looking forward to your stories. Share from your heart as your words will likely help encourage someone else. Hugging you this Monday. Lynn Read more →

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The Intentional Marriage—Our Next Broadcast!

Today our second broadcast of The Intentional Marriage airs over at CWATV.com. I (Dineen) hope you'll come and meet my guest, Mr. Wonderful. He has some things to say that will surely make you laugh, I can promise you that! And I'm going to tell you my sock story, so I hope you'll "tune" in. Find us at Christian Women Affiliate at: The Intentional Marriage - You can view the show from this page. Eastern Daylight Time 11:30 a.m. Central Daylight Time 10:30 a.m. Mountain Daylight Time 9:30 a.m. Pacific Daylight Time 8:30 a.m. GMT for all of you outside of the US 15:30 (and, thanks for joining us at odd hours.) And don't forget our meme! We're still planning to gather your stories and put them in a book, so be sure to share and link up below. The Meme: Think of one habit or quirk that is uniquely... Read more →

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Thankful Thursday -Fall Joy!

This month, October, we will meet here at Spiritually Unequal Marriage. In November we will all meet up with Laurie of Women Taking A Stand and return to Grace Alone in December. Woo Hoo! It’s Thankful Thursday and today my heart is chock-full of JOY! Last week, a friend of mine looked at me and said, “Lynn, you radiate joy.” Her words completely took me by surprise. I had no idea that my joy in Christ was visible. NO IDEA! But, what an awesome moment to know that living for Christ shows. Today, I’m feeling especially giddy. And as it’s my turn to host Thankful Thursday, I want to start this month by sharing JOY! I don’t know about you, but God gives me a wonderful gift about every three months. He personally, just for me, changes the seasons of weather. Okay, perhaps the changing of the seasons isn’t only... Read more →

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Who Do I See?

This past weekend I took a trip with my husband. We had several hours in the car to chat and just be together, one of our favorite parts of our road trips. We did wind up talking about the subject of missionaries at one point, a subject that doesn’t sit well with my guy. I expressed my own thoughts carefully, then left the topic alone. But in my thoughts I was praying and talking to God about it, you can be sure of that. I told He had a difficult task on his hands with my hubby because he is one tough nut to crack. Then I “heard” a thought not my own. “I made him.” Whoa…I sat there “thoughtless” for a few moments just letting that truth sink in deep. I know that’s obvious, but when again, as I’ve said before, when God interjects a thought into my head... Read more →

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My Husband Doesn't Listen To Me

Internet Cafe and Marriage Monday

If you have been a reader here for very long, you might have discovered I believe one of God greatest gifts to humanity is..... drum roll.........a steaming cup of coffee. I am pouring today at the Internet Cafe. I am behind the counter, The Marriage Counter, dispensing a hot brew and sharing a story. Please pull up to the counter and let's chat. After all women have a great need for conversation. I heard they speak on the average of 16,000 words a day? But, what happens when that need is not met in their marriage? It happened to me. Join me for the whole story and I pray you will discover a secret to contentment in conversation. My Husband Doesn't Listen To Me. Also, it's Marriage Monday. And we have an opportunity to share a story from our Marriage. So this story at the Cafe is perfect. I love... Read more →

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Can You Repeat That Please?

Get Ready for Our Next Meme and TV Show! Last month we launched our first edition of The Intentional Marriage on CWATV.com. Along with that, we did a marriage meme about words from your present self to your past self. This will be part of a book we’re planning to put together with all your wonderful stories! Something you can treasure and pass on to your daughters and granddaughters! Next Friday October 8th, the next edition of The Intentional Marriage will air at 11:30 a.m. Eastern time (10:30 a.m. Central, 8:30 a.m. Pacific). I will be hosting the show this time along with a guest, Mr. Wonderful. Who is Mr. Wonderful? Weeeell, you’ll have to tune in and find out! I promise you, we are going to have some fun on this one. We will talk about those starry-eyed expectations we entered into our marriages with and what we thought... Read more →

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Conflict: Move from Negative to Positive

I think this area of conflict and boundaries in marriage hit a nerve with many of you. The comments left on previous posts are amazing and vulnerable. Many of you have offered your perspective with what is working in your marriage. The reading suggestions are great and if someone truly wants help in this area, the resources you mentioned are excellent. I also received many private emails through out this series and you have shared your wisdom on this subject and your suggestions have proven helpful. Thank you for taking time to share with me how God is working in your life. Conflict often brings us to a place of change. God is all about change. If you are breathing….. He is about changing you. Amazing. As I wrap up this series, I want to share a few tidbits of wisdom that came from one of our long-time, regular readers.... Read more →

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