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20 entries from September 2010

Get Ready for Our Next Meme and TV Show!

Last month we launched our first edition of The Intentional Marriage on CWATV.com. Along with that, we did a marriage meme about words from your present self to your past self. This will be part of a book we’re planning to put together with all your wonderful stories! Something you can treasure and pass on to your daughters and granddaughters! Next Friday October 8th, the next edition of The Intentional Marriage will air at 11:30 a.m. Eastern time (10:30 a.m. Central, 8:30 a.m. Pacific). I will be hosting the show this time along with a guest, Mr. Wonderful. Who is Mr. Wonderful? Weeeell, you’ll have to tune in and find out! I promise you, we are going to have some fun on this one. We will talk about those starry-eyed expectations we entered into our marriages with and what we thought our husbands should be like way back then. Next... Read more →

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Thankful Thursday - Eighteen Years and Counting... Behold!

Let us give thanks. It is Thankful Thursday. This month, September, we will share our thanks with Iris of Grace Alone. Next month, October, we will be back here at Spiritually Unequal Marriage and then in November we will all meet up with Laurie of Women Taking A Stand. Proverbs 3:5-8 (Amplified Bible) Lean on, trust in, and be confident in the Lord with all your heart and mind and do not rely on your own insight or understanding. In all your ways know, recognize, and acknowledge Him, and He will direct and make straight and plain your paths. Be not wise in your own eyes; reverently fear and worship the Lord and turn [entirely] away from evil. It shall be health to your nerves and sinews, and marrow and moistening to your bones. It's been 18 years. Eighteen long years that I have faithfully prayed for my husband's salvation... Read more →

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The Eternal Mindset

I believe in eternity. My husband does not. This fact alone brings us to opposite sides of life. He’s living for the here and now, and I’m living for what’s to come. I know this world is not my home and that when I die I will truly be home in heaven with our amazing and wonderful Savior, God and Friend. For my spouse, death is final. This life is all there is. I try to wrap my brain around this thought, but I can’t. I just can’t imagine not having heaven to look forward to. Ecclesiastes 3:11 says: “He has made everything beautiful in its time. He has also set eternity in the hearts of men; yet they cannot fathom what God has done from beginning to end.” (NIV) At God’s direction, I’ve been praying this verse over my sweet hubby since January, and I have to say, some... Read more →

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I'm Going to Get into Your Business!

On Friday I shared a comment from a reader that really has me thinking. The commenter shares about her spouse: He would announce he was the head of house (I had told him that) he would tease my new faith in public; all the while I would smile and not correct him (thinking it was not my place). I can assure you, this scenario is commonplace within unequally yoked marriages. As Christians, we can mistakenly believe we must turn the other check and virtually become a doormat within our marriage in order to convince our spouse of our faith, hoping they will come to Christ. Women misguidedly believe they are demonstrating love to their mate by going along with their every whim and decision. They also think they are not conforming to Biblical principles when standing up to her husband’s ridicule of her faith and thus allow his disrespect of... Read more →

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Weekend Devo — Loving When It's Hard

I know sometimes it's not easy to love difficult people. Sometimes it's hard to love our spouses too, especially when there's a lot of hurt and disappointment in the relationship. I read this devotional yesterday and thought it so applicable to our mismatched marriages. We truly can't love our spouses the way Christ calls us to without His help. I thought Rick Warren did a great job dealing with this very issue and wanted to share it with you. Here's the link to the article: Loving People From the Heart Right now I'm right in the middle of one of those places that challenges me to love my sweet man sacrificially. I can only describe these changes in my sweet hubby as a midlife crisis! :-) Aren't those the times we're challenged the most to love someone, when they veer away from expectations and do something...different? I am so grateful... Read more →

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You Crossed the Line

Today I am compelled to share with you a comment from Monday’s post: I was on the brink of marital disaster when Jesus first started whispering to me to come to Him. Fast forward a few years and someone passed on a book to me about submitting to your husband - I took what it said to the extreme obeying him, not speaking up for myself, just praying and crying and occasionally when I couldn't handle it I would freak-out. After the book, I thought in order to honor God I must basically bow down to my husband. However as I did this he grew more and more overbearing. His behavior didn't get better but worse. He would announce he was the head of house (I had told him that) he would tease my new faith in public, all the while I would smile and not correct him (thinking it... Read more →

