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Parenting a Middle Schooler in an Unequally Yoked Marriage

Handsmotherand_childOne of the interesting and challenging aspects of parenting in an unequally yoked marriage is education. As a Christian parent I would prefer to educate my child in a Christian school. I am unable to do so for two reasons. First, the expense. It is outside of our budget to send my daughter to a private school. Also, I am not gifted to be a home schooling Mom. I can do some things very well. However, home schooling is not a good idea for me.

The second reason is my unbelieving spouse made a firm decision that public education was what he desired. Fortunately, we live in an area where the public schools excel in many areas.

My daughter is twelve and currently in the seventh grade at our local Middle School. This week in her science class they are studying evolution. I have been worried about this week for years. How will my daughter receive this information? Will it sway her beliefs?

Yesterday evening I turned off the television and my daughter and I sat on the couch and talked. She began to tell me about the science class and Darwin. This could have been a terrifying moment in my life. However, this kid rocked my world. She asked me questions and we talked about what the Bible says. It was a wonderful moment in parenting to realize your kids do actually listen to you. However, more importantly it thrilled my heart to know she truly believes what the Bible teaches.

As the conversation progressed she said, “Mom, I just don’t get it. There is evidence that Jesus was a real man that walked the earth. He did miracles. He said to a blind man, be healed, and then he could see. No one else in all of history has ever done this. So why could it be so hard for Dad to believe.”

Ahhh, the faith and simplicity of a child. Is it any wonder scriptures say:

Matthew 18:3 (New Living Translation) 3 Then he said, “I tell you the truth, unless you turn from your sins and become like little children, you will never get into the Kingdom of Heaven.

We have hope as a Christian parent in an unequally yoked marriage. Living out our faith day in and day out is the most powerful example we can offer our children. We must pray for our children every day. If we are not covering them in prayer, who is?

Be encouraged this day as a Christian parent. We serve a Great God who loves our children more than we can conceive. Be blessed, Lynn

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Thankful Thursday

On November 9th, I began a journey to free myself from an ugly bad habit. The journey has been difficult and filled with Spiritual battles. However, on Tuesday at 4:30 a.m., the Lord woke me from a sound sleep. I received healing that morning. God rescued me and I have forever said goodbye to a part of me that was holding me in bondage.

I am newly humbled. I am enormously, gigantic, colossally, thankful for the power, love and grace of our God.

I have one thing to say: I am a slave of Jesus Christ and I have never been freer.

2 Corinthians 12:9 But he said to me, "My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness." Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ's power may rest on me.
I am living proof of this scripture today. To God be all honor, glory and power!

Have a blessed Thursday. I love each of you and will be by to visit everyone this week. Be blessed, Lynn

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A Final Word on Thankfulness

716045_handsI know, I know. You’re most likely tired of the subject by now. Thanksgiving is over. We’ve seen plenty of posts about it, but I want to bring one more dish to the table before it’s cleared.

Thankfulness for our unbelieving spouses.

Sometimes this is incredibly difficult, or nearly impossible, but I do believe it to be vital. Our human nature tells us to do the opposite—to hold a grudge or to even be justifiably judgmental. Especially in situations where we’re criticized or ridiculed for our faith. However, I believe there is a deeper meaning to why we are to give thanks for all things, including our trials.

One, it puts our eyes on God. In order to give thanks for a difficult person or situation, we have to purposely turn our eyes upward and acknowledge God’s power and presence in the circumstances.

Two, thankfulness is a direct contradiction to resentment. I find that when I go before God and thank him for husband, my resentment fizzles away. I can see reasons to be genuinely thankful for my husband, and appreciate him anew. How often we keep our eyes on the issues instead of upward on the One truly in control.

Three, in praying this thankfulness, we are changed. Our hearts become more in line with the Holy Spirit dwelling within us and with the image of Christ. When we stop fighting and come to the throne, we will find grace in our time of need. (Hebrews 4:16)

Like I said, I know this isn’t easy, however holding onto the resentment expends a lot more energy. If this is an area you’re struggling in, start slow and small. Find one simple thing you can be thankful for about your spouse. Perhaps a smile as they left for work. A kind word to one of the kids. A weekly paycheck. The socks hitting the laundry instead of the floor.

