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Thankful Thursday -

Let us give thanks. It is Thankful Thursday. This month we are spending the HOT month of July here at Spiritually Unequal Marriage. Next month we will meet up with Laurie of Women Taking A Stand and in September we will share our thanks with Iris of Grace Alone. Hi Everyone. So glad you joined me to give praise and thanksgiving to our Lord. I have so many things to be thankful as we start the second half of 2010. SAY WHAT? Half the year has rushed passed already. Whoa! I must pause on this July 1st to give thanks for the privileges of living in America. As we celebrate our 234th birthday, I do pause to ask all of you to pray along with me for this nation, it's leaders and especially the people and animals affected by the Gulf oil spill. On another note, I want to share... Read more →

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Pursuing Salvation

The other night I sat with a friend in a coffee shop as we swapped the latest details of our lives. I shared with her about my father’s funeral, which led to me telling her about a conversation I recently had with my husband. I asked him this question years ago, but since my father’s death, the need to ask again had suddenly presented itself. Did he still believe when he died, that was it? He just ceased to exist. He said yes. Then I asked what if at the end, he finds out he’s wrong? His answer continues to make me fearful for him. He said he’d deal with it. I expressed my concern over this and what it really means. And I shared my heart. I didn’t want to think about him not being in heaven. I told him I wanted him there with me. But for him... Read more →

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A Marriage Delivered from the Pit of Hell!

This is a day of great rejoicing and celebration. When I first started chatting with Deb, she was living in shall I say, a "difficult marriage." I watched and prayed over the months for her and her husband. There was a point where even me, the believer in marriage and the one person who believes any marriage can be restored, doubted this marriage could be healed. Oh Praise be to Jesus because in our doubt, struggle and sometimes, hell on earth, Jesus can heal a marriage. Today it is my great privilege to share my friend Deborah with all of you. Many of you know her from our loop at 1Peter3Living on Yahoo. Many of you held her in prayer. THANK YOU. Already, at a young age of 26, she has lived through a marriage she never imagined could happen to her yet she discovered triumph through the power of... Read more →

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Weekend Devo — Our Greatest Strength

Hi there! I'm making my video blog debut today! Bear with me as I learn the ropes. :-) Hopefully my "greenness" won't take away from the message. Have a wonderfully blessed weekend with your spouse and stay strong in WHO YOU ARE! Praying and believing, Dineen Read more →

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Here I Go Again.....
Where DO We Draw the Line?

I’m in a quandary. I have shared with you in past months how comparing our spouse to another spouse is a toxic occupation. For example we try not to notice but can’t help to observe how “Cindy’s” husband (not her real name) is amazingly considerate of her. We watch her husband with the kids and think, "Wow, what a great Dad.”. He opens the door for Cindy after parking the car and they walk toward the worship center holding hands. We know this man stops for flowers every Friday on his way home from work. Etc., etc. etc….. And to top it off, the man prays with his wife. Boy howdy, that green buzzard of envy takes up residence in our hearts at times. It’s not that we want THAT guy but we sure wish our forgetful and less considerate spouse would take a lesson or two. So, here is... Read more →

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Thankful Thursday 2 Timothy 1:7

Let us give thanks. It is Thankful Thursday. This month we are meeting with Iris of Grace Alone. We will meet back here in July. I'm a tad behind with my Thankful Thursday post and just have a quick moment to share something before I rush out to the courthouse to report for Jury Duty. Today my mind is drawn to this scripture 2 Timothy 1:7 For God did not give us a spirit of fear, but a spirit of power, of love and of a sound mind. I recall Lysa TerKeurst speaking about this passage a few weeks ago. It still is present in my mind how we must stand of the truths we know and reign in our emotions. I believe this passage became absolutely real to me in the past several weeks. I am so thankful for the truth of God's Word and it's ever present power... Read more →

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What’s Your Tone?

In his book Blink, Malcolm Gladwell uses many examples of the ways we make split decisions. Early on in the book he makes reference to Dr. John Gottman’s “Four Horsemen:” defensiveness, stonewalling, criticism, and contempt. Gottman says the most important of these and the most destructive is contempt. As a writer, I’m very much aware of people’s body language. When I write fiction, I like to use these aspects of our communication to bring across a character’s emotional state. Body language says a lot. Most interestingly, I had a chance recently to observe both of these aspects right in a grocery store and the subject of my observation was a married couple. I walked down an aisle in search of my favorite cereal and passed a couple with a young child in the front of their shopping cart. At first I didn’t pay much attention, but what caught my notice... Read more →

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False Hope?

