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Weekend Devo — We Are Not Alone

When Elijah heard it, he pulled his cloak over his face and went out and stood at the mouth of the cave. Then a voice said to him, "What are you doing here, Elijah?"

He replied, "I have been very zealous for the LORD God Almighty. The Israelites have rejected your covenant, broken down your altars, and put your prophets to death with the sword. I am the only one left, and now they are trying to kill me too."

The LORD said to him, "Go back the way you came, and go to the Desert of Damascus. When you get there, anoint Hazael king over Aram. Also, anoint Jehu son of Nimshi king over Israel, and anoint Elisha son of Shaphat from Abel Meholah to succeed you as prophet. Jehu will put to death any who escape the sword of Hazael, and Elisha will put to death any who escape the sword of Jehu. Yet I reserve seven thousand in Israel—all whose knees have not bowed down to Baal and all whose mouths have not kissed him." — 1Kings 19:13-18

Elijah is one of the characters in the Bible who falls into his very own category. He did some pretty amazing things for God and even bypassed physical death when he was taken directly into heaven in a chariot of fire and horses (2Kings 2:11).

What I love in this particular passage above is that, though Elijah felt completely alone and abandoned, he wasn't. God not only made a His presence known, He also let Elijah know he wasn't the only one still faithful to God. Seven thousand others existed, reserved by God.

When I thought about what to write for this weekend's devotional, this passage came to mind. I felt as if God were whispering in my ear that someone out there needed to know they are not alone. (Little did I know that when I wrote this, I would need this reminder too.) Sometimes we can feel so alone in our mismatched marriages or the struggles we face. Even within our churches, we can feel alone and abandoned.

But we're not. The enemy would love for us to believe that so he steal away our hope like the thief that he is, but it's a lie. We have a God who adores us and a family of believers connected to us in ways we cannot even fathom. Connected in ways even deeper than we are to our earthly families.

This place, here...this blog is one of them. We share our struggles, our faith, our hopes...we share Jesus whose mercy and grace never are unending. That's amazing when you think about it.

We are family, and I am so thankful for and blessed by every one of you. Thank you for being my family.

Praying and believing,
Dineen

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Unanswered Prayer... Are You Certain?

Lord, save my husband. 

     • Discover what loneliness is and turn to Jesus. 

Lord, save my husband. 

    • I began reading my Bible in earnest seeking to be a better woman and wife. 

Lord, save my husband. 

    • My prayer life was engaged for my husband and many others. 

Lord, save my husband

    • I joined a Bible study and others taught me how to love Jesus and my husband. They prayed for his salvation. 

Lord, save my husband. 

    • I became to be a better wife, a Godly wife. 

Lord, save my husband

    • Honest forgiveness birthed new freedom in my life and my husband. 

Lord, save my husband. 

    • I live in intimate relationship with Jesus Christ. 

Lord, save my husband

    • A ministry was born. 

Lord, save my husband. 

    • Others are encouraged and find hope. 

Lord, save my husband

    • I make many new eternal friends through ministry. 

Lord, save my husband. 

    • A book will be written. 

Lord, save my husband. 

    • Speak out and help other's to find their way. 

Lord, save my husband. 

    • “I will.”


Be blessed, Lynn

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I am Thankful for the Unexpected - Thankful Thursday

Let us give thanks. It is Thankful Thursday.

January sure flew by in a flash. My month for hosting ends today. Let's all meet next week over with Iris of Grace Alone and in March we will be back at Laurie's place, Women Taking A Stand. Find Thankful Thursday back here in April.

I have loved, LOVED, visiting all of you this month. With my crazy schedule sometimes I only am able to visit my friends on Thursdays. Your wisdom, grace and humor have delighted my heart and inspired my soul.

THANK YOU!

Such a strange thing has happened. My daughter received a tropical fish aquarium for Christmas from her Uncle. This aquarium has been a great gift..... for me. I have thrilled watching these beautiful fish and aquatic frog move about and chase each other. The colors and grace are mesmerizing. 


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Such an unexpected joy. I am thankful with a full heart for the unexpected joys the Lord places into my life. What unexpected joy has the Lord brought you?

This week, how about we all visit at least five other TT participants, leave a comment, and celebrate our amazing community of Christ followers.

One more thing, over on our Facebook Fan Page, I am giving away the book, I Dared To Call Him Father. This is one of my favorite books and a compelling story to the power of Christ. I have two copies to give away so head over there and just leave a comment. You are entered. I will pick two winners Friday. 

Also, if you are a writer or speaker or even a wanna be, watch for an exciting and awesome give away over on our FB page next month. Click over and join.

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I love each of you. Thank you for spending your precious and limited time with me today. I will be by your place soon. Be blessed, Lynn



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Let us give thanks. It is Thankful Thursday.

January sure flew by in a flash. My month for hosting ends today. Let's all meet next week over with Iris of Grace Alone and in March we will be back at Laurie's place, Women Taking A Stand. Find Thankful Thursday back here in April.

I have loved, LOVED, visiting all of you this month. With my crazy schedule sometimes I only am able to visit my friends on Thursdays. Your wisdom, grace and humor have delighted my heart and inspired my soul.

THANK YOU!

Such a strange thing has happened. My daughter received a tropical fish aquarium for Christmas from her Uncle Steve. This aquarium has been a great gift..... for me. I have thrilled watching these beautiful fish and aquatic frog move about and chase each other. The colors and grace are mesmerizing. 

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Unanswered Prayers...Seeking God

ColorfulEye Here we are, our last week of January (can you believe it?) and the end of our unanswered prayer series. My deepest prayer is that Lynn and I have been able to encourage you. Without our hope in Christ, well, it’s pretty hard to keep going. We run out of juice. Thank goodness Jesus doesn’t!

So, let’s talk some more about those unanswered prayers. In Part One, we talked about believing and trusting that God hears our prayers and considered what other reasons there may be for our answers to be delayed or different than what we expected.

Lynn wrote an awesome post about Dreaming Big with God, how sometimes God has something bigger in mind than what we're praying for.

Last week, we changed the label of unanswered prayers to Prayers in Waiting, another step in pushing our faith beyond ourselves and trusting God more. And Lynn shared how It's NOT about us.

Are you ready for more? I hope you said yes.

One of the questions left on the Facebook site was about praying effectively. That’s a great question. But first I want to ask you, what does that mean to you? What tells or shows us we’re praying effectively?

Visible results?

Our prayers quickly answered?

Which then leads me to ask, can we pray ineffectively?

If we go back to Hebrew 11:1, we’re told faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see. This all has to do with our faith in God, his Son Jesus, and his Holy Spirit. We believe God exists, we believe his Son Jesus died for our sins and was resurrected, and we believe that upon accepting Christ and his resurrection, the Holy Spirit takes residence in us. We are sealed, belonging to God and co-heirs with Christ (Romans 8:17).