Keep your heart open to God’s leading and life-changing grace. These are the steps to unconditional love—a love like the Savior held for us as He hung from the cross.

Praying and believing,
Dineen

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Delight In the Lord

Psalm 37:3-6 (New International Version)

3 Trust in the LORD and do good;
dwell in the land and enjoy safe pasture.

4 Delight yourself in the LORD
and he will give you the desires of your heart.

5 Commit your way to the LORD;
trust in him and he will do this:

6 He will make your righteousness shine like the dawn,
the justice of your cause like the noonday sun.

If we trust in God we will will:

  • Do good.
  • Dwell- hang out where God is: that is, in church, reading our Bible, listening to music/ Christian radio, and reading Christian books.
  • Delight-An attitude of gratitude. Praise and singing, obeying Him.
  • Commit our ways to him. Praying God, What do you think about this? What direction do you desire?
  • We will enjoy safe pasture, (results)
  • He’ll do it because we asked His will over our lives and hearts. Our prayers are in line with God’s heart and desire for our lives.
  • Make us righteous. Trust means we don’t need to defend ourselves. God will craft our character and truth will prevail.

    Lord, help us place our trust in you today. Help us commit our plans, our wishes, and our dreams into your care. Lord, today let us ask you, “Lord, What do you think? Where shall we go from here?” In Jesus name, Amen.

    Have a blessed week delighting in the Lord our God, Lynn

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    Sunday Smiles

    At Spiritually Unequal Marriage we explore many difficult and serious topics. We can feel overwhelmed with the seriousness of life because our struggles are sometimes enormous. Because of this fact, I want to share the joy of the Lord with you as well.

    After the service a young couple talked to me about joining the church. I hadn't met the husband before, and I asked what church he was transferring from. After a short hesitation, he replied, "I am transferring from the Municipal Golf Course."
    Praise the LORD and laugh out loud today!

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    A Dead-End and the Majesty of God

    Are you seeing double? Triple?

    Join me as I share The Dead-End Street at the Internet Café. You are on HOLY Ground.

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    Thank you my friends, I love you. Be blessed, Lynn

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    Expectations and Disappointments

    Around this time of year I find I build up expectations. Expectations of myself and especially of others. Sometimes I recognize the expectations in my heart and there are times I don’t know they exist until they are unmet. These moments are when I find myself awash in disappointment.

    I tend to be a tab bit stubborn and still cling to deeply buried hopes. I envision myself holding my husband’s hands, sitting together with heads bowed in prayer. I desire to see my husband wake up on Sunday morning eagerly looking forward to attending church. I have expectations that this Christmas he might read the story of Christ’s birth to my daughter instead of me.

    I am sure that every Christian spouse in an unequally yoked marriage also longs for these experiences. We have expectations and hopes. So what do we do with the disappointment when our expectations are not met and hope appears to be crushed?

    I think two things have helped me to live through disappointment. When I am utterly broken hearted, frozen in immobility, I can only fall into the arms of Christ. I know I have shared this with you before. I literally cry tears as I pray and I feel the gentle arms of our God surround me. I sometimes pray for comfort for several days. The Lord is always faithful to meet my need. He picks me up. He shows me how to forgive my husband and myself, then to live one day at a time. Eventually, I am able to unfreeze my heart by the divine love of our Savior. It truly is a miracle.Prayinghands_2

    Secondly, I must take every thought captive. I mean this literally. I need to take control of my expectations. When my selfish thoughts stir, I build every sort of expectation. It is inevitable that these expectations always result in regret.

    2 Corinthians 10:5 We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.

    I release my expectations. For today I am okay my husband chooses to stay home on Sunday. I have genuinely released this expectation. What a difference in my Sunday experience. I no longer feel angry or frustrated with him. My anger in the past only fueled his determination to stay home. Also, I am ashamed to admit this but… I was a poor example of unconditional love.

    When I feel disappointment leap into my heart, I take it to the Lord. I ask God to explain how I arrive here and what I need to do differently tomorrow. This change in my character and heart is my hope. I have authentic and realistic hope that my atheist husband will find Jesus. This is where we find glorious and inexpressible joy.

    1 Peter 1:8 (New International Version) 8Though you have not seen him, you love him; and even though you do not see him now, you believe in him and are filled with an inexpressible and glorious joy,

    I also am not “expecting” my husband to be a drastically different man when he finally comes to faith. It will be a journey. His path is different from mine. I have faith God will answer my faithful prayers in His perfect timing.

