6And God raised us up with Christ and seated us with him in the heavenly realms in Christ Jesus, 7in order that in the coming ages he might show the incomparable riches of his grace, expressed in his kindness to us in Christ Jesus. 8For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God— 9not by works, so that no one can boast. 10For we are God's workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do. — Ephesians 2:6-10 (NIV)
I’ve noticed a commonality lately with many unequally yoked spouses. Many have shared with me that God has called them to cease petitioning for their unsaved spouses’ salvation and to begin thanking God that it’s already in place. I know this to be true in my own situation, but I wondered how I could back that up biblically.
This Sunday, my pastor unknowingly revealed what I needed in the above verses. If you take at the first verse, Paul says “God raised us up with Christ and seated us with him in the heavenly realms.” Our place is secure and already established. And there’s much more to this multifaceted jewel:
1.) God established our place with him from the very beginning. Verse seven affirms this as well. He’s set this in place for us, so wouldn’t he have done the same for our unbelieving spouses? Maybe it’s a more a question of “when” and not “if” our spouses will be saved.
2.) If you read verse eight, Paul shares why God set this in place long ago. God wanted it clear that our salvation comes from his grace through faith, not anything we or someone else might have done. And this is brilliant! We can have no doubts that God is the orchestrator. Therefore, we can firmly trust him to do the same with our unbelieving spouses. We may be part of the process, but we are not responsible for our loved one’s salvation. Only God can draw someone to him, and it is always according to his timetable.
3.) Even before death we are raised up with Christ and seated in the heavenly realms. Which basically means we are accepted because of our identity in Christ, not by our obedience or disobedience. We may displease God with our actions, but who we are, his children, will not change. How wonderful to know that God wants this for our loved ones as well.
Ephesians 1:3 continues to affirm that our place is established:Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us in the heavenly realms with every spiritual blessing in Christ.
We’re not in heaven yet, but our blessings are already there established and waiting. What is loosed in heaven is loosed on earth. We can claim that as a promise. If God has revealed to you that your unbelieving spouse will be saved, then you can bet he’s already established that in heaven and Ephesians 1:3 is a promise to claim.
Therefore (the big conclusion!) our place as the believing spouse is the answer the call:
As a prisoner for the Lord, then, I urge you to live a life worthy of the calling you have received. — Ephesians 4:1
Pray as God has called you to pray. Believe as God has called you to believe. And most importantly, trust him to know the when and how. These are mighty promises we can rest in, knowing our precious spouses are held firmly in God’s hand.
Praying and believing,