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21 entries from July 2010

Weekend Devo — The Best Truths Bear Repeating

This is a post from last October that just seems to need repeating. I know it's a truth I need constant reminder of. Trusting God is key, and keeping our hopes in Him is the source of our enduring strength. Have a blessed weekend! Hugs! ~Dineen Waiting on God God never ceases to amaze me in the intricate perfection of his work and plan. Have you found yourself in a place where you see how the details surrounding you are linked together and blooming like a flower? And as the petals open, the legitimacy of each event suddenly comes into view, perfectly planned and coordinated in an intricate pattern of destiny? I love those moments. Though I’m sure I don’t see them all, I know I’d miss more if I didn’t constantly and intentionally draw closer to God. We need to stay in a place of yearning for more of... Read more →

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Thankful Thursday -

Let us give thanks. It is Thankful Thursday. Wow, can you believe July is almost over. I had a blast hosting Thankful Thursday in July. Next month we will meet up with Laurie of Women Taking A Stand and in September we will share our thanks with Iris of Grace Alone. My month of hosting Thankful Thursday is at an end. We will meet back here again in October. Wow, fall is around the corner. Next week let's find each other for another week of praise over at Laurie's place. Before we leave summer too quickly, I want to share something from my summer with you. Take a look at this photo I snapped a few weeks ago. It a photograph of a morning glory that vines on the little picket fence surrounding my garden. It may be difficult to see in this small version but if you click on... Read more →

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Step Three: Obedience

Last week I had the chance to catch up with a dear friend. Over lunch, we brought each other up to date on the details of our lives. At one point after relaying my own family’s current events, she paid me a compliment in regards to my patience with my husband. The firmness of my answer surprised me. “I’m simply doing what God is telling me.” Obedience isn’t easy, especially when it affects our own lives adversely. To the outside world, we may seem foolish and even spineless, but here’s where that first choice to love our spouses becomes so critical. If we’ve chosen to love only when times are good, which is easy in the moment, our resolve falls away when times get tough. And let me emphasize again that this decision is not based on our own feelings or the ability or inability of our spouses to meet... Read more →

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This Story Will ROCK Your World!

I have a question for you: * How many different versions or renderings of the Cinderella story do you think there are in our world? -DON’T Google it. Just give it a guess. If you were in the audience for the One Marriage Conference, you know I asked this same question and the answers ranged from ten to hundreds. Well here is what I found at Wikipedia: "Cinderella; or, The Little Glass Slipper" (French: Cendrillon, ou La petite Pantoufle de Verre) is a classic folk tale embodying a myth-element of unjust oppression/triumphant reward. Thousands of variants are known throughout the world. The title character is a young woman living in unfortunate circumstances which suddenly change to remarkable fortune. The word "Cinderella" has, by analogy, come to mean one whose attributes are unrecognized, or one who unexpectedly achieves recognition or success after a period of obscurity and neglect. The still-popular story... Read more →

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Weekend Devo—Words of Praise

At the end of June, Deb shared the story of how her marriage is being restored. In case you missed it, you can read it here. The following is something that she wrote recently. It's amazing and truly inspired by the Holy Spirit! Have a wonderful weekend and rejoice along with her! Praying and believing, Dineen From Deb... Highest praise leaps from my spirit.We worship best when we revel in what You have given us to do. Our highest pleasure is your highest praise. This knowledge is too wonderful for me. You are too generous, my God. We deserve nothing but pain, imperfect and willful as we are. You would still be known as Holy if we sat in ashes rotting for an eternity, for You are just. Yet you, although a jealous God and Righteous, share without measure the sunbeams of your love, and wrap us in them. The... Read more →

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Christ is Unexpected

Tuesday I shared a story with you which as I still ponder it now, seems..... what's the word I'm searching for. Hmmmmm Unexpected. Yes, unexpected. I have been traveling this road with Jesus now for a long while and yet I'm still surprised by Him. He seldom answers my prayers in the manner I expect. I think He's that way on purpose. He wants me to experience Him orchestrating the astonishing to make sure I am paying attention but mostly to teach me to shout His glory to anyone and everyone who will listen. I love that about Him. Well, Tuesday I shared the unexpected salvation story of the least likely woman in my husband's unbelieving family. But what happened next further surprised and delighted. (read it here) I mentioned in my story Tuesday that my husband's mother is approaching the mid-stage of Alzheimer's. She has her good days and... Read more →

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Thankful Thursday - Another Adventure... can you believe it???