    1 Timothy 2:3-4This is good, and pleases God our Savior, 4who wants all men to be saved and to come to a knowledge of the truth.

    Surrender expectations to the Lord. His way of accomplishing much in our lives is so much more fun and exciting than our own. Have a blessed weekend. Lynn

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    Thankful Thursday -Thanksgiving Day

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    What’s God Up to Now?

    799092_iwu_chapel_entranceYou’re not going to believe this. Or maybe you will. Saturday evening I heard a still soft voice.

    “Invite him to church.”

    I paused. Or should I say, I froze. “Huh? Lord, is that you?”

    “Invite him to church.”

    “But why? He’ll just say no. Or laugh at me.”

    “Invite him to church.”

    “Well, okay. Whatever you want.” I laughed. Like Sarah when she heard God (appearing as the trinity) tell Abraham that by the time next year she would bear him a son.

    Can you still hear me laughing?

    I did exactly as God asked. I was happy too. I like being obedient. I like being in God’s will. And I like the idea that one day my dear hubby will actually say “yes” to this question.

    Not this time though. And he did laugh. Maybe because I made a little game of it. Or because we both know how ludicrous the idea is at the moment.

    But he doesn’t know what I know. That’s what really has me laughing. For joy. The day is coming, and soon. I know. I. Just. Know. And I believe God’s promises.

    Now I realize this was more for me than my hubby. God asked me to do something a bit uncomfortable. And I’m glad I did. I have no idea what God’s up to at the moment, but I’m determined to be obedient in whatever he asks me to do. Even if it sounds ridiculous.

    Sarah laughed but wound up a mother in her old age. God proved faithful. I laughed when God told me to invite my hubby to church. Wonder what’s going to happen next?

    I’ll keep you posted.

    Praying and believing,
    Dineen

    (Special note: The picture is of the front entrance of the Miller Prayer Chapel on Indiana Wesleyan University campus in Marion, Indiana. Since my last name is Miller, I thought it a rather appropriate for this post. And good for a giggle.)

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    Sunday Smiles

    At Spiritually Unequal Marriage we explore many difficult and serious topics. We can feel overwhelmed with the seriousness of life because our struggles are sometimes enormous. Because of this fact, I want to share the joy of the Lord with you as well.

    Albert

    An old man was shopping with his grandson. The boy was crying and at times screaming at the top of his lungs.

    As the old gentleman walked up and down the aisles, people could hear him speaking in a soft voice...

    "We are almost done, Albert... Try not to cry, Albert... Life will get better, Albert..."

    As he approached the checkout stand, he carefully brushed the boy's tears from his eyes and said again, “try not to cry, Albert... We will be home soon, Albert...”

    As he was paying the cashier, his grandson continued to cry. A young woman in line behind him said, "Sir, I think it is wonderful how sweet you are being to little Albert."

    The old gentleman blinked his eyes a couple of times before saying, "Miss, my grandson's name is Hunter...

    I'm Albert......................................."

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    Thankful Thursday

    Hebrews 4:16 (New International Version)
    16Let us then approach the throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.

    Exactly one week ago today, God set my feet on a path to reveal an area of disobedience in my life. I have experienced a holy smack down. It was needed and long over-due. I am humbled and ever so aware of God’s unfailing love and limitless grace.

    Grace, grace, God’s grace, Grace that will pardon and cleanse within; Grace, grace, God’s grace, Grace that is greater than all our sin.

    9But he said to me, "My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness."

    Praising our Lord with a fresh anointing of grace today. Be blessed, Lynn


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    Growing Younger

    708892_insipite_storms_1I've taken to daydreaming lately. In church as I sing during worship, I imagine my husband standing next to me, singing slightly out of key. As I read my Bible, I imagine him asking me about what I'm reading and a lively discussion ensues, both of us enrapt by the Word of God. I picture taking communion by his side. I wonder what his baptism will be like. What words will he share about his journey to faith?

    And, oh, what a testimony it will be.

    During my Bible study yesterday, I had a question that asked me to recall my own salvation experience and describe my excitement in knowing God was present with me. I really dislike questions like this personally, because mine isn't an earthshaking salvation story. I can't really tell you for sure when I accepted Christ. I think I did more than once as a child just to be sure it took. (Better safe than sorry, right?)

