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22 entries from July 2009

Conflict - Alcohol and Marriage

As we began this series regarding conflict I set out some of the guidelines and the premise by which we intend to explore the specific issues. If you have not read that post, please read it now (go here, then come right back). I told you last week I want to look at alcohol in marriages and we will. Prior to jumping into that I am also compelled to share with you two books I have found helpful when dealing with conflict. • Boundaries in Marriage by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend • Love must be Tough by Dr. James Dobson Written by Christian authors, the books offer some solid suggestions to deal with some of these tough issues. You can find these books in our recommended reading page, click here. Onward. Over the past week the Lord confirmed to me that I need to post on alcohol... Read more →

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Thankful Thursday - Summer Fun

Hi, It is the last Thursday of the month. I have greatly enjoyed hosting Thankful Thursday this month. Your posts offering praise to our Lord honors Him greatly. Your words encouraged, made me laugh, brought me new insights into our faith. Thank you. Next month we will all be meeting at Grace Alone, Iris will be hosting. She is a wise woman who always brings something special to our weekly praise. September we meet again at Women Taking A Stand and I will see you here again for the month of October. This week let's enjoy the season of summer. What are you thankful for in the warm months of summer? Comfortable mornings sitting in my back yard among the flowers and garden, sipping coffee, reading my daily Bible and talking with Jesus. Bright blue summer skies Fresh fruit Ripe Mellon Sleeping in.... (at least my husband and daughter. I'm... Read more →

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Eternity's Waiting

As I mention in the weekend devo, Ecclesiates 3:11 became quite significant to me last week. I'll tell you why. I've shared recent posts about "living out loud" and searching for God's will in my marriage, and what that means. What should I say or not say about my faith? Am I living out loud enough? Well, I took a chance the other day. I've mentioned before that my sweet hubby is an avid disc golfer. Last week when we were on the way to the airport for an out-of-state tournament, I mustered the courage to tell him I would be praying for him. He didn't say anything at first, then shared that he hoped he would be in my thoughts, too. To me that goes without saying, and praying is even better. My way of loving on him. I told him this. He replied that he just liked to... Read more →

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Conflict - Hold On To Your Hats!

Well I have actually spent more time than you might believe in prayer about this topic, conflict. I have prayed about it, thought about it. I have gleaned through the pages of several books researching this subject to provide accurate and Godly information about how to deal with conflict. I have been so unsettled about this topic that I spent more than an hour on the phone with Dineen talking about it a few days ago. In fact, I just now left my bedroom where I was spending some quiet time with the Lord, asking Him what to write. (It’s 2:52 on Saturday afternoon) So after speaking with the Lord and with my writing buddy, Dineen, I am compelled to follow my heart. I am going to take an interesting direction as we proceed down this path. As we walk this path I need to set out some thoughts: •... Read more →

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Weekend Devo—Time and Eternity

He has made everything beautiful in its time. He has also set eternity in the hearts of men; yet they cannot fathom what God has done from beginning to end. — Ecclesiastes 3:11 I don't know about you, but there are certain books in the Bible that take more energy to read than others. Ecclesiastes is one of them. I picture the writer as a person full of wisdom, but always from a slightly negative perspective (giggle). But this verse set the stage for some events this past week—ones I'll share Tuesday, but I want to share this hope-filled nugget with you in the meantime. There are two profound truths here. One, it speaks of God's timing. I'm sure you've had one of those times where things just seemed to work out and when you look back, you see this perfection to it—how God prevented, prepared, or purposed something. These... Read more →

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Thankful Thursday - Victory!

I was raised in church. As a kid I would sit in cushioned benches in our church along with my family and every service began with hymns. I learned every word to so many of those old songs. Today they still reside deep in my soul. At unusual times and places those old lyrics force themselves up and out. And….. I start singing… OUT LOUD! In the middle of the night. Out in the garden. While I am jogging. The shower, the car, often while I am praying in the morning. Well today I was so moved by Dineen’s post (below) that my lips began moving and I am filled with this old hymn…. VICTORY IN JESUS…. MY SAVIOR FOREVER. I want to jump out of my chair right now and sing at the top of my lungs… Better not as my sleeping family would likely pound me *grin*. Girls,... Read more →

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Living Out Loud, Part 2

Thoughts and questions are formulating in my mind. I've not yet made sense of it all, but I trust God to take care of that. Consider this more just me thinking out loud. And please join in with your own thoughts. Perhaps its impatience. I don't know, but I do sense God preparing me for something, and I don't think I'm alone. We want to make an impact on our spiritually unequal marriages. We want to see God's hand at work. We want to see change. Are you with me so far? Are you feeling that same nudge, too? We walk a difficult path in a S.U.M. We're constantly aware of what we should or shouldn't say. Or try to be. What will cause an argument? Taking the children to church, leaving a Bible out in the open, voicing our own faith-based opinion regarding a political debauchery? How do we... Read more →

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CONFLICT ~

You can't live with him...You can't live without him.