This is the beginning of faith, the core of who we are as Christians. From here we learn to understand the daily pursuit of God and learning his will for our lives. And we do that by spending time with God, learning his ways and how we can join him in what he’s doing around us, in our own lives and the lives of those we love. We are all so interconnected that to not do this means we can wind up praying outside of God’s will. Then, yes, we wind up praying ineffectively.

I can only go back to what my family and I have experienced the last several months and hope I don’t sound like a broken record.

A year after my daughter’s brain surgery, I expected to be rejoicing on that one year mark when the MRI came back yet again clear. No sign of the tumor returning and everything looked pretty much normal. Yet her condition was worse than ever with bad headaches and missing so much school we wondered if she’d make it to the next grade. I prayed constantly for God to heal her, to take the headaches away, to make her want to go to school every day.

Basically, I was praying for God to fix it. But like Lynn so aptly said in her post, it’s not about us. It wasn’t about me. It was about my daughter’s journey and what God is trying to teach her.

I’ll be honest, my heart railed against this, to see my daughter still struggling so much, and nothing seemed to change. Why didn’t God hear my prayers?

The thing is, he did. And I know his heart ached as much as mine. That he matched me tear for tear. But he KNEW what my daughter needed more than a simple fix-it solution. He wasn’t just interested in her immediate comfort. He’s also interested in her future, one he designed specifically for her. One he’s building her character and equipping her for.

And I’m on the sidelines watching. You know that place. It’s a difficult one to be in. But necessary. God showed me (slowly because I’m a stubborn mama sometimes) that my prayers needed to change. That I needed to let go of what I wanted for my daughter, let go of my will, and consider the bigger picture. I was praying for what would make our lives easier. Hers. Mine.

My prayers began to change from fixing to equipping. To praying for guidance on how to best help my daughter learn what God was trying to teach her (Lord, equip me…). To prayers for her to make good choices. To praying Scriptures God lead me to pray for her.

This wasn’t an easy road...isn’t an easy road. It means doing the hard stuff and sacrificing what I want to achieve a greater goal. One that I catch a glimpse of and know in my gut what it all potentially could mean to my daughter…and to my unbelieving hubby. And I’m sure I won’t fully understand it all until I’m with Jesus and can ask him to show me what I didn’t see.

I can’t tell you a method or pattern for praying effectively. I can only tell you that when we pray in God’s will, when we can go before God and release what we want and desire only what God wants—desire only Him—that’s when things happen. And so often, we have to reach the end of ourselves to get there. And trust God with the outcome. Mix this with praying his Word out loud and worship, big things will change in YOU.

Our week of fasting and praying was one of the most difficult things I’ve done. I had to let go of everything I’d held onto. Actually, I had nothing left to hold on to at that point. I’d tried everything and nothing had worked. I released myself and my daughter to God completely, ready to do whatever God said had to be done.

I won’t go into all the details, but some pretty big stuff happened. Tears return even as I write this and remember what God has done. I did what God asked. Even when I wanted to doubt, I still proclaimed the truth. He didn’t expect perfection from me, just the first steps. He helped me take the rest with the gift of proof. My daughter is healed. I could write a book on how these events played out, how the MRI even amazed her doctors. It’s all there. Or should I say, not there. The biggest proof though is in how she’s changed—a change that came after she made the decision to seek God herself.

Sometimes I think praying effectively has more to do with what we don’t do, and more to do with how we trust God. Or choose to trust him. When your prayers seem unanswered, it’s time to step back and take another look. Maybe even ask some hard questions like, am I praying this more for my own selfish needs (like I was with my daughter because I wanted my life to be easier) than for the other person? What does God really want in this situation?

Do I want what I’m praying for (even if it’s your spouse’s salvation) more than I want God?

When we earnestly seek God, he says that’s when we’ll find him (Deut. 4:29, Matt. 6:33, Heb. 11:6). That I can tell you is the gospel truth.

Praying and believing,
Dineen

(Go to BibleGateway.com and read 119 Scripture references to the word “seek.”)

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Oh Here We Go Again. Another Wacky Story.

I want you to meet three of my newest and closest friends.


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Sophie 


sadie

Sadie


jack

and Jack!


Yep, we met in the most conspicuous manner.

Read the rest at Laced With Grace today and discover how I experience Him in a profound way. 

You can too.


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Weekend Devo — Worship

Another great article from Purpose Driven Connection by Rick Warren. Have a beautiful weekend and be blessed! ~Dineen

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Worship: Offering Yourself to God
by Rick Warren

So then, my friends, because of God's great mercy to us I appeal to you: Offer yourselves as a living sacrifice to God, dedicated to his service and pleasing to him. This is the true worship that you should offer. Romans 12:1-2 (TEV)

Offering yourself to God is what worship is all about.

This act of personal surrender is called many things: consecration, making Jesus Lord, taking up your cross, dying to self, yielding to the Spirit.
What matters is that you do it, not what you call it. God wants your life. All of it -- 95% is not enough.

Our total surrender to God is blocked by several things, including -

  • Our ignorance of God - not knowing what he's really like.
  • Our sinful nature - the desire to be God ourselves, and
  • Our misunderstanding of surrender and the trust that it requires.


Can We Trust God?

Trust is an essential ingredient to surrender. We won't surrender to God unless we trust Him, but we can't trust Him until we know Him better. Fear keeps us from surrendering, but love casts out all fear. The more you realize how much God loves you, the easier surrender becomes.

How do I know God loves me?
He gives us many evidences:

  • God says he loves you (Psalm 145:9);
  • You're never out of his sight (Ps. 139:3);
  • He cares about every detail of your life (Matt. 10:30);
  • He gave you the capacity to enjoy all kinds of pleasure (1 Tim. 6:17b);
  • He has good plans for your life (Jer. 29:11);
  • He forgives you (Ps. 86:5);
  • He's patient with you (Ps. 145:8);
  • He sacrificed his Son for you (Rom. 5:8).
God loves you infinitely more than you can imagine:

Therefore, brothers, by the mercies of God, I urge you to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God; this is your spiritual worship. (Romans 12:1, HCSB)

If you want to know how much you matter to God, look at Christ with his arms outstretched on the cross saying, "I love you this much! I'd rather die than live without you."

God is not a cruel slave driver, or a bully who uses brute force to coerce us into submission. He doesn't try to break our will, but woos us to himself, so that we might offer it freely to him. God is a Lover and a Liberator, and surrendering brings freedom, not bondage.

When we completely surrender ourselves to Jesus, we discover that he is not a tyrant but a savior; not a boss, but a brother; not a dictator, but a friend.

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It's NOT About Me. Unanswered Prayer

It’s a rainy Thursday afternoon. I just sat down to pray and write about unanswered prayers. I have to say that Dineen summed up this subject in a brilliant post on Tuesday. Scroll down to read it. It is awesome. 

