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Thankful Thursday - Relationships

Iris has set the thankful theme this week: Relationships Wow, if you really think about it, when we leave this earth all we can take with us is our relationships and the memories of this life. I am convinced the relationships we are building today are significant to our eternity. My relationship with my husband: Has revealed a tiny glimpse of the intimacy we will enjoy in heaven. My relationship with my children: Has brought understanding of unconditional love. Relationship with my friends: Honesty, forgiveness, cooperation, support, love The list is long. Each of these relationships are part of God's sovereign plan and I am so thankful. And most important, my relationship with Jesus: He is my rock. He is my hope. He is my redemption. He is my future. 2 Thessalonians 2:16 May our Lord Jesus Christ himself and God our Father, who loved us and by his grace... Read more →

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The Judgment of Others

I spoke with a friend at church Sunday who is also unequally yoked, and she brought up an issue I think we all run into at one point or another. As unequally yoked spouses, what can we do to cross the faith barrier to connect with our unbelieving spouses? And in so doing, how do we handle the judgments we sometimes receive from other believers. We’ve talked in the past about how our actions speak louder than words. Sometimes the actions God call us to can look questionable in the eyes of others. I’ve recently joined my husband in playing an online video game that some would consider the “wrong influence.” Is it my first choice of activities? No, but it’s something my husband enjoys and joining him sends the message that I want to spend time with him, and I’m willing to do it on his terms (without sinning,... Read more →

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Would you Change Churches?

I have spending a significant amount of time thinking about church. I am one of the thousands of spouses who pray in hope that my husband will want to attend church. In our early years, of course, this prayer was completely self-centered. I wanted my man to become a Christian because my life would be simpler. Also, I didn’t want to go to church by myself. Can anyone relate? I can recall my husband standing in our church sanctuary last year. The band was playing – loudly— and my husband was embroiled in the “hostile” stance. Hands on hips, elbows jutting out, and a look of exasperation on his face as he stared forward. No singing, no participation. He was mad. I probably coerced the guy into attendance that morning. I looked over at him and could feel the anger emanating from him. Tears sprang into my eyes. I was... Read more →

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What's in the Mail? -

Weekend Devotion

Recently I joined a prison ministry called Soaring Spirits and became a "Rose.” A Rose is assigned a female inmate who is attending Christian seminars through the Soaring Spirits ministry and commits to sending a card of encouragement each month. Today as I was writing my card, I felt led to write a scripture verse on the outside of the envelope. That got my thinking juices flowing or perhaps it was simply the Holy Spirit speaking to my heart. Why don't I write scripture verses on all the mail I send? I mean, who knows how many people see the outside of an envelope before it is delivered. We know that many people in the post office systems see them. We know the people in businesses who hand out the mail see them, right down to the final recipient and in this case, we know that a lot of prison... Read more →

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She Wasn't Pretty!

It was Friday morning. The alarm buzzed an awful warning that another jam-packed day awaited. The lumpy hotel mattress and over-large stuffed pillow contributed to the pounding headache which was beating in rhythm with the blaring alarm. This was day 12 of our travels. I rubbed my eyes stumbled over the discarded bedspread piled on the floor to put the coffee maker in motion. Crabby doesn’t begin to convey my mood. I was mad to be up so early - again. Mad because my family packed too much into an already tight schedule - again. Mad because the coffee maker only makes one cup at a time - AGAIN. Sheesh! I was a four-letter word – UGLY! I deserved to be ugly. I earned this bad mood. After all, this family reunion stuff was not my idea. Why did we need to leave this early? Why was the coffee taking... Read more →

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Thankful Thursday

Hebrews 4:12 NIV For the word of God is living and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart. The Word of God. There is power in His word. There are promises in His word. Eternity is in His word. John 1:1 Message The Word Became Flesh - In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. I read His word every morning. It does not escape me, this privilege. We have his word on paper, in print, on the computer, in our hearts. It transforms, protects, heals, and offers hope, redemption, and life. Thank you Lord for your divine Word. Be Blessed, Lynn For more Thankful Thursday blessings, visit Iris at Sting My Heart. Read more →

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When Our World Shakes

Our human nature makes us naturally resistant to change. And we tend to view any kind of shake up with a negative eye. It makes sense…naturally. So how do we shift our viewpoint from the natural to the eternal when God is shaking up our lives? If we’re to believe God is sovereign and nothing occurs without his approval, then he’s allowed whatever situation we are currently struggling with to occur. I think this is one of the most difficult areas for us as Christians to accept and understand. Trust me, I know! Recently God showed me three areas that are very critical to understanding these times of shake up. 1. God’s ways are not ours. I think this was and is the most difficult area for me. I love God so much, I can’t stand the thought of anything making him look less than perfect. But sometimes what may... Read more →

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Fantasy Football and God

Say What?

