Previous month:
April 2009
Next month:
June 2009

20 entries from May 2009

Weekend Devo — Talk Like the Animals

As my daughter and I were driving to the dog park, she told me a cute story. See, one day a while back, her dad had taken her and Shasta, her poochy, to the dog park. She said the most interesting thing happened. The dogs were drawn to my hubby. According to my daughter, they all surrounded him, sniffing and curious, and several even stayed near him while they were there. This is the part I love. To her this showed God's love. She firmly believes God used those dogs that day to show her dad how much God loves him. And based on how I've seen God use our dog in my daughter's struggles with depression and recovery from brain surgery, I believe it. I could totally picture this scene, too. These humble beasts standing around my dear hubby, "talking" of God's love with wags of tails and licks... Read more →

*****

Share your voice, heart and love in the comments. 

THRIVE in your Spiritually Mismatched Marriage and raise your children to faith. Our books are filled with practical experience and Biblical advice. -click or tap the photo-

Footer w drop shadow


Thankful Thursday - The Voice of God

A few hours ago I spent time with my BFF’s from Bible study. Today was the last day before the summer break. These girls are my “home girls.” They see the good, bad and ugly in me and love me anyway. I also love them with all of my heart. The study concluded with a powerful video by Priscilla Shirer, Discerning the Voice of God. Recognizing God’s voice in our life is what we all want. Without the Lord’s direction we would be lost and broken people. However, sometimes I wonder if you are like me? I don’t always hear clearly the voice of the Lord. Why is that? I have one word: OBEDIENCE In the years I have walked with the Lord, He has always been faithful and provided direction. He has taken me from one plateau to the next…. Each one, more fantastic and supernatural than the last.... Read more →

*****

Share your voice, heart and love in the comments. 

THRIVE in your Spiritually Mismatched Marriage and raise your children to faith. Our books are filled with practical experience and Biblical advice. -click or tap the photo-

Footer w drop shadow


Our Journey's - Part II

This is Part Two of “Our Journeys” posts. To read the original post, click here. This week's question is from Julianne: I would love to hear about the growth/changes in your family each of you have seen since your time of starting here. Even though it may not yet be where you hope, what differences have you experienced over time? Lynn’s Answer: Julianne, It is difficult to sum up in a few short paragraphs the changes which have occurred over the years. Even in the past three years since the start of SUM, the Lord has done amazing things. I give Jesus Christ all honor and credit because without His life-changing power at work in me, my man, and our marriage, we would not be living the abundant life today. Jesus is my hope. I think what I value the most from the changes brought by Christ is the fact... Read more →

*****

Share your voice, heart and love in the comments. 

THRIVE in your Spiritually Mismatched Marriage and raise your children to faith. Our books are filled with practical experience and Biblical advice. -click or tap the photo-

Footer w drop shadow


Chronicles - Oh ye, of Little Faith

I have prayed for my husband’s salvation now going on 18 years. Wow, 18. There are times, day, weeks, dare I say months that I just feel like my daily prayer, “Lord, I ask for the salvation of my husband. I ask for the Holy Spirit to indwell in his heart. Jesus, save my husband today. Amen.” I just feel like they bounce off the ceiling. “God, are you too busy to listen today?” “God, why is it taking so long?” "God, why don’t I see you doing anything in his life to draw my husband closer to you?” I wonder if some of you have felt like this. Today, I heard that still small voice in my spirit, “Oh ye, of little faith.” I realized that God is very active in a constant way in the life of my husband. Things happen around him that I am not always... Read more →

*****

Share your voice, heart and love in the comments. 

THRIVE in your Spiritually Mismatched Marriage and raise your children to faith. Our books are filled with practical experience and Biblical advice. -click or tap the photo-

Footer w drop shadow


Weekend Devotion — How can they believe?

"But since you do not believe what he wrote, how are you going to believe what I say?" — John 5:47 Oddly, reading this gave me great comfort recently. In Jesus' words, I hear my own dilemma with my spouse. Since he doesn't believe in God or the Bible as his Word, how can he believe what I say when I share my faith? Perhaps herein lies the truth of "actions speak louder than words." Regardless, my spirit is comforted in knowing Jesus understands because he lived it too. This reassurance spurs me on to keep persevering in my marriage, to keep believing God is working even when I see nothing change. Jesus continued to do what his Father sent him to accomplish, even when those he was sent to save rejected him. With Christ as our example, we can draw strength and courage to persevere, because he showed us... Read more →

*****

Share your voice, heart and love in the comments. 