Last Monday many of you tuned in and listened to my video log entitled, Powerful One Sentence Prayer. Thanks for tuning in and listening. I was moved by your many thoughtful and hopeful comments. I believe strongly in the power of prayer. My confidence in Christ is so strong that even though I face a monumental setback with regard to the hope for my husband’s salvation, I will not stop praying. (see Friday’s post for a Chronicles of the Donovan Clan update.) One of the comments from last Monday has been on my mind and heart heavily since it was posted. I will tell you I think it has validity and it is a discussion we need to engage as it relates to marriage. Below is the comment. Read through it and let me know your thoughts. Let’s have a real conversation about how we navigate a difficult marriage in... Read more →

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Weekend Devo — God Changes Attitudes

For seven days they celebrated with joy the Feast of Unleavened Bread, because the LORD had filled them with joy by changing the attitude of the king of Assyria, so that he assisted them in the work on the house of God, the God of Israel. — Ezra 6:22 This story in Ezra 6 is most fascinating. An order by King Darius to search the archives led to the discovery of a decree made by King Cyrus that the temple be rebuilt. Once found, King Darius ordered the Temple be finished. As I read this, one thought went through my head. If God can change the attitude of a king (especially self-centered and prideful ones) then… God can change the attitude of anyone. God can change the heart of anyone. God can change unbelief to belief in anyone. Let’s praise God for being stronger than anything we face, including our... Read more →

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Chronicles of the Donovan Clan

It’s been a long time since I have written about our family. I think I am finally at a place to give you an update and share with you what has transpired in the months since my husband’s return to work. For those of you who are new here, I will give you a quick recap. Last year, January 2009, my husband lost his job. He was fairly certain he would find new employment quickly as he works in the High Tech industry. However, after three months passed he found himself surprised and then worried. The worry and stress grew as month six came and went. As I recall, it was about then, June of last year, he began to pray. I remember clearly my husband walking into my tiny hallway office, grabbing my hand, leading me to the family room because he wanted to pray for a potential job.... Read more →

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Thankful Thursday - Father's Day

Let us give thanks. It is Thankful Thursday. This month we are meeting with Iris of Grace Alone. We will meet back here in July. Sunday is Father's Day!Proverbs 12:18 Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing. I just want to remind everyone that Father's Day is this Sunday. You may be thinking about purchasing a necktie or a soap-on-rope but perhaps one of the bests gifts we could give is forgiveness and respect. One gift that you can give your husband is absolutely priceless. Look him in the eyes and say to him, "You can always be secure in the fact that I will never speak about you to others in a disparaging way." He may not react or even comment but I can tell you, he will never forget this promise. Later this summer when you are standing about at a... Read more →

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Things My Father Taught Me

I'm writing my post from the other side of the country. Sadly, my father passed away June 6 after battling cancer for seven years. My youngest daughter and I flew out for the service. This is the first time I've lost someone close to me, so it's been a huge learning experience as well. Here's what I've learned so far: God prepares us for our trials. As scary and difficult as it was to go through my daughter's cancer diagnosis and recovery, this time prepared and strengthened me to handle my father's death. I can even look back to other times in my life and see how they also strengthened me. This has shown me another facet of God's complete provision. God is with us in our grief. During the last week of my father's life, he was resident at a hospice house. This turned out to be a huge... Read more →

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Bloom and Grow.... Forever

I was sitting in yet another class, at a Women’s Ministry, anticipating once again how I could learn something about surviving in a marriage with an unsaved husband. I’d been to many different kinds of classes on marriage and many different churches, searching and searching. There must be someone, some pastor, some ministry, someone that would help me to know how I could save my husband. I had been struggling for 25 years spiritually unequal in a 31 year marriage. Why was there never a sermon preached about it? I knew I wanted to live my life for Jesus. I just could not figure out how I could do that and also be with my husband. Oh how wonderful it would be to be able to do the Lord’s work together, after all we were a team. God what are you thinking here? How was I able to do this,... Read more →

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Powerful One Sentence Prayer

If you are married, this simple prayer will radically change your life, your spouse and your marriage. It doesn't matter if your spouse is a believer or unbeliever..... This prayer is for you. Be blessed, Lynn Read more →

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Thankful Thursday - School's Out!