Many of you who have been readers at Spiritually Unequal Marriage for some time know I hear from God while in the bathroom. Many times I am buck nakid’ in the shower and sometimes I am in the closet getting dressed. Today I was blow-drying my hair…. Guess what the Lord prompted me to do? Join a Fantasy Football Team. I can tell you NEVER in a million years did this idea come from my own thoughts. It was God. WHAT A HOOT! Why, you ask? My husband has been part of a neighborhood team for several years. He has a blast goofing around with his fantasy team and braggin’ about his wins to the neighbors. Side Note: Poor guy incurs more losses than wins but has a ton of fun anyway. This is recreational fun. It fulfills a great need in my husband and I want to share in... Read more →

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Weekend Devotion — For All the Strivers Out There

"Cease striving and know that I am God." — Psalm 46:10 I have this Scripture written on an index card right now. (Yes, a pink one!) I need this verse so badly. See, I'm a perfectionist by nature and very performance driven. This verse tells me I don't have to be. It tells me that God loves me as much now as he did before I gave my life to him. He loves me no more and no less. I don't have to perform to earn or keep his love. All I have to do is live for him. And that makes me want to please him with my life. Dear Lord, thank you for being You—perfect, mighty, strong, and loving. There aren't enough or adequate words to express how awesome and wonderful you are. Help us to live our lives to please you, and don't let us forget for... Read more →

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Don’t Save Your Spouse….

.....Save yourself.... Over the past couple of days I have had a little trip down memory lane. I am wondering if you would also travel down this lane with me. I have posted in months prior about my feeble attempts to save my husband. As if Jesus needed my help, thank you very much. I have tried all kinds of loony things to get my man to become a Christian. Really stupid stuff like: Strategically placing 3x5 cards containing scripture verses around the house. Near the kitchen sink. On the table near the television. How about in the bathroom… Sheesh, the poor guy had no privacy. How about this one: Coercing, manipulating and pressuring him to go to church with me. For the kid's sake, for my sake, for the dog’s sake……for heaven sake! Pressuring him to attend a “couples” function. This always went over like a lead balloon. I... Read more →

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Thankful Thursday - What is a Bovine?

Twenty-five years… It’s been a long time…. My daughter and I returned this week from a 15-day road trip. What trip it was!!! We drove from California to Nevada, visited with my son and long-time friend Becky. Then we set out for Southern Utah to visit my Dad’s ranch. A week later, on to Colorado and three stops in various places west, central and south with a culmination finally in a small town in the southeastern part of the state. I hugged cousins I hadn’t seen in more than 25 years. We had fantastic adventures and several once-in-a lifetime experiences: Throwing candy to kids from a float in the July 4th parade. Flying into a fishing hole from a real rope swing. Visiting Coral Sand Dunes Riding ATV all over the hillsides looking for Anastasias Indian relics and arrowheads. Swimming in a hot springs and actually drinking that disgusting water... Read more →

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Unified by Circumstances

I had the wonderful opportunity to speak and share with a group of ladies Monday evening as part of the Daughters of Sarah ministry at Riverslake Church in Bakersfield, CA. We all share a common bond—being unequally yoked. Again, I'm amazed at how just knowing we're not alone can minister to the ache in our hearts. Awesome proof of Romans 8:28 in how God can bring good from our circumstances. He wastes nothing! I loved how one of their ministry leaders (three awesome ladies—Kimberly, Marlene, and Becky) described the group as the club everyone wants to graduate from. I know we all do. What a wondrous day to imagine not needing such a ministry, but in the meantime we have a calling to fulfill. Speaking to these ladies was such an honor. My prayer was to just serve, to just be the conduit God used to encourage and restore hope.... Read more →

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Abide

Weekend Devotion

Many of you, my sweet friends, have written to Dineen and me in the past several weeks telling us of such terrible heartbreak. Marriages in crisis are just one of the enormous issues filling my prayers. Today I want to give you this message from the Word- The, I AM. Philippians 4:13 I can do everything through him who gives me strength. John 15:5b Apart from me you can do nothing. Let these words soak deep into your heart, mind, and soul. Hear them with a new spirit and let them dwell in you. They bring peace. Abide in Him! Be Blessed, Lynn Read more →

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What's In Your Camp?