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Thankful Thursday -

Let us give thanks. It is Thankful Thursday. This month, September, we will share our thanks with Iris of Grace Alone. Next month, October, we will be back here at Spiritually Unequal Marriage and then in November we will all meet up with Laurie of Women Taking A Stand. In bible study last week we talked about a Yoke. I shared this photo. Don't you just love cows? They have a docile manner about them and sweet faces. In our study, we talked about how a yoke is a bonding, such as in this photo. The cows are held together and must walk in union. In this world, we are yoked to many things. Some good some destructive. But today, I hear my Savior calling. Jesus says, "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn... Read more →

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We're in This Together

I want to share something absolutely precious with you! One of are readers has started a class for the unequally yoked at her church. We want to give a big "shout out" to the women attending Cindi's class at her church. Here's the info from Cindi herself: "My church is The Rock San Diego and the Women's Ministry is S.I.S.T.E.R.S. (Spirit-led, Instruction, Sharing, Teaching, Encouragement for Reverent Submission to God). The Bible Study is on Spiritual Warfare titled "Standing Firm" by Karen Stevens (our leader). We meet in classes after Bible Study and the name of my class is "Uniquely Yoked." Book studying is Beloved Unbeliever by Jo Berry. Fall session meets Wednesday nights from Sept 15th - Nov 17th 6:30 - 8:30pm." If you're in Cindi's area and looking for a group like this, email Lynn or myself (use that little button above with the "C" on it to... Read more →

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Grow Up Already!

There is a truth about marriage I bet you didn’t expect, or conceive as a young bride or groom. Marriage is all about…. GROWING UP! Marriage is for grownups. Yet when most of us rush into our vows, we discover fairly quickly that our spouse is immature. Yep.. Tell us something we don’t know *grin* However, begrudgingly we will admit we are also immature. I look over the years of married life and I can see the brilliant design of matrimony. I know, without doubt, God wants me to grow up and He uses my spouse to mature me. Hebrews 6:1(a) 1Therefore let us leave the elementary teachings about Christ and go on to maturity, I love the Message translation of Hebrews 1 1So come on, let's leave the preschool finger-painting exercises on Christ and get on with the grand work of art. Grow up in Christ. It seems so... Read more →

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Thankful Thursday - A Glimpse of the Supernatural

Let us give thanks. It is Thankful Thursday. This month, September, we will share our thanks with Iris of Grace Alone. Next month, October, I can't believe I'm talking October, we will be back here at Spiritually Unequal Marriage and then in November we will all meet up with Laurie of Women Taking A Stand. So, I have to share this experience with you or I’m just going to burst. Our church has a missions person, her name is Lisa. She is a woman after God’s own heart. She is passionate about telling people about Jesus. Right now, she is in the country of Nepal along with another member of our church, Simon. These two from our church are teaching alongside two Nepalese Christians. Last night as they were gathered for teaching in a large group of the Nepalese people about 800 or so, something absolutely amazing happened. During this... Read more →

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The Burden of Guilt

I don't know about you, but as a mother of two, I’ve become really good at carrying around a lot of guilt. Do you feel responsible for every little thing that goes wrong in the lives of your family? As if maybe, if you believed a little harder, were together a little more yourself, you just might circumvent some of the struggles you’re dealing with? Yeah, me, too. I’ve bought into that bag of lies for a long time. But God’s showing me a new direction lately. As I’ve shared earlier, my father’s death earlier this year put me on a path of “no fear.” God’s done some pretty amazing things in me on this journey. My confidence level has grown, and I take absolutely no credit for it. I surprise myself even. Another area that I’ve struggled with is feeling responsible in some way for my youngest daughter’s struggle... Read more →

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Marriage Monday... Public School?

And God blessed them. And God said to them, "Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it and have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the heavens and over every living thing that moves on the earth." (Gen 1:28 ESV) It’s Marriage Monday and the topic this month is about children. In fact, there are several topics to choose from but one specifically pulled at my heart because in a spiritually mismatched marriage this subject creates enormous conflict and anxiety in a marriage. So I picked No. 2: Public, Private, or Homeschool? Why our Decision Works for Us Whoa! Even the mention of education between parents of children who have different worldviews makes the blood pressure rise. What I will share with you is my story. What we chose may not be the best for your family but for us, this... Read more →

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Weekend Devo — This, that, and a Video!

