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19 entries from March 2007

She Needs Family

Our series on His Needs, Her Needs is approaching the last three chapters. Today let’s take a look at a woman’s need for her husband to be a good father and committed to family. Women are deeply connected to family, parents, aunts, uncles, etc. Women enjoy family events and spending time with her parents. I could write an entire post about this subject but have instead focused on child rearing. Proverbs 22:6 (New International Version) 6 Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it. Women truly understand the wisdom of this passage. They also expect their husbands to be a partner in the raising of the children. So what does it mean when a woman says, “ I want my children to have a good father?” Time…. It takes time. Meals with the family. Bike rides, board games,... Read more →

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1stPeter3Living - April Study

Men Are like Waffles-Women Are like Spaghetti: Understanding and Delighting in Your Differences By Bill & Pam Farrel Men and women know they are different, but what can they do about the differences? In this refreshing and humorous look at relationships, Bill and Pam Farrel explain why a man is like a waffle (each element of his life is in a separate box), why a woman is like a plate of spaghetti (everything in her life touches everything else), and how the differences can work for you…. • Help each other relieve stress instead of creating it. • Coordinate parenting so kids get the best of both Mom and Dad. • Bring out the best your spouse has to give in sex, work, friendship, and communication. Men Are Like Waffles, - Women Are Like Spaghetti will shine a light into the marvel and mystery of the one you live with,... Read more →

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A Healthy Give-and-Take

For more articles about marriage, visit Christine at Fruit In Season I want to share a quick thought before we leave the domestic support area of our study. A few weeks ago I was visiting with a couple of friends from my Bible study group. The discussion had rolled around to the responsibilities we share or don't share with our spouse. One of the gals made a very wise comment about sharing marriage responsibilities. It is very simple: Sharing the responsibilities in marriage should be a healthy give-and-take. Here is the key. It may not always be fair. One partner may do more than the other but it is their choice. A healthy give-and-take is what makes all relationships thrive. What is healthy? I think it is when both spouses truly consider what they can do to make life easier for the other. I have seen this modeled and it... Read more →

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Domestic Support

Let’s take a look today at a man’s need for peace and quite, domestic support. Quite frankly, I think this is a woman’s need as well. However, we are able to deal with the chaos of child rearing better than men in general. Okay, I’m a little ornery today, sorry guys. This chapter is fascinating. Men are a closed mouth group. They rarely speak about their real feelings that resided deep inside. They are giving their utmost to provide, to be brave, to give the family a quality of life. Many are overwhelmed but never share their stress. They face the work world and slay the dragon, or try to with all of their might. They look forward to relaxing at home to recover and recharge. When he arrives home, he expects his wife to cook the meals, do the laundry, and care for the kids. Appears to be unfair?... Read more →

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Thankful Thursday

Thankful Thursday at Spiritually Unequal Marriage is an opportunity to give thanks to the King for our spouses. Today I am thankful for my husband's work ethic and willingness to provide. In an earlier post we covered a woman's need to feel financially secure. I have arrived at this place. Thank you Sweetie! It was not an easy road for sure. For years I was driven to be self-sufficient, working to support myself. One of the most difficult things for me to do was to quit work and solely rely on my husband to provide. Miracles of miracles, I am finally free of the driving need to rely on no one. God has delivered me from much insecurity and worldliness. Thank you Lord, Jesus. Amen. Have a blessed day! Lynn Read more →

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The Wholeness of God

Today I am over at Jehovah Java. I am sharing a story of how my brain works... From watermelon to the Holiness of God. I hope you will pop in for a quick read. Contributor at: Next up: His Need, Peace and Quiet? Domestic Support. Have a blessed day. Lynn Read more →

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Financial Security

Does a woman marry for money? This may be an offensive question and most would flatly reply a resounding no. However, it is not as far fetched as we think. Women have a basic need to feel financially secure. Women want to have a choice to work or stay home. If they choose a career, they want the income to be a supplement to the family budget not a necessity. Most women are grateful to stay home and nurture the children. This is the ideal situation but hardly the reality. Many couple’s standard of living forces the wife into the work force to help make ends meet. This is where fighting erupts. The clear issue at hand is the couple’s willingness to redefine their standard of living and make adjustments. Regrettably most individuals, even Christian’s, are caught up in “keeping up with the Joneses.” To find peace in this area... Read more →

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Marriage Monday

Christine at Fruit In Season has an interesting book review about Marriage. Check it out. Tomorrow we will be visiting a woman's need for financial support. Praying God is in the details of your marriage and your week. Be blessed, Lynn Read more →

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He needs an Attractive Spouse

Today I want to return to our study of His Needs, Her Needs. Let’s look at His need for an attractive spouse. Okay gals, this may not be easy. It is NOT fair but it is truth. Let’s get to it. Men are visual. They are stimulated by sight. It should come as no surprise they want – no need – an attractive spouse. I am talking physical attractiveness. I am going to highlight just a few areas. This is a difficult subject and I highly recommend reading the book to understand the complexity of this chapter. Dr. Harley points out the woman was once attractive but has become lazy. After the marriage vows, she lets herself go. With this said, Dr. Harley simply states: a woman should take pains to look something like the woman her husband married. When a man’s wife looks good, he feels good. Tips: •... Read more →