This scripture started it all: Deuteronomy 23:14 For the LORD your God moves about in your camp to protect you and to deliver your enemies to you. Your camp must be holy, so that he will not see among you anything indecent and turn away from you. If you remember I began this journey back in April and we have looked at what is indecent in our camp and can those indecent items –attitudes- be a cause for the Lord to turn away from us. Part I Part II Part III Part IV Idol story – Subtle Stealing Part V (Click to read previous posts) A couple of posts back I told you we would explore something indecent which is prevalent today and has very easy access to our homes; pornography. I have been researching this subject and have asked the psychologist I work with here at Spiritually Unequal Marriage... Read more →

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Showing Christ

If I could tell my husband one thing today, I would tell him I love him. If I could speak special words to him today, I would speak of my love for him. If I could show him who I love most, I would show him Christ. How do we show Christ? How do we convey with actions what we’d like to say with words? How can we show Christ and not just speak of him? For the unequally yoked, this is our greatest challenge, isn’t it? More often than not, it’s our actions that speak of our faith more effectively than our words. I came across these Scriptures today in 2 Corinthians 3:2-3: You yourselves are our letter, written on our hearts, known and read by everybody. You show that you are a letter from Christ, the result of our ministry, written not with ink but with the Spirit... Read more →

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Marriage Monday — It's back!

Marriage Monday is back! This week is an open topic and since Lynn is on vacation, this little mousey (Dineen) gets to play! So I've chosen a topic I'm betting you can relate to. We Have a Failure to Communicate Have you ever had a conversation with your spouse that turned into an argument? (I know, stupid question. Maybe I should ask who hasn’t.) I will confess, the one thing I have bragged about my marriage in the past is our ability to communicate. We’ve always been talkers, sharers, and pretty good listeners. But for the first time in our twenty years of marriage, I’m noticing a new pattern. Miscommunication. Now, as a woman, I will say I’ve had times where I thought I’d made my meaning clear, then realized after the fact that my dear husband heard a different thing. I’ve learned the hard way that the poor guy... Read more →

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Weekend Devotion — The Three Legs of Perseverance

Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance. Perseverance must finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. — James 1:2-4 (NIV) I'm a firm believer that God uses his creation to teach us things. He once taught me about how strongholds are born by using a weed in disguise. Really. So I'm not surprised that he's teaching me about perseverance through our cat Buttercup. Several months ago Cuppy, as we call her, developed a tumor on her right shoulder. We thought at first it was a simple infection and the vet drained it, yet it came back quickly. Our vet then tried to remove most of the tumor and testing confirmed what we feared. Cancer. Unfortunately, the cancer was so aggressive, the incision wouldn't heal and the... Read more →

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What is in Your Camp? It can be Destructive!

This scripture started it all: Deuteronomy 23:14 For the LORD your God moves about in your camp to protect you and to deliver your enemies to you. Your camp must be holy, so that he will not see among you anything indecent and turn away from you. If you remember I began this journey back in April and we have looked at what is indecent in our camp and can those indecent items –attitudes- be a cause for the Lord to turn away from us. Part I Part II Part III Part IV Idol story – Subtle Stealing Part V (Click to read previous posts) A couple of posts back I told you we would explore something indecent which is prevalent today and has very easy access to our homes; pornography. I have been researching this subject and have asked the psychologist I work with here at Spiritually Unequal Marriage... Read more →

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Letting Go...Again

I did it again. I took back something I had given over to God. And it took losing my peace, joy, and confidence to realize it. I don't like getting angry at God, and I can think of only one other time I've been angry with him. Now I can count two times, unfortunately. So much had gone wrong in such a short amount of time. Didn't God hear my prayers? And why was the very thing he'd called me to do so difficult and near impossible, no matter how hard I tried? Nothing made sense. After an evening of ranting at him about the unfairness of it all, I woke this morning still agitated. My morning quiet time started unsettled and caused me to despair. My peace was gone! The one place I could find solace brought me nothing. The more I sensed this, the more I wanted to... Read more →

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The Water Drop Experiment!

I opened up my email this morning, read this passage of scripture, and felt the Holy Spirit open up an area of my life which needs cleaning. This is what I read: Colossians 4:6 (NIV) Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone. The Holy Spirit hit me smack dab in the face with this thought, Lynn, it is time to control your tongue and I want you to begin with just one person. Immediately a single name came to mind.....(guess who it was?) The original post, 30 days ago, The Water Drop Experiment began at Laced With Grace (click here) The fantastic conclusion, The Water Drop Experiment - Jesus Works! is also posted at Laced With Grace (click here) Jesus Works! Glory, Hallelujah, Amen Be Blessed, Lynn Read more →

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