Let us give thanks. It is Thankful Thursday. This month we are spending the HOT month of July here at Spiritually Unequal Marriage. Next month we will meet up with Laurie of Women Taking A Stand and in September we will share our thanks with Iris of Grace Alone. Wow, I have to tell you that God gives good ideas. And one idea He has growing in Dineen and I is joining up with Christian Women Affiliate and hosting our own Television broadcast. Our Broadcast title is: The Intentional Marriage. You can read more about it when you have time. I am so thankful and stand utterly amazed at all the Lord does in the life of an ordinary gal. What are you thankful for? Link up, write up and visit up... Let's honor Jesus with our thanksgiving and praises. Be blessed, Lynn Read more →

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This is Why I Am Married to an Unbeliever

This past weekend, my husband, our daughter and I flew to Sacramento to spend several days with my husband’s mom and dad. Also joining us at the house was my spouse’s brother, his girlfriend and my husband’s cousin, his wife and twin daughters and their grandma, who is my husband’s mother’s sister. Hunh? Are you confused yet? Double hunh? I guess it isn’t important I name all of the players, yet it is. You see, I have been praying for the salvation of many of these people for more than 18 years. All of my husband’s family is unsaved but for their cousin and his wife. My husband’s cousin came to Christ when he was in High School. All these years I have been burdened not only for my husband’s salvation but for all of his family. Now here is where the story gets interesting and glorifies our Lord. You... Read more →

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Focus on Your Mission

In last week's post I talked about making the choice to love our spouses. And as I said before, this is the first step to loving our unbelieving spouses unconditionally. Many of you have shared that it's difficult to love your spouse because of his behavior, which is completely understandable. But please also understand that allowing those situations to determine whether you love your spouse or not is conditional love, which is based upon performance and circumstances. Conditional love is human and is fraught with disappointment and failure. We need God's love, wisdom, and guidance to move beyond this limited commitment in order to understand God's covenant of marriage and complete commitment. In our spiritually mismatched marriages, we seem to face more difficult situations and more than our fair share (if there is such a thing) of spiritual warfare. Opposition is just a part of this kind of marriage. Perhaps... Read more →

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Weekend Devo - God's in the Details

That's why I don't think there's any comparison between the present hard times and the coming good times. The created world itself can hardly wait for what's coming next. Everything in creation is being more or less held back. God reins it in until both creation and all the creatures are ready and can be released at the same moment into the glorious times ahead. Meanwhile, the joyful anticipation deepens. — Romans 8:18-21 I absolutely adore gardenias. In this little glass bowl sits four gardenias from my own bushes. I've tried to grow them for years in three states and one foreign country and never had success until now in California. I smell the fragrance of these delicate creamy white flowers and I find myself in awe. Though God's Word tell us even His creation waits for Christ's return and is held back, I smell these flowers, experience the intense... Read more →

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How I Found Healing

Many of you, who have been readers here at Spiritually Unequal Marriage for a long time, likely know that I began this blog more than four years ago because the Lord, Jesus, healed me and my marriage. It was a journey with Christ that returned my hope and instilled peace in my life and gifted me with authentic joy. After finding a real relationship with Jesus, He then urged me to share the path of healing with others who are traveling behind me. For all of our many new readers who have not had the opportunity to go into the archives, I want to share the single most important and powerful thing that changed my life. My Daily Bible This is a picture of my Bible. I began reading it on June 13, 1998 and have read through God's word every year since. This is one of my precious heirlooms.... Read more →

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Thankful Thursday -

Let us give thanks. It is Thankful Thursday. This month we are spending the HOT month of July here at Spiritually Unequal Marriage. Next month we will meet up with Laurie of Women Taking A Stand and in September we will share our thanks with Iris of Grace Alone. Several years ago, I found myself in what I would describe a very real spiritual battle. I had been praying for my unsaved husband and the spiritual warfare over him was intense. At that time I began to pray for angels to be dispatched from the Lord's throne to my home. To stand guard at every window and door, with their swords drawn ready to fight for me, my husband and our family. God listened and Wow, what a battle it was. One day I will have to share what happened. Too much for now. I am utterly convinced God dispatched... Read more →

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Choose to Love

On the weekend devo I wrote about loving our spouse unconditionally. Let’s talk some more about how to do that. Sometimes giving examples helps too, so if you have one you’d like to share, please do so in the comments section. Let me travel a tangent here to say that Lynn and I value your comments and sharing so much. This is a tough but vital ministry. Lynn and I talk, pray, cry, and rejoice over so many of you. It’s about hope, so if you feel led to leave a comment, do so! You never know how much your words may encourage another reader to keep going. And that’s what it’s about a lot of times, perseverance. How do we keep going? How do we keep hoping? How do we love our spouses unconditionally? I want to share some Scriptures to encourage you. Claim one, some, or all of... Read more →

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Marriage Monday - Let's Take a Candy Break