    But looking back, I think I gave my heart to Jesus at the tender age of four when I was baptized (more like a christening actually). To this day I still feel the water dripping down my head and feeling very special. I remember people filling the pews and bright light streaming in through the windows around the room. I remember the small Bible given to me on this day, and taking it to bed with me each night, reverently turning the pages though I couldn't read a word.

    Time has passed and pulled my path to and fro. I wandered for a while but felt the tug of God's hand bring me back to him. In the years since then I've continued to seek after him, at first out of duty or ritual, but later like an insatiable hunger pushing for more.

    And I find the closer I draw to him, and the deeper He draws me to his truth, the closer I come to returning to that delighted four-year-old again.

    "But Jesus called the children to him and said, 'Let the children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of God belongs to such as these." —Luke 18:16

    Gracious Father, you are the author of our faith, the healer of our hurts, and the source of our hope. Ignite the fire of our hearts to burn only for you. Put a hunger in us for your Word, for your presence above all else. Give us a vision of the future, of our loved ones coming to you like children. And thank you, Lord Jesus, for praying for us before we were even born! In your precious and holy name we stand, and believe. Amen.

    Praying and believing (like a child),
    Dineen

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    A Bowler Hat?

    I must tell you the story about the most peculiar man who walks around our neighborhood. Click here to read: Gifting Our Gratitude.
    Also, the letter below was written by guest writer Kathleen Marie. It will be a letter you will want to write. Have a blessed Monday. Lynn

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    A Letter to my Daughters

    FountainpSeveral months ago I received the following letter. It is beautiful, heartfelt and eloquent. I asked Kathleen Marie to share it with everyone here at Spiritually Unequal Marriage.

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    I have had much concern of late regarding spouses for my children, especially my two daughters, as they are the oldest of the four, so I thought I would write them a letter and share it with you. I hope it may help some of you who are as concerned as I am. Kathleen Marie

    I have prayed for your husband since the day you were born. I know God has the perfect man, just for you. The perfect soul mate and when I say perfect I don’t mean a man without flaws but I do mean a man who will love you for who you are in Christ.

    I have prayed your husband will be a man who loves the Lord because if he loves God first he will love you deeply and unconditionally. He will love you enough to lay his life down for you.

    Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge. Hebrews 13:4

    I have prayed your husband will be a man who serves the Lord with all his heart because if he serves God, he will serve and take care of you.

    I have prayed your husband will have a great sense of humor because if he can laugh at himself he can laugh with you and the world.

    I have prayed your husband will cherish the world he was born into, because if he cherishes the world, he will cherish you and share his world with you.

    I have prayed your husband will be soft spirited and tender because then I know he will be kind and tender with your heart.

    I have prayed your husband will be patient with himself and others because then he will be patient with you and the children God will bless you with.

    I have prayed your husband will be a hard working and responsible because then I know he will do all he can to provide for you.

    I have prayed your husband is teachable and eager to learn because then I know he will have so much to share and will listen to you and others.

    I have prayed your husband is discerning because then he will know when you need a hug or a shoulder to cry on when you can’t explain how you feel.

    I have prayed for your spouse, for the man God wants you to spend the rest of your life with. Please be patient and trust the Lord to know who is best for you. God wants to give you the deepest desires of your heart.

    You can visit Kathleen at The Open Window.

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    Internet Cafe- A Tablecloth of Thanks

    Today at Christian Women Online I am sharing a treasured Thanksgiving tradition. I hope you start this tradition in your home. Click here to read; Tablecloth of Thanks! Be Blessed, Lynn

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    Sunday Smiles

    At Spiritually Unequal Marriage we explore many difficult and serious topics. We can feel overwhelmed with the seriousness of life because our struggles are sometimes enormous. Because of this fact, I want to share the joy of the Lord with you as well.

    The Church Gossip

    Mildred, the church gossip, and self-appointed monitor of the church's morals, kept sticking her nose in to other people's business.

    Several members did not approve of her extra curricular activities, but feared her enough to maintain their silence.

    She made a mistake, however, when she accused George, a new member, of being an alcoholic after she saw his old pickup parked in front of the town's only bar one afternoon.