Let us give thanks. It is Thankful Thursday. This month we are meeting with Iris of Grace Alone. We will meet back here in July. Well, this is the last week of school here in California. Yep, the school year is long, well into June and it's a short summer as the next school year begins August 11th. Sheesh. My daughter is fit to be tied. Thoughts of school flood my mind. All of the firsts. It was my daughter's freshman year of high school. I am thankful mostly that the Lord stood by her side and she grew a little more into the woman she is going to be. So today, I am thankful for teachers. The teachers in our very large high school, for the most part, are amazing. My shy daughter blossomed under the direction of her Performing Arts teacher. It was so cool to watch her... Read more →

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Is Divorce Really the Answer? — Part 2

In last week’s post, I shared a list of lies and false beliefs from Nancy Leigh DeMoss’ book, Lies Women Believe. The second part of her book title is, “And the Truth That Sets Them Free.” Today I want to share the list of truths she counters those lies with. There is no marriage God cannot heal. The primary purpose of marriage is not to be happy, but to glorify God and reflect His redeeming, covenant love. God uses the rough edges of each partner in a marriage to conform the other to the image of Christ. Your mate’s weaknesses can become a tool in God’s hand to make you into the woman He created you to be. True love—God’s love—is unconditional and never fails. We cannot love another human being perfectly on our own. But God can love anyone through us, if we are willing to let Him. Love... Read more →

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Lysa TerKeurst and a Portion

Was I excited or what? Lysa TerKeurst visited my home town over the weekend. She was the speaker at the Crossline Community Church women’s retreat here in our valley. The retreat was fantastic and the gals from Crossline welcomed me into their sisterhood with open arms. Most of you know I adore Lysa. She is a powerful speaker and writer. I have read just about all of her books and I am super excited for her next one to be released late this year. I also read her blog every day. It’s that good. Over breakfast on Saturday, I chatted with Lysa and Holly Good, her traveling buddy, also an amazing woman who servers our Jesus. Lysa is as generous and kind in person, one-on-one, as she appears on stage, at her blog, and throughout her books. Here is a photo of us at breakfast. (don't know what was going... Read more →

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Weekend Devo — God's Love

I will not speak with you much longer, for the prince of this world is coming. He has no hold on me, but the world must learn that I love the Father and that I do exactly what my Father has commanded me. — John 14:30-31 This verse was part of my Bible reading yesterday, and I found myself lingering over verse 31. You can almost hear the strength and yearning in Christ’s words. As God’s children, Jesus wants us to understand that He loves the Father and only wants to do His will. He’s all about the Father’s will. As I read this, my thought was what an amazing example this gives us for our pursuit of faith and our relationship with God. We have this amazing Trinity of Father, Son and Holy Spirit, which is bound not only by power but by LOVE! That’s a new thought for... Read more →

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I'm Not A Perfect Mother

I'm not a perfect mother by a long way. I am also married to an unbeliever so the challenges to raise a child to love Jesus are enormous. But, along the way I may have done a few things right. The best thing I did..... Join me today over at Laced With Grace for a story on Proverbs 22:6. Be blessed, (The Prodigal Daughter) Lynn Read more →

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Is Divorce Really the Answer?

“No sooner does a couple say, “I do,” than the Serpent rears his ugly head and sets out to destroy that marriage. He knows every divorce is an attack on the character of God and on the earthly picture of divine redemption. Before the wedding reception is over, Satan is looking for opportunities to plant seeds of deception in the hearts of the newlyweds.” —Nancy Leigh DeMoss, Lies Women Believe (p. 156) That’s a sobering statement, isn’t it? We’ve been doing a lot of chatting on the 1Peter3Living loop on the aspects of spiritual warfare specifically in a spiritually mismatched marriage. As Nancy Leigh DeMoss says, marriage is under constant attack. I believe it’s even more so in a spiritual mismatch because we are a constant godly influence to an unbeliever. This specific chapter that I’m quoting from Lies Women Believe is the chapter about divorce. Specifically how sometimes we... Read more →

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I'm Lonely In My Marriage

There is an epidemic of loneliness in our world. And more staggering is the number of people who are married and feel alone. Does it strike you as a strange paradox, to be married and be lonely? How can that happen? How can we live under one roof, share the same bed, live together, and feel utterly alone?.... Read the entire article at Exemplify today: I'm Lonely In My Marriage. Read more →

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