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His Need: Recreational Compatitility - II
Why do men find recreational compatibility enormously important?
Among the five basic male needs, spending recreational time with his wife is second only to sex for the typical husband. ---Dr. Willard Harley, His Needs, Her Needs
This interest is difficult to navigate. Before marriage, both partners show interest and participation in the recreation choices of the other. After marriage, it is critical to find common spheres of interest. Dr. Harley discusses how easily someone can engage in recreational activities with someone other than their spouse and love bank deposits are made in that person’s bank.
Having fun and playing with your spouse is crucial. Common interests also build on the communication needs in marriage.
Dr. Harley’s fourth law of Marriage: The couple that plays together stays together.
A mature agreement by both partners to meet each other’s needs is always the best solution. So talk to your spouse. What fun things can you do together?
Up Next: She needs to trust him totally – Honesty and Openness.
Hello Lynn,
I was surfing the net trying to locate a book that I am desperately seeking and I ran across your blog.
I have been married 13 years to a "non-believer" and it is still a great struggle for me. I accepted the Lord into my heart in 2001 and have never looked back.
You have a wonderful perspective and I hope you don't mind, but I will return.
God bless you.
Posted by: Leticia | February 27, 2007 at 04:11 PM
We love to just hang out at the beach, hang out watching movies, or just go for a short trip...During the week, while I blog, my Sweetheart usually works on creative stuff on his PC, doodling with photos. Ah yes, we both love photography. He is much better than I am, but he also likes to teach me how go make better photos...
Posted by: eph2810 | February 27, 2007 at 05:21 PM
Lynn where is that link you mentioned to me?
Posted by: Leticia | February 28, 2007 at 03:38 PM
Hmm, something to think about here. I need to chew on this a bit more. Good stuff, Lynn. Very convicting...
Posted by: Dineen Miller | February 28, 2007 at 10:32 PM
Reading the last commenter's word made me smile. God really is using you, Lynn. Keep up the good work. This was a good post. It's easy to forget men need anything but sex and food. (are you sure they really do?:) My hubby works, works, works. I'm not about to start land-scaping with him or go on fire calls. But he does like to go on walks with me:)
Posted by: janet | March 05, 2007 at 02:55 AM