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Marriage Monday - Girl Talk with My Teen.

It's Marriage Monday and our topic is fantastic, like always: Girl-talk: Mothers & Daughters Talk About Love You can probably imagine since I write so much about marriage my teen daughter has heard a lot about the subject of romantic love, marriage, men, women and everything in between. Poor kid. Well, in fact, I tend to jump on my soap box often when the subject of marriage arrives in conversation. I mean really, I have a teenager, she is boy crazy, and she lives with married people. Poor, poor, kid. Okay, don't feel too sorry for her. I will admit she has been known to roll her eyes and say, "Mom, you're doing it again." I glance at her, and grin in an oops, I just-can't-help-myself look, then say, "Sorry, but you know this is a subject of my passion." *Eye-roll* However, we enjoy some of the most stimulating, hilarious,... Read more →

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Weekend Devo — Restoring Joy

9 Hide your face from my sins and blot out all my iniquity. 10 Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me. 11 Do not cast me from your presence or take your Holy Spirit from me. 12 Restore to me the joy of your salvation and grant me a willing spirit, to sustain me. — Psalm 51:9-12 The other morning I woke up feeling very unsettled. I knew something was off. And I don't share this to make myself seem more than I am. Quite the opposite actually, but that day, my feet didn't hit the floor. My knees did. I knew I was not right with God. I'd let the business that is the norm for me this time of year to crowd Him out. And as I knelt, I felt the nudge to pray for God to restore the joy... Read more →

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Chronicles of the Donovan Clan

Hello….. What happened? August is over… I feel like deer in head lights. Where in the heck did the month go? I had so much to write about and finish up before September. So let’s finish up our conversation about conflict. Give you an update from the Chronicles of the Donovan Clan, talk some about Mothers and Daughters and their talk about love on Marriage Monday, and finally prepare for the big launch of “Tune in to Heaven’s Frequency.” This is a 30 day journey that I promise will forever change your marriage. Are you up for the dare? Starts October 1st. Details in mid-September. Whew, are you tired yet? Today: Chronicles of the Donovan Clan First, I want to tell you a story about a young woman I knew a while back. This young wife woke up one morning to the realization that she did, in fact, believe in... Read more →

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Thankful Thursday - A Second Chance

This month we will be meeting at Grace Alone, Iris will be hosting. September we meet again at Women Taking A Stand and I will see you here again for the month of October. This has been a crazy week. I feel like I have taken three steps forward and two steps back. I triumph in some areas and lose ground in others. It seems that sometimes I may never conquer some of my struggles. I often wonder why the Lord puts up with my nonsense at times. I don't know why He is so patient with me. But... As always, the Lord sends a word, an email, a hug along to tell me, I forgive you 7 X 77 X 77 (not the actual scripture numbers, but in my case... factual.) My Lord says, "I haven't called the qualified. I have qualified the called. Lynn, I love you and... Read more →

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"This Should Keep Us All Thinking"

My precious daughter Leslie found this video on You Tube. Whether the story is true or not doesn't matter. The message is a powerful one. You can find out more about the person who made it on You Tube. And I find especially precious the setting of this story, because today is Leslie's first day back at school. After a year of surgeries, treatments and recovery, she's excited about restarting her life. Her words, not mine! Can I just shout it from the rooftop? GOD IS GOOD!!! Praying, believing, and rejoicing, Dineen Read more →

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On the Road to Nowhere Good

Guest post by: Tami Boesigner Her husband had interest in an organization she knew to be contrary to God’s Word and she was upset. “It’s wrong,” she said, “I know it’s wrong.” “Have you told him that?” I asked. “He knows I disagree, but I haven’t come out and said it.” She explained she had a tendency to tell him what to do and his response was never good. Usually, voicing her strong opinion only motivated him to show her he knew better. She felt it best to let him come to the conclusion himself to avoid the bad patterns they followed in the past. So she agreed to let him invite some people from the organization over to discuss what it was all about. “I’m his wife,” she said, “If he’s going to go on this journey, I’m not letting him do it alone.” The visit led to an... Read more →

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Weekend Devo — Don't let that hold you back.

“Each of us finds our meaning and function as a part of his body” (Romans 12:5 MSG). So often we focus on what we lack or a flaw and see these things what holds us back. Yet we forget that God created us exactly as we are and even designed good works for us with our specific talents and flaws in mind. Amazingly, if you haven't noticed, it was those significantly flawed characters in the Bible who accomplished the most for God. Why? I think it's because they couldn't rely on their own abilities and get caught up in their own press. They had to rely on God to get the job done. Take a look at this list from a Purpose Driven Connection devotional by Rick Warren. • Abraham was old, • Jacob was insecure, • Leah was unattractive, • Joseph was abused, • Moses stuttered, • Gideon was... Read more →

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Thankful Thursday - Growing Up!