I have been pondering conflict. Not world conflict, nor social conflict but that personal, in-your-face, conflict in marriage. I guess my thoughts on conflict have surfaced because of my most recent exchange with my own mate. Remember Church or no-Church? If you are married, you deal with conflict. After all, we are human, broken and flawed. What troubles me is so often conflict is avoided or handled inappropriately. Therefore, I think we need to take a look at some real situations and discover how conflict is handled appropriately and through the lens of the Bible. As I was in my quiet time a few days ago, speaking to the Lord, the following found its way into my prayer journal: I wonder if many of us have a view that as a Christian, we must be the spouse who refrains from conflict. It is our duty as a follower of Christ... Read more →

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Weekend Devo — Living Out Loud

God Is Interested in Your Work by Rick Warren "It's in Christ that we find out who we are and what we are living for. Long before we first heard of Christ and got our hopes up, He had His eye on us, had designs on us for glorious living, part of the overall purpose He is working out in everything and everyone" (Ephesians 1:11-12 MSG). Many Christians don't make the connection between Sunday and Monday. They compartmentalize their life. They think, "Well, I've got a spiritual life and I've got a secular life. My spiritual life is when I read the Bible, when I pray, when I go to church, when I do good things for others. That's my spiritual life." And that's over in one compartment. So then, they think, over in another compartment: "This is my secular life. That's my work, my job, my career, my business... Read more →

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To All Evil:

To All Evil: You are hereby now put on notice. I am back, praying with a vengeance. I believe in a Holy, perfect and loving God. The One. The Only. God of the Universe. God Almighty. To all evil: This God is for me and will never leave me, nor forsake me. He is my shield, my strength. He ONLY wants what is good for me and never evil. He is watching my back, side, and front. He hears ever word I utter so you better be very afraid because I am about to pray down millions of angels upon this earth. I will be asking for protection and God's holy power to triumph over our circumstances. To change our lives to live in victory. We will shout to everyone we know that it is GOD who rescues, who lifts us up to new adventures and new heights of love... Read more →

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Thankful Thursday - Random Heart

Wow, Thursdays roll around fast, don’t they? I love to read blogs. I never have enough time in the day to read all those I want. But, I do get around once in a while. This Christian community of bloggers is fascinating. I never grow tired of reading stories of God present and actively working in the lives of believers. We share with each other from our hearts. We write about our kids, husbands, dogs, the dishes in the sink, and all manner of daily living. Through our words we encourage one another. We are moved to pray for each other and to love authentically even if we are physically separated by many miles, countries, oceans. You might think after years of writing and reading in this arena, a person could become bored but I’m not. I’m still tickled to discover new tidbits about your life. I often travel with... Read more →

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A Strange Devotion - Titans of Industry

I have an odd devotion today. I hesitate to write my thoughts but the Lord just won’t let me escape what is pressing on my heart. So here goes…. Find me at Laced With Grace today for Titans Of Industry. I would be greatly interested in your thoughts about these insidious kingdoms. Be Blessed, Lynn Read more →

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Second-Hand God?

"I'll never again live on the crusts of hearsay, crumbs of rumor." — Job 42:6 The Message I love this line from the Message translation, because even Job made the same mistake we do sometimes. We rely more on what people and books tell us about God than really getting to know God through prayer and reading his Word ourselves. We get lazy. We let other people and things do the work for us—our pastor's Sunday sermon, books about Christianity, or even a friend's perspective. Nothing is wrong with any of these things. On the contrary, they enrich our faith walk, but they can't be the heart of our belief. Any relationship takes work, but the effort is usually much more rewarding than trusting a third party go-between. Think of it this way. Let's say you meet the person you're one day going to marry (only you don't know that... Read more →

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Church or no-Church; The Conclusion

It’s a typical hot July day here in sunny Southern California. It’s Sunday afternoon. I am in my office and I can hear my hubby clearing the kitchen of the lunch dishes. I am remembering the morning. I woke today wondering about church or no church. Would he go? Would he stay home? What do you think happened this morning? Before I tell you how the morning played out let’s rewind, I think it was Wednesday – no Thursday. My husband and I were in the family room watching television. I can’t recall how this conversation began but, the television was quieted as we discussed the upcoming weekend get-togethers on the calendar. During this conversation I inserted, “No matter what, you will find this girl in church come Sunday morning.” I smiled. “I have missed it and can’t wait to be there this week.” You see, I haven’t attended now... Read more →

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Wekend Devo — Spiritual Warfare

Spiritual warfare is a major issue in spiritually mismatched marriages. I loved this message from James MacDonald at Walk in the Word. I hope it ministers to you as much as it did to me. Great reminders here that our God is bigger than anything we face! Praying and believing, Dineen Strategic Lessons for Spiritual Warfare By James MacDonald The Lord is faithful. He will establish you and guard you against the evil one. — 2 Thessalonians 3:3 Military strategists will tell you that learning the truth about your enemy is a critical factor in winning battles. As followers of Christ, we have an enemy that seeks to destroy us, but let's add some ammunition to our spiritual warfare arsenal by blowing up some of Satan's most calculated lies about himself. #1 Satan has limitations. Don't think that the enemy of our souls can get access to you anytime he... Read more →