I wonder if you are like me, we ask, “Lord, what is it that we need to know about praying. Can you help us understand why we pray according to your word and your will, with wholehearted faith, and yet we still wait to see the fruit of those prayers?” 

In my gut I have wondered how the Bible tells us to pray in faith believing like a mustard seed and still prayers for my husband’s salvation went unanswered. Am I not praying right? Is my faith shallow? Is God angry with me so He won’t listen? 

Okay, tell me I’m not alone here. 

Each time I ask the Lord about this very issue, I keep getting the same response. “Lynn, it’s not about you.” 

Period. 

Oh how I always want to make everything about me. 

My life would be so much easier if he would just come to faith. 

We could sit together in church so I don’t have to sit alone. 

If he believed I could give more money to church. 

Once he is saved then I don’t have to always be the spiritual leader. 

Whew, can you see the word “I” in each of these statements. I will admit that for many years I may have secretly hoped for my husband’s salvation just because it would make my life more convenient. 

Well, I will tell you a truth. God isn’t concerned with my comfort. He is concerned with my heart and for that matter, my husband’s heart as well. 

The Lord will work every conceivable angle of circumstances to bring our spouse to faith. And we as believing wives and husbands are key players in this drama. We are to model, live out, our faith with authenticity. We are to fight the spiritual battles through prayer and fasting. 

However, in matters of salvation we each make a decision to believe or not to believe. I cannot choose for my husband nor for my daughter or the neighbor across the street. 

When you boil everything down, what is left is a man, his free will and God. That man must choose for himself. Nothing you do, no amount of praying, will make that choice for him. 

It is NOT about me. I have watched this truth play out in my very own life and the salvation journey of my husband. God brought about the circumstances to change my husband, I was privileged to stand by the way side and pray protection over him. 

I have watched this play out many times when it comes to prodigal adults. A mother’s prayers are powerful but until that child decides for himself to follow Christ, our prayers can seem to be going unanswered. In both of these scenarios, I have watched as an individual battles it out with God. Our prayers on the periphery bear significance but there are times it comes down to an individual’s free will to choose.

It’s not about me. But it is about me in that my only place is to pray in support of God’s will. This seems hard to accept. I would like to hear your thoughts on this subject. 

Happy Friday. I will stop back to join the conversation in the comments. Be blessed, Lynn

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Thankful Thursday - A Ratty Mess!

Let us give thanks. It is Thankful Thursday.

January I'm am privileged to be hosting this awesome event. Next month we are meeting with Iris of Grace Alone and in March we will be back at Laurie's place, Women Taking A Stand. 

I am a tad surly today. Bear with.. 

The best of plans sometimes go awry. And today, this was my life. So I have decided I won’t sit down and cry. I think it’s best to laugh and start fresh again tomorrow. 

I woke at o’ dark hundred. The alarm clock was in the off position. Yikes, I am already behind schedule and it’s only 5:30 am. 

I looked outside, my morning “jog and praise” was called on the account of rain. Sheesh. Then my daughter needed extra help with her lion’s main of hair. Yikes, more time lost. 

I arrive home after making the run to school and I’m ready to sit at my computer and type. But, lo….. (I mean no) I decide to fill the bird feeder. I stepped outside. I froze in my tracks, my hand raced to cover my mouth and nose. My person is assaulted by the most hideous stink. I almost launched right there on the patio (sorry, perhaps a bit graphic *grin*). 

I ventured slowly forward. I spot the thin tail of a rat under our spa. It was obviously dead and smelling up our entire neighborhood. Rat poison does work. 

I scream for hubby. He opens the bottom of the spa. I find a plastic bag and have to pull the thing out. Sick, I tell you. It was sick. I held my nose with one hand, the bagged rat with the other and trot to the garbage, all the way I am praying asking for forgiveness because I killed the rat. 

Hubby begins sweeping up the mess. 

Water hose running I return and reach for the hose to dispel the smell. Water gushes out and sprays the residual rat guts back at me, which of course, covers my face. 

I look up at my husband, shock is written across my face. He busts out laughing. I start to giggle, which morphs into howls and belly laughs. I’m sure our neighbors are convinced we’re nuts. I have giggled all day. Well at least from the time I had a shower. I feel much better now. 

So, this post is likely the only writing I will do today. There’s always a fresh start tomorrow. 

I am thankful for a sense of humor, a God who loves to laugh and I especially thankful that I always have a fresh start in my future because I serve a God of unlimited chances. What are you thankful for this Thursday? 

Can’t wait to read your “rat” story. *grin* Hugs, Lynn

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Unaswered Prayers or Prayers in Waiting?

776970_bridal_bouquet Last week in the Unanswered Prayers series, we established that God hears us and considered that the circumstances aren’t just about us. Lynn talked about letting go of what we might think is good in order for God to give us his best.

Read Unanswered Prayers, Part 1 here.
Read He Dreams Big, Do You? here.

As I said before, this series is a challenge. Sometimes we don’t want to hear the truth, especially when it pertains to something we’ve waited a long time for. But what if that truth is better than the partial truth we may be holding on to? What if God’s idea of answering our prayer is so different than what we expect that we possibly even see it as a set-back?

If we think of our own journeys and growth closer to God, we probably can see times where we despaired in the mire of what appeared to be a hopeless or unchangeable situation. At that moment, we had only the present to go by. But our God has the full picture and sometimes that dark moment has to come before the breakthrough. Our faith journeys become a myriad of changes bringing us closer and closer to the person we are meant to be in Christ.

So, I ask, if we can see this in our own lives, what makes us think it would be any different for our unbelieving loved ones? Would we rush a process so critical to their salvation only to meet our own selfish need for it to happen now?

I don’t mean to be harsh. Just honest. The truth of the matter is, there is so much going on that we don’t even know about. Like a wedding, weeks and months go into the planning. The guests see only the day of celebration—the beautiful dress, the fancy suits, bountiful flowers and a spectacular cake. They’ve seen nothing of the hands that created the dress, the organization of the suits for the groom and best men, the bouquets of special-ordered flowers arranged in a pleasing manner, or the hours spent baking and building a sculpture-like cake.

As guests, we see the results of all this hard work. Yet our role in our spouse’s salvation is both. We get to be the guest, but we are also a vital part of the process and preparation. And perhaps that’s where we miss the times our big prayers are actually answered in small parts.

We are so focused on the end result that we miss the small steps leading to it. I know I’ve found this to be true in my daughter’s recovery from a brain surgery. I’ve been so focused on the idea of her being normal again, whole and happy and going to school everyday that I’ve missed some of the steps leading there in a slow process of recovery.

At times she’s done better then to get worse. My greatest struggle at times is to not focus on this one set-back so much that I lose sight of the progress that’s actually being made.  And even when I can’t see that progress, I can choose to trust God’s there, working to restore her to full health.

I know this is difficult, because I’m right there with you. I’ve been praying for my dear hubby for 14 years now. I know some of you have prayed even longer for yours. From my perspective he seems no closer to this critical decision, yet I sense discontent and restlessness in him. In some ways this can be difficult to deal with, and can even appear to be a set back, but in my heart I know that’s God working.