It’s Marriage Monday over with e-Mom of Chrysalis. July’s topic, “Blessing Our Parents” taps into the joys of extended family. How are we incorporating the older generation into our married lives in healthy ways? Of the topic choices, I selected: • Long-Distance Grand-parenting: What Works for Us If you are a blogger, please join in the fun. If you are not a blogger, oh please, share with me your experience in the comments here. Hugs. The Candy Break My parents were both born in a small town in the flat lands of Colorado where farming was a way of life. Small towns dot the highway about every 30 miles where farmers buy tools and parts and sell their crops. My mom and dad moved from their small town to the big city right out of high school but my grandparents lived most of their lives in the same place. My... Read more →

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Weekend Devo — Giving Love

On one of last week’s post, a commenter asked if God could teach her to love her husband unconditionally. This is such a good question, that I decided to share some of my answer here today. This is such a crucial area that I think we need to talk more about not only loving our unbelieving spouses unconditionally, but also HOW we do that. Can we love our spouses unconditionally? The answer is YES! I am a living testimony to that. For years I loved my husband a lot when he was meeting my expectations, then not so much when he didn't. I was loving him on my own strength. As God showed me this, I began to pray that God would help me be the wife He needed me to be for my husband. Then I began to pray that God would help me love my husband unconditionally, in... Read more →

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Thankful Thursday - Friendships

Let us give thanks. It is Thankful Thursday. This month we are spending the HOT month of July here at Spiritually Unequal Marriage. Next month we will meet up with Laurie of Women Taking A Stand and in September we will share our thanks with Iris of Grace Alone. Hi Everyone. So glad you joined me to give praise and thanksgiving to our Lord. Over the weekend I enjoyed celebrating a 50th wedding anniversary and visiting with my childhood friends. It was a blast. We reminisced. We laughed. They all reminded me about some of the trouble I got us all into. I guess I was quit ornery. Sheesh! The story of lighting the backyard on fire was relieved. YEP, knew THAT would come up as well as a few others that I sure would like to forget. However, it was so much fun to remember our childhood. My heart... Read more →

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More Adventures and a New Motto...

Like Lynn and her Chronicles of the Donovan Clan, the Miller Adventures are taking some interesting turns. The latest is a new business venture on my hubby’s part. He’s left the conglomeration of the tech industry to venture out on his own. Yes, a bit risky in today’s economy, but it’s something he’s always wanted to do. My sweet hubby is looking for the fulfillment he was no longer getting at his job, despite it being an awesome place to work. He would be the first to tell you that. He loved the company, just didn’t want to do that kind of work anymore. After 27 years of doing very similar work, he’s burned out. He wants to be more creative. This discontent is so reminiscent of what I felt in my own life years ago before I recommitted my life to Christ. I’d even started the process of getting... Read more →

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Best Wedding Advice EVER!

Over the weekend I returned to my childhood home. My daughter and I flew from Southern California to Salt Lake City. I hadn’t been back to where I grew up to visit my old friends for more than 30 years. Thirty years. Bunch of us on a Hike to Big Rock in the Millcreek Canyon. Although we stayed in touch with our friend and they visited our new home, it has been a very long time to wait for me to return home. This weekend we all gathered at my BFF Michelle’s house to celebrate her parent’s 50th wedding anniversary. Join me at Laced With Grace where I share 50 years of marriage advice. Four profound words you need for your marriage. Best Wedding Advice EVER! Read more →

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Weekend Devo — God's Infinite Love

We love because He first loved us. —1 John 4:19 I’m sure you've heard the expression, “You can’t make God love you any more or any less than He does.” I’ve found great comfort in the fact that we can’t lose God’s love. Yet I have to confess, I’ve struggled the part about not being able to make God love us more. That’s the perfectionist, the striver in me seeking approval. As I sat the other morning, reading my devotionals and Bible, my thoughts took an interesting path. If we were able to make God love us more, this would imply that we could also make Him love us less. This would also imply that God is selfish and self-centered, giving and taking love according to how well He deemed we’d performed. And if that were the case, Jesus’ death on the cross would mean absolutely nothing. This may seem... Read more →

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Chronicles Part Deux

As you read this I am likely on my way to Salt Lake City. I grew up there. My daughter and I are attending an anniversary party. We plan to visit our childhood friends and celebrate their parent’s 50th wedding anniversary. We will laugh our heads off sharing the many stories of our crazy childhood antics. Most of you know I LOVE stories. There will be tales of when I started a fire in my backyard. My daughter loves this one. “Mom, I can’t even believe you did that.” To me, I still don’t understand why my mom became so upset. My logic was perfect to my nine-year-old mind. I had a hotdog and needed to cook it. Besides I planned to share it with the ten other kids watching. Perfect sense to me. Ahem, yep, I think I was in a bit of trouble over that one. We floated... Read more →

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