THRIVE in your Spiritually Mismatched Marriage and raise your children to faith. Our books are filled with practical experience and Biblical advice. -click or tap the photo-

Footer w drop shadow


Chronicles with a Twist - American Idol

The strangest things happen. Wednesday morning, I hit the play button on the answering machine upon arriving home from dropping my daughter at school. “Call me… Call me… As soon as you can…. Call me!” Okay? Call me.” Ring, ring. My next door neighbor picks up, “Get dressed. Let’s go to the American Idol Finale. I have tickets.” “What?...... Say What?” “American Idol.” "WHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAT! NO WAY!" “I just received my tickets online. We have to be ready in less than an hour and get to Los Angeles.” That started my most unusual day! And what a day it was. Most of you know that I am not a fan of Hollywood. But I like the show. There is something about a rags to riches story. Reminds me of my own journey with God. Anyhoo, My friend Lynley, her two kids and I hit the southern California Freeways. We traversed to... Read more →

*****

Share your voice, heart and love in the comments. 

THRIVE in your Spiritually Mismatched Marriage and raise your children to faith. Our books are filled with practical experience and Biblical advice. -click or tap the photo-

Footer w drop shadow


Thankful Thursday - Nature

Do you ever walk out your door and are overwhelmed with creation? For me, spending time in nature draws me closer to God. In the summer months I take my Bible, a hot cup of coffee and my prayer journal and head out to the back yard. I talk with Jesus there. It is my favorite place to meet with Him. I see the brilliance of the blue sky – I am undone! I look around my small back yard at the garden growing fruits and vegetables and I lift my hands toward heaven and give thanks. I see the very face of God in His creation and my heart soars. Our God is a God of great beauty, majesty, wonder and miracles. The earth shouts His glory and so do I. Share some of your pictures of nature that inspire you to worship. I am looking forward to visiting... Read more →

*****

Share your voice, heart and love in the comments. 

THRIVE in your Spiritually Mismatched Marriage and raise your children to faith. Our books are filled with practical experience and Biblical advice. -click or tap the photo-

Footer w drop shadow


Our Journeys

Welcome to week four of our Open Forum. We've tackled some tough questions the last three weeks, and though difficult, we are honored to be a part of these discussions and to share in any way we can. This week delves a more into our personal journeys, which we are glad to share in the hopes they uplift and encourage. Lynn and I by no means have all the answers to living in a successful SUM, but we have no doubt that God has called us to share what we've learned thanks to our compassionate and merciful King. This week's question is from Julianne: I would love to hear about the growth/changes in your family each of you have seen since your time of starting here. Even though it may not yet be where you hope, what differences have you experienced over time? Lynn's Answer: Julianne, I appreciate your question.... Read more →

*****

Share your voice, heart and love in the comments. 

THRIVE in your Spiritually Mismatched Marriage and raise your children to faith. Our books are filled with practical experience and Biblical advice. -click or tap the photo-

Footer w drop shadow


Are You Thriving?

To read last week’s post and pray for your marriage journey this summer, read Thriving Despite (click here). Before we start to understand how we thrive in a spiritually unequal marriage or any marriage we need to ask a few questions first. Okay, one specific question. Why is marriage so hard? Why is it that when we marry, it isn’t happily ever after? In the book, Thriving Despite a Difficult Marriage, the author’s describe a myriad of difficulties in a relationship. Communication, religious differences (yep, we know that one), sex, *needs in marriage, etc, but they go on to say something profound. In the core of almost all couples they believe the difficulties in their marriages are caused by their spouse. Hmmmmm, what do you think about this? The authors continue; If you focus on your spouse’s defects you will only become more self-righteous and miserable. OUCH! Is this statement... Read more →

*****

Share your voice, heart and love in the comments. 

THRIVE in your Spiritually Mismatched Marriage and raise your children to faith. Our books are filled with practical experience and Biblical advice. -click or tap the photo-

Footer w drop shadow


Weekend Devo — Love God and Love Your Spouse

This weekend's devo is from Purpose Driven Connection by Rick Warren. A great way to look at the two most important commandments... "'Teacher,' he asked, 'Which is the greatest commandment in the Law?' Jesus answered, ''Love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind.' This is the greatest and the most important commandment. The second most important commandment is like it: 'Love your neighbor as you love yourself''" (Matthew 22:36-39 TEV). Any successful marriage is built upon the biblical truth that God designed each of us with five purposes in mind: worship, fellowship, discipleship, ministry, and missions. I suppose you'd expect a man who's been married over thirty years to a beautiful, intelligent woman to be able to share with you the intimate secrets to having a perfect marriage. But I'm going to disappoint you! That's because Kay and I don't... Read more →

*****

Share your voice, heart and love in the comments. 