So don’t stop. Keep going. When you feel you can’t pray anymore, do it for God. Be faithful to him. Tell Him your desire is to please Him and that you’ll continue to pray for that reason alone. God will restore your hope.

Our greatest battles with unanswered prayer is not the prayer itself. It is with our impatience to have what we want when we want it, AND with an enemy determined to steal our hope, make us ineffective, and distract us from our true purpose, which is to seek constant relationship with God.

When we do this, when we are faithful to our highest calling to love God with all our hearts, souls, minds, and strength, we will truly be delighting in the Lord, and He will give us the desires of our heart.

Then we will see our prayers getting answered, because our desires will be in alignment with God’s. What’s truly amazing is that our greatest satisfaction will NOT come from those answered prayers, but from the close friendship we have with our Lord and Savior.

So let’s stop calling them unanswered prayers, but prayers in waiting. Like a bride ready to walk down the aisle, she will arrive at the right time in tune with the music.

And so will our unbelieving loved ones, at God’s time and to His music.

"Now all glory to God, who is able, through his mighty power at work within us, to accomplish infinitely more than we might ask or think." —Ephesians 3:20


Praying and believing,
Dineen

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Chronicles of the Donovan Clan. The Update

Well it’s been a while since I posted an update to the Donovan Chronicles. Many of you have emailed, asking how my husband’s new job was working out. 

Let me give a quick review of the past 12 months for all the new readers here at Spiritually Unequal Marriage. Also, welcome to our new friends in Christ. You are among those who love you and love Jesus. I pray you are encouraged and grow closer to Christ every time you stop here for a visit. 

Most of you know my husband stepped into a life-changing journey when he lost his job one year ago this week. He wrestled with doubt, insecurity, unemployment searches, disappointments, and the pursuit of our Great BIG GOD! 

Heavens door  My husband is still in the discovery stage but without a doubt he encountered the truth of the Gospel. Today, this very hour, he stands at the door. He hesitates. He won’t cross over. Why? Why would a person hesitate when they discover the God of the Ages. 

My husband, like so many of yours, came from a childhood background without any faith practice. He grew up subscribed to the common misconception that people who practiced faith are weak and faith is a crutch. Further, my husband was educated at perhaps one of the most liberal universities in America. He has told me professors often decry anyone foolish enough to believe in a deity. Add to this lethal combination the fact that my guy is brilliant, an engineer sort, who needs scientific proof. Okay, does this sound like someone you know? 

The journey to faith confronts a lifetime of belief systems. But….. Jesus loves this stubborn and scientific-minded engineer. More than I do. 

My husband encountered Jesus and his personal encounter trumps a lifetime of false belief systems. But, it still takes time to reconcile it all. Work through the telling of family and friends. 

Over our 17 plus years of marriage, I have done everything I could think to do and more to maneuver my man to the foot of the cross. But, Christ must meet him there alone in His perfect timing. Without me. Without my “so called help.” If I was in anyway involved, I would steal the honor, glory and testimony from Jesus and my husband. My only calling has been to pray. Oh and have I ever prayed. 

So, why does my guy still stand at the open door and not proceed forward? I don’t’ know and I have been warned by the Holy Spirit not to ask or interfere in anyway. I am only to smile, wait, and watch and to pray down heaven around him. 

Do I want to push him through? 

YES!! Without a doubt I want to push him. 

But, I wait and pray because God set this story in motion one year ago today. The Lord’s ending to this one man’s faith discovery will bring glory and praise to Jesus. 

I will not stop praying. I will not surrender to the lies of the enemy that my husband will never confess, Jesus is Lord. I will never stop giving praise and worship to the Lord God for the fantastic and miraculous events of the past 12 months. The story is just beginning. Hang on because there is so much more to come. 

Thank you for praying for my husband. 

Please know our prayers are powerful. Our prayers are essential and effective even when we don’t see the immediate results. I have prayed for my husband for over 17 years. Year after year I was convinced God wasn’t listening. That God didn’t care. I was so hurt and puzzled. I knew I was praying within His will for my husband’s salvation, so why didn’t He answer. 

I have much to share with you about my unanswered prayers. Look for a post this Friday. I am praying for absolute divine inspired words from our Father. I know so many of you are struggling with your faith because God doesn’t answer your earnest pleas of prayer. Don’t give up. Don’t listen to the lies of the enemy because Jesus is on His way. 

I love you. I am hearing the Lord tell me now as I type to ask you for your prayer requests this Monday. Please tell me your honest need. God knows what it is but has asked me to help you fight your way through with prayer. If you need to email me, find the link in the sidebar. 

Have a wonderful week. Be blessed, Lynn

PS. My husband's new job is going great. God is forever faithful and oh, so very good. Amen.

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Weekend Devo — God's Word Speaks

Bible Yesterday morning, my devotional had me in Lamentations. The words spoke so deeply to my heart and became a prayer that I'd like to share with you. :-)

Lamentations 3:22-26

Because of the LORD's great love we are not consumed, for his compassions never fail. They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness.

Lord, we love, love, LOVE that each day is a new chance to love You more and better. That with each new day we get to do things a little better than the day before. And whether we succeed or not, you still love us and have compassion for us. CompassionS! You are the rock of our lives. The foundation of our hearts. You bless us with your presence and give us such comfort and peace. We love you, Lord!

I say to myself, "The LORD is my portion; therefore I will hope in him."

Oh, Lord, thank you! Thank you for being all we need. The one thing that truly satisfies the deep need in our souls. We hope in you, Lord, and we know you will never let us down.

It is good that one should hope and wait quietly for the salvation of the Lord.

Lord, we wait quietly and hope in You for our spouses' salvation. We know this is what You desire. Your compassion never ends! We proclaim your salvation for our unbelieving loved ones. In Jesus' Name, amen!

Praying and believing,
Dineen

(On a side note, please consider Lamentations 3:33 in your prayers for the people of Haiti.)

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Unanswered Prayers - He Dreams Big, Do You?

I just sat down to write about unanswered prayers. I am listening to a radio station, KLOV, through Itunes Radio. 

Praying child A new song just started playing. Your Hands by JJ Heller. You can find the lyrics below. How amazing, God would send this song right now. 

The first line in her song is, I have unanswered prayers. Following her song the station replayed an interview with this artist. 

JJ wanted to play basketball. She played in college ball and was voted MVP. In her final year she said, “I couldn’t make a basket. I wasn’t doing anything different. It was like God was making me miss.” 

She grudgingly left basketball and behold she found a new dream. Her music career. Indeed, God made her miss the basket. He had bigger plans than a sweaty ball court. Now her life is bigger than she dared to dream. 

Aren’t’ we just like JJ? How do we limit the Lord. Why is it when JJ asked for her basketball ability to return it didn’t happen? 