    She emphatically told George (and several others) that everyone seeing it there would know what he was doing. George, a man of few words, stared at her for a moment and just turned and walked away.

    He didn't explain, defend, or deny... he said nothing.

    Later that evening, George quietly parked his pickup in front of Mildred's house... walked home... and left it there all night.

    Ya gotta love George.

    Proverbs 11:13 (NIV) A gossip betrays a confidence, but a trustworthy man keeps a secret.

    Proverbs 16:28
    A perverse man stirs up dissension, and a gossip separates close friends.

    Proverbs 18:8
    The words of a gossip are like choice morsels; they go down to a man's inmost parts.

    Proverbs 20:19
    A gossip betrays a confidence; so avoid a man who talks too much.

    Proverbs 26:20
    Without wood a fire goes out; without gossip a quarrel dies down.

    Proverbs 26:22
    The words of a gossip are like choice morsels; they go down to a man's inmost parts.

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    Godly Submission- Marriage Monday

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    Marriage is one of the greatest gifts God has given to people. It is a strange and marvelous mystery where two individuals join and become one.

    Ephesians 5:31-32 (New International Version) 31"For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh." 32This is a profound mystery…
    Marriage is all about love. The word, love, has become so all encompassing it has lost its power as applied to marriage. Married love described in scripture is a genuine, all-of-your-heart love.
    1 Corinthians 13 (New International Version) 4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
    So where does submission come into the love equation? What is Biblical submission and what is it not? Truthful and Godly answers to these questions are what I hope we discover through the Marriage Monday posts.
    Ephesians 5:23-25 (New International Version) 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. 25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.
    It all begins with choices. We choose our mate. We choose to love, we choose to allow freedoms, and we choose to be responsible. Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend in their book,
    Boundaries In Marriage
    , say this, “When two people are free to disagree, they are free to love. When they are not free, they live in fear, and love dies.”
    1 John 4:18 (New International Version) 18There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.
    In my acquaintances with Christian wives I have discovered many believe submission is denying their own feelings, beliefs, and desires and giving control of their lives over to their husbands. They do this by stuffing down their convictions and force themselves to conform to their spouses desires.

    There is a time when we as believers need to follow our husbands even if we disagree. However, following in this manner must be a mutual decision made with your entire heart and with the knowledge that it is best for the marriage and will allow love to grow.

    In my marriage, I have never been able to fake submission. I have to believe that bending my will to my husband’s is the right thing to do. My submission to him may come with much discussion, sometimes arguments but it is always genuine and without fear. Weddingringshands

    We live within the boundaries of mutual respect which is manifested through our character. We have learned to use and respect the word no. It is learning to be responsible for ourselves, maturing our respect for one another. This is honest and Godly submission. This kind of submission grows our love, drawing us closer together.

    I have so much more I could write, perhaps another day. Have a blessed day and rejoice you are married. It is a gift from God. Be Blessed, Lynn

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    Thankful Thursday

    This week I have been in awe of our Creator’s utter immensity. My research for a future post about the human body for Laced With Grace sent shivers across my skin today. The profound brilliance of our Lord pierces my soul.

    The human body so ordinary – so extraordinary. We are but bits of stardust, part carbon, hydrogen, oxygen and a handful of chemicals worth only $20.

    Yet, PRICELESS!Ringam2_hst_2



    I am humbled by the sheer complexity of the human body and the intricacies of our brain. I am praising the Lord for his vast intellect. When you wrap your mind around creation it can only lead you to one place – GOD!

    Psalm 46:10 (New International Version) 10 "Be still, and know that I am God; I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth."
    Acknowledgment, appreciativeness, gratefulness, honor, indebtedness, obligation, praise, recognition, requital, response, responsiveness, thankfulness, thanks, thanksgiving! Praising our Lord today! Be blessed, Lynn

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    The Most Dangerous Prayer

    PrayingIt’s birthed in the deepest recesses of our hearts, then moves with our silent yearnings to the hidden places in our thoughts. We dare to think it, until we finally submit and give words to this most dangerous prayer.

    “Lord, do whatever it takes to bring my husband/wife to Christ.”

    Among the unequally yoked there is an unspoken enormity to this prayer. And we understand the journey it takes deep within ourselves to finally speak it—to pray it with sincerity, knowing full well we have no idea what we may have unleashed. It comes from a place of near desperation and complete trust in God.