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Thankful Thursday

My daughter and I just returned from an afternoon movie. Give me a romantic comedy and a sprite zero. mmmm,mmm, almost heaven! Today, my heart is filled with the simple. An unrushed summer day The lazy afternoon ocean breeze wandering over the hills of our town A delightful romantic comedy that leaves you warm and fuzzy Time with my teen And visiting with you, my online friends. Ah, yes. Contentment. God is so very good. 1 Timothy 6-8 A devout life does bring wealth, but it's the rich simplicity of being yourself before God. Since we entered the world penniless and will leave it penniless, if we have bread on the table and shoes on our feet, that's enough. (MSG) Marriage thought, quote, humor of the week: This week I thought it would be fun to share a little marriage humor: Many girls marry a man just like their Dad,... Read more →

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Are You Happy? (clap clap *giggle)

“Sweetie, I need a few things from the grocery store. Let’s stop there after the eye exam.” I suggested to my husband. With my daughter’s exam complete and glasses ordered, we headed to Dairy Queen. After ordering a cold Banana Split Blizzard, my teen daughter, headed for the car to wait while we I walked toward the grocery store. Suddenly it dawned on me that the parking lot was a zoo and that’s the precise moment I said, “Are we nuts? It’s the day before the Fourth of July holiday. Everyone in town is here. It may take an hour to buy the five items we need.” This is a true story that took place at our local grocery store. If you are needing a lift in your spirit today, this is the story for you........ continued at Laced With Grace. I promise you will be smiling before you leave.... Read more →

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When God Leads

“When you sense an answer from the Lord and your husband doesn't, how do you communicate WHY you feel moved to do what God said?” A friend of mine posed this question to me recently. At first I didn’t know how to answer, because I couldn’t recall a situation where this happened. Don’t you know God brought a time to mind as I relayed a story to someone a couple weeks later? Almost two years ago, my daughter started talking about getting a dog. We already had four cats, so I didn’t take her idea too seriously, nor did her dad. Yet, she persisted and even found the dog she wanted in an online search. A search that shouldn’t have shown her this particular dog, but for some reason did. That was my first inkling God was at work. As the week progressed, I sensed deep in my spirit that... Read more →

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Going Alone? Oh No Siree!

I sat down a few minutes ago to prepare this post. Before I started typing, I stopped to pray. I prayed for all of you who read the posts, Church or no-Church. I thanked the Lord, our Great King for each of you who took time to leave me your thoughts, your prayers, your concerns and your experiences. Church or No-Church, Part I Church of No-Church, Part II I have read and re-read your comments just now. I have tears in my eyes. I have been writing here for three years and the advice and love and comfort all of you have given through your comments is some of the best I have EVER read. I encourage all of you to read the comments from last week. Such words of wisdom. You may very well leave your computer today….. CHANGED. PERMANANTLY – CHANGED! I know that I am. On Friday... Read more →

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Weekend Devo—
Finding God in the Little Things

Amazing how the littlest word or gesture can go a long way. I'm going on a mini retreat next week with two friends from church. We've tired to plan this for several years and finally found a way to work it out. Tahoe here we come! But what's so funny to me is that I'm more excited about two little bracelets I found for these two dear women who have meant so much to me over the last six years. The bracelet in the picture is the one I got for myself. It says Hope, Faith, and Love with hearts, crosses, and ichthuses in between the words. The other two have Bible verses on them, which will have special meaning for my friends. They've both had to deal with a lot over the last year, and God has shown his faithfulness over and over again. It's these little things that... Read more →

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Attending Chruch Alone
Church or no-Church. What is a Girl to Do?

Continued from Monday. I just couldn’t do it any longer. Sacrifice another morning. I survive because of those two little hours where I refuel, gain perspective and fill my soul with spiritual strength in order to face the week ahead and the spiritual battles which are inevitable. His non-confrontational persona leapt forward and he mumbled something inaudible and shuffled myself and my daughter into a row. My eyes burned but I was able to sit through the service. Which brings us to yesterday (last week), actually rewind a bit further to late Saturday evening. We arrived home after an evening with friends. I am angry because it is 1:00 a.m. and church in the morning is now doubtful. It is then that I decide the last straw has landed on my back. Such strange timing. I launch into this tirade, “It looks like I am going to miss church again.... Read more →

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Thankful Thursday - Freedom

Thank you Laurie, Women Taking A Stand, for hosting Thankful Thursday last month. In the hot summer months of July we will give thanks to our Lord here and then in August head over to Iris, Grace Alone. On this second day of July I am thankful for my freedom. I am free to worship Jesus. I am free to do the right thing. I am free to stand against evil. I am free to take the difficult road. And even if I were put into chains tomorrow, NO ONE can take these away from me. I am a slave of Jesus Christ and yet, I AM FREE! What are you thankful for this week? Also, if you remember in May when I hosted Thankful Thursday, I offered a computer tip each week. Well this month, I think it would be fun to share some marriage quotes/thoughts and some humor.... Read more →

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