This month we will be meeting at Grace Alone, Iris will be hosting. September we meet again at Women Taking A Stand and I will see you here again for the month of October. Well for many of us it is back to school week. May I just say one thing: It’s the most wonderful time of the year! Do you remember that office supply commercial? It makes me grin. On this Thursday when we take time to reflect on the things we are thankful for, I must share a story about how our Great God works in the lives of our kids. On Monday my daughter, my baby girl, started High School. I can’t begin to tell you who felt more stressed - her or me. Sheesh! Two weeks prior, my daughter held my hand and said, “Mom, please pray that I have some friends, girls I know, in... Read more →

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The Physical Connection

Last week I did a post over at Adding Zest, Patty Wysong's site that tastefully deals with the physical side of Christian marriage. And it falls right in line with our explorations of staying connected to our spouses and dealing with conflict. I hope reading "The Physical Connection" blesses you as much as it blessed me writing it. I'd love to hear your thoughts on this particular topic and the four suggestions I make. On a side note and along our ongoing theme here at S.U.M., looks like I'm now an official disc golf player! Are you laughing? I know I am but in a good way. My sweet hubby has loaned me one of his bags and several discs. And this past weekend he bought me a lightweight visor and my very first store-bought disc. I never thought I'd wind up on the course by his side, but I'm... Read more →

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Marriage, Alcohol, Final Thoughts and a Suprise!

When we began this series regarding conflict I set out some of the guidelines and the premise by which we intend to explore the specific issues. If you have not read that post, please read it now (go here, then come right back). I want to add some thoughts about our current topic, Alcohol and Marriage, before we move on to another subject. I went back and reread the posts and my husband also read them. I asked him what he thought and we started a conversation. He looked at me and said that it appears that this series of posts casts him as a man with an alcohol problem. Yikes! I didn’t realize I wrote it that way. He does not have an alcohol problem. He never has. (Okay, Honey, whew, glad I cleared the air.) I also wanted to let you know that I ran this topic and... Read more →

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Weekend Devo — Have you noticed?

Praise the LORD. Give thanks to the LORD, for he is good; his love endures forever. — Psalm 106:1 Have you noticed God in the little things? The bloom of a flower, a clear blue sky, a special word you needed at a particular time of discouragement? God's presence is all around us, constantly. He knows about every bit of our lives, and not just as an observer but as faithful Father/Friend/Creator who cares and wants to be involved in our lives. And He is! He is so faithful, so holy, so constant! I hope you'll take a moment this weekend and notice the ways God's working in your life. Make a list. Even of the tiniest of things. And give Him praise and thanks, because God is good! Praying and believing, Dineen Read more →

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Thankful Thursday - Hope

This month we will be meeting at Grace Alone, Iris will be hosting. September we meet again at Women Taking A Stand and I will see you here again for the month of October. “But even if you should suffer for righteousness’ sake, you will be blessed. Have no fear of them, nor be troubled, but in your hearts honor Christ the Lord as holy, always being prepared to make a defense to anyone who asks you for a reason for the hope that is in you; yet do it with gentleness and respect…” ~ 1 Peter 3:14-15 If we did not have hope, we could not thrive. This is what Spiritually Unequal Marriage is all about. We have hope for our future. We have hope for our spouse's salvation. We have hope for our kids. We have hope for happiness in this life and then eternal life. We have... Read more →

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More Disc Golf Adventures

Well, I mentioned on last week's post that I would be going on a disc golf adventure. We headed out early afternoon with our daughter's poochy, Shasta, to play a course nearby. In case you're unfamiliar with disc golf, it's just like traditional golf but instead of clubs, you use discs called drivers, midranges, and putters. Each one varies in thickness/thinness and hardness/softness of the plastic. And some of them even have ornate artwork and graphics on them. Like a golf course, there are holes, or rather, baskets, like the one I'm standing next to in the picture. Most courses are nine, eighteen or twenty-seven baskets (this one is nine) and the goal is to make or brake par on each basket. Usually three to four throws. Except I, of course, took a whole lot more than that. But my sweet hubby was so patient. He didn't care if it... Read more →

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God Wakes Me Up. It's Important

God wakes me up in the middle of the night! Has God ever awakened you in the middle of the night? Then as you become fully conscious is there someone on your mind? Do you sense that you need to pray for them? On the other hand, perhaps you are awakened and have no idea why you are wide-awake and can't go back to sleep? This is exactly what happened to my friend Val. In the middle of the darkness, several months ago, Val became wide-awake. On her mind was a young woman who is married to one of the pastors of our church. Val was immediately compelled to pray for her. She held this young woman up before the throne of our King, asking for intervention, and safety. Val does not remember how long she prayed but recalls praying fervently because the Holy Spirit obligated her. Several days later... Read more →