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Fifteen Years and Counting

It was fifteen years ago today. Two unsuspecting and optimistic young adults walked down the isle. We were married in the typical fashion and it was a beautiful day and the weeks following were filled with love. As the weeks became months, then years our marriage relationship grew and changed. My husband and I are more in love today than we were on our wedding day. We have overcome so much together. It is because of the great love of Jesus our marriage survived the rocky years. I know many readers here at Spiritually Unequal Marriage are struggling within their marriage. The spiritual differences in the home are paramount. Many feel heart broken, lonely and desperate. Today as I look back on the years when I was exactly where you are, I encourage you to stay the course. You CAN have peace, love and a genuinely wonderful marriage in spite... Read more →

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Guest Writer - Dineen Miller

It is my great pleasure to have Dineen Miller write for us again. Dineen was one of the first readers, prayer parters and guest writers here. She is my biggest encourager. I love her deeply. This weekend we met face-to-face for the first time at the Deeper Still Conference in San Francisco. Now, without further ado... Dineen Miller The Storm That Waits By Dineen A. Miller A depression threatened like a storm waiting offshore to pound a defenseless city. I wept. I moaned. My struggles had become heart wrenching for several weeks. Yet in the midst of these fierce winds, I wondered why. I knew I needed an attitude adjustment, at the very least, but I still didn’t understand the source of my discord. God had already warned me the next year would be difficult, in terms of being unequally yoked, and I sensed the days counting down to the... Read more →

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Jehovah Java

Today I am thrilled to be a contributor over at Christian Women Online, Jehovah Java. Please join me there for a mean cup of coffee and a yarn that is legend in our neck of the woods. You will know me a little better after this tale. Also, I am posting today at Laced With Grace, a story about an angel in my kitchen window. Blessings my friends. I love each of you. Happy Friday and Have a great weekend. Read more →

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Thankful Thursday

Thankful Thursday at Spiritually Unequal Marriage is an opportunity to give thanks to the King for our spouses. My husband is a great Dad. He travels for business Monday through Friday. I mean he puts his butt on a plane and flies away for five days. No matter where he is in America, he always phones home at least once a day and he always helps my daughter with her math homework. Get this... he can still remember middle school math and can do it in his head...... Scary.... How does your guy "scare" you??? Be blessed, Lynn Read more →

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Her Need: Honesty and Openness - Part II

Privacy in a marriage relationship is one thing but secrecy is another issue all together. Honesty is one of the most important qualities in a successful marriage. When you are married, you must send each other accurate messages and receive accurate responses. Do husband’s lie to their wives? A man may respond in a dishonest, vague, or ambiguous way for one of several reasons:  He may have lied about minor things from an early age. He lies chronically.  He’s afraid to reveal his true feelings because he doesn’t want to appear weak, stupid, or whatever. He wants to avoid trouble.  He feels afraid he will hurt his wife’s feelings, so he protects her from the truth thinking it might be too much for her. These approaches are defeating and destructive. The far better course: the truth. When a wife hears the truth from her husband, about what... Read more →

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Her Need: Honesty and Openness

Dorothy felt both perplexed and enchanted by Frank’s mystique: She had never met a more private man, and he often evaded her questions. Near the end of the date she might ask him where he was going or what he was planning to do. He would just wink, smile knowingly, and say, “I’ll call you tomorrow.” Frank’s behavior seemed a bit odd, but Dorothy told herself that everybody has a right to privacy. Certainly Frank had a right to keep some things to himself.----Dr. Harley, His Needs, Her Needs. The question at hand is: In marriage does your spouse have a right to privacy? We are going to see what Dr. Harley says about this tomorrow. How much privacy do you think is good in marriage? See you in the morning. Blessings, Lynn Read more →

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Psalm 191

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Ultimate Blog Party At Spiritually Unequal Marriage

Welcome all Blog Party Visitors. I hope you are having fun and are meeting many new wonderful friends. I sure am. I want to share with you a little bit about this site and about myself. I have a passion for other sojourners who are navigating the unique challenges of an unequally yoked marriage. I write from practical experience about marriage and spiritual singleness. SUM is also blessed to have many contributing writers as well. Wise men and women who also have life experience in a spiritually unequal marriage. In addition, many of the readers here are also part of an online study 1Peter3Living. Stop in for a visit. We have wonderful fellowship, offer encouragement, love and prayers for each other. I also am a contributor at Laced With Grace where I write devotions every Friday. Check out today's article. I need bullfrogs and mud pies. Beginning next week I... Read more →

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Bullfrogs and mudpies

I know that many of the readers who have stop in here at Spiritually Unequal Marriage this past week, are feeling overwhelmed in almost every area of life. I am not amune. I have so much on my plate. I feel frazzled. I will quote my friend Denise, "I feel like I fell off the planet." Today at Laced With Grace, I wrote about bullfrogs and mudpies. I really need them when I am operating in overwhelm mode. Stop over for a quick read. Have a blessed Friday!! Lynn Read more →

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Thankful Thursday

I love the blogging community. I have met some of my best friends through this quirky online world. I have been blessed, encouraged and challenged through each of you. My blogging journey started with Christian Women Online. I am thankful today for Darlene, Editor of the Ezine. Christian Women Online is the largest Christian women community there is on the internet. Have you seen yet the latest addition to CWO? Check it out! Carol has written a wonderful post about blogging. Also, visit other Thankful Thursday participants at Sting My Heart. Read more →

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