THRIVE in your Spiritually Mismatched Marriage and raise your children to faith. Our books are filled with practical experience and Biblical advice. -click or tap the photo-

Footer w drop shadow


Thankful Thursday - Wisdom

Proverbs 4:11 I guide you in the way of wisdom and lead you along straight paths. Proverbs 11:2 When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom. On this Thankful Thursday I turn another year older. I am a year away from the BIG one. As a young woman I thought I pretty much had life figured out. I didn’t agree with the statement; the older you get the wiser you become. Girls, did I ever have a lot to learn. Today I realize that, in fact, much wisdom comes with age. Praise the Lord! Today I am thankful for the wisdom of God’s word. I would be lost without it. Today I am thankful for the wisdom of God, His divine word for us and His brilliant plan for our redemption. What wisdom has God given you recently about a situation or relationship? How has His wisdom... Read more →

*****

Share your voice, heart and love in the comments. 

THRIVE in your Spiritually Mismatched Marriage and raise your children to faith. Our books are filled with practical experience and Biblical advice. -click or tap the photo-

Footer w drop shadow


The Missing Link

Welcome to week three of our Open Forum. This week's question touches one of the hardest areas of a spiritually mismatched marriage. This week's question is from Nicole: "Yes you guys are great. What a much needed website! Would you guys share any feelings of guilt talking about your husbands or just with holding information. Because he is the source of much sadness for me and because he doesn't get it I feel like I can't share certain things when it relates to my faith. He lately has been teasing -"I didn't know I was marrying a nun." So I of course hold back experiences and events, but I feel almost like I'm hiding a part of me to him." Lynn's Answer: Hi Nicole, I wish I could sit with you and give you a hug. I can tell you that your feelings and what you are experiencing is a... Read more →

*****

Share your voice, heart and love in the comments. 

THRIVE in your Spiritually Mismatched Marriage and raise your children to faith. Our books are filled with practical experience and Biblical advice. -click or tap the photo-

Footer w drop shadow


Thriving Despite

Your hope is that God will give you the wisdom, courage, and strength to defeat the enemy’s attempts to corrupt your heart so you can remain alive and passionate. With a thriving heart you will be able to live vibrantly and allow God to offer a powerful love through you to whomever He puts in your path, especially your spouse. The result is that God will be honored and life will be immensely fulfilling. The description above is an excerpt from the book, Thriving Despite a Difficult Marriage. To read the first part of this series of posts go here. The goal of this book is not to offer another strategy to get your spouse’s attention or to find the way to successfully heal your marriage. But someone who commits to thriving despite will be in the best position to have a strong marriage. A thriving person is willing to... Read more →

*****

Share your voice, heart and love in the comments. 

THRIVE in your Spiritually Mismatched Marriage and raise your children to faith. Our books are filled with practical experience and Biblical advice. -click or tap the photo-

Footer w drop shadow


Weekend Devo — Puppy Dog Tails

I once read a story about an atheist scientist who gazed upon the shell-like elegance of his daughter's ear and was suddenly struck by the beauty of its design and function. In this moment he believed in God because he realized it could only be a manifestation of the Creator's hand. Something so small had a life-changing impact. Well, I have to say, I had one of those moments the other night. Yes, a puppy dog's tail. We have a beautiful dog (and I say beautiful because she is a treasure inside and out) who is a mix of Lab, Aussie, and a little Pit Bull. From the day we adopted/rescued her, she has blessed us beyond belief. Every time I look at our Shasta, I see God's hand in how she came into our lives and how this sweet and loving animal has ministered to our daughter through the... Read more →

*****

Share your voice, heart and love in the comments. 

THRIVE in your Spiritually Mismatched Marriage and raise your children to faith. Our books are filled with practical experience and Biblical advice. -click or tap the photo-

Footer w drop shadow


My Favorite Thing!

I have asked THE MOST UNUSUAL guest writer to help me out today at Laced With Grace. I promise you that this devotion is the strangest devotion you will ever read. It will be your Favorite Thing. Take a look: My Favorite Thing! For Thankful Thursday SCOLL DOWN! Hugs, Lynn Hop over to Laced With Grace and then come back and vote! poll by twiigs.com Read more →

*****

Share your voice, heart and love in the comments. 