Unanswered Prayers. Hmmmmm 

Please listen closely. God has big plans for you too. He will take you as far as you are willing to go (or let go). In fact, He will take you to places you couldn’t even begin to think a reality. 

I am living proof. 

Perhaps our prayers are outside of His will and we just don't understand it all yet. Also, we often limit ourselves because of our fears and struggles. 

Sometimes our prayers go unanswered because we think small. Sometimes our prayers are filled with pain. I have found that most of the time it takes pain in our lives to drive us to the foot of the cross. 

God wastes nothing. Not our fears, struggles, or pain. He will answer our prayers, however, almost never in the way we expect. So, today pray BIG. Ask Him where you are thinking small and to show you how to pray big. Then let Him knock your socks off when He takes you to the stars. 

Next week: Unanswered prayers – It’s Not About Me! ~Why do I always want to make it about me???? 

Be blessed, Lynn

Your Hands by JJ. Heller 

I have unanswered prayers 

I have trouble I wish wasn't there 

And I have asked a thousand ways 

That You would take my pain away 

That You would take my pain away 

I am trying to understand 

How to walk this weary land 

Make straight the paths that crookedly lie 

Oh Lord, before these feet of mine 

Oh Lord, before these feet of mine 

When my world is shaking Heaven stands 

When my heart is breaking I never leave 

Your hands 

When You walked upon the Earth 

You healed the broken, lost, and hurt 

I know You hate to see me cry 

One day You will set all things right 

Yea, one day You will set all things right 

When my world is shaking 

Heaven stands 

When my heart is breaking 

I never leave Your hands 

Your hands 

Your hands that shape the world 

Are holding me, they hold me still 

Your hands that shape the world 

Are holding me, they hold me still 

When my world is shaking 

Heaven stands 

When my heart is breaking 

I never leave You when... 

When my world is shaking 

Heaven stands 

When my heart is breaking 

I never leave... 

I never leave Your hands

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Thankful Thursday - Do You Love Pizza?

Let us give thanks. It is Thankful Thursday.

January I'm am privileged to be hosting this awesome event. Next month we are meeting with Iris of Grace Alone and in March we will be back at Laurie's place, Women Taking A Stand. 

I love Pizza.

I love a great cup of coffee.

I love my husband.

I love my dog, Peanut.

I love praise music.

I love apples slathered with peanut butter. Chocolate??? Not so much.. I know I'm weird.

I love Jesus.

Do you think the power of the word "LOVE" has been lost? We use this tiny word to describe so many things. Pizza and puppies. Apple pie and Jesus. 

We use many words, including love, to describe our Lord. He is awesome, amazing, great, kind....

However, there still is one word we use to describe God, which is ascribed to Him, alone.

HOLY

Our God is Holy, above all others.

I am thankful our God is holy, all-powerful, our protector and redeemer. This Thursday I am in awe of a Holy God who would see little ole me. Who cares deeply about my everyday life and has set me on a path of discovery and adventure with Him.

What are you thankful for today? Can't wait to read about what you love. Be blessed, Lynn

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Unanswered Prayers, Part 1

841479_pain In December on our Facebook page, we asked you to share about unanswered prayers. I was amazed at the diversity of your comments. Thus is born this series I hope will shed some light for all of us so we can keep persevering in prayer…and believing. Also, if you haven't had a chance to read the weekend devotional, you might want to read "Did Abraham Forget?" as a precursor to this post. Not required, just suggested. :-)

Unanswered prayers…what do we do about them? I’m sure you have at least one. And you most likely wonder why God doesn’t seem to hear or answer it. That may be how we feel, but I’m discovering that it’s not the truth.

First, about the hearing part. Look at Psalm 17:6. God showed me this verse twice in one day as I prayed over how to approach this series, so this is where we need to start. We need to believe God hears us. We need to trust that God hears us.

"I am praying to you because I know you will answer, O God. Bend down and listen as pray." (NLT)

I call on you, O God, for you will answer me; give ear to me and hear my prayer. (NIV)


As a writer, words have a tendency to capture my attention—their meaning and order. The first part of this verse affirms the truth. The Psalmist doesn’t start with the request to be heard but first states the truth, that he will not only be heard by God but answered as well.

Throughout Exodus, God heard the grumblings of the Israelites over and over again. In fact, throughout the Bible, we see God telling his people over and over again, “I have heard you.”

So lets establish that though it may seem God doesn’t hear us, He does. Some may argue that unforgiven or habitual sins block communication. That may be true of us hearing God, but I don’t believe it incapacitates God’s ability to hear us. We’re the ones clogging the communication pipe.

Now, with that established, let’s explore our faith in terms of prayer. The act of prayer is also an act of faith. Just like the Psalmist starts his prayer with affirming the truth that God will hear him. This is an act of faith.

We believe God is a good God (again, the Bible affirms this over and over again, contrary to what some might say. Find out for yourself by reading it!). First John 4 particularly speaks of God’s love, namely that he loved us first. Soak that in a minute, because I believe it is critical to a Christian’s ongoing faith walk. We must believe God loves us and always has our best interest at heart.

Not only that, He has the big picture. He knows our past, our present, and our future. He knows what we will face down the road, and he knows what we will need to do it. And not just for us, but for others as well. And if you haven’t discovered now intertwined we are as the body of Christ, you will at some point. Of that I have no doubt.

Let me give you an example. Years ago I wanted to start a women’s ministry at my church with another person, who I thought would be perfect for it. Yet when I prayed about it, God remained mysteriously silent. He’d been pretty clear about starting it, so why was he not saying anything now?

The answer came a few weeks later when this person I thought was perfect to partner with me turned away from her faith and walked away from the church. How could I have missed that coming? Based on past and present interaction with this person, I thought it was a done deal.

But God knew the future. He knew what potentially could happen. And until this person made her decision of the path she would choose (sadly), He could not tell me to move forward.

In other words, this situation wasn’t just about me. Another person’s decisions and choices played into the picture. And to move sooner might have had tragic results. Instead of a ministry that’s still thriving today, it could have been tarnished and failed.

So I present this question to you as the first part of this series about unanswered prayers. Ask yourself this and pray about it:

“Is it possible that God hasn’t answered my prayer for or about ___________, because He is accomplishing something else in this person or situation that is critical to how my prayer is to be answered?”

Come back next week for part two of this series. I hope you’ll share what God reveals to you in answer to your question.

Praying and believing,
Dineen

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Another Beginning It's Scary, Passionate and all about Jesus. Gotta Read this one!

Hi Lynn and Dineen here! 

We have a story to tell you. And as always then we need your help. 

Many of you who have joined us on this strange and unexpected journey of unequallyokedome, may not know how Spiritually Unequal Marriage was started. So, today we want to tell you about the beginning. 

This blog began May, 1, 2006 after I (Lynn) attended a writer’s conference. It was the last day of the conference, the last lunch, my bags were packed and following lunch I was heading to the airport to return home. 