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Weekend Devo—To Know and Be Known

(This is a re-post from July 30, 2007, with the addition of applicable Scripture. In light of our recent topics I thought it might be a good one to revisit.) But the man who loves God is known by God. — 1Corinthians 8:3As I wrote down my prayer, the ache in my heart formed into these five words, “to know and be known.” Baffled by its meaning, yet fearful of the ramifications, I realized in that moment this was my dream. To know and be known. Several days later as I read one of my devotional booklets, one line jumped out at me. Almost word for word, the writer stated the same thing—to know and be known. Now I knew I had to explore this further. What’s at the heart of this plea-like desire? If you’re like me, your faith defines who you are. At your very core, you find... Read more →

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Conflict - Alcohol and What Happened to Mark and Tina?

When we began this series regarding conflict I set out some of the guidelines and the premise by which we intend to explore the specific issues. If you have not read that post, please read it now (go here, then come right back). Last week we left the story of Tina and Mark at a crossroads. Tina thinks Mark might have a problem with alcohol. The drinking has definitely put a stain on their marriage. For some reason, this is often where I find myself arriving in the progression. I receive a call from a friend, an email arrives, or one of the girls in Bible study stops to talk with me after class. They describe some of the difficulties they are experiencing with their spouse. Rarely does she mention alcohol. She will share the struggles with communication, the growing disrespect and the disconnect in their marriage. I assure you... Read more →

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I Have a Bad Reputation

It’s True, I have a bad reputation. My friends in the neighborhood all know about me. My family has known for a long time. I have an issue. Sometimes I catch an off-hand word about my peculiarity or a casual remark in conversations in the yard or at church. I know I should change. So today I will confess. My name is Lynn Donovan and I.... find the rest of the story at Laced With Grace. You won't believe what God does this time...... and He is waiting to do this amazing thing in your life too..... It's too cool.... Hugs. Have a fantastic day. I love you. Be Blessed, Lynn Read more →

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Thankful Thursday

This month we will all be meeting at Grace Alone, Iris will be hosting. She is a wise woman who always brings something special to our weekly praise. September we meet again at Women Taking A Stand and I will see you here again for the month of October. This Thursday I pause to give thanks to the Lord for the privilege of prayer. It can blow my mind to think the God of the Universe, who created all things, who knows every person intimately alive or ever lived would be interested in conversation with lil' ole me. Blows my mind I till you! In the past several days I have seen the direct results of my conversations with the Lord. I see how He listens patiently, how He forgives me 70 times seven. I look at my spouse and see the hope of prayers fulfilled. I am in awe... Read more →

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An Adventure Into Disc Golf

My sweet hubby just got back last night from the 2009 PDGA Disc Golf World Championships. Over the years and through countless hobbies such as traditional golf, rollerblading, and a unicycle (yes, you heard me right), this is the one sport I've seen him play and pursue passionately. I admire his dedication and determination to improve in the sport. He plays every chance he gets. And yes, I've become the proverbial "golf-widow." But he loves it. We've talked here at S.U.M. before about the challenges of staying connected to our spouses, to find common ground when faith and church can't be. Especially when interests diverge so drastically. And as I've shared in recent posts, I'm searching for ways to have more impact on my husband's life. While he was gone, God showed me that these two issues were tied together. That if I want to have opportunities to "show" him... Read more →

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Marriage Monday - I Caught a Glimpse and it was Awesome!

It's Marriage Monday and we have an open topic. I want to share a special moment with you when I saw a side to my husband that left me breathless. My night owl shuffled down the hall this Sunday morning. His salt and pepper hair was standing up on the back of his head, resembling a porcupine that was a tad bit angry about the earliness of the morning hour. I secretly grinned as he headed for the coffee pot. I love so many things about this man. His porcupine hair, the way his right foot always jiggles with nervous energy- it’s the engineer in him. His deep voice and the simple tan shorts he always wears, (he owns a pair for every day of the week). His peculiar habits are a part of our daily living, the good, bad, and the ugly. Mine too. His daily routines are behaviors... Read more →

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Weekend Devo—Worth the Wait

We do a lot of waiting in our lives, don't we? I think we do some of the hardest waiting in our mismatched marriages. God can seem mighty silent sometimes. I came across this quote by Raymond Edman last week: “Never doubt in the dark what God told you in the light.” Our times of waiting can certainly seem like darkness, but what's so amazing that God never stops working. Sometimes we just have to wait a little longer. Below is a devo from Purpose Driven Connection. I hope it encourages you as it did me, that sometimes we have to accept God's "not yet," and keep waiting. But isn't it worth the wait? Praying and believing, Dineen How God Builds Your Faith: Delay by Rick Warren "But these things I plan won't happen right away. Slowly, steadily, surely, the time approaches when the vision will be fulfilled. If it... Read more →

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