    We are willing to risk it all.

    At times the urgency of this prayer fills me with such desperation that I can hardly breath. And when I am overcome by it, God tells me this is just the minutest fraction of what he feels for my husband.

    Can you imagine?

    Can you imagine a love that wild and all consuming? Then I realized that God feels that way about us and pursued us then just as He is pursuing our loved ones now. (Talk about really leaving a girl breathless!)

    That kind of love never fails. It’s always there, protecting and watching. He’s got our backs. (Isaiah 58:8). We just have to trust him and let go of our expectations, preconceived ideas, and fears. He will equip us to handle whatever comes. (I’m listening to those words as much as you are.)

    Amazingly, I’m the one who’s been changed the most by this prayer. At first what I thought to be terribly unfair now appears to be part of a grand plan. A time of preparation. With each pruning, I find myself more and more grateful, and humbled. (There’s hope for me yet.)

    Perhaps it makes a difference knowing the outcome—God gave me a glimpse of what’s to come several years ago. Or perhaps it has more to do with how He has strengthened my trust and reliance on him. He’s shown me my fallen-ness. I have no choice.

    What are you willing to risk for your unbelieving spouse to know Jesus? What are you willing to pray for that loved one? Are you willing to walk into the unknown realm of God’s will, and trust him completely with the outcome, no matter how you’re affected in the process? It’s a scary question, I know!

    When I worry what this prayer will cost me, I remind myself that God will equip me for whatever comes. That’s been the whole point of this time of preparation. And then I remember that He made the greatest sacrifice. He already paid the highest cost of all with his Son. And nothing I could lose can compare to that.

    Praying and believing,
    Dineen

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    Ever Wonder?

    At Spiritually Unequal Marriage we explore many difficult and serious topics. We can feel overwhelmed with the seriousness of life because our struggles are sometimes enormous. Because of this fact, I want to share the joy of the Lord with you as well.

    EVER WONDER?

    Why the sun lightens our hair, but darkens our skin?

    Why women can't put on mascara with their mouth closed?

    Why is 'abbreviated' such a long word?

    Why is it that doctors call what they do 'practice'?

    Why is lemon juice made with artificial flavor, and dishwashing liquid made with real lemons?

    Why is the man who invests all your money called a broker?

    Why is the time of day with the slowest traffic called rush hour?

    Why isn't there mouse-flavored cat food?

    You know that indestructible black box that is used on airplanes? Why don't they make the whole plane out of that stuff?!

    Why don't sheep shrink when it rains?

    Why are they called apartments when they are all stuck together?

    If flying is so safe, why do they call the airport the terminal?

    Why didn't Noah swat those two mosquitoes?

    Psalm 118:24 This is the day the LORD has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it.

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    He Just Doesn’t Get It!

    “Honey, please tell me you have noticed this.” I point to the water on the floor in the bathroom. “You are practically stepping in it.”

    He looks down, “Oh. Ya, I guess I did see that earlier.”

    It is at this point I can mentally blow a gasket. I don’t get it. How could he NOT see there is a problem? There are numerous instances such as this that occur in our daily life. They go unnoticed by our spouse. I just don’t understand how my man can see something that is apparent and yet not GET IT.

    Can you relate?

    Perhaps in your house it is socks on the floor. Or perhaps, it might be a broken sprinkler, or your need of a bouquet of flowers, or a project in the family room that needs finishing?

    Well this past week I had a light bulb moment.
    Lightbulb


    Ping!

    The truth is; what is obvious to me is not obvious to him. He absolutely does not notice many things that need attention. Our men do not process these obvious needs nor register them in their minds the same way as women.

    It is true however madding it may be. When I wrapped my mind around this fact, it released me from a ton of frustration and anger. What is obvious to me is NOT obvious to him. On the other hand, I asked my husband if there I things I just don't get. He smiled and pointed to the clutter on the kitchen cabinet. With a big grin on his face he said, "I just don't get it."

    I'm not so perfect after all! *grin*

    Coming up Rebecca Seville, Psychologist, and consultant here at Spiritually Unequal Marriage, talks about how we can move our marriage out of a rut even if it has been stuck there for years. Stay tuned.

    Be blessed and may God richly bless your marriage with a miracle today! Lynn

    Rejoicing


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