Well during this lunch, I sat down with several young women who were all talking about their blogs. They all blogged. I barely knew what a blog was and thought only teenagers blogged. But these women were discussing how it is part of their ministry and writing for the Lord. 

As I sat listening, they tried to explain this strange new world and all of a sudden, I heard the Lord speak directly and clearly to my heart. “Lynn, you are going to do this… You are going to do this…” I started repeating, “I’m going to do this, yes, I’m going to do this” 

I came home and Spiritually Unequal Marriage was born. 

I hit publish on my first post and prayed this blog would be a hopeful resource for others, like me, who struggled with their unequally yoked marriage. Over the years prior, God healed me, my marriage, and I learned to live with joy. The Lord told me to share the hope and encourage others. 

I stepped out in total FAITH. I didn’t have a clue. 

 Here is my first post: 

This website is dedicated to our Lord and to men and women who live every day in a spiritually mismatched marriage. It is my prayer that this forum will be the place where Christians can find support, encouragement, and practical resources to thrive in their unequal marriage. I pray that when you visit this site you will be inspired and offer your own insights into God’s design for a healthy marriage in the midst of different viewpoints. 

This is still how I feel today and it’s how Dineen feels as well. 

Amazingly, as this was happening, God put the idea about a blog for the unequally yoked on Dineen’s heart, and led her to me, and we became partners. She completes me. She began writing here within months. 

Our mission is very simple: To serve the Lord Jesus Christ and to honor Him with our words. And, to do all we can to give others help, hope, encouragement and healing in their lives and marriages. 

It is our passion with our entire heart. 

Well God has done such amazing things and you, our friends, who come here to read and share your lives, have helped so many others and especially us. We are all together serving the Lord through this online community. 

So, today the Lord has asked us to take our passion to others who haven’t found us on the internet. This week Dineen and I began working on a book, Wild Hope, a discussion of ten Christ-centered principles to help a woman thrive in a spiritually mismatched marriage(working title). We are thrilled to work with Regal Publishing and our awesome Editor, Kim. (Thanks again Kim for serving the Lord and allowing us to get our message of hope out to others). 

So, we can’t do this without YOU!!! We are gonna need your ideas, your suggestions, your prayers and input, just like we always need you. We must have the manuscript finished quickly, in less than 90 days from today. Please pray for the Lord to grace us with His amazing words, that the work we do will change the lives of those seeking help. The book is slated for a release in January of next year. 

Today, we specifically need your help with chapter two. Can you please share with us some of the crazy, zany, stupid, waste of time, efforts you undertook to save your husband? You know how we always try to save our men. As if Jesus needs our help anyway. *Sheesh* 

I will tell you one of my zany periods of “saving my man for Jesus.” I left 3X5 cards around the house covered with scripture in hopes my man would read them and suddenly see the light. It didn’t work. In fact, it probably annoyed him and it annoyed me more that he didn’t read them. 

Okay, so share what silly things you did which may have been a hindrance to your husband’s faith journey. 

Thank you sooooo much, from the bottom of our hearts, for allowing us to be part of your lives. We love you and look forward to how the Lord will move in your marriage in 2010. 

Praying and believing, Dineen and Be blessed, Lynn

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Weekend Devo — Did Abraham Forget?

IStock_000002799497Medium Yesterday, on our last day of fasting and praying for the New Year, Rosheeda told us to REMEMBER. Do you know that if Abraham had remembered what God had told him (or maybe just connected the dots), he might have avoided two pickles he got himself into?

In Genesis 12, God promises a nation to Abram. God even shows Abram the land of Canaan and says He'll give it to Abram's offspring. So what happens next? They wind up in Egypt because of a famine, and Abram is convinced he will be killed for his wife.

What happened to God's promise to make Abram into a great nation directly from his offspring? From observing God's character, we know it didn't go away. Did Abram forget? Did he doubt God's faithfulness? How could God make a nation from Abram's offspring if the man didn't live long enough to have any children?

Now look at Genesis 15, God tells Abraham this:

"Do not be afraid, Abram. I am your shield, your very great reward." (Love this...God's saying, "I will protect you.")

Abram then proceeds to remind God that he's childless. God reassures him that a son from his very own body will be his heir and that his offspring shall be as numerous as the stars. God already told Abram in Genesis 12 that He would make a great nation out of Abram.

Wow. That's huge! I mean, Abram, imagine that! God's telling you again He's got plans for you. File that away and never forget it, okay?

Let's move on to Genesis 17. God gives Abram the covenant of circumcision and calls him Abraham, and Sarai, Sarah. My understanding is that the "ah" means "of God." So again, God is saying, "You're mine, dude. And I have awesome things I want to do with you. Just watch. You're gonna love it."

Well, maybe not quite like that, but God's pretty persistent in His reminders. Then, THEN, God tells him Sarah will bear a son, and even tells him WHEN. Despite laughing, Abraham follows God's instructions and every male is circumcised.

Now on to Genesis 20. Abraham tells Abimelech, king of Gerar, that Sarah is his sister, because he fears for his life. Now aside from the fact that Sarah's supposedly past child bearing age (sounds like menopause to me) and old, she must still be one hot chick for Abraham to fear for his life.

Again, did he forget that God said He was not only his shield (protector), but also God's promise of a son from his very own body? And from Sarah? Last time I checked, that only happened among the living. And breathing!

Okay, okay, humor aside, there's a great lesson here. One God allows us to see so we can learn from these very flawed characters who God still used and accomplished His amazing and perfect will.

Would Abraham have been more bold if he'd remembered God's promises and connected the dots between his well being and the completion of God's promises? I don't know. But we can learn from this and see how holding on to and REMEMBERING God's promises to us when things take a nose dive can help us persevere and believe what may seem impossible.

Now this is critical: Abraham acted on his own observations in both situations and BELIEVED accordingly. God wants more. He wants us believe His truth and promises and then ACT accordingly. (Beth Moore would be proud of me. I made a chiastic structure!)

Raymond Edman once said, "Never doubt in the dark what God told you in the light."

Let's face it. We're human, we will have doubts. But that's when it's critical to remember what God told us, showed us, and DID in the past. Remember those moments, write them down like the Israelites were told to do, and read them again and again.

Amazingly, this is the foundation we need for those times when our prayers seem unheard and unanswered. But that's next week's topic, so stay tuned!

Praying and believing,
Dineen

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I Dare You!

This is it! The last day of our fast. I don't know about you, but I've had a pretty sweet week. I hope you've gotten closer to God and that you continue to pursue Him passionately all the days of your life.

We are officially done at midnight tonight so make sure you do something to celebrate. You deserve it!

I also hope you have some great memory moments from the week... Which brings us to the day's focus: REMEMBER.

We all have a history with God—some way we've seen Him work. Remember. Remember all those times. Then allow yourself to expect to see him again.

