His Need: Recreational Compatitility

The weekend is upon us, a perfect time to visit the Love Bank. How can we store up more deposits in our husbands love bank?

The second need for men in Dr. Harley’s book, His Needs, Her Needs is Recreational Companionship.

It is not uncommon for women, when they are single, to join men in pursuing their interests. Women find themselves hunting, fishing, playing football, and watching movies they would never have chosen on their own. After marriage, wives often try to interest their husbands in activities more to their own likening. If their attempts fail, they may encourage their husbands to continue their recreational activities without them. I consider that option very dangerous to a marriage. –Dr. Harley, His Needs, Her Needs.

This is an interesting perspective Dr. Harley puts forth. Why do men find recreational compatibility enormously important?

Next Post: The Answer.

Be blessed, Lynn

Comments

[Heather]

VEry interesting Lynn. Just read "For Women Only"--which i had been avoiding because hubby and I had discussed the modesty/male perspective on dress ad naseum but realizedd that that was only a small part and the part that most women latched onto. What amazed me was all the things I had learned the hard way--including the fact that my husband finds it VERY appealing when I take interest in things HE enjoys, even more so than when it is vice versa. He actually thinks it sexy when I am working on html or PHP, installing MYSQL, or even playing computer games. He encourages me in the other stuff, but boy does knowing I enjoy similar pursuits (and not just to spend time with him)--that just makes things mesh for him, you may even say that he finds it incredibly romantic. :)

[Annette]

I know that my hubbie loves it when I do 'his' stuff with him. Granted, he is fortunate in that I actually LIKE fishing. But what I find is it gives us common ground. It gives him something to talk about with him, something that he can encourage me to do better in, and it is a nice sharing time.

Am I as patient as he is? No... but that's normal. But having two fishing means someone can take pictures. Someone can cheer on a hooked fish (or the fellow at the other end) and so forth.

What I really know.. is that he just LOVES it. So... we do it! :)

[Amy]

I'm about 3/4 of the way through this book. I've just come down with the flu so today is a perfect day to spend reading it.

[eph2810]

We both like photography and computers. Both activities I only have picked up after we got married. Actually come to think of it, we both developed those interest together...The only thing I don't do is watch horror movies with my Sweetheart. We do watch other movies together though...

Thank you for contacting TypePad. They have fixed the issue. It was not just me. Carol had others who could not comment either. I guess their center was flooded today with emails...

Blessings on your Sunday and always.