Video of yesterday's The Intentional Marriage CWA TV Show: http://cwatv.com/shows/the-intentional-marriage/ Read more →

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Welcome To The Intentional Marriage

They say.... Love is blind. But, marriage is a real eye-opener! *grin* Well that is true. However, isn't that what God's ideal of marriage is all about? Walk with us as we explore the mystery and brilliance of marriage under the sovereign hand of God. Today on our first broadcast, The Intentional Marriage, we will chat about the mysteries of how God works through our married life to bring about His plans for us. It is the highest calling on a life and the Lord's most favored tool to teach us how to overcome, to discover joy, live in peace, figure out our struggles and to live in authentic relationship. Find us at Christian Women Affiliate at: The Intentional Marriage - You can view the show from this page. Eastern Daylight Time 11:30 a.m. Central Daylight Time 10:30 a.m. Mountain Daylight Time 9:30 a.m. Pacific Daylight Time 8:30 a.m. GMT... Read more →

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Thankful Thursday - A New Adventure

Let us give thanks. It is Thankful Thursday. This month, September, we will share our thanks with Iris of Grace Alone. Next month, October, I can't believe I'm talking October, we will be back here at Spiritually Unequal Marriage and then in November we will all meet up with Laurie of Women Taking A Stand. All of us are off for another adventure. Tomorrow our online broadcast, The Intentional Marriage, debuts. Please, please join us. It won't be a long broadcast but we are praying the Lord brings forth His powerful words for our marriage. We have an "intentional" step for you to take in your marriage. We are giving away five copies of The Dream Giver, by Bruce Wilkinson. And, we are inviting you to be published in a new book specifically to be written by this amazing community of online believers. Wow, a ton of stuff. But, it's... Read more →

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My Day as a Disc Golf Caddy

This past weekend my sweet hubby and I celebrated 23 years of marriage, and I gave him a different kind of gift this year—something intangible and memorable. And not just for him! I share the whole story and six things I observed and walked away with (literally!) over at Laced with Grace—My Day as a Disc Golf Caddy. I hope you'll take a moment and check out my antics as a disc golf caddy. And the surprising blessings I received in return. See you there! Praying and believing, Dineen Read more →

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I'm Going to Break Your Heart!

I’m Going to Break Your Heart! I have a really scary challenge for you. You should carefully consider what I’m about to ask of you. Don’t enter into this venture unless you are truly ready for your heart to change. Before I ask you to join me in this challenge I want to share a story..... Do you ever wonder how God feels sometimes? Well, a few months ago the Lord allowed me to gain some understanding.... My experience was so intense, I told the Lord I couldn't take it any longer. Today, visit me at the Cafe where I share this experience and challenge you to experience God yourself. I am a contributor to the Internet Cafe, The Marriage Counter. Join me for: I'm Going to Break Your Heart (This is a good thing, I promise) Hugs, Lynn Read more →

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This is so beyond me.... I can't think of a title. Just, please read.

What dream lies so deep in your heart that you are afraid to even think of the possibility of it becoming real? My friends, we serve the Great Dream Giver. It is likely that dream is a gift from Him and it can become reality. We serve the all-powerful God of the universe. He is guiding us down our own personal journey toward our dreams. There are many hurdles on the way and often times we are our own worst enemy. Over the past two months, God has been growing an idea in me. It’s has been so large that He couldn’t give it all to me at once. But, He has brought it all to fruition and now is the time to share it with you. This dream involves you, all of you the readers and friends we know in our amazing online community. So, travel this path with... Read more →

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Thankful Thursday -

Let us give thanks. It is Thankful Thursday. This month, September, we will share our thanks with Iris of Grace Alone. Next month, October, I can't believe I'm talking October, we will be back here at Spiritually Unequal Marriage and then in November we will all meet up with Laurie of Women Taking A Stand. Iris, in her Thankful Thursday post this week, talks about how she prays before getting in the car to drive. Boy howdy, do I understand that. Just this morning a mom was texting while we waited for the light to change. Texting is illegal in our state. The light changed. We sat. Finally I had to beep her to get going. Oi vey! Today, I join Iris to give thanks for the peace that fills my spirit when I bring my prayers to the throne room. This week as our teen daughter settles into her... Read more →

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He Found My Glasses

I have an ornery side to my character. It’s my Dad’s fault. No. Actually it’s my Dad’s, Dad who is at fault. I hail from a long and silly heritage of practical jokes and teasing of family members. Good Grief! Read the rest of the story today over at Laced With Grace, He Found My Glasses. If you're married to an unbeliever, I hope you will be encouraged by what I share about my husband and my ornery character. Read more →

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