Then, THEN I dare you to give Him praise. CRAZY PRAISE. Praise Him not because it's already done, but because He's already done so much. And besides, He's worthy of it, no matter what He does or doesn't choose to do. Go ahead. I DARE YOU. Give him true, unashamed, unrestrained praise.

I love you and I'm so honored to have shared this week with you. Truly.

Lord, I pray a blessing over his group—that You grant them favor, increase, and protection. Lord, please keep Your hand upong them and give them the desires of their heart. In Jesus' name, Amen.

Blessings, ya'll!
Rosheeda

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Thankful Thursday - The Fellowship of the Unashamed

Let us give thanks. It is Thankful Thursday.

January I'm am privileged to be hosting this awesome event. Next month we are meeting with Iris of Grace Alone and in March we will be back at Laurie's place, Women Taking A Stand. 

This week an email arrived with an astonishing and powerful prayer from my BFF, Angie Knight, of the Knightly News. It included an excerpt from the book, My Heart’s Cry, by Anne Graham Lotz. It is awesome. Thanks Angie!

This very day, we are sitting on the precipice of many adventures in the year ahead. The Lord our God has so much He wants to give us in 2010. He wants us to receive healing, to know authentic and never ending love, to conquer the anxieties in our life. 

He wants us to live in joy.

So today become empowered by the Holy Spirit. Read this prayer aloud this very moment. 

"I'm part of the fellowship of the unashamed. I have Holy Spirit power. The die has been cast. I have stepped over the line. The decision has been made. I am a disciple of His. I won't look back, let up, slow down, back away, or be still. 

My past is redeemed, my present makes sense, my future is secure. I'm finished and done with low living, sight walking, small planning, smooth knees, colorless dreams, tamed visions, mundane talking, cheap giving, and dwarfed goals. 

I no longer need preeminence, prosperity, position, promotions, plaudits, or popularity. I don't have to be right, first, tops, recognized, praised, regarded, or rewarded. I now live by faith, lean on His presence, walk by patience, lift by prayer, and labor by power. 

My face is set, my gait is fast, my goal is heaven, my road is narrow, my way is rough, my companions are few, my Guide is reliable, my mission is clear. I cannot be bought, compromised, detoured, lured away, turned back, deluded, or delayed. I will not flinch in the face of sacrifice, hesitate in the presence of adversity, negotiate at the table of the enemy, ponder at the pool of popularity, or meander in the maze of mediocrity. 

I won’t give up, shut up, let up, until I have stayed up, stored up, prayed up, paid up, and preached up for the cause of Christ. I am a disciple of Jesus. I must go 'til He comes, give 'til I drop, preach 'til all know, and work 'til He stops me. And when He comes for His own, He will have no problem recognizing me-my banner of identification with Jesus will be clear." 

Now tell me did you feel the spirit rise up in you? If not, read it again and this time - out loud. 

Let this attainable power lose in your life and watch things begin to change today. 

Isaiah 43:19 See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the desert and streams in the wasteland. 

Tell me what you are expecting to do in the Kingdom this year? AND DREAM BIG! We serve a very BIG God! 

Happy Thankful Thursday, Hugs, Lynn

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Focus on Worship

Hi everyone. Rosheeda's internet is down so I'm putting a quick message here for her. Ro says today's focus is worship. Spend time in God's presence and pray however he leads you to pray. God wants us to let HIM be enough.

And please share what God's doing in your life (if you can) in the comments. Lynn and I have so often been inspired and moved beyond words by your stories and sharing. You bless us beyond belief! We love you all so much!

Praying and believing,
Dineen

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We're Being Called Out

As I was praying and reading this morning, the Lord sent me to Ezekiel 16:15-63. The more I read, the more I wondered what God was showing me. As I finished the chapter, He made it plain that we need to repent. This chapter was all about harlotry and idols. The specific word that was impressed on my heart is this: "My people have given themselves away, to everyone and everything but Me. I will not strive with them forever. It is time to turn from the idols they have exalted above Me. They have been as an adulterous wife to Me, but My heart is tender for them. If they will repent and turn from their wicked ways, I will restore them and show them many things." 

The Holy Spirit also laid it on my heart that today be spent in self-analysis and that we ask Him to reveal to us the habits in our lives that give satan access to us. Whether it be eating, drinking, profanity, pornography, television, telephones, alcohol, lying... The list is endless. Whatever they might be, the first order of the day is to acknowledge them and repent - and meditate on the above word. 

 Today's focus: Pray over your word and your spouse's word. Ask the Lord to show you how the two fit together. Talk to Him about the year ahead, for your relationship. 

And the second is this: ask God for a heart-song. Doesn't matter if you are a great vocalist or if you only sing alone, in the shower, where no-one can hear you. Ask God to give you the words He most desires to hear from you in the form of a song. And then sing. Sing to Him as often as your heart's song comes to your mind and your lips. 

I encourage you to really allow God full access for the remainder of the week. One thing He just keeps impressing on me is that He really isn't interested in a list of demands, disguised as requests. He is, however, interested in giving us Himself. He wants an intimate relationship with us. That's what this is all about. Let your walls down and allow yourself to experience God on His terms and His terms alone. 

Don't forget to share. The encouragement would be greatly appreciated, I'm sure. 

I'll be checkin' in soon! 

Rosheeda 

Lord God, we come humbly before Your throne. Jesus we are not worthy to be called your people, but You love us in spite of our shortcomings. We come before you oh Lord, willing to be broken. Show us ourselves. Show us the things in us that we have allowed to usurp Your throne. And Father, as they are revealed to us, allow us to repent and those idols to be destroyed in our hearts and our lives. We praise you oh God for who You are. We are choosing right now to seek You just for You. We lay aside our lists and we instead accept the offer of Your heart. And God, we offer ours in return. We don't have much, but all that we can give, we are saying right now in this moment that it belongs to You. Give us clean hearts, oh Lord, that we might worship You. Forgive us our whoredoms and bestow upon us the grace to be faithful to a most faithful God. We love you Lord and we worship You alone. In Jesus' Holy, Matchless, Wonderful Name, Amen.

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All You Need To Do Is Ask

We have not because we ask not. 

How many times have we needed God but have been too stubborn to open our mouths and just say so? How many crazy situations have we found ourselves in, only to discover that if we had just spoken up and been honest about our need of help or support or comfort or whatever-it-is-you-needed-at-the-time, we wouldn't have been left to muddle our way through it? 

I know. Too many times to count, right? 

My man... He is so amazing. But his pride. Man. His pride stands in the way of so many things. The most intimate needs of his heart - the ones I know he wants me to meet - I can't meet them yet. Because he hasn't invited me to... 

As I sat and prayed over him and us this morning, I found myself saying, "Lord, there is so much more of me I want to give to him, so much more I want him to experience with me, but I can't give it to him until he desires it. I can't give it until he WANTS it. If he would just let me in, he'd find so much more than just what he assumes it to be... He has not because he asks not." 