THRIVE in your Spiritually Mismatched Marriage and raise your children to faith. Our books are filled with practical experience and Biblical advice. -click or tap the photo-

Footer w drop shadow


Thankful Thursday - A Mom

I have been working all week on a power point slide show for our church service this weekend. It is Mother’s Day. Next to Christmas and Easter, this is the third biggest weekend for outreach. More “men” come to church on that Sunday than most. They attend with their wives and with their Moms. On Sunday morning we will celebrate Moms with hilarity as well as a few touching moments. All this focus, of course, has me thinking about my own Mother and about myself and how blessed I am to be a mom. This Thursday let’s share with one another our hearts about our mothers. Or, why we are thankful to be a mom and what God is teaching us. Or, share about a Godly woman in your life who is or has been a Mom to you (Titus 2). My mother is the foundation of my faith. She... Read more →

*****

Share your voice, heart and love in the comments. 

THRIVE in your Spiritually Mismatched Marriage and raise your children to faith. Our books are filled with practical experience and Biblical advice. -click or tap the photo-

Footer w drop shadow


To Be or Not to Be...Unequally Yoked

Hello there and welcome to this week's Open Forum question! Just a note to our readers and commenters...we're are working through your questions in the order that the Holy Spirit leads so please don't think we've overlooked anyone. More than anything our goal is to keep God in the driver seat here at SUM. And please feel free to leave any questions today for future posts. We're here to serve you! This week's question is from Caroline: "Thank you for your blog which has been of great insight and inspiration to me. Would you also give some thoughts or advice to someone who is/has been in a deep relationship with someone who is not really a believer, though not yet married to this person. Congratulations on the good work that the Lord has led you both to do. I am a newcomer to the blog and I have been blessed... Read more →

*****

Share your voice, heart and love in the comments. 

THRIVE in your Spiritually Mismatched Marriage and raise your children to faith. Our books are filled with practical experience and Biblical advice. -click or tap the photo-

Footer w drop shadow


Marriage Monday Springtime Marriage

This Marriage Monday we are returning to Christine at Fruit In Season. Christine founded Marriage Monday years ago. I adore her and am thrilled she will be hosting for the next four months. Her topic, Seasons In Marriage, is wonderful. I often write about the season in which I find my marriage, but I feel the Lord calling me to write about springtime marriage. After all, its spring and many June weddings are around the corner. The Noticer and a really great question. I WON! Yes, I won a book, The Noticer, by Andy Andrews. It arrived in the mail Friday. (Thank you Ashlie of Mommycosm) I can’t put it down. Currently I am reading a chapter where the Noticer is speaking to high school age kids about why so many marriages end in divorce. I find the dialog and the principal truthful. The beginning of a marriage actually starts... Read more →

*****

Share your voice, heart and love in the comments. 

THRIVE in your Spiritually Mismatched Marriage and raise your children to faith. Our books are filled with practical experience and Biblical advice. -click or tap the photo-

Footer w drop shadow


Weekend Devo — Love Never Fails

"Love never fails." — 1 Corinthians 13:8 I grew up thinking love was the key to everything. I don't know why, but this was my mental make-up as a child, a teenager, and then a young adult. Yet as I grew older, I started to question if love was really enough. Over time I noticed that love seemed to fail over and over again—failed marriages, broken families, shattered friendships. And even in my faith I questioned whether love alone was enough to save anyone or anything. Too young to understand the difference as a child, I'd defined love according to our human capacity, philia, which translates to friendship or brotherly love (man's capacity). Only later did I learn about God's love, agape, which is selfless and self-sacrificing (God's capacity). As I reflected on the childhood ways I'd left behind (as Paul says), I suddenly saw the connection which brought me... Read more →

*****

Share your voice, heart and love in the comments. 

THRIVE in your Spiritually Mismatched Marriage and raise your children to faith. Our books are filled with practical experience and Biblical advice. -click or tap the photo-

Footer w drop shadow


A New Blog? - Another Year - A New Book

Welcome to my new Blog! This website is dedicated to our Lord and to men and women who live every day in a spiritually mismatched marriage. It is my prayer that this forum will be the place where Christians can find support, encouragement, and practical resources to thrive in their unequal marriage. I pray that when you visit this site you will be inspired and offer your own insights into God’s design for a healthy marriage in the midst of different viewpoints. Wow, I wrote these words exactly three years ago today, May 1, 2006. I wonder, as you have visited over the years have you found these words to be true? As Dineen and I head into the next year of writing, I pray these words all over again. I am deeply humbled that the Lord has allowed me to share the hope I have in Him and in... Read more →

*****

Share your voice, heart and love in the comments. 

THRIVE in your Spiritually Mismatched Marriage and raise your children to faith. Our books are filled with practical experience and Biblical advice. -click or tap the photo-

Footer w drop shadow