And then it hit me like a ton of bricks. We don't have more from God in the way of intimate relationship because we don't invite Him into our lives in that way. We don't experience Him as fully as we can, just because we won't be humble enough to ask... And as I sat and thought about that revelation, the Holy Spirit spoke this clearly to my heart: “Learn to be honest about your need of Me. Do not allow pride to reign and keep you from true intimacy with Me." 

Start this day by admitting your need to intimately know God. Just ask. 

Now, on to the daily focus. First pray over the men in your life; husbands, sons, fathers, brothers, co-workers, whoever. If they are male and they are part of your life, pray over them. Allow the Holy Spirit to fill you with the right words and simply call them by name and however He leads. 

The second is this: Remember that verse you asked God for yesterday for your spouse? Ask Him for another one and do the same thing. Make it a prayer. And then pray both verses over them. Also, as you pray over your spouse, ask God to give you a word for THEM for the year. Write it down and allow the Father to speak to your heart what the word means in His eyes for your spouse; then take some time to pray over them based on that word. Ask for supernatural insight regarding your spouse. Ask Him to show you how to intercede for them today. 

Lord we need You. We come before you right now asking You to speak to us. Share Your secrets. We are hungry to know You better. Clear all the outside noise Father so that we might enter into the holy of holies. We want to honor You. Not our wills, but Your will. Not our words, but Your word. Not our thoughts, but Your thoughts. And not our ways, but Your ways. We trust You and we love You. In Jesus' life-changing name. Amen. 

I'll be back! 

Ro

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Let's Get Ready to Rumble!!!!!

This is it, guys! The start of a new intimacy with God. 

I don't know about you, but I'm excited - and so ready to learn all that God wants to share with me. 

Today will be two-fold. First, spend time focused on your personal needs. The things in your life that you want to see God work in, talk with Him about that. Remember that prayer is a conversation with God. It goes two ways. Take as much time to listen, as you do to speak. Make note of what He reveals. Promises? Write them down. Spiritual truth? Write it all down. Trust me, you will want to go back and look at it before 2010 is over. I know that all that was revealed to me during this time last year came back to my heart toward the end of the year - when I needed to be reminded the most of His word to me.  A

And the second thing: pray specifically over the strongholds in your spouse's life. Be bold. Allow the Holy Spirit to lead you. Ask the Lord to give you a scripture specifically for them and turn them into a prayer. Insert your spouse's name and give God's own word back to Him for your spouse. Ask God to show you how to love them beyond their faults and flaws and to show you the battles you should face head on versus the ones you should walk away from and lay totally at His feet, to be dealt with in His time. 

Know that Satan will try to distract you. He will try to frustrate you and unsettle you and discourage you. That is the time you need to press into the Father and seek Him with your all. It will be worth the sacrifice. 

Have a beautiful day. I'll be checking in soon. 

Thank you Lord for who you are. As we begin our fast, we ask You to speak to us clearly and often. Reveal Yourself to us in uncommon, unexpected, wonderful, fresh new ways. Restore our souls, and renew our spirits as we step into the ring to take our lives back and rebuild our relationships with You. We love You. We seek You alone. You are our Master, our King, our Everything. All our hearts, and in Jesus' beautiful name. 

Amen.

Rosheeda

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Word From God ~ by: Rosheeda Lee

Okay. Now that we've gotten rid of those pesky elephants, I'd like to take a page from Dineen's previous post. 

Today is so easy, really. 

Just spend time with the Lord. Ask Him to give you directions for your week and for your year. Ask Him to share His heart with you personally and in the most intimate of ways. 

And ask Him to give you a word of your own to meditate on this coming week and year. And when He answers, ask Him to share with you the things that are important to Him about the word He's given you. 

I don't know about you guys, but I know I've been in desperate need of a fresh word from Him. 

I did this same thing yesterday and was pretty excited for what's ahead. 

What about you? 

Share your words with us and the thoughts & meditations the Holy Spirit gives to you. 

See you tomorrow. Can't wait to see what you receive! 

Rosheeda

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Those Pesky Elephants

Song of Solomon 2:15 "Catch for us the foxes, the little foxes that ruin the vineyards, our vineyards that are in bloom."

Corsac fox Song of Songs is such a great love story. The words, the passion, the utter romance, and suspense of it all. Grace, mercy, and unfailing love. All that is in this one little book. It really IS a great love story.

But it isn't THE greatest love story in my life. Not by far. And I hope that it won't be for you either. Because the greatest love story of my life is the love affair I have with Christ.

I know, I know. This seems pretty irrelevant when we talk about fasting, but just hear me out. There are a couple things we all know about being in love. First thing is that it takes time together to allow love to really blossom, especially when you've been together so long that what used to be exciting is now common place. There has to be intimate time between you to reconnect and to re-kindle that flame. (Sounds cliché, I know, but it's true.) That's what fasting is all about. One-on-one time with our First Love. Time to re-connect, re-engage, and re-discover all the reasons you fell in love in the first place.

The second thing we all know about love is that when there is an elephant in the room, you can't be completely connected until... well.. until the elephant leaves. Oh, it doesn't change your love for each other or the desire to be close. It just makes it pretty difficult. Our love story with God is the same. When there is an elephant in the room, we can't connect with Him as fully as either of us would like, because for the Believer, that elephant is always un-confessed or un-repented sin.

Which brings us the Song of Solomon 2:15. Here we are seeing the Lover ask that the small foxes be caught, because they are destructive. Because they will ruin what is blooming so beautifully. I just want to point out a few things, then I'll leave you to get rid of the elephants in your rooms.

First, the Lover doesn't say 'let us catch'.. he asks that the foxes be caught FOR them. Which means he understands that he is powerless to capture these foxes in his own strength. He recognizes the need of someone more powerful to step in and act on his behalf so that their vineyards aren't ruined. It also shows that the Lover has to acknowledge that the foxes are there in the first place. So it is with the sin in our lives. We have to acknowledge that it's there, and we have to recognize that we can't cleanse our own lives or hearts. That job has to be given to One more powerful than we.

And let's not forget that these foxes are called LITTLE. They aren't huge, overwhelming, obvious intruders. They're small. Easily hidden and easily ignored. Which is why the previous paragraph is so critical. We have to CHOOSE to acknowledge them and to have them captured, so that the work God is doing in our vineyard (our hearts, our relationship with Him and with others, our lives in general) isn't for naught.

Pretty convicting stuff, right?

Elephantroom Love is at its best when it is guarded and diligently cultivated. The blossoms are overwhelmed if we don't weed on a regular basis. Don't let your relationship with the Lord be overwhelmed by hidden sins. Take time today to think about your own love story with God. Now that you've decided to make time for the two of you to be alone together, take time to address the elephant(s) in the room. I can't promise it won't be difficult, but I CAN promise you won't regret it. Not at all.

Off to get rid of my own elephants.

Rosheeda

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